Getting Ready for Baby Challenge-Pt3

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New thread for all of us crazy TTC ladies!!

We are currently averaging a BFP a month so keep it up girls!

Also shout out to Parsnip Our CrayCray ringleader!

Stats as of today are:
*Seven - Age 28 - TTC #1 - Cycle 4 - BFP due: 11th Feb
I would like to get fitter and ideally loose a stone

Confusedat23 - Age: 23 - TTC # 1 - Cycle 1 officially following a CP of a magical Pre-Cum baby! - BFP Due: 18th Feb (Late Ov)

HeyJupiter - TTC #1 - Cycle 2 - BFP due: 18/19th Feb

Tigger83 - TTC #1 - Cycle 2 - BFP due: 23rd Feb

Mummyme87 - TTC #2 - Cycle 3 - BFP due: 23rd Feb
Aiming to lose 4stone in total, ideally 1stone over next 6weeks

Oysterbabe - TTC #2, 13 month old DD - Cycle 1 - CD 2 (post pill)
Weight lost: 8lbs since 3rd Jan

MrsC2017 - TTC #2 - Cycle 2 - BFP due: 2nd March

Orangefolly - Cycle 1 - BFP due: next month - but not not trying smile

Wiggleyfingers - Age 26 - TTC # 1 BFP due: May - Preparing/Wedding planning in the mean time
Weight loss so far: 4lbs Weight loss to go: 14lbs

Buzzmoon - Age 24 - TTC #1 from May (wedding in July)
Weight loss: 24lbs since September - 14lbs to go

TheGrumpySquirrel - Age 30 - TTC #2 (Mr Squirrel's #1!) - Cycle …
Weight loss: 2kg since Christmas, another 2kg to goal weight (about 5lbs)

HopefullyDothButterNoParsnips - Age 31 - TTC #1 - Cycle 1 post implant - BFP due: May/June
Weight loss so far - 8 lbs Weight loss to go - 30 lbs(ish)

RedPony1

HbH04 - awaiting Zika test 22nd Feb

BFP’s
DancingUnicorn - EDD: 11th Oct
Holly*

Our previous threads were:

www.mumsnet.com/Talk/conception/2807424-getting-ready-for-baby-challenge?pg=1&order=

www.mumsnet.com/Talk/conception/2829491-Getting-Ready-for-Baby-Challenge-Pt-2?pg=1&order=

obviously i meant busy not bust

oyster I have a DD and really would like a girl this time although I feel destined for all boys. I have looked into the methods for conceiving a girl but not overly convinced. Girl Sperm apparently lasts longer than boy sperm therefore sex early in your fertile week should help with a girl... who knows.

I meant I already have a DS

Happy Monday everyone.

Well done on the running and all the exercise red sounds tiring!

I went to yoga this morning and meant to weigh in afterwards but forgot, will do it tomorrow and report back...

Tigger do you normally do your OPK with FMU? I tried one with FMU and one later in the day and the line was just as faint with FMU so I'm not sure if it matters.

Think MIL is having a bit of a tough time at the moment. Can't wait to be able to tell her when I'm pregnant, she'll be over the moon.

Mummy I'm hoping for another girl as I'm a bit scared of having a boy - but I know I'd love him just the same. DD was so quiet and well behaved when she was little, I know it's a stereotype but I'm petrified of having a hyperactive boy! I think DH would be happy with either but I think he would be quite chuffed if it was a boy (also one of each I guess is nice).

Morning girls! I also love having the chats with you guys!
Thanks for that Tigger, I found mine darkened over two days and then dropped off to nothing very quick after my peak! Will see what happens this cycle!
red well done on the running, you had an action packed weekend!
grumpy I also can't wait to have good news for my mil, she's had it tough past few months!
oyster I don't really mind what I have, a girl would be nice after having a boy so I could have one of each but tbh I love my boy, he's a complete darling so wouldn't be anyway disappointed with another! I hope to have a third also in another few years so maybe will feel differently then if I have another boy!

My MIL will be over the moon for the news when it happens, as will my dad. My mum however, i am still scared about having to tell her, she will be so upset She will no way believe that it's what i want at all and would be absolutely mortified if she found out we were actually trying instead of it being an 'accident'!!

Morning all,

Oyster that's great news! You can put CD1 into Ovia now and be amused by her hints and tips. I think 12-36hra is the average but read some study that drew research from several earlier studies and came out as 20 hours being most common. I tend to assume it will be the day after my peak and take it from there.

Thanks for OPK picture Tigger after next month I'm going to ditch the clearblue digital ones as expensive. Good to get my head around how the cheapies work.

Red that woman sounds inspirational!

I don't mind whether boy or girl although would like a girl someday as have very close relationship with my mum that I'd like to replicate with my own daughter. I read loads about the shettles method but apparently it's basically been disproven? Dr Shettles thought you could see a difference between male and female sperm (as it were) and based this on head size under a microscope. Apparently though you can't tell the difference at all and some sperm just have bigger heads regardless of which genetic material they will pass on so the speed/strength of sperm will vary regardless.. It will work 50% of the time :)

Well done with the running Red

Oh god am i the only one dreading telling PIL about being preggo i don't think they will be the happy for us as MIL keeps saying things to DH about waiting etc...

I also want a girl which i find odd as i had a very very bad relationship with my mother whilst growing up... maybe its because i yern for the mother daughter bond?

I wouldn't mind having a boy but SIL has a very lovely DS and i know DHs family will just compare them all the time which i don't like the idea of!

Oh no Red why would she feel like that?

red why would your mum be so upset?
confused I bet your PIL would actually be very excited. Your DH is a bit older isn't he? So they've probably be waiting a while!

