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[MotherOfBeagles]

Hi ladies!

Sorry I didn't want to lose you all as at the in law weekend so thought I'd start a new one!

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Yes I'm definitely starting to feel envious of those who fall easily, including me the first time round with DS!! Not sure you had joined when I told the others about my twin sister falling this year, by accident, after DTD just one drunken night!! She's due in January, I have been trying since last December! I am absolutely buzzing about welcoming my new baby nephew, it'll be a lovely distraction, but I would have so loved to have been pregnant at the same time and had maternity leave together. Every time I see a pregnant lady I just think 'you lucky lucky thing!!' Can't wait for my bump! What is it you do when you're not TTC Beagles?
Glad things are better Mim, it can put strain on a relationship when it doesn't happen easily.
My DH is definitely stubborn with a tendency for selfishness, so if he doesn't want to DTD, it ain't happening! He's not good at talking about his feelings, but in general he's very detached from the TTC process, and will only really show any enthusiasm when the ball starts rolling with a pregnancy. He thinks the whole thing should be totally spontaneous.

I did spot your sis is pregnant tee it must be lovely and a bit painful all at once. I really feel for you. My cousin is pregnant with her second. Both were "accidents" and it really eats away at me - not helped with how smug and patronising she is to me. Yes the envy is real! My workmate brought his two seriously-adorable-let-me-chew-on-your-face kids in today as he needed to pick something up and I'd be lying if I said the thought of scooping one up and keeping them didn't enter my mind lol. Thing is I was never broody! Didn't even want kids. Then a year ago boom! Like wtf? Who is this that's taken over my body?

I work in pastoral support in a 6th form college. So it did help keep the broodyness at bay for a while but not much lol.

Haha your dh sounds just like mine! He was the same so I bought him a book something like "becoming a dad for dummies" it's written really well and targeted brilliantly. There's a dumbed down section on ttc the probabilities and difficulties etc. So even though he still wants it to be low effort and spontaneous he now understands my stress and urge to track everything.

Have you got lots planned with your little one for Christmas?

Urgh, the smugness is so unnecessary. It is bizarre that some pregnancies come so easily and others are such a battle. When I read about some poor souls that try for years and years, I so took it for granted first time round.
I'd eat my own arm if DH read a book about being a Dad!! If it's not about cricket or golf, it won't get a minute of his attention.
DS is so excited about Christmas! We are hosting Christmas & Boxing Day which is a first for us. Got a pantomime booked and a few Christmassy things to look forward to. Can't believe it the weekend after next!! Eeeekkkkk

Ah I love pantomimes when you take little ones. I used to be a scout leader and every year we'd take them to a pantomimes. Amazing! Ooh hosting Christmas should be fun (if not stressful) lol how many you got coming? All planned yet?

He wouldn't normally read a book but I kind of forced him. Something along the lines of if I have to carry it you can at least find out and try to understand how it all works with me!

Yeah smugness. Ugh. She gives me "tips". I want to punch her smug face. Even if she is pregnant. I'd still do it lol. Thing is ALL of the women in my family are crazy fertile. My mums been pregnant 9 times! My aunt (cousins mum) 8! They have that negative blood type that targets early pregnancy though and causes miscarriage but still. My grandad has 5 kids 21 grandkids. He himself is one of 16 (each of those have had a minimum of 7 kids and some of those have kids). My grandma was one of 14 and each of those have a min of 15 kids. And the thing is they we all talk online on and off and are really open. When one woman knows something they all know so as soon as they found out we were ttc I had about 100 women contacting me with their stories and saying that I'd be fine because I'm one of them. Besides one of my great aunts who struggled I've been the longest ttc so far. And on days like today that really could make me cry.

5 kids not 15 lol!

It's mental isn't it! My grandma was 1 of 13 and my mum is super fertile, never had any problems. Both her and Grandma were polyovulators having a non-identical set of twins each. My big sister is the only one who's really struggled, suffering multiple miscarriages, although I don't think she had to try for long each time.
It makes me want to cry too, you're not alone, but when we get there, we will appreciate it so much more. It will happen, 2017 is the one! When we have a baby in our arms we will wonder what all the heart ache and fuss was about! Chin up xx

Joys of being irish/Yorkshire Catholics lol! Oh well I'm off to bed. Further temp dip or the impossible temp rise in the morning will confirm all I suppose.

Tata for this evening ladies! Hoping those temps behave for us all in the morning

Ah tee just seen your message. Nice to know not alone some times. I promise I'll be more light hearted tomorrow! Thanks for your support tonight

Oh tee I totally feel your pain. You can be sad, we all feel crappy about all this. I think it heightens emotions over Christmas also. We would all have liked a Christmas BFP.

Especially you being so so close and it gone just like that you are probably still grieving. Don't be hard on yourself, you can tell us how u feel whenever u want.
I so need time out of dtd.. I actually want some decent sleep without stressing over temps, positions and the poxy calendar on my phone!
No I've only really spotted before AF on the day AF arrives. It starts brown cm then straight into bleeding. It's just brown tinted cm, but not enough to wear anything just when I wipe occasionally. My boobs hurt today, but again clomid does that. So can only really go on temps. Usually I decline in temps so if it goes up again tomorrow then I might be more hopeful. Just so fed up of testing and seeing BFN's. Makes me feel a fool thinking I was. Rather just sit tight and start throwing up! I feel like this now but I might wake up tomorrow with urge to Poas!

