Thread 25. TTC #1 - February Fertility Fighters on the FRONTLINE

[AlexiaB]

Calling all OPK-ers, Temp-ers, Clomid-ers, Femara-ers, IUI-ers, IVF-ers and anyone else on the TTC #1 Bus.

We've been going a while now so the novelty has somewhat worn off and we're slightly battle scarred and bruised in the cervix area. We've ditched the Gregorian calendar in favour of the TTC Cycle Day calendar, and we don't get a lot of baby dust in these here parts, we just keep it legs spread and fingers crossed (LSFX). We love a baby bomb from a prior bus-mate but if we get told to 'just relax and enjoy it' ONE MORE TIME you will get a punch in the face!

We have a new Grad's Thread. We recently lost a whole load of ttc veterans to the good side and we're absolutely desperate to join in the fun! May 2017 lead us all to upduffed heaven and the Grad's thread, amen.

We don't have rules as such but expect to be talked down from the ledge with kind but firm words if you get too hysterical. But most importantly, don't convince yourself that you're pregnant in the tww. That is paramount!

Hop on board, post your stats and prepare to be dazzled by the wealth of TTC knowledge we long-timeys have to share...

Two chemicals absolutely does not mean you are broken lovely. Get some help from someone IRL and keep us posted when you can. Hope you're okay ☹️

Oh Harriet can you get to an epic? I don't know how the system works. Just say you are not feeling well and at least go home and take it easy.

Oh no Harriet - I'm so sorry. I don't know what the advice is for chemicals but definitely see if you can get out of work to an EPU if possible. 💐💐 for you

Oh harriet, cross posted. I am so sorry. Try and speak to the EPU. Don't go through it by yourself.

I'm so sorry Harriet. Unfortunately chemical pregnancies are soooo common, and often go unnoticed. I didn't realise until my miscarriage just how much so. Most women will have chemical pregnancies and not know.

EPU won't see you as it's too early but you may be able to get some answers from your GP. I'm so sorry. I have found gaining knowledge about how and why a pregnancy doesn't continue real emotional power to feel better about my situation.

Of course right now you just need to take some time. It's normal to feel like you're broken, but you're not hunny. Your body is trying real hard. Don't give up on it. Get yourself home with a hot water bottle and make an appointment with your GP. Xxx 💐

Thanks all. I think mouse is right and no point going to the epu- its unmistakeable anyway. I know chemicals are common but it's just that this is my second in a row (albeit with a year gap). I seem to have no problem conceiving but then just can't hold on to them. My GP is worse than useless. I wish I could go home but have loads on and think I am going to have to battle through. Thanks for being such a support.

Oh harriet, I'm so, so sorry. Do whatever you need to get through today and look after yourself. Chemicals are, sadly, so common that having two absolutely does not mean your broken at all. Is there a different GP you could see to try and get some reassurances? Thinking of you lovely

Harriet so sorry to hear this. As everyone else has said, it definitely does not mean you are broken and won't go on to have lovely healthy babies!

Can I just ask, what kind of pain are you having?

Oops it was supposed to say 11dpo not cd 11. Im due af wednesday so i think im out as i have my usual pre af severe pains.

flash it's bad AF style cramps. I've been having gentle ones since before I got bfp which are normal, but woke up today with strong ones. Started bleeding about 10am.

So sorry to read this Harriet. Don't suffer at work feeling like this, your health and well-being are the most important and if you need time off, take it. I know it's easier said than done but you need to look after yourself

So so sorry Harriet hope you're doing ok

Harriet I'm really sorry it's happening to you again. As others have said, please do whatever you need to look after yourself.

The only thing I would say, is I'm not sure 5+4 is a chemical pregnancy (not sure of your cycle length etc so could be wrong). If it should be classed as an early miscarriage, it may be worth flagging up to your dr. I'm sure next time you get a bfp everything will be fine, but in case it happens again, you want it to be known that it's not a one off so that if there's anything they can look into, they will.

Sorry to read this harriet if you can't leave now try to at least leave early and is there anyone you can speak to?

EJ I had really bad cramps a few days before AF this time, never had them before so was sure I was pregnant (mad I know!). Lots of people have the same things as normal and get a bfp, lots of people have random symptoms and don't get a bfp so don't give up hope yet!

Oh Harriet so sorry Get yourself out of work and give yourself some time. If your gp is rubbish I agree with others about asking to see someone else- you need someone that you can talk freely with, it's your right.

Take care x

Harriet I'm so sorry this has happened to you again I've been there and it is heart breaking. I agree with Flash that at 4+ weeks it's an early mc. You're so brave to be staying at work, I'm amazed at your strength. Please put yourself first and leave early if the pain and emotional side of things is too much to bear. I really am so sorry

Hi Mouse lovely to hear you're doing as well as can be expected. Hope you can enjoy your week off at work .

Welcome back Binky I'd be thinking of you. Hope you are ok

Pug that sounds horrendous!! I hope you're ok now hun? Please go to the Dr/hospital if you need stronger pain meds. Take care xxx

I still need to catch up fully but I'm at my mum's and it's hard to find the time atm so apologies to those I've missed.

Does anyone have any recommendations for a new thread title? Cannot believe it's almost time for another!

Try and get out of work Harriet - sorry you have to go through this again. It doesn't mean you're broken though, unfortunately your body is just doing its job, as horrible as that is. Let us know how you get on xx

Mouse - good to hear from you, glad you're feeling a bit stronger. Will be good to have your sage advice and voice of reason around again, won't be long until you've graduated for good xxxx

Ah this is why I shouldn't rush!

week off work.*

Skipper hope you're feeling better after your horrendous period? That sounded awful and I'm so sorry you have to deal with that each cycle. It's just cruel! I'm thankful mine was only 3 days this cycle and no pain meds required. It's not always like that though which is odd. Hope the HSG works wonders for you this cycle. Rooting for your bfp as always! xx

These threads do fly by! How about "calm as a hysterical cucumber" for a title?

If you can't take today off harriet then try and have a day off tomorrow to look after yourself. You are more important!

Can we all just have a group hug, it really feels like we need it at the mo

Harriet so truly sorry

group hug.

Alexia - aww thanks for asking, the cramping is manageable today (I'm at work) but it's what I call phase 2 now. Without divulging TMI, I'm basically wearing an ultra absorbent tampon, a night time pad and two pairs of pants. And even now I'm running to he loo every hour just to make sure I don't become a scene from the Resevoir Dogs. Sorry that was TMI wasn't it?

I don't think there's anything that's TMI on this thread anymore Skip! But sorry it's so heavy, mine were like that when I was a teenager. I once flooded through a super tampon, a nighttime pad, my knickers, leotard, leggings, and eventually jeans, during a dance class.

If it helps make you feel less TMI, I wore incontinence pants on the long drive home yesterday to ward off a panic attack (I didn't actually make use of them but it meant I could go for hours without being in a flap!). Come to think of it, perhaps that sort of thing is making DH less than usually enthused for DTD...

Also Macs I'm loving the new thread title suggestion!

Quick q, I'm struggling to identify if I have 'watery' CM. I feel 'wet' but I can't actually see that it's watery, unlike with EWCM where's it's super obvious it's that.