TTC APRIL O7 THREAD - ANYONE FOR EASTER EGGS?

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mum2sam - Sorry you think you will be joining us. Was really hoping you were pg. How late is af?

BellaBear - Sorry about your mc. Have you name changed? You have probably already said so I must apolgise for being so unobservant Hope this is your month

Ready - Sorry you are having to join us in April. I practiacally missed out all of March as my last two cycles have been 38 days. How long is your cycle usually?

i was due on yesterday getting tummy pains today just depressed myself by reading something about a failed embryo may cause you to be late.I was having really bad mood swings a few wks ago feeling really down etc like i did with ds so now i wondering whether i actually was pregnant but the embryo was just weak and didnt grow.

To be honest if i get pregnant within the next few months it will actually be better as dp leaves for the gulf end of july and doesnt come back til end of january. So ive just got to see the positives and hopefully i will get pregnant before he goes away. A newyear baby would def fit in with our plans better but im just too bloody impatient and worried that i wont be up the duff before he goes. I wonder how much it would cost to get his sperm frozen? Lol just thinking of what people would say esp mil if i concieved when he was away lol

mum2sam I am no expert and really know nothing but think you should try and not worry about things you have no control over and will never probably know for sure anyway. Easier said than done I know but stress isn't going to help.

Tummy pains could be a number of things and just because af is a day late doesn't necessarily mean anything either. You may be late just because your hormones are a little muddled up, sometimes this can happen for no reason.

Try and let AF come and go and then get on with things again. At the moment there is nothing else you can do anyway.

Hope I don't sound patronising or bossy just trying to help but probably not. Sorry if I have offended you in anyway, or anyone else.

X posts.

You've still got a good few months yet before the end of July so lets just hope it does happen before DH goes away

nah thanx furyfox im just looking into things too deep i think.I think my hormones are causing me to feel sorry for myself.

Ahhh, I think most of us have been there and done that at some point. Hormones are funny things

28 day cycle is my norm, with OV on CD16... but last cycle egg was lazy, waited til CD19 to come out to play. Hence a rare 31 day cycle. But the silver lining is that temping looks like it works for me. Just need to time the effort better

I used to be Glreenblock, but quite a few greenies on mumsnet so I changed...

I hope April is grea for all of us, March didn't seem too successful - please let me know if I'm wrong, it is hard to follow a thread like the ttc ones if you aren't posting on them.

Ready - is CD1 for me Monday with the big flow? Or Friday when I started spotting? If last Firday then luteal phase at best only 11 days, but if Monday then LP = 14, which is more useful!

I always say full flow is CD1 I never have spotting prior, it's nothing then time for a pad
I have heard mixed opinions, some say first day of spotting is CD1 - they actually quoted a fertility consultant on that. So there is conflicting answers out there.
But the majority I would say go with full flow. HTH

yes, i think you are right.

thanks!

Ready - I've been thinking about temping but wonder if it will make me slightly more obsessive than I already am and also think I read you have to take your temp at the same time each morning before you get out of bed. If that's correct I don't know if it would work for me as at 19 months dd sometimes still thinks it's fun to wake up in the night and as I end up going in to see her I don't know if that would affect my temps. Think I will give it a few more months and if still not pg will look into temping properly. I must say the temping thread looks like lot's of fun. Not that I've been lurking or anything

Bella - I think I remeber you getting your BFP. December was my first month on the ttc threads, I think I agree it can be hard to keep up with the ttc threads, you only have to miss a day and it can seem like you've been away for weeks. Think there's still quite a few people left to test in March so hopefully they will have some more BFPs, hopefully April will too

I sometimes have spotting first but always count CD1 as first day of full flow - just thought I would add my opinion

FurryFox at you lurking
From a personal perspective, I find temping tremendously helpful. I am prone to obsessing about things, stress, worry etc. And I am a bit of a control freak and I thought that temping might make me even worse, but I think if anything it has calmed me down.
Now I can see a pattern in my cycles, I feel happy that it's only a matter of time.
You do have to take your temp at the same time each day. They say that you should have at least 3 hours of unbroken sleep before taking the temp. I tend to wake a lot during the night as I am a very light sleeper, but I still see a pattern. It's possible your getting up to DD would affect your temps, but not everyone is affected by disturbances. The only way you'd know would be to look at a few cycles with marked disturbances. And fingers crossed you'll get your BFP this month and all of this will be a moot point
What are you doing to work out the best time to really go for it?? Or are you just having plenty of sex throughout your cycle. Sorry I am nosy.

I like nosy, nosy is good I must be nosy after lurking on the temping thread. I just found it funny/interesting how you all pictured each other Sill very about admitting it actually.

Well we have regular-ish sex but do tend to 'go for it' a bit more around the important time. However, I'm not actually sure when my important time is anymore. This will be my third month ttc. Haven't really taken much notice of cycle since I had DD but prior to her I was 28 days and still thought I was but after taking note over the last couple of months I realise my cycle is actually 38 days which I am quite about. I always get what I thought were OV pains anywhere between CD10 and CD15 but now I don't know if that is what they are as my cycle is longer than average

To be honest I'm not stressing too much about getting pg, I obvioulsly want it to happen asap, DD took 3 months which back then I thought was a lifetime but now I know that's relatively quick so I don't expect it to happen that soon this time, I think we were just lucky. Gosh I'm really rambling, sorry

How long have you been ttc ready? If you don't mind me asking

Furryfox, there's nothing to be about lurking on threads... and of course you would be very welcome to join us if you decide to give temping a go. I would say that if you don't know when your "best" time is then you might benefit from temping, it would give you an idea of your cycle and then you can use it as a tool for the following month. I like how relaxed you are about it all though. I wish I could just relax about it and just let it happen when it's meant to, I just liked to feel that I am being proactive. This is cycle number 7 for me now, so fingers crossed. I'm 28, so plenty of time, I guess Fingers crossed for you

Morning everyone

I'm afraid it's only CD3 for me today and I'm gonna have to bow out of the April thread already .. : (

Looks like BF and I will be on different continents at the crucial time this month.