If I was preggo this month, my mum would be upset for sure cause of the wedding etc. I think I'd be almost embarrassed to tell people so would try and wait till the wedding day or something! I think my parents still sees me as their little girl and would be in shock!

It's a real shame that anyone would feel anything but happy about a much wanted baby. I hope they surprise you with their reactions when the time comes.

It's a real shame that anyone would feel anything but happy about a much wanted baby. I hope they surprise you with their reactions when the time comes.

When I told my Mam I was pregnant with DS, she said 'omg are you joking?' I had to remind her I was not a teenager, I had a career under my belt, in an adult relationship... then she got excited. She has no idea that we are TTC right now, she had a 9yr gap between me and my sister so I think she couldn't imagine me having another seemingly so quick. I think everyone would be happy and excited.. maybe a bit puzzled as to why we aren't getting married even though we are engaged

My mum never wanted children, but my dad is from a big family and she felt massively pressured once they were married to have children, she had her first at 24, second at 26 and then i was an accident at 34. She's never pretended that it's the life she wanted, she would move the world for us 3 children and not for one second have i ever doubted we aren't loved.
She doesn't like other peoples children though, very intolerant to them.
With her grandchildren, she only see's her youngest ones (3 & 5) once or twice a month, her oldest grandchildren (teens) every couple of months. Our family aren't particularly close, we are all too busy at eves and weekends to do 'family' stuff and to be quite honest it would bore the pants off me to have to fit in seeing family regularly! I don't have anything in common with my brothers other than blood, but obviously i love them very much, we just don't have a great deal to talk about!
Mum would never baby sit or take them out for the day or anything like that, she says she has 'done her time' with little children haha.
Getting to the point, she would be absolutely convinced that i had been 'forced' in to it by DP like she was. She would be horrendously upset that i am not anywhere near as financially stable as i should be (we are renting, will never ever be able to afford to buy) & i earn more than DP.
I can guarantee she will not change her stance either, my mum has had to learn to be a very strong minded willful woman thanks to my father and she does not back down for anyone....

jupiter I'm the same with my mum so would like to replicate that too, I think that's really my only reason I would like a girl at some stage!

I don't think anyone I know will be too shocked if I get pregnant soon! I have so many weddings this year and it seems every year so won't mind being pregnant for them, was worried about missing a close friends wedding in October but with AF arriving I will def be there now so every cloud and all that!

Yeah Buzz He is 28 so deffo not too young to be having a child IMO and he has had many a year of partying... The thing is she keeps telling him to wait and that there is not rush. I think its because she has her hands full with her DGS and doesn't want to lose her little boy. But it is a bit upsetting if I am honest, although she does upset me a lot and DH says she does it on perpose.

Red I completely understand where you are coming from! my MIL has some very similar views to your mum in that even for her own daughter she will not do more than 1 day a week looking after DGS and he does not stay overnight... She says this is because it is unfair although I have heard her say before that she has done her time and her and FIL want to enjoy their older child free years.

However my parents are completely different.. They are excited at the concept of TTC although I can see the panic in my mothers eyes... She really struggled with us 3 children. I think she worries that we will fall into the same depression she did but really I turned out alright and although we did not get along I still have so much resepct for my mother

red that sounds tricky, I know you say you aren't overly close with your family, but do you think it would affect your relationship with your mum or are you worried about that? We are also renting and no idea if and when we will buy, housing market is crazy here, lending rules are also ridiculous but almost everyone we know is in the same boat.

I wish we could see our families more often. Unfortunately we live in London, in laws Devon and my family Newcastle 🤔 My parents really miss having their DGS close by 😞

I am not close to the rest of my familiy, but i am close to my mum, i see her everyday at the stables with the horses, i spend hours hours with her. I don't think it will affect our relationship in the long run, but she will expect me to be very organised, not moan to her about it, carry on as normal and for DP to help with horses whilst i am heavily pregnant - she will not take on any extra financial or physical responsibility with them which is fair enough.

Horse woman are a lot 'harder' than others i think, without generalising too much! We look after our horses come rain or shine, pain or illness. Horses don't seem to drop down the priority order when friends have babies, they just become equals. My friends recently had a Csection and was at the stables the same day they came out of hospital. Other friends have had babies and are straight down the stables the next day, newborn wrapped up, car parked next to stable with snuggly baby inside whilst new mum is happily carrying on like normal mucking out etc. So with all that in mind, & knowing how organised and determined i am, i think i will be the same! So i hope not to need help from my mum at all with our shared hobby.

Ohhh i have been typing lots today!

red you definitely sound like you have the right positive attitude and I'm sure you'll carry on with all you are doing without a hitch!

I hope so MrsC!! I want to still be able to do everything i do now, with an extra little person. That extra person doesn't need to stop me carrying on with my life, they will enhance it, not prevent it!
DP and I have been looking at running buggys so we can carry on that too, although not until baby is 6months old and their necks stronger according to advice :)

Same here red - DH and I have been on the fence about having kids for a long time, we have my DD who is older now and we have very busy work lives so value our independence and free time a lot. I'm hoping to be super organised and have some help from MIL/my mum (although they don't live close enough to do childcare) as well as a cleaner/housekeeper to keep us sane.

You sound positive and proactive - when I had DD I was determined not to let it stop me doing things I wanted and managed it somehow! I don't buy into parenting as a "lifestyle" I think it should be just a normal part of your wider life rather than taking it over

We seem to be on the same page Grumpy

Back on Conception chat.... I posted this as i keep wondering!
www.mumsnet.com/Talk/conception/2847550-Post-Pill-Cerelle-Cycle-Question

Totally agree! I think it's a shame for example my future SIL doesn't seem to have a life of her own now she has kids. Although me and DP are looking forward to having a baby as an excuse for terrible social occasions we don't want to attend!