Thread 31, TTC1 | Jam and her dodgers still riding the bonking bus for that elusive BFP

[Jamon]

Calling all OPK-ers, Temp-ers, Clomid-ers, Femara-ers, IUI-ers, IVF-ers and anyone else on the TTC #1 Bus.

We've been going a while now so the novelty has well and truly worn off and we're slightly battle scarred and bruised in the cervix area. We don't get a lot of baby dust in these here parts, we just keep it legs spread and fingers crossed (LSFX). We love a baby bomb from a prior bus-mate but if we get told to 'just relax and enjoy it' ONE MORE TIME you will get a punch in the face!

Hop on board, post your stats and prepare to be dazzled by the wealth of TTC knowledge we long-timeys have to share...

Key:
HS - have/had sex
GOS - good old shag
ELH - enthusiastic lavatory happenings
LSFX - legs spread, fingers crossed

Would you say you need a day off for egg collection day then Pyjamas?

Yep - definitely skipper. It affects people in different ways, and you can be at the clinic for a really long time while you wait, come around after anaesthetic/sedation etc

Morning all. Good luck PJs. Will catch up with thread later.
Yes chukka chukka has to count as exercise as I haven't done much "real" exercise lately!

Good luck good luck today pyjamas xx I love your general anaesthetic approach. I've never had one and really quite nervous about it.

Day 7 of flashing smilies, day 5 of chukka chukka in that time. 🙈😳 I reaaaaally hope I get a static tomorrow. 😂

Happy juicy egg day pyjamas, sending plump vibes to you.

Basset weirdly my cycles are 25 days now I'm medicated and at a normal level with my thyroid, when is your next blood test? You may well be at a normal level. X

Good luck Babi, FX!!

Hopeful, step away from google!!!

Happy hump day everyone. X

Love that quote jam, I saw that on Insta somewhere this week too. How are you doing?

Thanks struggle, I just felt guilty as it was a bit of a blow out but I think I really needed it. I can't keep being cautious 'just in case' ALL of the time, just most of the time!

The sleep and lunch sounds good pyjamas, hope all goes ok.

AF arrived for me yesterday. I had been day dreaming about surprising DH with a positive test on his birthday tomorrow but I don't actually feel as bad as I thought and a lot better than last week. I told him AF had arrived over phone as he's on a business trip as hate getting his hopes up when it's late and he actually said he was relieved because the Drs told him it takes about 6 weeks for sperm to recover after the varicocele op so he would've been worried a 'bad' one had slipped through the net if we'd got a positive. I didn't think of it like that but it's true. Also, we had a good chat at the weekend and whereas I've been thinking very negatively and losing hope each month that goes past and thinking it's just never going to happen, he made a good point that actually, we're in a better position than ever because we know what the issue is now and he's had the op and we've made all the changes needed so if anything, it's more likely now than ever which is true. Still hard on the day to day front but trying to get my head in to a better place. We've got another sperm frag test booked for 1st week of Sep ad then follow up 2 weeks after so guess we'll see what the results of that are and then go from there. I think this time, if the consultant says again 'I'd do this but it's up to you how long you wait and how you feel' I'm going to say no, I feel crap and want to proceed because I always get in there and say 'well I guess I can wait a bit longer' when in reality, that's not how I feel!

Hope everyone's doing ok .

Good luck pjs!! I get the good GA sleep however I too am petrified of them. Although to be fair I had a night of prescription strength cocodamol sleep last night. My cramps were that bad!!

Mouse not till the middle of September. Need to book the test though! Must do that today. Not seeing the consultant till January so might just see if he gets in contact after that blood test. I am going to ask in January that if my levels have stabilised can I change from the carbimazole and start ttc again!!

Hi all sorry for af chlo

Got back from Drs: thyroid, liver function,kidneys all ok in fact everything was ok except that I didn't ovulate.

Dr has referred me and DH as sooner rather than later due to this fact. Not sure how I feel.

