Getting Ready For Baby Challenge - Thread 7

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We are a bunch of ladies who are either

• humping (TTC)
• by humping yet (waiting to TTC)
• humped (BFP)

And everything in between!

We've had 8 BFPs since January (and counting!) and we love a bit of lucky lube and a squinter on 9DPO - come and join the madness!

I can do a summary of me... you overestimate my memory to do a summary of everyone! Week was tough, still feeling very up and down. But weekend was better. Feeling a lot more positive about trying again (actually really excited!). Unfortunately, dh still thinks we should wait for af so is implementing a 'pull out' strategy... :s

Thought I ovd last Thursday, but then still bfp on ic at the weekend. So either my test is wrong or I didn't actually ov! Still a waiting game!

Jupiter how did booking in go?

Welcome back red, on my side I'm feeling fine, about to fly to LA tomorrow, had my booking in on Saturday and found out it's the home birth midwife team from mummy's unit!

Oh and told parents and PIL the news as well as my bro and sis. They are v excited!

Good luck with booking appointment jupes, I hope the midwife could put your mind at ease. The first trimester just sounds like endless worry, worried you don't have symptoms or worried that you get really bad symptoms - it's a no win situation. No wonder you feel anxious I would be exactly the same.

Hi red not much to report here, just at the beginning of the TWW and I have otters and tigger in the wait to keep my company and hopefully stop me going insane symptom spotting or pals too early!

Enjoy LA grumpy, sounds a busy time but your plan to counteract jet lag sounds like a good one.

Oh and para and dancing hope AB shows her face soon so you can get started again x

Hope first back at work is ok tigger we are all in the 2WW now aren't we with jb and penguin ? And orange sorry can't keep track!

jupiter hope your anxiety settles. How did the booking in go?

dancing I managed a decent nights sleep thanks. It really is so difficulty this journey. How are you doing?

penguin how was your professional meeting ?

grumpy good that everyone is excited about your good news. Enjoy LA!

Welcome back red how are you doing? Where are you at with all this?

Thank you for all the kind words guys. So today has been confusing. Went to booking in appointment, sat waiting for while and then midwife came out and said that she was about to be called away to an emergency and that we'd have to reschedule for next week! Now I totally get that stuff comes up but have been feeling so anxious that I asked for 5 mins with her which she kindly agreed to. Told her that my symptoms have disappeared and (to my surprise) she said that I would need an 'emergency scan with EPU' this afternoon. She then asked me to do a preg test. As that came back as a strong positive she said actually there wasn't anything to worry about (surely that's not true though!!?) Anyway because I was clearly upset she managed to fit me in this afternoon for my booking in which was a relief.

The booking in itself was fine and although she did say that symptoms disappearing wasn't a good sign (!) she didn't think it warranted a scan after all. Apparently just need to watch and wait.

Honestly I feel all over the place. She went from one extreme to another! She said it could be up to 5 weeks before I get my 12wk scan as Norfolk is so backed up (I'm 9+4 today.) Quite honestly not going to cope with this much longer so going to talk to DH tonight about having a private reassurance scan this week. For the sake of £100 honestly it has to be worth it.

Am veering between feeling like I'm being hysterical and being frightened. Being sleep deprived doesn't help urgh. Will let you know what DH says.

Oh Jupiter Thats not the kind of appointment you needed at all was it, lets hope you can get in for a private scan

Glad you are holding up Unicorn its a bumpy ride for you isn't it

Grumpy how exciting that you've shared your news now! yey!!

Fingers crossed for JB Otters & Tigger then for this 2ww!

I'm CD11 and still not sure whether i should wait 1 more month yet or not....!

