Getting Ready for Baby Challenge-Pt3

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New thread for all of us crazy TTC ladies!!

We are currently averaging a BFP a month so keep it up girls!

Also shout out to Parsnip Our CrayCray ringleader!

Stats as of today are:
*Seven - Age 28 - TTC #1 - Cycle 4 - BFP due: 11th Feb
I would like to get fitter and ideally loose a stone

Confusedat23 - Age: 23 - TTC # 1 - Cycle 1 officially following a CP of a magical Pre-Cum baby! - BFP Due: 18th Feb (Late Ov)

HeyJupiter - TTC #1 - Cycle 2 - BFP due: 18/19th Feb

Tigger83 - TTC #1 - Cycle 2 - BFP due: 23rd Feb

Mummyme87 - TTC #2 - Cycle 3 - BFP due: 23rd Feb
Aiming to lose 4stone in total, ideally 1stone over next 6weeks

Oysterbabe - TTC #2, 13 month old DD - Cycle 1 - CD 2 (post pill)
Weight lost: 8lbs since 3rd Jan

MrsC2017 - TTC #2 - Cycle 2 - BFP due: 2nd March

Orangefolly - Cycle 1 - BFP due: next month - but not not trying smile

Wiggleyfingers - Age 26 - TTC # 1 BFP due: May - Preparing/Wedding planning in the mean time
Weight loss so far: 4lbs Weight loss to go: 14lbs

Buzzmoon - Age 24 - TTC #1 from May (wedding in July)
Weight loss: 24lbs since September - 14lbs to go

TheGrumpySquirrel - Age 30 - TTC #2 (Mr Squirrel's #1!) - Cycle …
Weight loss: 2kg since Christmas, another 2kg to goal weight (about 5lbs)

HopefullyDothButterNoParsnips - Age 31 - TTC #1 - Cycle 1 post implant - BFP due: May/June
Weight loss so far - 8 lbs Weight loss to go - 30 lbs(ish)

RedPony1

HbH04 - awaiting Zika test 22nd Feb

BFP’s
DancingUnicorn - EDD: 11th Oct
Holly*

Our previous threads were:

www.mumsnet.com/Talk/conception/2807424-getting-ready-for-baby-challenge?pg=1&order=

www.mumsnet.com/Talk/conception/2829491-Getting-Ready-for-Baby-Challenge-Pt-2?pg=1&order=

2.0 TDI S-Line version.. I'm worried the cabriolet is impractical with kids (too small of a boot) and loud on motorway. The sportback seems a better idea. But not as cool!

Holy shit Tigger!!!! Omg! What a lucky thread!!

Omg this has been really chatty today! I can't keep up lol!

I'm still in shock guys.. sorry for not being so involved lol... very nervous to tell DH tonight but i have wrapped his prezzie and the FRER in an envelope saying guess who the real winners of Superbowl 51 are...

I would love to get a new car... but mine is only a year old!... also not sure if i will bother with isofix... it's not that hard to fit a car seat in a 5 door car!

I don't do practical with cars so no idea on boot size of the Cabriolet, but i think you'll find it's pretty quiet on the motorway in new cabriolets!

I'd like a new Mercedes A class AMG but that's not going to happen! I'm not an Audi or BMW girl, i actually like my Japanese cars much more so liking a Merc is a big step for me, shame it's about £40k out of budget

ohhh confused that sounds amazing - can't wait to read about his reaction!!!

I have met so many women who have had to change their cars after buying a pram... so many just don't fit in to boots! We currently have a Honda Civic which has a great boot size but I took the pram with us when looking for a car 😂

Confused so excited to hear the surprise you've prepared for DH! Make sure to tell us his reaction!
How do you feel that you got your BFP a lot earlier than April? I was planning May / June and the timing will be not ideal if I get my BFP this month but I'll still be pleased.

Anyone else get moments of sheer terror at the idea of growing a baby inside you? I feel very panicky about it.. even more strange because I've done it before (but I'm so much more scared this time - why???). It's all irrational and don't fear labour per se (mine was very easy last time)

confused I literally can't wait to hear what your DH says! What a brilliant way to surprise him.

This thread is getting very lucky. Roll on the next BFP.

im feeling less positive today after so many signs yesterday... still getting pelvic pains and twinges but no more discharge/cm and just a non pregnant feel. I'm working all weekend so that will keep my mind busy until Monday

I think my DH is messaging other women. I've found messages. I just feel sick. He has lied about them. I really don't know what to do. I can't trust him at all. I think it might be over. I don't really have anyone to talk to in RL. If I tell my mum then it's 100% out there.

Oh parsnips. I'm sorry!! What did they say? We're here for you xxxx

Parsnips i am so sorry, we are here to talk to

A few years ago when he was working in the manchester office (with a different firm) there was a trainee there who I never really liked. She used to call him etc and I just didn't feel comfortable about it. Anyway she has sinced moved to his current firm - albeit he is in dubai and she is in Manchester. He mentioned not knowing anyone in the manchester office and not knowing what it would be like to go back there (when we do). Then lo and behold she pops up on my linked in as working in manc office so I asked him about it and he played dumb saying he forgot or didn't know why he hadn't mentioned it. I asked him outright if he has stayed in touch with her and he said no absolutely not. Then last night I checked his phone and he was messaging her on the internal work messenger. I just feel sick. It was like 39 mins of flirty banter. I confronted him on it and he can't see the problem and I'm overreacting (usual script). I don't know if I realistically want to have a baby with this man if I'm honest. I've been sleeping on the couch.

Oh no - so sorry to hear this parsnips - what an absolute berk he is to lie to you about it. He seriously must realise that's no okay, even if he is being defensive about it. Here to talk about it if it helps

Oh parsnips I'm so sorry. That is really shit. Please talk to us. Shout cry and vent as you need to xx

I just feel like a dick for listening to it constantly. There must come a point where you trust your instincts and say enough is enough. We've only been married for 18 months. I'm going to look like such an idiot.

Argh I'm so sorry parsnips it doesn't look good. Even if there's nothing going on it's totally disrespectful to you

I feel like I just want to go home tbh

Oh parsnips I'm so sorry, how completely rubbish, we're all here for you. How far did the flirty banter go? Or is it the lying more?

Can you go home?

It's more the lying if I'm honest and the fact that he doesn't see how it's inappropriate. By flirty I mean like he's messaging her at half eleven at night for a start because "he couldn't help himself" then pretending to have move to the Manc office and it was all "no you haven't lol" " yes I'm just next to your pod hahha" "you wish you had a familiar face" "what's your team like - who's the best banter" "oh you know it's me of course". I dunno maybe I'm super upright but I just feel like that's out of line.

And he point blank denied having any contact with her the day before I found the messages.

If it's innocent banter then why lie. Sorry xx

Exactly grumpy it just looks much worse. I don't think I realistically can go home unless i take extended leave or move back home. What a mess.

You aren't uptight, that's not okay. But yes it's the lying that's the problem as he obviously feels he needs to cover it up. What's the plan for tonight lovely, are you going to try and talk to him again or do you need some space?