TTC - First Time! (2)

[mrsjkerry]

Hi all. Reconvene here!

Ahh thanks everyone 😊 we've got a little holiday planned in march, so I'm planning to visit my GP if everything hasn't settled down by then. I've also bought a load of ovulation sticks so I can test every day in the mean time just so I don't miss it.
It's so hard not to get my hopes up and yes I literally want to slap everyone that tells me to be patient 😂
This site is helping already just by knowing I'm not on my own 😘

Morning ladies, TTC glad you had a great day. I've had the same with my friends, only one knows - gets tiresome fending them off!

FRER this morning was negative and I'm now on CD32 so god knows what's going on Might get a different brand test later and try. God this is frustrating!

TTC you make me laugh!! Sounds like you had a great day!
I must admit... I've told one or two of my close mates we're TTC. One has a 10month old and so knows how obsessive TTC can become so she's been a real help! I find I needed those closest to me to know so that I wouldn't have to make up excuses about not drinking etc!!
I also think that my mum will know when we do get our BFP before the 12 week scan that everyone usually waits for. Again, so that the support is there if something were to go wrong!

What's everyone's thoughts on this? Would you wait or tell?

I think we would tell both sets of parents after we found out but cautiously that it's early days. I would wait to tell most people til last 12 weeks and I know everything is ok though.

Beginning to think perhaps the FRER are right, and my cycle is out of wack due to the pill. Is this possible?! I had a withdrawal bleed end of Dec as expected, then into a 28 day cycle for Jan - which I'm now on CD32. If two FRER are negative then I think it's likely I'm probably just into a cycle where I was lucky to go to 28 day but now settling around. I'm now just hoping to get my period ASAP really

Tuxie I've heard very mixed reviews on FRER's with some people saying they had BFP's on other less sensitive tests, but still BFN on the FRER. So I think it's definitely worth trying a different a brand just in case! Asda's own brand are supposed to be really reliable, I bought a few packs last cycle, only £3.50 for two tests.

Marie I think I might have been a little drunk last night - first thing I said to DH when I got home was that I needed to catch up with "the TTCers on mumsnet" . I'm with you that I'd definitely tell my mum straight away when we get our BFP, and probably MIL too. Like you I think we would want their support if something were to go wrong. It's great that you have a close friend who understands the TTC process, I can imagine it's nice having someone close to sound off to about it all! One of my close friends is actually pregnant at the moment (due any day now), but because her pregnancy wasn't planned I don't really want to put my stress about it on her - I think she would feel guilty that it's not happening for us yet when it happened for her so easily, bless her! It would be lovely to have a DC quite close in age to hers though, so fx!

TTC haha love the 'catch up' bit!
I agree too, would want to have some support for whatever happened. My MIL is so excited for us to have a child too so would want to share that as soon as we could with her!

Oh really, I thought that FRER were the holy grail and if it was a negative on there than kinda ruled it all out?

Had a few too many last night so woken up feeling guilty just in case!! So hard not to get down about things sometimes even tho I'm the one saying just to enjoy yourself! 😂😩

Morning all.

The only people I would tell before 12 weeks would be my best friend, my sister and maybe my dad. I'm not sure I'd tell my MiL or any of my husband's family. I would be very excited though and it'd be difficult to keep it down.... I do think it's silly to go around telling people. It's a bit like counting your eggs isn't it? My best friend has told a bunch of her friends and she's only 6 weeks.

Tuxie the pill can mess your period up for months after you come off, so prepare for anything! You need to wait a lot longer for your cycles to even themselves out. Having said that, it's still a good sign there's no AF. Try a different brand and see what happens.

Morning.

Im not sure who we would tell. It would be nice to keep it secret for a few weeks but we'd probably be way to excited. We may feel differently once it actually happens.

Tuxie, after I came off the pill I had a 32 day and then 33 day cycle. Now on day 42 and had BFN from Superdrugs first response, boots own cheapy brand and clear blue digital. I have now given up on my period. Going away tomorrow for 4 nights and knowing my luck AF will show up then and spoil my fun as wanted to have a spa day while away and do a lot of swimming. Going to see the doctor when I'm back if still no AF or BFP but they wouldn't see me before hand which is so annoying.