Is it far too early to start a May thread..?

Anyway, hoping not to see any of you on the May thread... in the nicest possible way of course.

Wishing you all lots of BFPs...

Grat AF arrived-bloddy two days late as well grrrr.Well i guess if i fall pregnant after our wedding i a few wks it will be a nice start plus it will be a december baby wont it?

Ready - I suppose 7 cycles isn't really that long but long enough when you really want a baby. And you're right, at 28 you still have plenty of time but I expect that doesn't really help much either when you want something so much, I'm sure it will happen for you soon and I have my fingers crossed for you. I'm probably not as relaxed about it as I make out. When ttc DD it's all I thought about (and didn't even know about MN then ). Started ttc as soon as we were married so the first three months of married life were spent with my head in pg books, working out due dates, legs in the air after each deed, looking at prams and complaining 'I'm never going to get pg, there's something wrong with me' when I look back I just think my poor DH how did he put up with me So this time I'm just trying to stay a bit more relaxed about it and not think about it too much. Easier than last time as I have DD to care for, but when she's having a nap (like now) and in bed at night my mind automatically turns to ttc again and how much I want to be pg

Hi Daisy - Sorry it seems this isn't going to be your month. Must be annoying for you that you won't even be able to try as in two different places. Fingers crossed May will be your month Not sure if it's too early to start a May thread yet maybe it is but maybe not. Why don't you hang around here for a while anyway

mum2sam - Sorry AF has arrived and two days late as well, I know how that feels When are you getting married?

Hope all the other April girls are doing well. CD6 for me so getting myself prepared for the busy time ahead

Ready I've ben trying for the same amount of time and it does start to be worrying. Its very hard to relax about it especially as I'm 31 and want more than one, but I am attempting (badly) to be patient.

We're going to the hospital next month for some preliminary tests and I am hoping that will give us some facts to work on.

I've given up on the accupunture as it was getting to expensive and am about to go online to see if I can pick a romantic holiday destination to test out this bloody relaxing theory!

How are things with you?

Cityangel I keep thinking about acupuncture and reflexology, but then I think I will just get annoyed if they don't make an instant impact. I think of them more as relaxation tools than fertility aids anyway.
I think you are spot on with going on holiday. I think that would do the world of good.
I think I have turned a corner. I didn't seem to get anywhere near as upset on CD1 as I have previously. I guess I am starting to realise that it's not going to happen when I want it to. And that I need to enjoy the things that I won't be able to when I am a mum... Like going to the cinema spur of the moment, romantic meals for 2, reading books for hours in the bath, watching all my favourite tv shows etc. I don't want to look back and think that I wasted the best part of a year worrying and stressing.
I am doing the best I can ttc, temping keeps me in tune with everything, we are putting in plenty of effort in the bedroom (sometimes the lounge - see that's another thing you won't do with children in the house!!), grapefruit juice this cycle, and now I intend to relax more and stress less. Fingers crossed I can stick to it... I sell it well Bet you wished you hadn't asked how things were now?

Good luck at the hospital next month. It's hard to know what to wish for in such circumstances I guess. Obviously finding out that there is nothing wrong would be the best news!But I can imagine it would also be hard to hear, as going in for tests, one would imagine that you would come away with a plan of action. IYSWIM? Whatever happens, at least the ball is rolling for you now. Fingers crossed that you fall pregnant before you get to have any tests done. Keep me posted.

FurryFox at your first 3 months of marriage!! Part of me wishes that we had started straight away now. Hindsight is a wonderful thing. If we'd known it wouldn't happen straight away we'd have started much sooner. We will have been married 3 years in June. Where does the time go??
If it took 3 months last time, then fingers crossed for you it is the same this time, which means you are due your BFP. I think a December baby will be lovely. Christmas with a newborn... the perfect excuse not to have to cook

Ready - We will have been married 3 years in August so not far behind you Can't quite believe where the time has gone either! When we first decided to ttc again we said we were going to miss this month as at the time didn't fancy a Christmas baby. Mainly becuse I worried I'd be in hospital in labour on Christmas day and my DD who will be 2.5yrs would not be with me, the thought of it breaks my heart but now I just look at it that Christmas Day is just a 'day' for us, and if I were lucky enough to fall pg this month and I did happen to be away at Christmas then we would just have Christmas day a bit later than everyone else This is going to make me sound slightly more obsessive but if I fell pg this month my EDD would be around 17 December. With DD I was 15 days late so would only have to be a week late to have a Christmas day baby Probably won't even get pg this month anyway and I really must stop looking at potential due dates

Hi Ready and furry, big hugs xxx

I thought I was getting more resigned to waiting but earlier on in the week I had the lowest point to date, but I've pulled myself together since then. Job hunting doesn't help much for ones self esteem so maybe that's why I was low. I just keep thinking how silly it is I spent years avoiding something I now want so much. I really wish we had started earlier, but having regrets in life is counterproductive.

I found acupuncture very disappointing and expensive, but I can see how it may work for others. I too was expecting a noticeable difference that didn't come.

My biggest hope from the hospital stuff is that sperm count is fine and my luteal phase gets longer.. still we'll cross whatever bridges we come to. Where are you both in your cycles?