Oh emvy, not at all love. I had a lot of good cheese actually and a glass of wine, but then felt really drunk really quickly and quite sick, plus epic cramps and back ache, was in a bit of a state.
I completely relate to the calm of getting AF normally, I was saying that just last month, but it was a massive kick in the nuts this time for some reason. Maybe I believed DTD on holiday rather than at home would magically do the trick... 
I've been scrolling back through Ovia to what might have worked in Jan as my last BFP was 1 February. But nothing is different. I'm the same weight, DTD same amount, same vitamins, diet, sleep, (v minimal) exercise. Fuck knows.
Juan, that's really kind of you to share those and it does help. I was asking DH the other night if he really thinks we're on a run of spectacularly shitty luck or if he's secretly a bit worried there's something wrong but they haven't found it. I know people have similar runs of mcs followed by a healthy pregnancy and no reason is found, but then WTF is up with that? There HAS to be a reason doesn't there? Why does it suddenly work?
Good news stories definitely help, thank you x
My first one officially was many years ago so it's not really part of the current story with DH though it did mean we got referred to RMC after MMC as I'd put it in my notes. So discounting that, had early mc last August and didn't tell anyone, carried on with work and it wasn't that bad. Got BFP straight after that and that was MMC so surgery, then post op infection, A&E etc and I had 2 weeks off work. And then early one in Feb, told a few people as they knew we were trying, just cos of the MMC, wouldn't obis have told anyone otherwise! The impact was nowhere near the same for DH and me, so the people we did tell didn't make much fuss but we didn't want them to. It was shot and disappointing rather than full on devastating. The pain and bleeding were much worse than I'd been expecting, mainly the awful back ache, and I had 2 and a half days off work. Told my line manager and just said she was sorry and left it at that.
It would be awful if anyone did that ek, of course you want another baby and no one has any right to judge that! I don't have any yet so no one would say anything like to us, I hope, though DH has two with his ex.
That sounds tough this weekend tiffin, not sure what that best way to deal with it is, can you be honest with her?
With my one friend who is pregnant, I haven't said much as I don't want to upset her and she hasn't really bothered to ask, but likewise I haven't asked much about her pregnancy as I think she's been hugely insensitive and actually a bit of a bitch. Not by being pregnant, but from what she's said about it. From my POV she's fucking lucky to be pregnant, especially as they weren't even trying, so I don't want to hear how tired and achy she is and what a mare baby brain is FFS.... Of course you can complain and not enjoy pregnancy, no one said it's easy, but maybe confide in someone who hasn't spent half of the last year pregnant and losing babies. I hope your friend is sensitive if you do tell her.
Pregnancy related time off, which includes mc, can't be counted as normal sickness absence so it's worth being honest should it happen again, though I desperately hope it doesn't and you get a sticky bean very soon. It's not like you'd be doing it on purpose, and you wouldn't have to tell anyone apart from whoever looks after the records. To anyone else you can just be "off ill" with someone personal or a vague gynae issue.