We're ovulating again, so let's jump our men. It's TTC after miscarriage thread 11

[Lime19]

Not sure if I should start new thread for this? Is there one open already?

❤️ Today. I'm livid about how the nurse spoke to you pembleton What the actual fuck?! It's really important the hospital throw the book at her so no other vulnerable women in this heartbreaking position are faced with that sort of cruel thoughtlessness.

It's good you've had a proper heart to heart cookie.

smurf that's lovely for your friend. I hope all goes well for her.

bliss 20 weeks?! Bloody hell. At least the rest of the pregnancy won't seem as long I guess.

I've had the same thing this week. Literally gushing ewcm. Not a clue what's going on! I ovd Tuesday, right ov stabbing pain and ewcm. Then a bit weds. Then watery cm and no stabbing thurs, then yesterday mad stabbing left ov area and pouring ewcm. Very disconcerting! We've dtd every day for about two weeks Really weird pain when we did it yesterday though, sharp achy stab in my left side. Tried a couple of times to see if it would go and it got better but I could feel some pain on my stomach if I poked it on the left. Today all gone. From temping I'm sure I ovd Tuesday so don't know what yesterday was all about.

Hugs to everyone today. Where the hell are our bfps?

You're all so wonderful. Someone bring us our babies!

@AnneLovesGilbert that gushing cm is a really good sign. Only had that my BFP month. Fx for you.

3dpo here and utterly depressed. Almost feel guilty for wanted a new pregnancy when I miss my mini bean so much. Kind of angrily expecting it not to work now.

@Lime19 yes to writing the year off. I found out I was pg 1st time at the start of Feb, mc in April. Pg again mid-may and mc July.
In a twisted way I've spent a lot of the year pg. it's such a mind fuck.

@NoCatsHere 6 miscarriages I can't imagine.
I'm kind of hoping that if I get the consultant appt that it's me, something treatable. I've got an extremely rare blood type, so maybe my babies were incompatible with me? I grasping at straws trying to get some sense out of it. Did you have any investigations?

I decided I wasn't going to wait for my cycle to come back so we are just trying again immediately. Keeping a note of all days we DTD and keeping fingers crossed.
After my MMC and ERPC they said 4-6 weeks before period would return. According to my normal 24 days cycle it should be tmrw however I don't think that's happening. I had follow up last Wednesday and after an internal scan she said it looked like I was ovulating. So, if we DTD that day, and if period doesn't arrive, when should I test?
I really hope everyone is doing ok. Xx

Hello everyone, I hope we are all doing ok today?

Well I cracked and bought a couple of FRER tests.

Never done this before & oh my, this could open a whole new world of obsession & testing!

Anyhow, being the hopeful twat that I am, I tested on CD28 and it was negative.

After spotting yesterday AF showed up this morning after a 31 day cycle!

Mine have always been between 27-30 days since I started tracking my cycle properly following the MMC- one whole frickin year ago!

I swing from thinking we'll never have baby no.2 to thinking oooh maybe I'll get pregnant with twins?!

I am practically 39 and I hear the ovaries apparently start to panic and start chucking out a few more eggs than usual.

All I can say is where the fuckity fuck are our BFPs??!!

After my MVA af came 28 days later presh.

That doesn't happen to everyone but if they said you're ovulating sounds like things are back on track. As a ball park, leave it 14 days after ovulating to test?

Hey turquoise, so sorry about bfn. What a fucker. You've waited so long, it's a pile of utter crap. I wish so so hard for your bfp to come quickly xxx

Stupidly before my 12 week scan the only thing I was genuinely freaking about was twins. Ha! How naive i was... but I still really don't want more than one at a time. DH has twins after ivf with his ex and they'd be livid to not be the only ones. They think they're very special

Tempers, what am I looking for now I'm in the tww? I'm pretty sure ff doesn't trust me, my crosshair showing ov on Tuesday is dotted. And I tried it orally and up the fanjo this morning and got completely different readings. The more I try to know the more confused I get!

I had a really good cry yesterday too - when I heard Bradley Lowery had died in his parents arms. It sounds awful but I think there's always some of my grief for my babies mixed up in there.

I'm watching Wimbledon and bloody Laura Kenny is pregnant too! Seriously, is there something in the water in South London?!

You are right, Lime and Tea, we need some BFPs soon. I have mini good news in that my scan showed my uterus is fine and both ovaries working. Just the little matter of getting pregnant again then...

Writing off chunks of the year... yes! This is what gets to me most about mine if I'm honest.

Have just realised I wrote that post in response to the previous page, without realising there was a whole new page full of posts. It makes nob all sense now!