Jupiter for peace of mind book yourself in for a scan. I'm sure it's fine but your stress won't be good for you or bubba xx

Aww jupiter well the mw didn't do much to reassure you did she. I think I would be going for a private scan too and wouldn't be able to wait 5 weeks either after what the mw said. £100 is a small price to pay for a bit of reassurance and to stop you making yourself ill with worry over the next few weeks.

jupiter sorry you've had such a confusing and emotional day. I'd personally pay for a private scan for peace of mind but I do appreciate it's not possible for everyone. If you can afford it then go for it. Otherwise maybe you could see another midwife? Just need reassurance that everything is ok

Jupiter you must be really worried, I'm so sorry you weren't able to get a more reassuring answer. Such a shame having caused you the extra stress that she wasn't able to get you a scan. Do you know if an EPU near you would accept walk ins? I really hope you are able to arrange a scan soon to hopefully put your mind at rest. Thinking of you. Hope you are able to get some rest this evening. 💐

Thank you, you're all so lovely. It all just feels so surreal. Will let you know what DH thinks but almost 100% will try and get a private scan sorted for tomorrow. I can't spend the next 5 weeks feeling this anxious. Dancing unfortunately you need a midwife/GP referral for the EPU so would rather get something sorted without having to battle for it if you know what I mean.

Definitely, it'll probably be quicker too. Hope you get one nice and early tomorrow morning. Be kind to yourself this evening. We're here for ranting if it helps. Sending huge hugs your way.

Thank you Dancing, that's so lovely 💜

Ugh, just wrote a reply and my stupid phone deleted it!

Jupiter that's so frustrating! I'm pissed off at your mw on your behalf. It's very inconsiderate of her to cause that worry then brush it off like it's nothing. I hope you're able to get a private scan booked in quickly for reassurance. Let us know what DH says about the whole thing?

My afternoon has been nice, if not very productive only problem is now I'm off to the shop as I have to get some wine for this evening... once you pop, you just can't stop! Ovia says I'm in my FW but me an DH haven't dtd since Wednesday we sort of go through dry phases, which are not good for baby making!! Life just gets in the way and often we're not in sync with when the other is in the mood...

So DH came home and said straight away let's just have a private scan so we know either way. So relieved as thought he might be a bit unsure. Have left message with scanning place near home so hopefully they'll contact me later tonight/tomorrow. Feeling calmer as more in control. Hope you're all having a relaxing evening x

Enjoy the wine Penguin

You enjoy Penguin you never know you may be able to seduce your husband after a few wines 😂

Jupiter I'm so sorry you're feeling so anxious even after seeing the midwife. Fingers crossed you can get a scan asap😘

red! not! not! Ha sorry I'm a bad influence. Why are you waiting anyway? I've no news here. CD14 I think and no signs of ov yet.

jupiter this all sounds ridiculous & quite unprofessional, very annoyed on your behalf... im very glad you've decided to get a scan asap. I'm sure all is well but surely the M/W could understand how stressful this is, especially as it's your first time & not really sure of the norm.

Nice to hear from you Red ! What's your pros & cons for starting this month?

Hope work was ok tigger & you enjoyed your "meeting" penguin !

Was doing a client first thing today & she (early 60s) said she'd just been for her first ever bikini wax! Then horror struck.... I'm booked in for one Friday but i have a spa day tomorrow... uh oh! Cue emergency calls to beautician, but she's fully booked! Will have to have a little self tidy up i suppose

I've just wiped and I have brown spitting/discharge on the tissue. Could this be AF starting or implantation? Isn't it too late for implantation as I'm 11 dpo today and AF is due on Thursday? X

Argh!!!!!! People can lack thought sometimes!!! Sorry, can't say more than that, but argh!!!!

Hb it'd take an age for me to tidy down there. 😳😳😳

Thanks JB I'm like Dancing now and can't wait to get started again! Super nervous but ready to be positive.

