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When's the best time to get pregnant? Use our interactive ovulation calculator to work out when you're most fertile and most likely to conceive.

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Trying to conceive...8

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Azure · 06/07/2004 15:48

Come and join me in this new thread. I want a least one graduate per week and no ttcing to take longer than two months for everyone here!!

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Staceyk · 04/08/2004 10:56

I think it's all done to Azure, I was so scared to let her down (see opening message) I had to get pg.

Good luck to you all

Tania2 · 04/08/2004 11:40

Hi Guys, iam very near to the end of my cycle. af due in 5 days had some spotting the other day but nothing since. boobs slightly tender but usually are b4 af due. no signs of pg, not tired, not sick not nothing!! Keep having really weired dreams that iam pg and can feel the baby kicking. it really feels so real i still remember what it feels like from ds. feeling really down about it at the moment. I truly would be lost without you guys to winge to. Thanks guys.

Tania2 · 04/08/2004 11:54

Sorry make that 4 days iam due on sunday. its 8:45pm here in oz so i wont count today.

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Azure · 04/08/2004 12:25

Stacey, I'm not scary, really . If only I could follow my own instructions .

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Twiga · 04/08/2004 17:05

Hope it's ok to ask on this thread, but did anyone else worry about their first period after mc? Mc just over three weeks ago, think af due on 9th - am feeling worried/upset at the thought of bleeding again, although I know it's a good indication that things are working and back to normal - also know that things may not happen as expected but anxious anyway. Really hoping things will all happen fine, as dh and I would like to start tcc again properly soon.

tex111 · 04/08/2004 18:09

Hi Twiga, I just went through my first AF after m/c and it was fine. A bit heavier and a bit more hormoney but not a problem. I was nervous too as I've heard that they can be quite heavy and painful but it was fine. It seems I've Oed as normal now too so hopefully things are back on track. Hope your next AF goes smoothly too!

Strawberry, I know what you mean about who to tell. Before the m/c DH had told EVERYONE - neighbors, colleagues, relatives, friends, etc and he's still having people come up to congratulate him. Next time we've decided to only tell people whom we would want to disuss a m/c with, if it happens again. So just our closest friends and our parents. What do you think you'll do?

4dpo here. Going out of my mind wondering!

ShouldKnowByFriday · 04/08/2004 18:27

Thank you Azure for those stats! And thank you for asking.

BE PREPARED TO FALL ASLEEP WHILE I RAMBLE:
Day 35 (have never had 35 day cycle without being preg) but test says BFN. Actually while sitting here typing, aware of boobs having a filling up with milk sensation like when I was expressing, and this is not my imagination! But BFN this morning with Early Reponse, had to sneak it past DH first thing this morning to test, oh the toils of being deceitful!
In fact, DH asked last night if I would put in cap (sorry ladies), told him not to worry, I am waiting for AF. He said waht if it doesn't arrive? My reply: Why shouldn't it? His reply: we weren't careful this month. Me: Why worry before it has happened? Ok, boobs really making me aware of their presence.
I am mega confused: did Ovulation test stix from day 11 to day maybe 23. Lost count. Got so stressed that no egg reading appeared. So thought maybe having an egg free month, had two shows of mucous (sorry), why two? I thought to myself, but kept "trying" anyway. Had a show of light pink and then very sore boobs so thought "Oh, implanted egg", that must have been mid last week. Haven't kept a written record as soooooo very busy but surely by day 35 if its BFN AF is on its way....? Has anybody experienced this and then been preg?

SORRY TO GO ON AND ON AND ON AND ON...(Boobs still giving me heavy milk sensation as I type).

Twiga · 04/08/2004 19:20

With my pregnancy I got a BFN the day AF due and a BFP four days later, on the faint side but definate BFP - boobs sorer than usual for AF even before the first test, so i was wndering. Guess what I'm trying to say is that maybe it'll take a wee while longer for a BFP to show and you could well be right to trust what your body may be telling you? Here's hoping, will keep my fingers crossed for you .

That's my tuppence worth, hopefully someone more experienced will reply soon.

ShouldKnowByFriday · 04/08/2004 20:36

Thank you Twiga for that. I do have a sneaky feeling that I am with the boob situation at the mo but I am obviously hoping too so that distorts things somewhat...!

mitzi · 04/08/2004 21:40

congratulations Strawberry.
Well my AF is due in 5 days and i dont know whether its just wishfull thinking but I feel different, I remember when I was pg with ds1 and i was an absolute cow, snapping at everyone especially DH and that is exactley how i am now so who knows maybe i am .

tex111 · 05/08/2004 07:23

SNBF, with my second pregnancy I had that letting down milk sensation too. Fingers crossed!! I'd wait a day or two and do another test... who am I kidding, I would probably be testing hourly but you probably have a bit more self control. Good luck!!!

