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Roll up, roll up!....Clomid cycle buddy needed please, dont want to do this on my own!

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pussycatmomma · 18/03/2007 20:02

Hi thats it really. If there is anyone who is about to start a new cycle with clomid, can you please be my friend?
This will be my first try on clomid, I have pcos, and started af today after a horrible 48 day cycle.
But af is here, hurray! which means i can start on the magic beans tomorrow.
So if you would like chat and hand holding too, please sign in here.
Im thinking good sense of humour, sympathy, and patience will be a must
xxx

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MamaMaiasaura · 03/05/2007 14:07

sorry lulu that the old hag arrived

Re clomid, I was on 50mg for first cycle and they were increasing it to 100mg for the next one.

Consultant just telelhpone me, bless her. She said my early scan looks good. Forgot to post on here about it as been obsessing. Shows me at about 4-5 weeks. Good gestational sack, unclear if embryo can been seen but very early. Looks like i ov'd by myself as very last in cycle.. about cd41.

I bd'd from the moment AF dissapeared till about cd45. Most nights altho towards the end every other. So glad we stuck at it as has paid divendeds. Probab best to BD as much as you possibley can as the timing of ov can not be certain.

pussycatmomma · 03/05/2007 17:24

bonjour [smie]
Just read throught the flurry of posts, this is a lovely friendly thread to come back to.
Thanks for the profile flossie - you have now entered my inner sanctum!! I also have a dog, he is 2 yrs but we only got him in January (from another mumsnetter actually) He is my gorgeous baby boy. What breed is Nugget? I could guess from the picture but dont want to insult you if im wrong
lulu.........i am so so sorry about your af honey. I felt exactly the same last month, comletely gutted. (It was last month I had the crying sesh at work, not good) Wish there was something I could say to make you feel better, but I know only too well that nothing makes a difference when you are feeling so low about it all. All I can offer is hugs and positive vibes for your next cycle. I did find that as soon as I started the clomid again I was able to re-focus and get on with the next cycle, and the shock and upset of starting af did seem to lessen.
Thinking of you.
I understand about the not drinking thing. I have cut down wine consumption drastically, but really only drink with dinner or at home. I'm not really a "getting drunk" girl, not these days anyway, in my vintage years!!!! I figure a glass of wine helps me relax and is part of normality for me. If I do too much stuff thats "out of range" it can soon make me even more obsessed.
Now - a funny story.....
To set the scene, it is cd14 (this is yesterday) . We did the bding last night, early evening-ish. Later on I got quite strong pains on my left lower abdomen, which I figure could be ovulation pains ((yipee)). I tell dh this, and that it could be a good sign, and I think we should "get to it" in the morning just for good measure. Dh not keen on the whole morning before work shagging type thing, so is reluctant. In end after lots of persuasion, he relents, and says if i put alarm clock on and make the tea (he always makes the cuppas), then he will go for it. Guess what?? 6.30 this morning, I kid you not for at least half an hour, and there was definatly no "going for it" going on!!! His exscuse, "I just dont feel like it i am too tired" We end up having an argument with me screaming " in case you hadnt noticed, this is so not about your pleasure anymore!!!! do you know how long an egg can live??!!! I dont CARE If you dont feel like it!!! "
Looking back was very hilarious, but you know what its like ladies, when you need that sperm, you need it, its not exactly an option is it???
OOOOOOOh I was really cross.
all fine now though, we managed to come home from work at mid-day, even though hes like "what about my lunch?" I was like, "dont worry love you can eat it in the car on the way back "
Any one else have similar problems with their dh?? I know awen didnt, she was at it every day bless her! Hes been really really good lately,does it whenever i say we need to , every day when its mid cycle, but just today i think he was feeling really put upon.
Thing is Im stressing because of same reasons as lulu, thinking omg it'll never work and if it doesnt work this month, ive only got 4 more goes, etc etc, which makes me more uptight and anxious. Tbh, im so scared of having to go down the iui/ivf route....I just feel as if we should maximise every opportunity.
Sorry to waffle on so much.
love to all xxxxxx

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pussycatmomma · 03/05/2007 17:25

omg at length of last post ladies

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flosspot · 04/05/2007 10:12

Nugget would be a Parson's Jack Russell (long haired!)PCM.

