We're ovulating again, so let's jump our men. It's TTC after miscarriage thread 11

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Not sure if I should start new thread for this? Is there one open already?

Sorry it's Em. I'd name changed. Will twirl back!

EK!

@Flashinthepan do we work in the same office? Hugs

Colleague's wife expecting Dec 18th, my EDD was Dec 10

Thanks TheGrumpySquirrel. I just saw your message re getting grilled on baby plans. It's so hard isn't it? My colleagues all know about my ectopic as I was off work following my surgery and I wanted them to stop saying things like 'It'll be your turn next' or 'You're so lucky you can do x,y,z...just wait until you have kids!' so at least people don't ask me that stuff now. But I do sometimes think they must all be thinking 'Poor, sad, childless Flash' as it's been so long now since my pregnancy.

It's just awful as I can't turn around and say 'Actually could you not talk about this in front of me, it's great that you're having a baby but I really can't cope with it." but I couldn't even muster a congratulations. I just said 'Oh' and ran away.

Oh Grumpy, that is so tough. I didn't hear the exact date of my colleague but my EDD was 11th December. Hugs for you too (sweaty ones today though because it's so bloody hot!)

I'm sorry flash. It definitely gets too much in those situations. A friend is due around the same time as I would have been. I was surprised at my reaction to her news.

I've spelt my own user name wrong 🙄. Blame stress!

ekphrasis you could blame the heat too if you want if you're in the UK! I swing between throwing myself headlong into being cheif celebrator for people with baby news and not wanting to see even close friends who are expecting. It's odd

Definitely heat too! I'm in my bikini!

Yes - I think you're tuned into the joy of others and then reflect back to your own pain so bouncing back and forth is to be expected I guess :(

Ok so bfn just now. Right could you all wish af here properly for me so I can get on with the next cycle. There is no way I am pregnant but my body seems confused.

Flash I'm experiencing highs and lows for others. Sometimes I brush off mc with such a casual oh it's fine and then the next minute want to lie down and wail with how I feel and where I could have been and what I'd planned and what I'm missing out on....

I'm sorry for alll the bfns around. It's horrible isn't it. It's so hard hearing others baby news too. I don't even like my pregnant friends complaining about being pregnant on Facebook. I know it's hot and pregnancy is hard when it's hot, but I just want to write back at least you're pregnant. I'd love to be 6 months pregnant, but I'm not.

It feels like an age before af is due for me. It's odd because I was testing the same day as lots of you last month and now I'm waaayyy behind. Stupid long cycles, also annoying because Ovia thinks af is due on the 28th, but I'm sure it'll be later than that. I'll probably wait till early July to test, if af hasn't turned up by then. I'm not going to test early this time, it's just so awful when it's a bfn. I'd rather wait for af to arrive than get more bfns.

Hello ladies

I hope you don't mind if I join you. I am about to start TTC with my DH after he has had a vasectomy reversal.

I have 2 DD 11&8 but then suffered 4 miscarriages and never quite got to have my very much wanted third child. This was with my Exh.

July will be our first month.

Sorry that lots of you seem to be having tough days with bfn's, work pregnancy announcements and stressful gp appointments! I'll join you on the awkward situations - today mid discussion about babies in general, a colleague of mine turned to me and said, "I'm just waiting for you next!" Cue panic stricken faces by a couple of colleagues who know, an awkward smile by me and I scurried away. First day back after the second mc and it was a bit of a blow, however accepting i feel of it this time around! I am loving this weather though...!

Welcome mummysmaison, so sorry to hear about your losses you're in good hands here x

Hi

I'm joining from being on the 'moving on to IUI etc' thread on infertility.

Brief history - DP and I gave up on contraception nearly 2 years ago. DP has erectile dysfunction and works shifts so it has been a challenge. After 18 months I decided to get an AMH test done which showed I have low fertility so I went to the doctor who booked day 21 and 2 tests.

I had the day 21 test done first, then cursed that AF hadn't started so I could get the day 2 test done before realising why it was late. I didn't believe it at first and took 15 tests. My due date would have been my birthday.

Sadly I miscarried which was devastating. I've also been told I no longer qualify for the tests to be done until we've tried for another year with no pregnancy.

