We're ovulating again, so let's jump our men. It's TTC after miscarriage thread 11

[Lime19]

Not sure if I should start new thread for this? Is there one open already?

So I had my follow up yesterday after MMC on 12 June and ERPC on 15th June. She did an internal scan and said everything looked perfect, then she said "oh look, looks like you're ovulating". So straight back home and DTD! Husband hadn't come near me prior to this for fear of damaging me!! So now we are fingers crossed again. 🙈🙈

Go for it presh that's v encouraging. Just back from EPU. 2nd scan confirmed mmc. ERPC booked first thing tomorrow. Off for a sleep now after being painfully prodded and poked for an eternity by dildocam as I have an inconveniently tilty womb.

Hello- hope I can join.

Miscarriage and ERPC in May, first pregnancy. Was eight weeks and am now CD 6 after first period post-ERPC and hoping to start TTC again this month.

The miscarriage was so much more physically gruelling than I expected: I bled for four weeks, including the bleeding while I was still pregnant, and I just felt so drained and exhausted.

I have PCOS and they at first said I also had a corpus luteal cyst, then just a 'cyst' but nobody suggested any need for follow up. I bought it starts with the egg after the miscarriage and spent lots of money on inositol, co-q10 etc but in reality spent the last month eating chocolate and ice cream lying on the couch and failing to take any multi-vitamins.

Im now wondering whether that's an issue with TTC this month, or if I start folic acid now is all ok? I hate that I'm buying into the fertility industrial complex, when deep down I know that taking the right combination of vitamins/cutting back caffeine etc is not going to stop another miscarriage. However I also know my PCOS puts me at a higher risk of miscarriage and I should be trying to cut back on sugar (I have 'skinny' PCOS so my weight is fine but that doesn't mean insulin resistance isn't a problem). I just can't motivate myself to go back to temping and eating well and cutting back on caffeine. Emotionally I'm ready to start again, I'm just tired- spatone has helped a bit.

It's helpful to read other people's journeys. I think can be very hard to have any sort of perspective on your own.

Brilliant news presh!

Oh pumbleton...get some rest and take care of yourself. Yes dildocam hurts me a lot too I always feel bruised somehow inside?

Everyone's pregnant at work. I'm not kidding. I just had to send a congratulations email round and just seen someone else's 12 week scan photos. Sigh.

I got my first positive ovulation test since mid may mc , on Tuesday night, CD18. So I guess I'm 1dpo now and hoping hoping..

Thanks Anne , I know there is always hope, but I don't think there is much! I'm still peeing buckets (but am drinking loads as really thirsty-I reckon it's psychosomatic) Boobs no longer sore, temp went up a little this am, cervix is still high (I think-this is the 1st month I've been checking it)
But I have back pain and cramps that usually signal the arrival of my period...

Question re cervix-mine seems to be very posterior (ie points really backwards rather than up)-is this normal?-I do find smears/speculum very uncomfortable.

I hope everyone is doing OK. My work colleague who is 6 weeks less pregnant than I would have been is massive now, so a constant reminder I should be on maternity leave

Oh @PumbletonWakeshaft I'm so very sorry. I hope everything goes smoothly tomorrow, I'll be thinking of you.

Hugs 💐

Thank you @blissful the support on here really does help and I appreciate your thoughts. I hope you are feeling better too I won't be joining any early pregnancy groups again, not until I'm 2nd trimester at least! Too many of us on Feb 18 had a loss.

I'm looking forward to ttc now as dh and I haven't dtd since we conceived! Going to knock the comfort food on the head after this weekend and get myself fit and healthy again.

So sorry to hear that, Pumbleton. Miscarriage is truly shitty, I hope tomorrow is as ok as it can be. Hand hold and hugs.

Welcome, Walzing, we're a friendly bunch here. Sorry you have to be here though. I think folic acid is fine as long as you start taking it when you start ttc. You'll find lots of us are on supplements - I rattle when I walk. Not sure how much science there is behind it all but I think ubiquinol has been shown to improve egg quality.

cookie, I would love to help you with cervical knowledge but I have none. Sorry. Mine is just considerably lower than before I had DD. I'm sure someone here will know though.

Apparently I can still have my scan tomorrow. Given the glowing reviews of dildocam, I'm looking forward to it immensely!

I got signed off until the end of term today. I didn't have to go back, no, but part of me wanted to say a proper goodbye to everyone. But the stress of it isn't worth it, neither is putting DD out of her routine for 8 days.

We picked up the ashes of our baby on Monday. OH and I agree that it feels very final now and we can start to move on. It's been such a hard month but I do feel ready to start ttc again soon.

Summerfruits, I'm so very sorry. That is an awful thing to have to do. A hug doesn't seem enough, but sending one anyway. And I'm glad you didn't have to go back. I'm sure everyone would have been lovely but it's just a stress you don't need. x

So sorry pumbleton. It's just crap.

Im still waiting for my af. It's been 6 weeks and 1 day since my surgical management. I feel sad because I'm not in the "normal group" now. The docs and NHS say "your period usually returns within 4-6 weeeks". I have no symptoms that it's coming. A couple of weeks ago my lining was just 2mm so very thin. I did have ewcm a couple of weeks ago, that's gone now.

I'm so depressed. I just want to try again and I can't because there is no point until my cycle is back.

Who wants to take a bet that it returns later this month, during a hen party that is very active?! A final gift from the universe. It would just be my luck.