On subject of reluctant husbands, mine is one- last month he sat down and told me that he really couldn't perform at the drop of a hat, his necessaries couldn't hack it. I was fuming- "You think I want to be awake at 11pm waiting for you to get home just so we can have sex. This isn't fun for me either, you know." etc. Also threatened to call work and have my fertile dates put in his online diary, so that everyone at work knew what he was up to.

Think it would be easier just to go down IVF route so I don't have to involve him at all.......I don't know how Awen's DH did it, but respect!

Don't stress about next step PCM- madness lies that way- you'll be so wound up that nothing will happen now. Take it a day at a time. We're all here with you. Kisses

MamaMaiasaura · 04/05/2007 10:25

he missed out foreplay lol. Am proud of him tho.. he saw the task in hand and embraced it LOL. tbh tho there were a few times when it was a quickie.. then he disappeared off to do his own thing while i had my legs stuck in the air.. (he would laugh at me at that point )

MamaMaiasaura · 04/05/2007 10:26

oh and I banned him from having a fiddle in the shower to safe up all the good stuff LOL

lulu1414 · 04/05/2007 10:28

Morning all- PCM very funny indeed! I actually don't have that problem with DH. The years of me being badgered at his ridiculously high sex drive have paid off! He is loving all this. If anything it is him saying "shouldn't we just one more go today just in case" and me saying "sweet mercy!". He also thinks it should be throughout the whole cycle and not just around OV. When I fell pg last time we laughed that he was disappointed as he was hoping for a year of trying. Well, in the end he got his wish!

I agree, PCM I will feel better once I take my first tablet. I am just waiting for the first proper bleed day (I think tomorrow from the looks of things) and then will start the day after. It is such a cycle!

MamaMaiasaura · 04/05/2007 10:31

lol @ your hubby lulu Do u guys mind me still hanging around? Just want to see you all graduate xx

lulu1414 · 04/05/2007 10:55

Awen, PLEASE hang around. You give us hope!

MamaMaiasaura · 04/05/2007 11:39

ta. will hang around.. just didnt want to be a pain in the ass hanging round. Think might be a wee bit hormonal here.

Am rooting 4 you guys, it seems like such a long drawn out process but all worth it. xx

flosspot · 04/05/2007 12:22

Stick around Awen- you offer a useful perspective and lots of hope!

Lulu- LOL at your DH, wish mine was so inspired! Ditto Awen- stamina or what?

lulu1414 · 06/05/2007 15:33

Hi all. Hope everyone is having a good weekend. I have a question for all of you- have you noticed a difference in AF since you started clomid? My AF last month and this month has felt very light. 2 days of brown spotting, then one day of heavier red blood (sorry, TMI!) and then more light spotting. I know the doc said I didn't have much endemitriol lining, but I thought clomid should have helped with this? What does everyone think?

Chocolatedays · 06/05/2007 17:33

Hi Lulu, I'm not on clomid anymore (I was on this thread early on - then I was called Sunshinedays).

In about 10% of women clomid can cause the endo-lining to get thinner (it did this to me). I suggest you need to talk to the doc who prescribed - there are alternatives that are injected but in my area they were not available on NHS.

Good luck.

MamaMaiasaura · 06/05/2007 22:04

sorry lulu - dont know the answer to this but will bump for you x

pussycatmomma · 06/05/2007 22:37

hiya awen, how are you sweetie? hope you are feeling ok. Any prg symptoms started yet? (early i know) Hope you are feeling well and that your lovely news is feeling like a reality for you now.
lulu, what cd you on? didnt know you got af this cycle. (((hugs))
Sorry I dont know anything about the technicalities of af when you are on clomid....but for what its worth, my af was very different last time too. Very heavy, instant bright red bleed but only lasted for a couple of days, then couple of days of very sligt, light bleeding, which looked like could have been "old" blood loss as it was much lighter and browner. sorry if all that tmi, but it is sometimes good to compare. I remember thinking last time that it was quite different. Obviously clomid is the cause but why I dont know. Am cd18today. No idea if have ovulated/will ovulate/or am yet to ovulate. So the shagfest continues!
Been feeling really down today about the whole ttc thing. My sister is also ttc, sadly she is further along her journey than myself, despite 5 ivf attempts, miscarrage following an ectopic, and tubal surgery, she still has no children
I often wonder if this is just not meant to be. For either of us. It is so hard sometimes.
Hope you are all ok .
xxxx