It's so horrible not knowing what's happening to your body. I thought my cycles would be messed up after stopping the pill but didn't expect to have two normal cycles and then this.

kitcaty I completely agree. I might go get an Asda test later but more so I'm kind of just hoping my period is a little outta wack and it's the longest I've ever had. Not sure why I assumed the 28 day cycle I had to start with would be my normal pattern. I've always been regular and never once had a late period so it does mess with your head.

I've been googling like a mad woman all morning since I got back from the gym! Limboland is the worst 😞 I know I just need to take another test - how long should I leave it til I call the docs if still getting a BFN? Over a week late?

I was 7 days late when I phoned the doctor on Friday and they said to wait another week and then make an appointment if still no period. So maybe try phoning your doctors when you are a week late and see what they say. Different surgery may say something different.

You don't actually have to disclose what you need the appointment for I'm sure. Whether you book an emergency on the day one or book one for a few days time.

Can't believe I got sucked into it. My (pregnant) friend convinced me I could pick up a BFP on a pregnancy test, despite being a week away from AF. Predictably, it was negative. Feeling like an idiot.

It's hard to resist sometimes isn't it. Doesn't mean it'll be BFN again in a week though :)

Don't feel too hard mrsj, it is early. Keep your FX for next week. I think I've got some AF pains, I'm hoping so anyway. I'd kinda just like to get this cycle over with so I can chill out about next month!

I am so exhausted. Been out of bed for 30 minutes and think I will just go back to sleep. Other than sore boobs that's my only symptom. And it's pretty explainable as my week just gone was extremely long.

No judgement here MrsJ. Just remember it's way early & no one is out until the red lady sings!

I'm still hoping as my skin has gone crazy & still little blobs of clear cm. but I'm trying to not get toooo hopeful.

It's the last day of my hot tub holiday, home tomorrow. Trying to not go buy a test as af due Wednesday!!

Oh hello AF :( you bitch, just in time for my holiday. Well now I feel really stupid for doing 3 tests and getting my hopes up. Hope my cycles aren't going to be this long in future. Going to have to start OPKs if my cycles don't settle down or won't have a clue when I'm ovulating

Twisted - wait! I'm so glad I did - I'm now late and had two negatives and it's such a bummer. If I'd have tested from before I was due i would probably be hanging myself (kidding - drowning in chocolate more like!)

Mrsj - you got to take time for you regardless of TTC. Rest up!

My AF pains have gone and I've still got white lotiony CM which I've had since before I was due. I can't remember if this was normal for me as I didnt ever check! My nips are still larger than normal
Read so many stories online of people missing their periods for weeks and getting BFN to find they are 20 weeks gone! This can't be strictly true I swear you would realise?!

The thing I have learnt today is: the internet has no answers (sob)
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Kitcaty - glad she's shown for you though. Sorry it's in time for your holiday though. Can you not regularly DTD to catch O day? I don't know if I could muster the mental aspect of OPKs

OPKs are fairly easy once you've done it for a cycle. I tested everyday during my FW and watched them change from 'negative' to an increasingly stronger line 'positive'. When you get a positive reading, you know that you will ovulate within the next 24 hours. I carried on testing to watch the positive line go down so I could really pinpoint the day I ovulated. It gives you peace of mind that you DTD as much as you could around the right time. Obviously, just ditching OPKs and DTD every other day also ensures there's enough sperm in you at any stage in your cycle to meet an egg on its way down!

That sounds fair. If unsuccessful this cycle I think we would try to just do it as often as possible and see how that plays out before going down that route

Sorry AF has turned up for your holiday Kitcaty.

I've been to a christening today, babies everywhere! I just want to hide from it all.

Hi everyone...I have been driving DH up the wall with all my TTC talk, we decided to finally start today but have missed most of the window. I'm feeling a bit anxious already, I wanted to do it again but he's not up for it. Gah

Sorry about AF Kit but hope you enjoy your holiday!