TTC After MC 12: Hopeful Twats and Emotional Wrecks welcome!

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Come one, come all, new and old, no-one wants to be here, but at least we're glad we've got each other :)

Hope your stay here is short.

Now, some BFPs if you please and BFNs for those who are waiting for them too!

stuck

That must have been awful.

Are you still going to the EPU tomorrow? See how you feel but might be worth getting another blood test. Hope DH is home soon and you get a rest tonight x

Oh stuck. I can't believe it. I'm so sorry.

I would still go to the epu in the morning to see what it was all about. x

Oh Stuck, I'm so sorry. That is an awful thing to happen. Let DH take over when he gets in so you can have a good cry and process it. Lots of hugs and a big hand hold

I'm so sorry stuck . I hope DH gets home soon. Make sure that you look after yourself tonight

Oh stuck I really am so so sorry to read all of this. What an utter shit of an afternoon you've had. I agree maybe keep the epu appointment tomorrow so at least you can get questions answered and see what you do next. Hope dh is home now and you can put your feet up with all the chocolate. Masses of hugs xxx

@Stuckinstressville I'm so sorry to hear that, thinking of you & your dh. I think others are right probably still best to go to EPU tomorrow to see what they say

I'm so so sorry Stuck. I'll echo the advice to stick with your EPU appt.

I'm so so sorry to hear that hoping you're not without your DH for long x

Oh stuck that's not fair. I'm sorry that's horrible

Hello, very late to the new thread.

Just caught up on what's going on with you stuck. I'm so sorry :( I hope you are ok.

I will plough through thread later.

Today I've had one of the most 'normal' opk timings ever (day 12, so ovulate 13/14, I'm often earlier) plus lots of ewcm plus not at work so not exhausted...

And dh goes out for a 30 mile bike ride and is now having a hot bath as he has a bad head. ffs.

Baby rage is taking over!

I'm so sorry stuck. I would echo the others in saying to keep your appointment at EPU.

Also I am sorry to say this but if you can keep anything significant it might be good to try and have it analysed as it can help determine the next step.

Xxx

I had a little cry earlier. I'm so pissed off I most likely didn't ovulate this cycle. What a waste. I'm so incredibly angry that the mc has ruined a decent cycle that I had.

Also I know this sounds horrible but i want this "stage" of my life over with. I've had a few daydreams at work lately where I think "ooooh wouldn't it be nice to go away on holiday or away at Xmas" etc...

And I can't PLAN anything because I just don't know what's what! I'm done with trying. I don't want to be trying anymore. I just want to have sex because I want to! I sometimes work out my "new date" if I did get lucky and it seems so far away. I was meant to be going on maternity leave in November. If I had bloody gotten pregnant in month one instead of 9 months later I would already have a baby!

I have the start of pre menstrual rage I think...

Oh and I've banned my husband from the bike and hot baths. And I nag him to take his vitamins. And I am a bit funny about too much coffee. God I'm a bitch to live with aren't I!

sj I'm so, so sorry for the loss of your little girl. I can't imagine how difficult it was for you, nor how hard it is to start all over again.

Oh halloumi, sorry you are here again.

And more for you fox (and I'm sure I've missed someone) I'm 40 and two mc since I turned 40. Feeling rather resigned to the next one after two.

Mrs juniper it was lovely to read a turn around!

I'm a bit worried now about aspirin. I had a strange thyroid test (I'm on thyroxine) just before I mc last and i hadn't raised it (it was too high) Then earlier this week I found out there's a slight interaction and Google seemed to indicate funny test scores if on thyroxine. So a bit perplexed. I think I will not take it and wait till I'm told to which may be around 12 wks scan (if I get that far - as we were told we probably would be put on it in future with a second baby).

bertie the second cycle after my first mc I spent several days very nearly buying a sheltie retiring from breeding I saw online. It was when I was ovulating. So hard not to!

lime he's not had a hot bath since Jan!
Argh! Is it really that bad?

The thing is life kinda has to go on doesn't it?!

I think it's fine really. I actually made him go for a sperm test not that long ago and all was fine. I think my nagging has more effect on the swimmers honestly, I do it more for my own sanity. If I have to pee on sticks every day and have an app to track my cycle and eat my weight in seven seas vitamins then he can remember to take one tiny pill a day.

Lime that reads like the inside of my head 99% of the time. I feel like I've been in limbo for the last 3 years, scared to plan anything, look for a new job/career, make any big decisions. And constantly working out dates of what should, might have or could be.

And yes the idea of having sex for fun seems a lifetime away. DH sometimes struggles under pressure and then it makes the whole process even more stressful for both of us.

Haha fox! That did make me laugh! I've got no loo unblocking tips I'm afraid. Oh actually we sometimes use a coat hanger. Note: it's dh that blocks loo not me

I'm so sorry stuck, hope you'ryou're holding up ok.
Agree with Lime Fox and Juniper, it's such a shitter. I've been so exited about each pregnancy and I've done EVERYTHING right, and we're so ready for a family, and yet it hasn't worked out for us, while others are having babies by mistake all over the place!
Life is not fair.

Hi all, sorry been absent as had gotten too obsessed with TTC and it made me really depressed because I was so set on getting pregnant asap after my mc and of course cycle 1&2 post mc have come and gone without success.

SJ I'm so sorry for the loss of your baby daughter 💔

Halloumi really sorry to hear that it's happened to you again 😢

Stuck that sounds really scary are you ok? I'm assuming they will do some checks at EPU tomorrow?

I needed to grieve for my lost mini bean and I was putting it off by obsessing about getting pregnant again as fast as possible. I've had a tough week with a lot of tears but I think I've finally been able to accept that he/she is gone and any new pregnancy will be a separate thing that will come in the future (if that makes any sense).

Gearing up for FW now as I'm CD10 tomorrow but no temping and no CBFM this month (to try and be less obsessed). Also resolving not to check cervix as that really took over my life! I'm going on holiday on CD 24 so I'll hopefully be very happy relaxed and distracted this TWW. 🤞🏼

Hugs to all x

Oh juniper :( we are only 8 mo in and trying. It to let it take over is very hard indeed, let alone the length of time youve had.

Dh is thankfully a bit of a hypochondriac careful. Bless him, he cut an air hole in some pants that were too tight! He drinks too much though for my liking regarding ttc, or did over the early summer, thanks to a string of 'necessary' things. I think all the press coverage in male fertility is hitting home though. He's good at taking vitamins and did skim read it starts with the egg. Both taking ubiquinol since Easter too. Not sure how long that can continue as it's pricey.

I do feel it may be futile though. I've known far too many friends recently who d had multiple losses. Doesn't make me feel confident. And the bloody colleagues who can get preg on a whim.. mind you I had a chat with one recently who has been trying for 2 years. She's finding it tough.

Sorry grumpy. I must say I have found having an enforced break after each mc very helpful.