We're ovulating again, so let's jump our men. It's TTC after miscarriage thread 11

[Lime19]

Not sure if I should start new thread for this? Is there one open already?

Urgh, I am expecting af any time between weds and next sat. It feels like an age to wait. No symptoms though and I've had a feeling all month this isn't my cycle so I'm just waiting for af. I just wish I had shorter cycles that were like clockwork. I don't like the fact that mine can be 4 or even 5 days different in length and even the shortest cycle is longer than normal.

Sorry just a complaining one today. I hate ttc.

Well ladies. One step forward, two steps back...or something like that.
Today GP said enough is enough, and has put me on progesterone for ten days to stop the bleeding (which is so heavy at the moment that twice in two days I've managed to bleed past sanitary towel and onto my clothes 😢; awful) and give me a break. She then says she reckons three months back on the pill just to try to get my hormone rollercoaster 🎢 under control and my cycles back to some sort of ...anything at all. So it looks like although there's light at the end of the mc recovery tunnel (pretty damned sick of bleeding, being confused, and not having a sex life, if I'm perfectly honest), it's going to be a long wait to even start ttc. I guess I joined this thread a little prematurely 😢
xx

Sorry you're struggling with having long cycles tiffin, and that you're having a down day. The weekend lies ahead - I hope you have a chance to fill it with some enjoyable things to help pass time until af/poas.

Rachel I'm so sorry you've had more tough news. Like you say though, it's something to aim for and will hopefully make you physically feel a bit better. Stay, you don't need to be actively ttc to be here! I've just had 2 months off myself with falling pregnant again and then having another mc and didn't go anywhere in that time - everyone is here to support you through whatever journey you take post mc. We'll try and help the time pass quickly for you and send positive vibes your way that the bleeding and your cycles sort themself out asap!

I'm not ttc either Rachel... just waiting! Passing the time. I can't wait to get back on the wagon!

I got to get rid of these cysts and blinking well stop bleeding. I swear since March I have used 1000s of bodyform night pads (my preferred pads). I'm going to wait until my proper period shows too. I can't see us trying next month. Maybe August but most likely September.

Hi all. I'm just waving hello especially to those who, sadly, find themselves here -- and especially to emvy. I'm so, so sorry.

BFN here swiftly followed by AF. Not a surprise but always a disappointment especially as I feel each month that it's "last chance saloon" as I'm sooo old.
Two months to go until my most recent EDD. A very sad prospect.

I'm already on countdown to EDD too. I must be pregnant by December. I'm not sure what I'll do as that date comes closer.

September willl also mark 1 year of trying with nothing to show

Hi again everyone. I'm cd8 tomorrow so the madness starts again in earnest. This time I have a BBT thermometer as well as my CBFM and strip OPKs. Also taking baby aspirin. Feeling a bit less desperate this cycle (cycle 2 post mc) although I'm sad to think that I would have been 16 weeks pregnant this Sunday.

Need to stop drinking though. I keep saying I'll do it then failing every day. That makes it sounds like I drink loads I know but it's usually just 1 beer or glass of wine with dinner.

I have a ridiculous amount of ewcm tonight BUT I know even if I did ovulate, my lining on a scan this week was 3mm or so. Very thin. No egg would implant on that. What a waste

Sorry you are having such a tough time Lime x

Hi everyone. I've dipped in and out of these threads a few times (I think I was on the first ever one) so I hope it is ok to post.

I had a lovely DS in 2012 but have had 6 mc/cps since (6-9wks), really struggled to cope, kept putting on weight which no doubt made things worse. Lost 2st since Jan but still not ideal. I'm almost 41 so feel that time is running out.

Finally got referred to RMC and test results show I am prone to clotting (not APS) and recommended to take 150mg aspirin daily after next BFP. I have already bought the aspirin and was thinking of starting it early as I don't usually get a bfp until after implantation.

Also read It Starts with the Egg and bought Ubiquinol and Myo-Inositol+Folate as well as pregnacare conception & vit c. Eating a mostly veggie diet plus some fish and eggs.

Currently CD6, usual cycle 32-36 days. I have opks but will try and have as much sex as possible, although romance / passion is difficult to maintain after so much heartbreak - anyone else?

I had an endometrial scratch last cycle as part of a medical trial which is supposed to aid implantation so I feel like I am getting my hopes up a dangerous amount for this cycle now I've thrown everything at it!

Hi guys. A little update from me. Have been spotting on and off since my bfp on Wednesday, but it seems to be easing up. Did another frer this morning and the line was significantly darker than Wednesday. Trying hard to remain optimistic. I'll definitely still be following quietly here to see you lot get much deserved bfps!! But in the nicest way, I hope I don't have to rejoin you!!

Rachel I'm sorry you're having such a crap time recovering. Hopefully the hormones will help and the next few months will fly by.

I really hope there is a run of positive news for everyone on here. You all deserve it so much. ❤️

Dancing I am so happy for you wishing you all the very best

Congratulations Dancing fingers crossed for you.

