TTC - First Time! (2)

[mrsjkerry]

Hi all. Reconvene here!

Hi Forevertimes welcome

I'm feeling a bit guilty tonight! DH came home with a bunch of flowers for me and unfortunately hadn't noticed they were a Mother's Day bunch with "Happy Mother's Day" on the wrapping. I burst into tears when I saw it and had quite a big rant at him for being so insensitive. He then felt terrible and couldn't apologise enough, but it was a case of the damage was done! Anyway now I've calmed down I feel awful, especially since he got me them to cheer me up about the spotting/no "peak" on the OPKs . I don't think he'll be in a rush to buy me flowers again for a while!

So we have tried all week, which is days 13-17...

I have used clear blue digital ovulation sticks (purple) - and only had flashing high fertility happy faces from day 14-17 but no peak fertility face... is this a worry?

Best of luck mamaready! Ttcnovice, oh no! Hormones?! I was a grade A b**ch a couple of weeks ago! I was just SO moody. I haven't had a mood swing like that since before I went on the pill age 19. I think it was just crazy coming off the pill hormones. How are things with your hubby now?
I'm getting better in the UTI department (thank god, weeing was agony!), but can now feel a sore throat coming on. Great!

Hi girlies, I need some advice. Cut a long story short but I had a private scan Friday and it wasn't great. They saw a sac but no foetus or heartbeat. I was 7 weeks on the dot so it's not looking good. I don't want to mention what could be happening but I'm sure you all know. The only chance I've got is if I miscalculated my dates or somehow ovulated later than I thought and caught on the sex we had in the week after when my fw was supposed to be, which is unlikely coz obviously as we all know, we watch our dates like clockwork. I've been tearing my hair out and going through all the emotions and I'm driving myself mad so I've come back to the drawing board... I'm sorry to be annoying, I know you guys are ttc so prob think why am I posting here but I have to look back to where it all began 😳
So I've read through all my old posts and found these... I've mentioned that I was shocked that it was coming up as 2-3 weeks as I didn't think I was that far ahead when I tested at just 2 days late. I've also said in a couple of posts that I didn't have a positive opk on the day I thought I ovulated (or anywhere in the month at all) just squinters so I'm desperately thinking/hoping in some crazy clutching at straws way that I may have ovulated later than I thought...? Meaning that I may not be as many weeks as I thought... meaning there's a chance my little seed was just too small to be seen and will show up in my next scan (in 8 long days time)
I'm so sorry to go on, any advice would be hugely appreciated, anyone who has ovulated later than they thought...? Or had any weirdly long cycles after being so like clockwork? Or even caught (previously) later than they thought they ovulated? I know I'm probably totally clutching at straws but as you can see by the time of night I'm posting this, it's all I can think about and I'm losing my mind xx

Hi Misty, unfortunately I have zero experience with knowing when I'm ovulating etc as I still haven't had my first proper period since stopping the pill (stopped just over 3 weeks ago). However, I didn't want to read and run. I'm not at all surprised you're feeling anxious. Is there any chance of you being able to book a GP appointment to talk things through?

Bless you flatwhite 💕 I've already been to docs who were really dismissive and quite rude tbh, she was like "if you're not bleeding there's unlikely to be anything wrong" and I was politely (trying) to explain my concerns and she was like "what's the point in finding out now anyway? There's absolutely nothing you can do about it so you may as well forget it and wait for your 12 week scan" HA cheers like!🙌🏼 insensitive cow lol. I can't decide whether I should actually just put the phone down and bite the bullet for the next 8 days or try to convince myself one way or the other! Jeeeez!! Hope you're ok chick, I'm always checking in to see how you lovelies are doing! Lots of newbies and hopefully lots of bfps coming up!
When I came off the pill, I had a normal bleed two days after I took my last pill like I did every month in the gap, then I had another what I thought normal period 31 days later and I was like oh that's quite a nice length cycle if this keeps up... then the next one was 39 days! Threw me right off! It can be hard settling down a bit but you will defo get there :) xx

