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[MotherOfBeagles]

Hi ladies!

Sorry I didn't want to lose you all as at the in law weekend so thought I'd start a new one!

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That's great you've got to grips with the moon cup tee, I find cups soooooo much better than tampons. Also really positive to get some initial tests done. Knowledge is power.

Nim thinking of you also and hope you're okay

Kiki you poor thing u must be so worried. Agree with others it could just be a scare. The brown blood/cm will just b old and what has taken time to exit. Hope you get rest and sleep tonight and all will be ok in the morning. Xx

Morning all
Sending you hugs kiki and hope you slept well with no more bleeding. Hope you can take it easy and get a little more bed rest.
Thinking of you too nim

foot it's nice to know the boys are making their mom proud.l definitely am tired of ttc.l had dd 3 years ago and never went on the pill but started actively trying almost 2 years ago. When I hit the 1 year mark l did have tests done and all came back OK.now I wonder what on earth is happening. Dh has even stopped drinking and he is so miserable but it doesn't seem to help. Tbh l just wish I could throw in the towel but I can't and I realize that at 36 I am also racing against time. Grrrr

Hope everyone has a great week and there is more good news to come.

tee hope you are feeling better. Where is everyone else in the cycle?

Morning all!

How you doing this morning kiki?

tee glad you've got to grips with the cup. I love mine now can't believe it's taken me so long to find it!

mimi sorry it's been such a long journey for you. I hope you get your bfp soon!

Back at work today after half term. Decided decaf tea sucks ass. Lol. I ended up sleeping on my side last night with a cushion under my waist/side, under my knee and between my knees! lol was so uncomfortable and that was the only way I could sleep!

Hi All,

Thanks for thinking of me Jam,I had my miscarriage on Saturday after tablets. It was painful but manageable with painkillers. The pain afterwards seems much better compared to after my ERPC which seemed to last for ages. Still have cramps and bleeding, and feeling a little dizzy but OK.

Kiki you must feel awful. Its horrible waiting for the scan isn't it. Look after yourself.

Nice to hear from you Mimi. I am going to enjoy an few glasses of wine this week but try and be alcohol free after that.

Tee is conceive plus like preseed? I am going to buy one of these this month, not sure which to go for, just for comfort more than anything. Also need to decide about fertility friend as my annual subscription runs out in 10 days which is depressing.

Footy I hope DH gets over himself and starts acting better. Its a journey and bad days are to be expected but I hope things are generally improving.

How are you feeling today Beagles? I love decaf tea!

Thanks all have taken today off work as didn't get much sleep last night and dh wanted me to rest. No further bleeding a tiny bit of brown spotting but my fertility dr emailed back and although normal pregnancy can progress after bleeding they are concerned I may miscarry 😢. I guess only time will tell am lucky that it's my Dr doing the scan on weds.
Mum hope you are Ok and glad to see you are thinking about conception. I believe preseed is the same as conceive plus (I used it this time round).

Kiki I have my fingers and toes crossed for you.

I've had a big red bleed this afternoon, through my undies, no pain but clotting. I got a scan last Friday so the preg support centre said they can't scan me til this fri again. Came home from work as feeling pretty teary (as well as bloody) and couldn't keep up an act of normality for much longer. I could have kept some hope up if no clots but there were so that's the reality. And yet ...and yet there's a part of me saying well maybe it's ok and I'm annoyed about that as I think I'd be better preparing myself than to Raise my hopes.

Not sure why Raised was deemed worthy of capitalisation...

Oh no Earth I'm so sorry this is happening. You must be beside yourself going through all this stress and up and downs. Friday can't come soon enough for you. It's hard to prepare for the worst as always a bit of hope that sneaks in there and the two together will torment you. Really really hope all will be ok.

Kiki thinking of you too in all this, glad no more spotting and think wise to rest.

Nim, such an awful time for you too, doesn't seem fair does it. You have a good attitude of not giving up so keep thinking positive xx

Beagles hoping you feel ok too and stay positive xxx

Lots of flowers 🌺 and prayers coming your way ladies.

nim look after yourself, make sure that you put your feet up! Definitely enjoy a few glasses, nothing wrong with that

kiki I'm still holding on to hope for you! Good that your docs are being as good as they can though. Feet up, rest and try to relax if at all possible.