👋🏻 waterfeature. EDD is looming for me in a few months from first mc. I was convinced I'd be pregnant again by then. Turns out I was sort of right but definitely didn't account for a second mc to squeeze its way in there before I even made it to the date!

Dancing, good news the spotting has subsided, I have everything crossed for you.

Welcome back MsJuniper, sorry to hear you've had such a tough time of things. It sounds like you have everything in hand! Don't lose heart if this doesn't turn out to be your month although I have everything crossed that it will be!

Glad you're feeling a bit less desperate this month grumpy, fingers crossed that your relaxed attitude helps things along!

Lime, sorry to hear your lining isn't thick enough yet but ovulation regardless is a good sign things are sorting themselves out and that your next cycle will be normal. I didn't stop bleeding until after ovulation my first cycle post mmc and consequently just skipped that month.

I've just noticed, I'm surprised we're not all tied in knots with everything we cross for eachother every day! 💕

dancing really hope it all works out for you x

Dancing so so pleased for you! Hope everything goes well and smoothly for you!!

Thank you all. Went out for a pizza and some wine with hubby last night and woke up this morning feeling much less down about the whole thing. We've decided to try the progesterone first but not commit to the three months on the pill afterwards just yet.

@DancingUnicorn fingers crossed for you. 🙂

By the way, what does EDD mean?

Been away so been quiet and catching up.
At a family hotel with our son and every has two or more kids and hundreds of babies. I think my brain is back on track as finally do not feel disgustingly jealous anymore and can appreciate the cuteness.

Hope all are ok - off now to read the thread.

Cd 27 here and no signs of af or any ov signs this cycle although it the the first proper one since my last mc. Must not test. Must nooooooo test.

Emvy having also lost twins ( mmc in march ) and mmc in Dec 16 and Aug 16 coping wise i try and just crack on with other joyous things. I played tennis and liked it so will have a few Lessons to invoke law of sod, facials, nails, wine, blue cheese etc . Have dc1 though so not the same I know as it distracts however he loves babies and spots them and calls out so my heart breaks a little each time.

So sorry for those in epu it is horrid and nhs resources so lacking that time and comfort are at a premium.

The rmc was the pits - I was hysterical after due to lack of compassion. Bloods for next cd 2-4 whenever that is and internal scans. Ugh.

Hi Mrs juniper.

Regarding aspirin- I found a study that suggested a slight possible hinderance to implantation. There are very mixed approaches from what I've read but after bfp seems to avoid that possibility. Maybe follow what they say but question it / double check it again at any future appointments?

congratulations dancing it sounds really promising!

rachel edd is estimated due date

Sorry I hope you don't mind but I just need to get this out... is it normal to start worrying even before TTC again properly? I've been that focused on getting the green light and recovering but now I'm freaking out already about if I will get pregnant again, if everything will be ok etc etc I'm driving myself nuts!

I'm sorry just had to get that out..

Suppose I should join this thread. 10 days post ERPC. Light bleeding for three days, nothing now. MMC at 9 weeks.
When can I start again? I've read that I should technically be more fertile now however how can that be if my lining has been cleared out? Surely then it would be very thin? Have been told to wait until next period before TTC again however have also read that this is just for dating purposes. Any one any ideas.

We're not TTC yet as I'm only 3 weeks post MC. We go on holiday in August and if I got pregnant straight away I'd be at exactly the same stage when we went away so I've decided to wait a couple of months.
I miscarried at 5.5 weeks and had a scan last week to check everything had cleared.

Just wondered if my recovery is normal. I'm still getting some twinges although I guess that could be things starting up again. I've worked throughout the MC and managed ok but slept as soon as I got home for the first couple of weeks. Since my scan I've felt so low, even people at work have noticed something is wrong. I feel so exhausted as well and slept all afternoon yesterday which is really unlike me.

My DP has been really supportive physically so I don't have to do much, but I've not had much emotional support. He's convinced himself there was obviously something wrong and it is for the best. I don't think he gets why I'm upset. His ex had a termination (against his wishes) so I think that has affected how he feels, even though he won't say it and I won't ask as don't want to bring it up again for him. I feel so alone.

PossibliTea yes sadly freaking out about the possibility of being pregnant is very normal. I've found it's got much better over time. My first month ttc was a real rollercoaster of emotions from I want to be pregnant now to I'm too scared and don't ever want to do this again.

Presh I'm really sorry for your loss. Have you tested again and got a negative test? As long as you have then it's ok to start trying again if you feel ready. You can try, I think if your lining is too thin it probably won't work, but I don't think there is any downside to trying.

voxnihili I'm so sorry for your loss too. It sounds like you're going through a tough time. Miscarriage is both emotially and physically very draining. I wonder if your iron levels are ok? I know utter exhaustion can be an indicator of low levels and you do lose a lot of blood. It might be worth speaking to your doctor or trying some spatone supplements as they are easy to digest. To be honest though it might be nothing, you've not really had any time to rest and recover from the trauma of miscarriage. Could you take a few days off to spend at home? We're all here for you. you are not alone in this.