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tex111 · 05/08/2004 07:59

Katierocket, I'm sorry to hear about that but if you BDed up to three days before and a day after O you could still have a chance this month. The odds wouldn't be as good but it does happen. Could you maybe not tell DH when it's O time and just seduce him on the right day? I'm sure a lot of guys aren't keen on all the planning and charting but you could keep doing it and not pass on all the details to DH, just jump him on the right day!

Nothing going on here. 5dpo, no symptoms other than a desperate and irrational urge to test! Not going to buy any tests until Monday. Luckily we have a busy weekend so I should be distracted.

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runtus · 05/08/2004 08:17

Katierocket - I have the same problem but I don;t think my dh (or yours probably) means he doesn't want a baby as much as I do. It's just that he isn;t as in tune to the whole 'there's only one really fertile week' thing and he see's all his mates wives and giorlfriends gett pg without trying (or it looks that way to him, I know the real stories!).

Men are just simple creatures I've decided and can't understand when things become a little more complex than "I fancy you, lets shag". Doesn't mean they don't care, it's just they don't like to feel pushed into anything. Even when they actually want the result!

I might be over generalising a bit, but it rings true in my house!

tex111 · 05/08/2004 08:21

katierocket, it's a really tough balance. Maybe you could explain the odds to him. How even if you BD on the day you O there's still only a 25% chance of conceiving and how it reduces if you don't hit O. Sometimes guys respond to stats, as strange as it sounds. Best of luck to you.

katierocket · 05/08/2004 09:01

runtus - thank you for that, I think you're probably right and tex is that true?! it's a wonder so many people DO get pregnant isn't it

Seabird · 05/08/2004 09:08

katierocket, like you & runtus I've really been there with a dh who refuses to do his bit. Ov time is definitely my most stressful time of month when I'm ttc, much more so than the end of the month. DH always warns me not to make a big deal out of it as it will be counter-productive but one night this month I completely lost it and ended up screaming my frustration at him and refusing to go to sleep until we BD'd . Next day I printed out a few pages from FF on how timing & frequency of BD affects chances of conceiving and left them on his desk.

I must admit I was quite relieved when I worked out that the night of the argument wasn't the night we actually conceived though!

You're definitely still in with a chance this month though, by the sound of it. good luck++

strawberry · 05/08/2004 09:22

Twiga, I was also worried about first AF after mc. I did not bleed at all even after D&C and thought first AF would be horrendous as body had a clear out (sorry bit gross). But in fact it was fairly normal even a bit easier than normal. It was also on time as if day of D&C had been day 1 of cycle. Good luck.

Tex111 - we had also told everyone and so everyone also knew about mc. In a way this was good but we have decided to wait until at least 1st scan (9weeks) or even later.

Shouldknowbyfriday - fingers crossed for you.

ChaCha · 05/08/2004 10:27

Hello everyone! Interesting stats Azure

Today am CD24, last month had a 25 day cycle, so AF could be lurking round the corner. Feel like i've been on mumsnet forever..will probably still be here when you've all got teenage kids, lol maybe i'll be on here with them, tee hee!

xoz · 05/08/2004 10:47

Wow!!! The things that happen when you go away for a week... I've missed out on so much!!!! Congrats to Seabird, Mosegirl and Strawberry...
for all those who's AF arrived or had other bad news.
Thanks for those stats too Azure. Very encouraging.
My AF is due Saturday or thereabouts (never had a very regular cycle) so fingers crossed for this month.

Tania2 · 05/08/2004 11:34

Katierocket IKWYM about bding when ov. It puts so much pressure on them though and they feel like we only want them for the goods. last month i turned up the heat once af had finished and started bding then, he knew that i wasn't ov so didn't feel used. then the week of ov we bd that much that he felt under presure to deliver the goods. now he wants it and i cant be bothered!! I think the more you talk to them about ov, ttc and all the rest, the more they feel the heat.
Well AF just around the corner. Been getting really bad headaches for the past couple of days. not feeling very lucky this month. Oh well if not pg this month it means that i can drink on my b'day next sunday, drink at dh's 30 b'day in Sept and drink at my best friends hens night in sept. drink drink and more drink

Piffleoffagus · 05/08/2004 12:22

trying not to get too hopeful but have burning boobs and dragging/odd sensation in my tum tum.
Had very early boobs signs with ds and dd, but also get them sometimes just before AF, but AF is not due til the 12th...
How can a week seem so far away!