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Hut of Gl/Doom tercera- We hate babydust and we don't care.

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duchesse · 19/02/2007 14:19

I'm imaging this one as more of an Eeyore stick hut type thing. Maybe Eeyore is actually still in residence.

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Impatience · 23/02/2007 17:02

yikes Lulu, that sounds tough. Do they both know about your m/c and the fact that when you came home from your scan you'd found the baby had died? If not, you need to tell them, and do so before that friend turns up with her scan pics.

If it were me, I'd want to say that sitting talking about the friend's scan was really hurting me, but that that doesn't take away from the fact I'd be happy for the pg friend. Hopefully, given that you're all friends, you'd all be able to both congratulate her on her good stuff, and commiserate you for your bad stuff. The two are separate, and hopefully they would both see that.

lulu1414 · 23/02/2007 17:05

They may do, but I think they think since it was almost 5 months ago I think they think I am (should be) over it. Probably don't realise how sensitive I am about the scan photo either (I wierdly? carried mine around until a few weeks ago)

Impatience · 23/02/2007 17:05

Thanks LL, of course you're right. My lazy brain told me that my temp hike this morning meant I ov'd yesterday so don't bother. But that hike could have been a blip. I did do a tough run then come home to a huge glass of wine! Lazy brain shut up, LH-LL has spoken.

Impatience · 23/02/2007 17:07

Lulu, I think you need to tell them. 5 months isn't very long at all. And people just don't understand that a mc of any kind is still the death of a child, and that hurts. Poor you.

Are they the kind of friends you can have this chat with?

lulu1414 · 23/02/2007 17:09

They are- she is one of my best friends, but has not been great about all of this. I think it has surprised her how upset I have been and for so long- I am usually pretty tough. Argh- maybe I'll just go out for cocktails instead!

Impatience · 23/02/2007 17:25

It's a real shame that she can't give you the support you need. Perhaps going out for cocktails instead is a good idea. At least you can keep volunteering to go to the bar (and stand where you won't get served for ages) if they insist on talking about the friend's scan.

How crappy. I hope it works out ok.

londonlottie · 23/02/2007 17:56

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lissielou · 23/02/2007 18:16

poor lulu. its such a shame youre made to feel this way. some people are just too blinkered

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duchesse · 23/02/2007 18:34

I'm so glad you finally got a positive OPK, Impatience. It also means that everything is in fine working order in the ovulation department, which can only be good news. I'd have thought the cheapo LH detectors would be just as good as the shop-bought ones though. At least you have something to aim at now, even if you have (maybe but not yet) missed this month. The Wed one may work yet.

Er..not that I'm trying to sound hopeful at all, you understand, nor even buoy you up.

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duchesse · 23/02/2007 21:21

That peeonastick lady really knows her stuff...

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Impatience · 24/02/2007 09:49

Lulu, hope it was ok last night x

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duchesse · 24/02/2007 11:18

It's awfully quiet in here today, gals. Everyone hip-hop-happy? Spring springing etc? Gagh!

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Impatience · 24/02/2007 12:29

NO!

Busy, tired and grumpy. Full-on tantrums from ds and so much to do. Failed to get car tax. Harumph.

Catbabymummy · 24/02/2007 13:16

Dh and I are busy decorating...

lulu1414 · 24/02/2007 13:19

Hi all- last night was OK, actually. I managed to say how I was feeling about it all this morning, so feel much more understood! Grump levels still high, however!

Impatience · 24/02/2007 16:23

Lulu, I'm pleased you got to explain yourself.

I am SOOOOOOO tired, and dp has been working all day, and ds has been very demanding, and somehow in a couple of hours I'm going to have to doll myself to go out for posh dinner and be all interesting. Bugger!

Oh no, that's my 5 min break over! Oh poor me. Back to the screamer.

beansprout · 24/02/2007 19:50

Dh is away for a week. Doesn't need to be away but has wangled a training course in Scotland (we are in London). Leaves me and ds and yep, I'm ill. Could I be any happier?

Plus, am entering TSTW (copyright Duchesse) territory. Not that I care of course, or even hold out much hope, but it's something to hang over me.

I'm at my parents' for a couple of days and they are watching "Dancing on Ice". Good grief....

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duchesse · 24/02/2007 20:59

"Dancing on Ice"? Beansprout, I doubt it could go downhill from here. Which I suppose is reassuring. At least you're not ovulating this week while your husband's away. That would have been the cherry on the cake.

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beansprout · 24/02/2007 21:01

I'm at the stage when a month off the shagshagshag thing would be a relief, but yes, you are right. And those glace cherries really are f*cking disgusting.

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duchesse · 25/02/2007 00:19

Ok, he doesn't usually do anything for me, but Ralph Fiennes in all his brooding mittel Europeanness in The English Patient...very nice indeed.

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beansprout · 25/02/2007 09:46

The English Patient is a top totty film. When Colin Firth is playing the geeky one, you know you are on to a winner. Plus it has Juliette Binoche, the most beautiful woman to ever walk the planet.

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duchesse · 25/02/2007 16:26

I know I'm going to come over all needy in a moment, and blow my street-cred entirely, but I do miss you guys when you're not in the Hut. I've tried lurking on the other boards, but the mention of cycle days, cervical mucus, signs of ovulation etc just makes me hyperventilate, and I can't post there. It's been two years since I could be bothered to take my temperatures properly, because it doesn't seem to make a blind bit of difference any more. The positive test ten days ago, followed by the inevitable period, has actually traumatised me more than it ought to have done, because it just proved to me that all the other times I thought I was pregnant in the run-up to my periods, and up till a week after it was due, I probably was. Which means that I've probably had at least 10 or 15 miscarriages since June 2003, not counting the one everyone knew about in the summer. This makes me sad. I'm not infertile- my body is actually killing babies.

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lissielou · 25/02/2007 16:34

oh duchesse i dont know what to say. i suppose we know our own bodies better than anyone else. are there any more tests in the pipeline?

Catbabymummy · 25/02/2007 17:53

You be as needy as you want Duchesse, we owe you for creating this sanctuary of moans and whinges.
Finished decorating, dh has mentioned how horny he is, however my back, hips and knees hurt from all the awkward stretching painting the nooks and crannies in the bathroom and en-suite.
But got to get on the job, it's CD9...