TTC After MC 12: Hopeful Twats and Emotional Wrecks welcome!

[BertieBotts]

Come one, come all, new and old, no-one wants to be here, but at least we're glad we've got each other :)

Hope your stay here is short.

Now, some BFPs if you please and BFNs for those who are waiting for them too!

Not that I want to leave you but am not sure me being 8 weeks and here is appropriate and I do not want to upset people. Is there a place to graduate? I joined the march group but feel I am doom and gloom with all the first timers and those who have not been here are all.. don't worry etc

Where do we go?

Stuck, I for one, would be sad if you left! You've given us all hope! Feel free to stick around as long as you like.. we also understand the anxiety which most of the innocent lot on the preg threads (luckily) do not x

I think there is also a group called something like "staying posifrickingtive - preg after MC"

Stuck there is a thread in pregnancy called "staying posifrickentive" - I have cautiously poked my head round the door but staying until a scan.

Ineed I just wrote you a long reply and the app crashed, but suffice to say I am having all the same worries, and also have the same dates as you (AF makes me 6+3, opk makes me 4+6).

I said this to the Nov 2015 birth group I joined for my ds who have been amazing but I feel like the worst drama llama!

Thank you ladies! Will hang about then and peek at that other group

Definitely stick around stuck! Ha. Don't feel you need to go anywhere at all until you're ready. There's something a little different about bfp's from you ladies - please don't feel that you're upsetting people by staying. Bfp's from here give nothing but hope 💕

I agree so much with emvy and the others. Please stick around. Your bfp do feel different, we are all so rooting for you so please let us know you are ok and getting along well.
Getting my hopes up with a little but more cm in pants than normal, will do a test inthe morning. I'm mad at only cd21 but hey ho!!

I agree on all counts, stuck and smurf and juniper, you're all such wonderful company and it's only heartwarming and hope giving to hear how you're getting on. Bring on the BFPs

I've had a top to toe pamper which always cheers me up! Got a super swanky party to go to Saturday and starting my overhaul tonight. Must dry my hair and head to bed!

Also agree other people's pg announcements make me go dizzy and weird but genuinely feel hopeful when I hear them on here! Been lurking for a bit because I was waiting for AF to decide whether to have the hysteroscopy next week. It came so I'm booked in, not sure how I feel really.

Hope you are all doing ok

Cd21 and 7dpo and absolutely a bfn this morning on an ic. Hoping it's just waayyyy too early. Will wait and see if af arrives next week now.

-Shyly offers hand of solidarity to MsJuniper-

And thanks for all your kind words Emvy, Smurf, Stuck, Hula, MsJuniper. Had very broken sleep last night because the mild cramps I'd had all evening just... faded. Convinced I was going to see blood this morning but nothing yet.

I'm so glad I joined this thread and agree with everyone else Stuck - having someone further along is so reassuring.

NoCats - fingers crossed for BFP when you decide to test again.

I agree too! Please stick around and keep letting us know how you are all getting on. I am deliriously happy when I see a BFP on this thread, as opposed to in real life when it makes me feel like I've been run over.

Ineed, I have all those worries and I'm not even pregnant. I worry about what my worries will be if and when I am. I know it's nuts. And I've got plenty of nuts to keep me going as it is.

Given that my blood tests have ruled out most of the common causes of miscarriage, I'm now on, 'not enough progesterone' or issues with my womb lining. It's exhausting but it makes me feel better to think that I have tried to do what I can. Which brings me on to... has anyone had an endometrial scratch? I'm considering having one done privately. Veering between that and just saying 'sod it - what will be, will be'.

Sorry you had a bad night Boat but glad all is well this morning x

Someone on here definitely had the scratch Step, wish I could remember who but sure she'll be along.

Does anyone test for progesterone levels? I had the full whack of tests through the RMC and there's nothing wrong with me either. Good news, obviously, but then no reason given for the losses.

They've offered me progesterone suppositories from BFP to 12 weeks, which he said would mean if the pregnancy failed I wouldn't bleed it out and we'd only know from a scan. Hmmmm. I know that some of the other MC specialists don't treat with progesterone at all as they're not convinced it helps.

I'm in a throw everything plus the kitchen sink at my next pregnancy, should it ever happen! I don't get on well with progesterone, I once had a pill that was too high in it and felt near suicidal, but I want a bloody baby and I'm willing to try anything.....

Hope you're okay.

Here's my blog, sorry I forgot who was asking for it! :)

parentinggeek.blogspot.com/

I've just done an overview of conception based in a Dungeons and Dragons type dice game format which is worth playing around with.

Foxtrot op is Original Poster.

Awesome Bertie, I'll have a read this afternoon

Massive congratulations to Lime on all your lines and +ve CBD. I agree with everyone else - those with BFPs please stick around. Gives the rest of us much needed hope!

Feeling very confused today. For the last two days I have been properly feeling pregnant, ie get the symptoms I only had after my last BFP. For me this is a really heavy feeling in my abdomen and my belly feeling really warm. I can't remember who was worrying about whether the heavy abdomen was a MC sign but with my last/first pregnancy I got the heavy feeling from 4 weeks and it stayed right until I MC'd at 7. The reason I felt like I had MC'd was that the heavy feeling had disappeared.

So I was pretty convinced that when I POAS this morning I would get a lovely strong positive. But no dice - negative on both a FRER and a CBD. I'm currently 35 days from my MC and whilst I know that its perfectly normal for AF to not have arrived by now I had properly convinced myself.

So now trying to work out if I stick to the non-alcoholic beer with my bestie tonight when I could really fancy a blow out evening...

Fox is it dpo? Days post ovulation?

Op as in operation maybe Fox? If they had surgical management of a MC. Or, is it definitely OP and not DPO? As in days post/past ovulation? That's very TTC specific and used a lot here.

I agree HFH, you've had a big blow and you should do the things that make you feel better. I know exactly what you mean, I poas in March and just knew it was positive. Until..... it wasn't. I was so shocked I didn't even cry. Every single symptom I'd had the cycle before when I was pregnant but lost it at 5 weeks. It's beyond gutting.

I'd let loose tonight, no reason not to, which is crap in itself as I'd happily give up all my vices to be pregnant again! Get posted up if that makes you feel good, enjoy seeing your friend, eat and drink anything you fancy. Or put your PJs on, tell her you're having one of those days and het a massive takeaway. Whatever floats your boat but do stuff to nurture yourself.

x post with Lime

How are you today? Is it sinking in yet?

I was mooching round the shops at lunch and nearly cried with broody longing at some teeny tiny baby trainers. I want to stamp my feet and while "where's my baby????!!!!!!"

Please send me some of your pregnancy energy Sending you a hug in exchange.

Oh and Anne, yes, more funny stories though, the doctor told him not to ejaculate for 5 days before the test. Apparently as he's been bored most days stuck at home, he's been, er, practising shall we say. But during the 5 days he decided in his infinite wisdom that it would be fun to practice on me as log as he didn't actually finish himself. Lovely etc but after about three days of this, he gave himself blue balls. Apparently it's a real thing and really painful. I even phoned up to see if he could give the sample early because apparently that's the only way to relieve it but they were closed so he just had to rest and sit in a cold bath instead.

Oh dear. Well, anyway, it's done now, should get the results early next week I reckon.