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When's the best time to get pregnant? Use our interactive ovulation calculator to work out when you're most fertile and most likely to conceive.

First time TTC

613 replies

Mrstobe90 · 31/05/2017 14:06

Hi,

This is all very new to me so would like to make some TTC buddies :)

Let me tell you a little about myself:
Been with my SO for 2 years now and we're getting married in 31 days! I'm 26 (nearly 27) and my hubby2b is 35. We bought a house last year and feel like now is a good time to start a family!

This is my first cycle and I'm really excited but trying not to get my hopes up as seen that it's harder than it looks.

Any advice would be appreciated :) xxx

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Clickypenguin02 · 16/06/2017 08:15

Lovely dinosaur Yay!!

I've got three days to go according to Ovia but might take one today Blush

AdrianaWeatherwax · 16/06/2017 08:26

I was using Ovia but have now started using Fertility Friend and I think I prefer it.

No idea what to do if I get a peak OPK today, shagging 4 outta 5 days my vajayjay needs a rest!

I met one of my besties last night for coffee, she's due next Thursday with her first and naturally scared about the birth.
I have always had an irrational fear of childbirth, started having nightmares about it when I was 15. Well last night post-BD I suddenly got The Fear. "Shit, shit, what if I am pregnant?!" 😂 hardly slept! Of course by this morning I'm still hooooping for a BFP.

Fefifoefum · 16/06/2017 08:49

Flamingo- my DH isn't a doctor, different lady, but I am a nurse, which makes likelyhood of DH being doctor less imo! Ha!

My fertile zone (are we calling it a zone?!) it directly after my period, with a short cycle I guess that's how it is?!

Adri- also got THE FEAR about childbirth, I think I know too much, but not enough. I've had stories from friends in ITU etc etc, and also, there's that age old nurse/missive divide!

TheLovelyOtherDinosaur · 16/06/2017 08:52

clickypenguin it's so tempting to test isn't it! I just thought a missed period is a good sign and just that bit closer to everything being ok! I think if I did get a bfp before a missed period I'd be super anxious over the next few days just waiting for it to unexpectedly turn up but if you think it might relieve that anxiety for you- do it!

Just wondering what to do now? Will be doctors surgery laugh me off the phone trying to book a midwife appointment this early on or does it need to be booked asap?

MummyGofboys · 16/06/2017 09:23

@TheLovelyOtherDinosaur get booked in asap.

Honestly childbirth isn't as bad as people make out. They love to give you a bad experience. My first was worse than my second but I still would do it again. Try and not panic. With my first I didn't read any books as I knew it was just something I had to go through to get my baby so I didn't want to have expectations.

McTufty · 16/06/2017 09:47

lovelydinosaur

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That is such lovely news you must be thrilled! I will definitely check out the preseed conception. Im buying every aid and supplement under the sun, our house now looks like Holland and Barrett! But I eat it so badly it's worth it!

frowningflamingo

Sailing with AF, not ideal but actually being busy will make the non-fertile days go quicker so you can get on with the business of baby making!

It was my DH who is the doctor - he's a surgeon so knows how to cut people up but that's about it! (fefi probably makes it even less likely you'd go near him eh? Grin). We are lucky to have lots of doctor friends from all specialities but I'm not telling people we are trying because I'm so scared I won't be able to conceive and I'd rather people didn't know yet. Obviously after a while people will guess I suppose but for now! As time goes on, I have a close female friend who is obs and gynae so I will probably confide in her if necessary.

adriana

Well if the OPK says to shag, you shag and your vag is just gonna have to deal!

I am scared of birth in the abstract but as at now I don't think about it too much. I just figure that it's something to be got through and women have been getting through it for thousands of years. So the pain I can rationalise (along with already knowing I want an epidural!) but I would be scared of baby not being born safely.

That's good to know though mummyG! My mum says the same, she says yes it hurts but it's exciting and the really awful bit towards the end doesn't last that long.

fefi that must be useful to know about the human body when it comes to TTC, I seem to spend my life on google these days!

To do bold, it's not a tag, you just click on the 'I' icon at the bottom and you can do it but there's no need really, I'm just in the habit.

Sorry if I've missed anyone!

No sign of anything resembling a symptom of a cycle here! I'm very bloated and have low level cramping so hopefully AF not too far away and I can get cracking.

In fairness to my body, had I still been on the pill, my bleed would have been tomorrow. I know that's not the test, but it gives me hope that I'm not massively late yet.

In fact, I took my final pill on 17 May. I've been taking the 2-4 weeks for period to come back from then. But actually, the change came when I didn't restart the next packet on 25 May. When should I count my weeks from? I guess I stopped having the hormones on 17 May but my body is used to that, so maybe it only jolted in on 25 when the new packet not forthcoming.

Ah well, sunny weekend coming up when I can try to relax and forget about it (yeah right!)