DP wants to try straight away, not sure I'm ready. I've somehow managed to keep working through the miscarriage which in some ways has been good as it kept my mind busy, but I'm sure I'm probably just storing up a whole heap of problems emotionally.

Oh vox I'm so sorry you find yourself here. It's so shit; I can't imagine how shot after trying for so long. The ladies on here have been really supportive through my last few hell like months.

Mummys welcome to you too. So sorry for your losses 💐

Sorry for a lot of work insensitivity at the moment.

How are you today nocats?

Welcome mummy and sorry for your losses. Fingers crossed for you!

Welcome vox and I'm so sorry for your loss. That sounds very frustrating. I hope baby dust comes soon.

I'm still feeling like this will be a chemical pregnancy- not sure why. I'm also not sure how pregnant I am officially as I ovulated rather early. it's 15 dpo, but it's only cd 21. They'd say 3 weeks but for me it's 4.

I'm not testing again now till Friday (which is proving difficult!)

Found you all! My phone is the absolute worst so lost you all. Sorry everyone is having a bit of a crap week.

I'm CD8 but won't see DH for a week after Saturday as he's away on business. So ring to DTD as much as possible before then, anything DC1 tries to thwart it at every opportunity.

Last month i swear AF was winding me up. Came on initially very early, then went away completely for 3 day so i was obviously getting excited it had been implantation but no. Why do we have to go through this every month?! Can't believe it is now less than 2 months till my due date.

Goof luck to those testing today and glad i finally found you all again.

Hi Swim!! Glad you found us.

Had a vaguely ambiguous bfn this morning. 11 dpo. Af due today assuming consistent luteal phase. AF feels imminent, but I wasted a frer anyway.

Hey swim

Welcome to lovely new people, so sorry for your losses

Managed not to test today, I find once I've got my first wee of the day done I stop thinking about doing it! I've never poas unless first thing, apart from post mcs.

Dancing, really hope AF does stay away although. Do you have short cycles? Mine are a bit weird in that i usually ovulate on day 13/14. Last month it was day 10/11 but then proper AF (after my false head start) came on day 27 as usual.

Anne, well done for holding off. Your signs are good but i know from other cycles you've had strong signs but then AF rears her ugly head. Keeping everything crossed for you

Welcome mummy and vox so sorry you're both here and have had awful times ttc.

Ekp thank you - i'm ok, still pissed off at my body for not getting back to 'normal'. Day 3 of spotting, hoping today it turns into normal period. I'm sorry you think you're having a chemical, i have everything crossed for you that it's not.

Hi Swim, welcome back, sorry your af is a bloody tease like mine too.

Thank you swim, I've had bfps when my main feeling was that AF just wasn't coming. Others when I was sure I was pregnant and others yet where I've been sure but got a shiny white BFN. The whole thing is a head fuck.

Really interesting what you've said about ov/af timings. I've read that luteal phase is always the same within a couple of days but it's the opposite of my experience. Last and this cycle I've ovd (based on ewcm and cervix) CD10, but af was only a day early last cycle. My cycle has gone from 24/25 days to 28ish, can't remember previous ov dates. Was 27 last month.

Confusing. Annoying. My Zen has buggered off.

Boobs hurt and are huuuuuuge but that's it.

How are you doing?

Swim my cycles pre mc were regular at 26 days. Post mc cycle 1 was 25, I'm currently cd24, but last cycle was a 10 day luteal phase... So I guess I don't know. I will try to wait till later in the week to test again l, but I'm sure i will fail tomorrow!

Anne really, really hopeful for you.

NoCats, definitely a tease. Not every month of course as that would mean that i would be expecting it......

Anne, my experience is definitely the same in the sense that the luteal phase is not necessarily the same. I'm doing ok, to be honest i think i just pushed on though for the first few months as now i feel compelled to tell everyone about it (i need to stay off the booze i think ). Still having the IVF debate fight with DH but we have agreed we'll give it a shot in September if when nothing has happened by then.

Still in the same position as lots of others here where everyone in the world is pregnant including BF with #3. It's killing me.

It's sunny though so trying to be positive. Hope you're ok?