We're ovulating again, so let's jump our men. It's TTC after miscarriage thread 11

[Lime19]

Not sure if I should start new thread for this? Is there one open already?

I've found you! I introduced myself then disappeared since we were still waiting to be allowed to ttc after the mtx for my ectopic, but we're now all clear and I've got af this week so just gearing up to try again.

Sorry the thread seems to be having a bad week, some good luck is definitely due.

Oh I meant to comment on two follicles. Usually one becomes dominant and ruptures to release the egg, but if they're both pretty equal then they could both release, which means twins are possible. But to be twins they still both need to be fertilized, implant etc etc, so it's not a given.

I'm out this month, hello AF! Consoling myself with gin.

Sorry Mrs and grumpy. :(

So, ff has recalibrate itself, so I'm doing 8dpo for the second day in a row! (Long story, but I think this is more realistic!)

Lots of love to people. Hope the sunshine is making things a little brighter. Im feeling so much more positive these last few days, which makes a really nice change after what feels like months of feeling miserable. Next week's testing/waiting might be tough though. Quietly hopeful for myself this month. Feeling different to last cycle, but not sure if it's just mental.

Quick update on my ongoing saga - finally saw gp at half three yesterday - asked to be referred to other local hospital - but had high temp and racing pulse so was sent as emergency to their a and e! Turns out to be sepsis again - have just spent last 24 hours on three diff lots of Iv antibiotics - they confirmed hcg coming down so definitely a miscarriage - such a relief to have confirmation as I hate the limbo - had v v long talk with gynae drs and have discharged myself from v v hot ward to have oral antibiotics at home and to allow rest
Of miscarriage to happen naturally - whist they weren't happy I was going against protocol they could totally understand my reasoning thank goodness - also one of my best friends gets married tomorrow and I am not missing it - ttc this third child and the miscarriages has taken so much from me this year and it is NOT going to take away this day of celebrating with her away from me because I won't left it!!!! I feel a lot better and will take it v b easy and will prob not stay late but i need to be there!
I so so so hope that this is it for miscarriages for me and that next time will stick like glue !!!!!!!

Blimey conker! That sounds very scary! I'm glad you are feeling better. What a shit time you have had. I hope you enjoy the wedding. Does your friend know what has been happening?

Thanks @lime - she doesn't know and I don't want to tell her and worry her for her big day! Psychologically I am actually doing ok - feeling v happy to be home with my two children and v relieved to have an answer - this feels much more copable with than the missed miscarriages and I am taking on the mindset of 'ever forwards ' already working out when fertile week would be this month :-)

Conker, thank goodness for answers but bloody hell you haven't half been through it! You poor thing! Glad you're feeling positive and looking to the future. Please take it super easy tomorrow!

I feel exactly the same this time around and I'm relieved to hear that you feel the same (although obviously wouldn't wish it on anyone). I was worried I had some kind of delayed reaction, but was sure it was more to do with this happening naturally this time, instead of seeing my twins on a scan and having to make a decision to go for surgery after the mmc. Let's hope we have sticky ones next time, I'm also already working out ovulation date too! 🙈

Conker I'm so sorry for everything you're going through. Sounds like mentally you're incredibly tough. I hope you are able to celebrate with your friend tomorrow. Take care of yourself!

Just been reading about ant (from ant and dec). Not sure how much truth there is it it (it's only the gossip newspapers) but he's said to be suffering depression and needs rehab for drug and alcohol issues after a knee op went wrong and anxiety over fertility issues

Poor bloke! I can totally see how fertility issues can cause depression. It certainly is a depressing time. It's very very hard to escape your thoughts about it. I mean literally everyone I know is pregnant! It's a reminder that I am not.

I really hope he makes a swift recovery if this is indeed true. It's interesting because it does really affect men too. My husband cried loads when we were told our 2nd twin had died. I held it together just but I had expected bad news. This whole thing has really upset him.