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MamaMaiasaura · 07/05/2007 00:17

just logged on as altho tired cant sleep. PCM - sorry you are feeling a little am sure it is meant to be. JUst taking a bit longer. Love your description of bding.. shagfest

I really hope your sister gets her bfp too. Is frustrating when there are people out there who dont want their children and then those who want them so much and have such a hard time conceiving. xx

Preg symptoms kicking in here. Boobs ache and look like porn stars. Am already very big busted as never went back after ds. They are already starting to expand . Very sensitive and emotional too.. Did another test today 'just to make sure'

Love to you all xx

lulu1414 · 07/05/2007 10:10

Thanks for your advice everyone. I will call doc tomorrow. Choc- what happened with you? How light was your AF on clomid?

Awen- good to hear your symptoms are kicking in. Very exciting.

PCM- sorry you are feeling a bit blue. I totally understand. I am feeling the same way. Find it all a bit stressful as wasn't sure if I had a proper AF and whether or not to start on pills again. I decided to go ahead and took the first pill last night. So I am on CD3. So the shagfest will start in earnest when DH comes home from his latest trip.

lulu1414 · 07/05/2007 14:20

Just to let you know I started a new thread just to see if I could get any advice about light AF. I've been doing a bit of research and it looks like this probably means clomid not for me. I guess it is thinning my lining too much. Will call doctor tomorrow, but don't know if I should not bother taking the second pill tonight. Argghhh! And I thought things would get easier once prescribed clomid!

pussycatmomma · 07/05/2007 19:24

ahhhh lulu....just wanted to say am sorry you are having a few probs. Just caught up on this thread. Is your af very light all way through? Had not heard of this prob prev to chocolatedays post.
Hope you manage to get in touch with your cons, let us know what the alternatives are for you.
sending you lots of good vibes xxxx

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coggy · 07/05/2007 19:34

Lulu....my AF went pretty light on clomid and it seemed to work okay for me (after I finished taking it I fell pg....because of it sorting out my cycle I'm sure).

Sometimes the things we find out on the Internet are unnecessarily scary.
I have previously convinced myself that I had bowel cancer (piles when pg with ds) and a rare blood condition which could mean I could die at any time if needing a transfusion because my blood would reject all others!!!

Now I realise that I am most definitelt NOT a medical phenomenon and try not to look much up!

Hope you get sorted out.
X

coggy · 07/05/2007 19:36

Oh.....and also important to add is that I am NOT a flapper at all.
I am pretty relaxed most of the time and tend not to worry unduly about anything.

The Internet really got me going on a few occassions however!!!

lulu1414 · 07/05/2007 20:41

Thanks, everyone. It is funny because I am always going on about how one shouldn't freak oneself out because you can't believe everything on the Internet and here I am doing it myself! I guess I feel so wound up about it all and upset at the ongoing frustration and not knowing! That is interesting that your AF was light too, coggy. Did the doc say that it was OK? I will see what the consultant says tomorrow (if I can get through to him!).

PCM- is your AF pretty normal?

minxi · 07/05/2007 21:06

Lulu my af is normally fairly light with the first couple of days brown/red spotting etc...on my first month of clomid last month when af came it was bright red - no spotting just medium-heavy for 1 day then lighter and was gone within 3 days....I was quite pleased I think....hopefully it doesn't turn up this month! good luck !

lulu1414 · 07/05/2007 21:10

Good luck to you, Minxi. sounds like yours is pretty similar to mine. It has been so helpful just to hear other people's experiences.

pussycatmomma · 07/05/2007 21:17

minxi, my af was very similar to yours.
Very sudden bright red bleeding for couple of days then very very slight, light brown marks on my knicks (so sorry if tmi)
It is different to af without clomid. Af without clomid is normally light brown, light bleeding for first few days, then heavy bright red loss for 4-5 days afterwards.
Got to say i agree with cogs on this one, tinternet is a wonderful tool for bringing us all together and to help us find out more and thus empower ourselves.......but ive lost count of the times my dh has diagonsed himself with leukimaia or a brain tumour
((he hasn't either by the way - thank the good Lord!!))
How has everyones bank holiday been? We spent much of ours in homebase and b&q
dh putting all his efforts into creating a "zen garden" at side of house..........goodness knows why, we have a perfectly tranquil garden with a huge deck and lots of space for lounging, but this is "his" project, and woe betide i halt progress!!! (although rain and fading daylight has now stopped play and we are about to eat dinner)
xxx

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