Hi Misty I really feel for you. My sister has very sadly just gone through a miscarriage and the two weeks of waiting between the first scan where things weren't quite right and the follow up scan were just agony for her. There is really nothing anybody can say that is going to help you, and there is nothing you can do now which is going to change the outcome either way so unfortunately it's just a horrible waiting game. At this stage I would say just try and remain relaxed and positive, there are so many unknowns at this early point that it's entirely possible the dates are just slightly out and when you go for the next scan things will be clearer. I really have my fingers crossed for you hun xx

Omg Misty! You poor love with that GP appointment! I'm a teacher, and I'm of the firm belief that if you're in a job which involves working with people, being nice and understanding is really important! Grr. I'm lucky my GP is so lovely.
As passmethewine says, it's just a horrible waiting game. I really hope you have a positive outcome, and you know we are always here to support you!
Thank you so much for the period information! I'm going on a residential school trip with 60 nine and ten year olds next Monday. Sod's law mine will arrive then! Lol.

Thank you passmethewine I know exactly what you mean, the wait is awful! I'm sitting here drinking my decaf thinking what the hell is going on. What a bloody rough ride. It's so ironic because I never win anything lol I'm always "average" I mean like if there's a small percentage or small chance of anything (raffles, scratchcards, you know, anything where the majority don't win but some do...) I'm never in the small percentage 😳 I know the chance of mc is high for the first 12 weeks but not exceptionally high, only 20% which leaves a massive 80% which I could be in... so why oh why when I'm in the minority does it have to be this?? Im not saying I definitely have, or am having one, but it's not looking good and you're right, there literally is nothing I can do. I'm off work now on the sick til after the next scan, I can't bear going back to work feeling like this, I won't get anything done and my job is quite emotionally draining anyway and I don't feel I can mentally deal with it right now. Luckily their sickness policy with female/maternity/antenatal things is really good and very sensitive so I'll be ok in that respect. And hard as it is to say, if the worst comes to the worst, I will be ok whatever the outcome. I will have to be ok, for my husband as well as myself. And we CAN try again, and I CAN get pregnant 🌺 so just a little heads up, I may be back on this board properly for a couple of weeks. I won't give up. Thanks for your support xx

IN a couple of weeks not FOR a couple of weeks lol x

Awwww Misty i can only imagine the amount of stress you must be going through! I really really hope you have just got the dates wrong. The wait till the next scan must be horrible. Am thinking of you. Try to think positive, but even if the worst happens, you definitely have the right attitude - you know you can do it and you will again if it comes to it

Thanks pibbee xx been out with the family today for Mother's Day and had a lil chat with my sis (who's had 3 mc, one with no bleeding/cramping, empty sac) and I'm going to see her again in the week for a proper chat coz everyone was around us today. She will be such an amazing support for me and we're very close. I am lucky to have a close and incredibly loving family and they will hold me up when I want to collapse 🌺 thanks for your kind wishes. I need to put the mob down, stop calling on doctor Google and crying myself to sleep over what I'm searching and finding 🙈 and just accept whatever life throws at me. I'm a woman, I'm built for this shizzle. Hope you've all had a nice weekend and fingers crossed some bfps start popping up soon!! Who's next to test??xx

Yes @Misty Dr Google is our worst enemy!!I am terrible for that, am always googling all kinds of things and stressing myself out why do we do it!? Hope you and your sister can have a good chat in the week.

As for me, I have embarked on opk madness, had flashing smily face today and am trying not to sulk about the fact we have had all day to DTD and yet haven't.....I am a crazy person when it's FW I have come to the conclusion!!!!

Haha Pibbee! There's still time!

You're being very strong Misty, bless you. Good on you. Talking with your sister will definitely help.

I'm terrible for googling! I've been researching coming off the pill loads, but at the end of the day, everyone is different! That still doesn't stop me from wanting to read about other people though!

I'm going to test next week if AF doesn't arrive, as that'll be over 4 weeks since stopping the pill, although I'm very aware my first proper period could end up being very delayed. On top of that, we haven't DTD'd as much as planned due to me being ill. I'm fully expecting a negative! We are going on honeymoon in a couple of weeks anyway, so not going to think about TTC much til we get back.