Oh earth I'm so sorry it really is horrible when you're in limbo and just want an answer so that you can move on. Hope things work out for you!

footy how's things with you?

I'm ok, tired. Google has now become my permanent companion. Busting at the seems to tell everyone whilst also petrified as I had my last cp at 5/6 weeks and I'm still only at 4!

Did CB weeks indicator and it's now saying 2-3 weeks, last mon it was 3+ (should be 6 weeks).

Well done getting through Saturday nim that can't have been easy. Good idea to relax and have a few glasses of wine this week. I've tried conceive plus - its similar to pressed but doesn't come with the applicator.

Glad to hear no more blood Kiki fx that's it now and fxxxxxx for your scan weds

Sorry earth 😔** how upsetting and scary. All the best of luck on Friday and hope there's no more blood. I don't know how much you can rely on CBs, I can understand you wanting information as soon as you can get it though.

gosh our little group is having a tough time 😔

Earth I am so sorry to hear you've had a big bleed - the not knowing part is so hard isn't it I'd just like to know either way so I can get on with it.
Thanks footy how are things with you?
Beagles - stay away from Google if you can it seems symptom searching brings up the worst case scenario and you should stay positive. Are you having any early scans?
Nim (sorry my phone always turns it to mum for some reason, not very appropriate apologies) I hope I can be as brave as you if its bad news on weds.
Jam - it is a rough old time isn't it but very grateful to you ladies for hearing me out and listening to my moans and groans I don't feel as lost as last time as it feels I have people I can go to who understand xx

Still bleeding now but I'm strangely feeling a bit calm. It's not like there's anything to be done and I was worried before anyway - in a way this takes the pressure off as I absolutely expected this to happen anyway. I'm going to have Waitrose curry. Thinking of you all esp nim and Kiki.

I am sending positive vibes to the rest of you

Gosh I feel so sad reading what everybody's going through right now. How is this fair?! Stay brave and positive ladies, I just want to give you all a big hug. We'll have babies in our arms soon girls, and all this heartbreak will be a distant memory.
Attaching an ad for a 'fertility fair' in case anyone is London based & interested x

I'm so sorry earth make sure that you take care of yourself. I know what you mean though about wanting to know for sure.

kiki I'm booking and paying for one myself at 7 weeks for my own sanity. Preparing for the worst but hoping for the best! Glad that you feel getting support here, nice to know the group helps!

Lots of positive thoughts and thinking of you all tonight

I think my DH might just be considering doing a SA, hoorah breakthrough!
Jam, I recall your hubby went to a private clinic in London and I'm thinking I should arrange something similar (he won't go for it if it's nhs, a massive faff and disruptive to his work etc...) so something he can do in a lunch break with minimum contact with anyone else (receptionists/doctors), the better. He's asked me to look up reviews from men who have done similar, but I can't actually find anything online (no such thing as a dadsnet 😂), so wondered if you'd mind filling me in with your DH's experience? Just a little account of how it all worked when he went? x

No problem tee. We used Create fertility. I called and booked it, got an appointment quickly and easily. He had to abstain for a few days before. There are private rooms (with porn) for them to produce their sample. They hand it in and leave. Simple as. We got the results the next day. It cost about £95 I think.

So sorry earth hope you're okay. Still hoping for good news at your scan. Some women do bleed it seems.

Thanks Jam! So he didn't really have to talk to anyone, just went at his appointment time, did the business, then buggered off outta there?

I think he went up to reception and said I've got an appointment my name is etc and they showed him to a room with a pot and let him get on with it. I don't think he had to speak to anyone afterwards - they try to make it as quick and easy as possible.

Thank you Jam, I can pass all this onto my mr! Hopefully will swallow his pride and get it done! x

Don't feel zen anymore just feel so so sad.

Going to bed everyone, night

Get a good night if you can Earth, I'm really sorry you girls are suffering after long awaited bfps. Thinking of you all and praying for the best x

Omg it doesn't seem to get any easier for us. Am so sorry earth for what you are going through. Hope you all managed to get some rest.

How are you today nim,Kiki, earth, beagles? Also sending prayers and hugs your way.
Jam,foot,tee thinking of you too. Hope you will have easier experiences when you finally get that bfp.
Good luck with your oh tee.
I am in fw and yet to dtd. Hope this is finally it