McTufty · 16/06/2017 09:47

*WANT not eat! When will I learn to preview my posts

AdrianaWeatherwax · 16/06/2017 10:30

😂 my vag and slightly bruised cervix (TMI) could probably deal another day but DH has MS and he's struggling to walk and stand today as it is - he's desperate for kids though so would shag himself into crutches if I didn't keep an eye out 😂

It's not actually the pain I'm worried about (can't get an epidural at our hospital!) and I realise billions go through it...ah the joys of irrational fears.

No idea when to count your weeks from, sorry! I just started logging my cycles and after a few months started to get an idea.

FairyAnn · 16/06/2017 10:34

Hi all, can I join? I was on another thread but can't seem to find it anymore.

I'm 34 and TTC 1st time, have been trying for 6 months now.

I went for blood tests last week and now the doctors has called and said they need to redo one of the tests. Naturally, I'm starting to worry. Has anyone got any comforting words to offer?

MummyGofboys · 16/06/2017 11:36

Just got a BFP!!!!

AdrianaWeatherwax · 16/06/2017 11:51

Yaaaaas MummyG!!! Awesome news Grin

Check all you lucky bugger 😂

Hi Fairy :-) sometimes they ask for tests to be redone because they're inconclusive I think so it might just be that. Or perhaps they've picked up on a manageable deficiancy e.g. low iron levels - it's hard not to assume the worst but often these things turn out to be nothing.

MummyGofboys · 16/06/2017 11:58

@AdrianaWeatherwax literally found out 1 minute before the doctor called me. So she has booked me into midwife for two weeks time. That was the first response. I'm shocked. Shaking lol

FairyAnn · 16/06/2017 12:01

Thanks Adriana just needed a bit of a hand hold :)

Congrats MummyG!

McTufty · 16/06/2017 12:07

mummyG that's amazing! Remind me how many DPO you are? So strange it was negative even a couple of days after missed period! What test did you use? Aaaarhh so excited for you!

fairyAnn

Welcome! Sorry it's been taking a while for you. I echo what adriana says, redoing a test isn't indicative of a problem, more that something may be inconclusive or even that the lab messed up. Stick around and let us know how you get on Flowers

MummyGofboys · 16/06/2017 12:12

Thank you @FairyAnn

@McTufty My most fertile day according to ovia was the 31st of May. I had spotting on the 2nd and 3rd. I used clear blue digital tests and none of them picked it up. Ordered a pack of two first response and it picked it up today. Iv felt rotten for a week and a half. I'm trying to upload a picture but it won't let me do will try tonight.

McTufty · 16/06/2017 12:23

Ah. Apparently the digital ones aren't very sensitive is that right? Still seems strange but who cares I'm really pleased it turned out well!

I ask only because I was reading up on whether tests actually are 99% accurate on the day of the missed period or not - apparently they're not so interesting the experience you've had!

MummyGofboys · 16/06/2017 12:25

@McTufty it's so strange because Iv always used clear blue digital and the day i was due had a positive. Not this time so I don't really trust them now. Strange. Will upload a pic of test once it lets me. Said Iv uploaded to many 😩😩

MummyGofboys · 16/06/2017 12:36

@McTufty Just put it all into ovia pregnancy and I'm apparently four weeks today so that's maybe why Iv not had a positive until today. Xx

MissyEm · 16/06/2017 12:45

Lots of BFP dust going on this weekend.

That's great news @MummyGofboys.

Will there be any more good news stories this weekend I wonder.......?

AdrianaWeatherwax · 16/06/2017 12:48

Did you guys use Ovia to calculate O?

FairyAnn · 16/06/2017 14:12

I do, although I think mine is out of the average sync. I've been using ovulation sticks all though my designated fertile period but they've all come out extremely low.

Hence the blood tests

MummyGofboys · 16/06/2017 14:17

Thank you @MissyEm. Fingers crossed for everyone testing this weekend

MissyEm · 16/06/2017 14:34

Yeah I plan to use it has of tomorrow as had first site of sticky CM today.

Is it enough to test with the OPK in the morning first thing or can the result change during the day?

AdrianaWeatherwax · 16/06/2017 15:17

Fx for the blood tests Fairy. I ignored Ovia and just started testing 2 days after end of AF. What time of day do you test?

I would test in the afternoon Missy, my morning ones were negative but afternoon (after 1pm) flashing smiley. Something to do with a surge in the morning but not detectable until afternoon ? Took months however, as I used to test after lunch and get negatives also.

MissyEm · 16/06/2017 15:36

Ok, I will try that. Feeling positive about this coming week after so much good news on this thread this week! Cant do much about a smiley face mid afternoon though Confused @Adrianaweatherwax. How long is the surge window of opportunity is it a matter of hours or do you have the rest of the day DTD

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