@MistyBxx my dad's wife said to me yesterday, that worrying achieves nothing and nature will have its course anyway. Just have to let it do what it wants to do and make your plans around and accordingly.

That's true mrsj 💕

@MistyBxx I'm so sorry for what you're going through! I can't even imagine the stress, it's mush be horrible. Your GP sounds like a right a**hole!!! How insensitive. I am keeping you in my thoughts and prayers xxx

So sorry you're going through this Misty the waiting must feel like forever . Your GP sounds awful too I'm sure that hasn't helped! Sending you positive thoughts and energy feel free to rant away here whenever you need and we'll all listen. Keeping my fingers crossed firmly for you xxx

Thanks so much girlies. I feel so fed up of thinking/talking about it, I'm sure everyone else is too 🙈 just glad I'm off work this week now, couldn't cope being in work and trying to be normal, I can't concentrate! Slept about 4 hours this afternoon coz not getting much sleep in the night which isn't like me, I usually sleep like a puppy anywhere! Oh well, one day nearly down, another 6 to go. Hope everyone is ok on here! Any symptom spotters about??xx

Hi everyone, I'm back. Been hovering around on this board and the pregnancy board quite silently for a while, didn't know whether to pop up at all but since your scan misty I wanted to message and see if you were ok etc? I'm in South Wales as well so we can't be far away from each other.. did you go to epu at the Heath?

Just to update you all I am back.. unfortunately had a MC coming up to two weeks ago. Was totally devastated and haven't really wanted to say but am fine now and back to normal.. had to go for a scan at the hospital to confirm everything and they did a test but I was bleeding so heavily by then I already knew. But there was nothing there on the scan and the test was negative. So gutting, but just means it wasn't my time then. Nurse said it can happen to 1 in 4 this early on, and tbh glad it happened earlier and not later. Back to trying I guess!! Anyway been watching still and quiet!

If it's taught me anything it's probably not to be so precious about it all. If it's going to happen it's going to happen, so just to carry on as normal and stop over thinking everything.. not that that's easy at all 😂

Anyway sorry long post! How is everyone? What day of cycles are we etc? Xx

Mrsj Defo agree with what you just posted! We can try and take precautions etc but things will happen if they're going to happen!! Hope you're feeling ok, exciting about your little scan xx

So sorry to hear that charl must have been so hard xxx

So sorry to hear that @charl. Must have been really difficult

I'm OK. Nothing much to report. Had flashing smilies on OPKs the last 2 days but DP has been too knackered for DTD....Plus I think I'm not going to do the stupid sticks any more - it stresses me out which then stresses him out and then things stop working IYSWIM. So feeling a bit meh about the whole thing really. I'm trying not to pile pressure on but find it really hard to not get wound up about it. Neither of us is getting any younger and whilst (in theory at least) I've got a good few years to go, it's not like I'm in my 20s and therefore don't have to worry so much about limited time. He's a few years older than me but it's different for blokes innit, they don't run out of time

Oh charl I actually just filled up reading that then chick. I am so, so sorry for your loss 🌺 thanks so much for opening up and saying about it on here, that's brave and also really kind because you thought of me too and I really appreciate that. I'm in Carmarthenshire so my EPU is in Glangwili Carmarthen. Having spoken to my sis yesterday who's had 3 mc herself, I'm starting to accept things as they are. Like you say, it's impossible to change or prevent anything, and worrying and stressing is gonna do nothing but upset you more and really bring you down. It's heartbreaking to think of it but it's totally true, things are going to happen to some of us, and that's just the way life goes. I'm so glad you're ready to bounce back and I've got no doubt you'll get another bfp soon and it will be the right time. Same for me I'm sure. Although I'm not out of the game just yet, I'm trying to stay positive but expecting the worst and I can honestly say after reading your story, whatever the result, I will think of you and keep my chin up. So rest assured chick that you have made a difference to me today, that may be small mercy given what you've been through, but you've given hope and a better idea for the future to an anonymous friend across the net, and that means so much to me. God us women are special creatures 💪🏼😍xxx