Or maybe it won't come back at all...must stop googling all the things it might mean

Morning all; welcome to the newcomers- though, of course, terribly sorry you find yourself here.

Sorry I've been silent for a few days- having passed that retained product two weeks ago, and starting to feel better and stop bleeding last week, I honestly felt like things were getting better. So when the ten days of progesterone (that the GP gave me to stop the bleeding) finished, and the bleeding started ALL OVER AGAIN (and shows no sign whatsoever of stopping or calming down), I just had a bit of a mental crash. 😩 I can't do this for much longer. Definitely feel I'm at breaking point....But I don't seem to have any choice. Seven weeks of bleeding now - with only two days hiatus last week. GP not interested; no more time I can reasonably take off work to just go back to her and be told zero useful info, so not bothering. Have googled this to death and come up with nothing. Just feeling totally hopeless. 😢 I'm three days away from the 28th day since my last positive ovulation test, which I was hoping might be our next chance to ttc, but since I'm still bleeding this heavily, I have to assume that's a pipe-dream.

Ladies I'm so sorry you are struggling. I can't imagine a 7 week period or even having to wait for one after a miscarriage. Mine came uneventfully 29 days after I had a mmc. The first time in my life I've been regular. Before my mmc I had 23-50 day cycles. My heartache lies with the wait to TTC afterwards. I had to wait 4 months. I just got the green light last month. I think this has given me the time to not only grieve but also my body time to recoup, recover and prepare for a successful pregnancy. I can only hope.

Please don't feel frustrated with yourself, that won't help anything. Instead, love your body, and all it's imperfections. Keep strong. You can do this!! Xxx

Hello all 👋🏻

I was around on thread 10; think I see a few familiar names.
I had a reassurance scan yesterday, should have been 9 weeks but there was no heartbeat. At a scan 2 weeks ago we saw a clear, thumping heart beat but it seems the baby stopped developing very soon after that.
This is my second mc, my first was in April.
We're absolutely devastated, totally broken.
I'm waiting for surgery in a couple of days & hoping I don't start to miscarry at home like last time, it was so traumatic. I'm also hoping they send of some samples & we get an idea of what's gone wrong. It's two now at pretty much the same gestation & im over 35.

I can't believe it, this wasn't supposed to happen. Why me? Why any of us? Absolutely devastated.

Oh yellow. I'm so so sorry. I can't imagine. It's bad enough once. It's just horrible.

I just wanted to give you some reassurance, several of my close friends have had 2 miscarriages. But gone on to have a healthy third pregnancy. At this stage it's most likely to be rotten luck.

I hope that gives you a teeny bit of comfort. But I know it must be horrible still. Having had a miscarriage not that long ago you know exactly what to expect which on one hand will prepare you BUT on other hand you know it won't be an easy ride. I'm 6 weeks post Erpc and it's still pissing me off. I'm not back to normal yet.

I'm so very sorry you find yourself here again.

Oh, yellow, I am so so sorry to hear that. I know where you are now is a horrid, horrid place but we are all here to support you however we can. Miscarriage is so completely unfair. Please go easy on yourself and try to take comfort in the people that love you. It doesn't feel like it now, but you are stronger than you think you are. A virtual hand hold and enormous hug for as long as you need it x

Lime I thought the same thing I was googling and got very impatient but it's more normal than you think. One doctor told me to try and relax...haha love that one. Just step away from google

yellow God I'm so so so sorry, what a horrific shock. I didn't have a scan before 12 weeks so never got to see the heartbeat and I can't even imagine your pain right now.

I started to MC with medical management but ended up having surgery. Do you know if it's an ERPC with a general or MVA without? I had the latter if you have any questions.

Having tests is something, shitty to even be in that situation, but we found it was a minor upside to ending in surgery. We were also told what they offer in terms of dealing with the rest of it, which was horrendous to have to think about, but has given me some comfort since.

For now, just get through the days doing whatever makes you feel the least shit. It's probably a bit of limbo and shock for now. And it's heartbroken this has happened again

If you want to talk, we're all here for you. Sending you a massive squeeze x

I'm sorry yellow that's horrible, especially after an initial positive scan. I hope your surgery goes ok, and you make a quick recovery.

As expected, my test this am at 10dpo was negative. Boobs no longer sore, have backache & cramps, so sure AF will show up soon (am only CD22, FF predicts it will arrive tomorrow (based on my normal short LP), but I'm hoping it will come Tuesday, which would fit with my normal 25 day cycle, and would avoid it being over our anniversary weekend. With a BFN this am I'm happy to have a couple of drinks over the weekend, and probably won't bring the BBT thermometer with me, as alcohol just increases it anyway.
Off to dr later for fasting bloods. I'm bloody starving!

Yellow that's awful :( that's how I found out too. I've said before I don't know if it's better or worse to see the heartbeat, I think it's harder because you relax ever so slightly and begin to think more about he future just to have it ripped away from you. I'm so sorry you have to go through this

Yellow It's so shit, I'm sorry.

@yellowfrontdoor I'm so sorry. That's absolutely shit.

Quick question, how quickly did your cycles get back to normal after an early miscarriage?

I miscarried in May, have had one normal cycle where I ovulated on CD19. Normal cycle is about 28-31 days. But this month I appear to be ovulating on CD14 which will make my cycle only 26 days. Is it just a case of everything still settling back into a regular cycle do you think? The only time I've ovulated early in the past was when I got my BFP so now I'm worrying that if I do get a BFP this month it won't be a sticky one. Eugh!

yellow so sorry to hear your news :(