And yes to writing off months with each miscarriage. Such a frustrating, upsetting limbo time. With my age I keep thinking 'I haven't got 3 months to chuck away!!!'

@StepAwayFromGoogle
Yes I agree with the chucking away time thing!

Last summer I was just 13 weeks (or so I thought)- not just the pain of finding out about the MMC but also mentally calculating the lost time.

Also now we've been TTC for 1 year the whole year of me being 38 feels like a completely barren, lost time in that sense.

@AnneLovesGilbert
Thank you
You convinced me to get a FRER test- ordered off Amazon much cheaper than on the high street!

Although I think I'll stick to (trying) to wait til AF is due...I can see how FRER tests can open up a new can of worms in this whole TTC malarkey (if that were possible!)

Hope you're doing ok xx

@StepAwayFromGoogle

Oh yes Laura Kenny is pregnant too- i remember them for the Olympics last summer- this was a few weeks after my MMC.

They got married shortly after the games finished and I remember thinking, I'll bet she'll be pregnant before me. And funnily enough...

And while we're on the topic of "celeb" pregnancies, what's her name off TOWIE has just announced number 2.

Her sister had her no.2 a few months ago.

Ok I accept they are around a decade younger than me...but it all seems too easy!

And the one off The Apprentice who only had a baby last summer or something and is now pregnant again with number 3...can't remember her name.

She was pregnant the same time as me (but much further ahead)- but she ended up with a baby, and another pregnancy. Lucky woman.

I just want some of this pregnancy epidemic that's occurring!

Yes yellow to feeling like you've been pregnant all year but no baby to actually show for it. No I'm not having testing, I have 2 children already so really I guess I'm being greedy in wanting a third. But still hey ho will see what happens next. I'm older and seeing if I get pregnant by the end of the year, otherwise I will count myself lucky and call it a day I think.

Really down today. Feel like TTC is taking over my life and just spent the day with lots of friends who have babies or very small kids. The chaos and the mess is awful. I forgot. Doubting what I want and feel like I can't move on from the mc one way or the other. Actually boring myself and feeling quite directionless. 3dpo. Still a week till I can test.

grumpy

How are you doing today? Sorry yesterday was rough.

I'm lounging around with a mild hangover Very irresponsible but so much fun. Needed to let my hair down.

Glad you had a good time Anne. I'm feeling ok today still a bit down but trying to get on with other stuff and not obsess over whether it has worked this cycle or not. It is hard not to. Just spent entire yoga class thinking about blastocysts! 🙄 going to do some diy now

Hello ladies.
I've been lurking for a little while but I've decided it's time to say hello.

I'm technically post ectopic not miscarriage, I hope that's ok. There doesn't seem to be an active thread for TTC after ectopic.

I was on these threads 3 years ago after a miscarriage and the support was wonderful.

So my little intro. I'm TTC #3. My history so far is child, miscarriage, child, ectopic. I'm 3 weeks post surgery where I had my right tube removed. My first AF arrived this weekend so we are tentatively going to start TTC again. Feeling very nervous though.

So sorry for your loss bee, this is the right place for you to be and it's awful what you've been through with your mc and ectopic.

Losing a tube is awful, how far along were you?

Really good af has arrived already. Wishing for your bfp very soon x

Welcome MrsBee, sorry you have to be here at all but you'll find we're quite a supportive bunch. And very sorry about the ectopic and losing a tube - that sounds horrendous and very painful.

Grumpy, sorry to hear you are going through a tough time. I know this is easier said than done but try to take the pressure off yourself a bit. Eat chocolate, read a book, have a cuppa and do everything you love doing. Yoga is meant to be good for relaxing, but I'm guessing without the blastocysts getting involved!

Turquoise
Sam Faiers
Lisa Zuisman
There is this thing on OK I just found which is literally a scrolling banner of pregnant celebs. I really wouldn't recommend it. Ever.

Sweet dreams and baby dust to all x

Morning all, hope everyone who had a tough end of last week is feeling a bit better, or that at least this week is gentler.

Good advice from Step, Grumpy, my equivalent is proper coffee, blue cheese and a TV binge I'm also addicts to puzzle books at the moment. Even watching something brilliant I find myself a bit distracted so doing a word search is better than playing on phone and reading endless amounts of news or shopping working out my next due date if this is the month

I'm not peeing on any sticks this month. Remind me of this! I'm taking the aspirin religiously, I can swing into action with the other drugs when AF is late. I've decided. Almost definitely....

Really though, I can't keep doing it for a week, literally pissing cash away, then being gutted when af shows up. Banking on you lot to keep me sane.

5dpo and I find myself tempted to go and buy more tests... aaaargh I've wasted so much money already please help me resist!!!