It's shit, isn't it lime.

Well, my temp has plummeted, so pretty sure I'm out this cycle. I know it's only cycle 2, and I was incredibly lucky to conceive on cycle 1 first time around and I shouldn't complain. But I'd really bloody like to be pregnant again. I would be 23 weeks now. Urgh. :(

Facebook is full of Father's Day messages, and it's just a crap reminder that my husband would be the most amazing dad, but I'm no closer to giving him a baby than at the start of the year. 😢

Dancing, same I would be about 20 weeks pregnant by now too. I feel sure I'm out too, pretty convinced I saw some spotting yesterday and a little this morning. Really hope if I am out af shows up properly and doesn't do weird spotting for days and then a period that lasts too long. I want my old cycle back so I can plan the window better. Here's to a positive next month.
conker enjoy today but also take it easy too sounds like you've beeen through the mill a bit.

Was hoping to give DH good news this Father's Day. Instead I'm CD2! Should have been 15 weeks today. Feels like that was all a dream. Can't possibly have really happened. Love to all in the same boat

Love and hugs to everyone this morning x

conker, you've had a horrific time of things, bloody hell. You're a trouper woman, I hope you have a wonderful day at the wedding but please please look after yourself, physically and emotionally, you've been on one hell of a rollercoaster and I hope you can rest this coming week.

dancing I'm finding Father's Day okay as it's all about my DSC and a happy distraction. He wants another baby more than anything but I don't resent him a celebration with his two lovely children. Mother's Day for me was a total wipeout! Made worse actually by being a parent but not a mum. I feel for you both x

Hoping it stays cooler and our day out isn't too sweaty after yesterday! We're having cake for breakfast

My boobs are beyond painful. They weigh a ton and I've been in a sleeping bra but tight vest top for days as they hurt when I walk. Not taking it as much of a symptom as I've come had sore boobs pre St since the mcs started last year. But things settled down loads last month and this is definitely different. My nipples look really knobbly too. Don't remember nipple changes from before at all.

I caved and got a bfn yesterday but I knew it was too early. HT!

Anyone testing tomorrow?

*pre af

So hopeful for you Anne. We definitely need some good news.

I'm not testing tomorrow now. No point wasting my frer.

Dh not too upset about the Father's Day thing. He said we will have our baby next year. I feel broken though. I let myself get my hopes up. So now intermittently crying like a crazy person!

Found you all!

My gosh conker - I hope all is well soon and you enjoy the wedding.

I read the end of the last thread - for all those with sad news and feeling low.

I have had the faintest of lines appear on a frer at 13 dpo. I'm not feeling too positive though as previous pregnancies were bfp earlier than this. I also ovulated earlier according to temps than usual. So in my head it's taking a slow time to implant or is weak. But all that might be splitting hairs!

Watchful waiting over the next week. I have to see gp and arrange a blood test to check thyroid and then raise meds. I hate that part.

What has been interesting is that I was checking my cervix and caught it going high and closed over a few days.

I sort of feel that noticing things is helpful for the future if this isn't a sticky one.

That's wonderful news Ekphrasis! Tentative hopeful congratulations Was that today? The cervix thing is definitely a thing. I really so wish you a sticky one. Fx for you x

Fx for you ekphrasis!! Hope it is sticky for you. ❤️

Thank you! It was so faint yesterday I didn't dare think it was. Today definitely there, just faint.

And so the worrying starts!

I am chuffed to understand the cervix thing finally at 40!

I'm not sure I dare join a group yet though.

Hugs @DancingUnicorn

@Ekphrasis congratulations- I hope it sticks for you.

People tell me cervix is unreliable indicator but I think if you check it regularly and you know your body it is quite a good one. When I conceived it clearly stayed high. This cycle it was still high at 2dpo and very low from 7dpo onwards - got AF at 10dpo.

Is high and low just relative for each person? Can you tell if it's high just checking occasionally?