Will catch up properly with everyone later but just wanted to update quickly.

4 eggs retrieved, currently resting up in clinic bed. Bit disappointed to be honest as less than last time even though I had higher dose, so I had a little cry. It is what it is though and have to root for these four.

Well done pjs all you need is one good one. Nothing wrong in a cry though, it's all so incredibly emotional and you are going through so much right now. I hope your DH is being lovely and supportive. Rest up. I'm cheering your eggs on too.

Chlo I'm doing okay thanks. Started cycle 22 at the weekend without batting an eyelid. Got my first appointment at the hospital tomorrow to talk IVF so will see how that goes. Pretty nervous but mostly about it not working or having a miscarriage. Equally scared that this kind of thought process is not helpful! Have been looking at hypnosis tapes to try and get into a more positive frame of mind. Sorry AF got you. Your DH response is really considered. It's amazing what he has gone through too - you are both giving this everything you've got and so deserve to get that BFP. Good luck for the next frag test.

Babi great news everything else is okay. Your doctor sounds really proactive too. If I were you I'd go along with the referral and see what they say, you can obvs keep trying in the meantime

They want me to have kidney scan too. Due to kidney pain.

Jamon - I hope the appointment goes ok. My Dr has been fab he is very busy but he is great explaining everything etc.

Pyjamas - I can completely understand your frustrations and concerns. Quality trumps quantity though and these four are going to be enough xx

Hope you're doing OK pyjamas - go, go little egglets! Everything crossed for you xx

Eek jam first IVF appointment - those concerns are totally natural, don't be too hard on yourself about worrying. Hope it goes OK and you feel more confident about it all - it must be daunting

chlo sorry about AF but sounds like your DH has a level head on him. Totally know what you mean about not saying how you feel/feeling persuaded to wait - good for you for having a plan next time, you should do what's right for you.

babi results sound good yet frustrating. I hope you get answers soon - glad you have a proactive GP. Do you know roughly how long you'll wait for the next appointment?

Yikes mouse, turning into a marathon

Quiet - dr said not long.

Just looked and the average wait is 57 days

On the hospital website.

Quick update -

Got the fertilisation update call this morning - not good news, only one fertilised, one wasn't properly formed and the other two are unexplained (should've fertilised as they were mature eggs and sperm was fine but didn't).

So, am booked in for a 2 day transfer (was 5 days last time) tomorrow morning. Have cried a lot this morning - the higher dose and all the side effects that came with it were pointless. So deflated. Going to have a bath and have massage booked for later today - can only take one day at a time.

I'm sorry pjs take some time to look after yourself I can imagine how deflated you are. But one tiny thing to remember is it only takes one successful fertilised egg to become that much longed for baby.

I'm really sorry to hear it wasn't better news pyjamas. I've got everything crossed for that little embryo. You can have all my positivity for the next couple of weeks.

Oh pyjamas 😘 sending all my positivity to that little egg too 🤞
One day at a time as you said- bath and massage are an excellent shout. I would also drown myself in tea and cake?
Take care of yourself lovely x

Sorry it wasn't better news lovely. I am rooting very hard for that egg. Take good care of yourself xx

Pj- am sorry you didn't have better news but have fingers crossed for you x

So sorry to hear that pyjamas - look after yourself today and over the next few days. I know it all feels a bit hopeless, but sometimes things can turn around. xxx

Hope you are OK PJs - we are all rooting for you and this little egg!

Thanks for the support guys, it really helps knowing you're all rooting for me! - it's been a rough day, and the stress isn't over yet - I just hope our little embryo makes it to tomorrow so we have something to transfer. Thank goodness I'm not in the office this week - I would've had a breakdown!

Had a bath, googled the shit out of 'two day transfer', went for a massage (Thai lady kicked my ass, but feel like weight literally lifted off shoulders) and am getting mentally prepared for tomorrow. At least we got one, we could so easily have nothing right now.

Have had a lot of chocolate binky!

How did your appointment go jam?