Jupiter so glad you are getting a private scan. The in between stage can be so stressful without any extra worry and feeling out of control. That will be something to look forward to very soon :)

Hi everyone!
Manic few days, back to work today and in a way I'm glad, routine is good, I was becoming a sloth and tbh was feeling a bit anxious and depressed the last few days, so the distraction is good!
jupiter good for you going for the private scan, peace of mind is everything! Also that was really unfair of the midwife, talk about having no tact!
dancing so happy you're feeling positive about trying again! I know the wait is tough but I'm sure you'll feel better knowing where you're at cycle wise next month and can really go for it then!
para glad you're ready to try again too and feeling excited about it too!
grumpy good luck with the flight tomorrow, you've had so much practice so I hope it all goes swimmingly! So lovely having everyone so excited for you, I can't wait to officially tell people next week, the guilt of telling DH that nobody knows is getting to me #BadWife
Good luck to jb, otters and tigger for the tww! Let the symptom spotting commence!
penguin that happens with me and DH too, always out of sync, however usually if I go along with it I'm always glad after, just need to talk myself into it!
hb ahhh I get the sweats thinking about waxing! I got lasered Nd that's even more painful, but def worth it, I need top ups now though but mentally I can't bring myself to go through the pain!
red eeek you're getting so close!!!

Jupiter I'm glad you and DH have opted for a scan. Hopefully all will be well and you will be able to enjoy the next few weeks of pregnancy instead of dread them.

mrs is it your 12 week next week. I'm sure your DH will never find out you let it slip. Hope you start feeling less anxious, glad work is helping distract you.

Okay so i'm the worst person! been so busy with just life i'm like 3 days behind!! That outfit I bought is a little sleep suit and then the white thing is a little sort of jacket thing, its just adorable! And you'll never guess where from! Primark!! So good!

I love this thread so much! Dancing I had no idea cord donation was a thing but it is the most amazing idea and thing you could do and I just googled and I can do it at my hospital! I was genuinely so excited DP was like lol

seven It will happen soon I promise, and there's nothing stopping you buying anything. Remember my ridiculous mother care haul in like January?! Not practical at all, but felt so good to have a box under my bed with secret stuff for a non-existent child!

Wiggley I LOVE your facts of the day! I hope they continue!
Hb I don't know what that LOVE is written in, but it makes me feel a bit sick! haha The tablets are alright though! Is that Willen Lake in your photo? Sorry about your hairy foof. Hope the emergency diy did the job!

Confused I'm sorry you're struggling :( Sounds really shit at the mo. At least you have a while to think about what you want to do and good that you and DH are talking. What do you put with your Spinach and orange to make a smoothie?

Grumpy I can't believe you and Mummy are practically neighbours! Small world, and I cannot WAIT for a big meet up!
I totally feel for you and the hormones! Cry all you need to, you're allowed! Hope you're feeling better and ready for your flight tomorrow. It will be absolutely fine i'm sure! And you'll have an amazing time!

dancing Glad you feel ready to start trying again, wasn't me who sent the SMEP link, think maybe Wiggley? What has someone said?! I hope you're okay! Let me know if you need me to punch someone for you! Never punched anyone before, but i'm sure I could give it a good go!

Jupiter how did telling DH's grandma?
I am absolutely furious at your experience today! Imagine if you hadn't said you were feeling anxious she'd had just palmed you off?! At least you had the appointment though so thats exciting. I'm panicking now because id say over the last 2 days my symptoms have stopped too. In a way that's a good thing right, because we are literally the same time wise and have had similar symptoms so far but i'm worried that your midwife said to be worried. I've messaged my midwife just incase. I'm so glad your DH agreed to scan, i really think you need it or you'll drive yourself mad with stress and anxiety and that's really not good. Hopefully they have an appointment soon!

Welcome young! hope your spotting is implantation and not AF! Let us know tomorrow!

Tigger Sounds like excellent DTDing to me, fx! Hope first day back wasn't too bad.

mummy So jealous of New York, it looks amazing!

JB those hills are beautiful!

penguin Totally know what you mean about dtd, life just takes over and you forget! but we are the dtd police and you've got to do it! Get your sexy pants on and get in the mood!

otters don't worry, you did epic DTDing this month so you'd have deffo caught it! Being patient is hard I know! we're here to get you through!

Right i promise I won't leave you for 3 days again!! I'm at a conference ALL week up north and really cannot be bothered with all the associated evening socialising! Just got back to the hotel after the first day and i'm so proud of myself for staying up later than 8:30pm!! night all xx