Beagles what are your plans for Christmas. Can't remember if u are up north living or London? We're visiting family up north so might be awkward trying to dtd!
Secretly hoping I won't need to
I'm worried I might buy myself a toy dolly to cuddle and get a pram for her, take her out like I've seen people do. Bit worrying.

Yep I too look enviously at people's bumps in the street and think oh please God let me get one of those!

Mimi glad all well with u and DH. Hope it stays that way. I so hope I get a BFP soon too, put me out of my misery. Sometimes I think I'm losing the plot. Tears of frustration trying to figure it all out.

Thinking of u jam,Nim, Earth, and all the newcomers. (U prob think we're a right bunch of nutters)

Cross posted with you tee/beagles!
So ur up north beagles. Wowzas big family.
I've rhesus negative blood, which I think might b the prob! Also my cervix is tilted to right so I've been trying to work out which way (ahem) he falls left or right to where my cervix is. Trying to work out best positions in my head. Crazy yeah I know.
He's asleep so I had a quick peek under the cover ! Chuckling to myself.

On that note.. Night night

Ha! That made me chuckle too Footy! Night night all x

Hi all.
Hope everyone is ok.
I'm due AF this Friday. On Sunday just gone I had some very dark red bleeding. Tiny bit of browny blood yesterday and today. Doing some serious moon cup monitoring.

The dark red is very different but I don't know if I'm just over thinking the whole thing.
I normally come on when expected so if it's only spotting till then I get to test on Friday.

I'm not hopeful though.

Hi soul how many dpo are u? I've also been spotting but mine is not red just browny.
Fingers crossed for you. Did u dtd around ovulation time?

So how's everyone today? What has today brought for people?

Cd28
My temp has gone up further to 37.79 ? Crazy now looking at the chart and I can see a dip at cd21 which would make me 7dpo? At 5dpo spotting started with slight dip. (Thinking too early for ip bleed) now? Could have been delayed ovulation spotting? Anyway regardless I think I have def ovulated at some point in the last week or so. Ill have to wait it out for a Christmas BFP or natural AF. Could NOT sleep on my boobs!! (Can't trust the boobs)

footy from what I've been reading implantation can be from 5dpo onwards so you never know! That temp really is high. When's your potential test date?

soul that really is odd never heard of anything like that. Could it have been a really early/light period. My last few have only been one bad day and two light days which is unusual for me.

How's everyone else this morning? Well I had a bizarre morning. Fully expected to wake up to temp dip to follow my literally spot on pattern and had a massive temp jump from 36.2-36.5?! Wtf. Not getting my hopes up because I know I have such a short lp that if that was implantation my period will set in before it can stick. Ugh.

There's definitely potential that's IB Footy! You may have that Christmas bfp after all, I really hope so! Time will tell, I guess it'll be a couple of days sitting tight!
Soul another strange bleed pattern! Hmmm, all very puzzling, but like Footy, it could just be...???
Interesting Beagles! Did you test at usual time? Did you go to bed at reasonable time? Will be interesting to see what tomorrow holds temp wise!

My temp is still (probably) below cover line, opk still peak, hpt closest to bfn it's ever been, can only see the line from certain angles. Have continued to spot so that's now nearly 2 weeks of wearing pads. Still hoping for that delayed ovulation so DH has his crazy week out of the way and is feeling more energised! Still wishing for a sticky bean to be settling in over Christmas. I guess I can't even think about a potential test date until I have a better idea of ovulation! Won't be before Jan though.

Tested at normal time 20 minutes before I get up (I have two alarms dh loves it lol). Then when I read it when I got up i was so shocked I did it again and it was the same! Also checked thermometer wasn't broken and made dh do it too lol . Well this is it if temp is still high tomorrow it's AF due & my test date tomorrow. But I'm panicking because that could only be an implantation dip surely? But my short lp will mean it doesn't have time to get all stuck in there before the lining sheds.

Sorry it's taking you so long to get sorted tee it's really not what you need. But as my mum kept saying to me - try and relax at least you know that your body is taking it's time to get sorted properly.

Hello ladies, still following the thread and thinking of you all! Hope you all get you BFP soon. I know it will happen as you're all so determined!
Had my 12 week scan yesterday (NHS dating scan). Babi was well behaved, did her measurements and as a result it put me at 13+4 and not 13+1. So new due date is 16/06/17. Babi was hiccuping a bit which was ironic since I'm not a drinker haha but otherwise she looked adorable! Off to keep knitting blankets and other little bits.
Good luck to all!!! 🤗🤗🤗

Beagles, are you sure u didn't ovulate last night? Or it could just be another jump up in temps. Hopefully your LP will sort itself out and it was just an implantation dip. Hope AF stays away. Have u any cramps?

Sorry for delay in getting your body back to normal tee, it does sound like u are at the end of it now. Ideally ovulating next week will be great timing for you.

Russ, glad all is well with you and your bub. If I recall u thought your dates might be out as your progesterone results were so high. Hope pregnancy is treating u well X

Oh forgot to mention I'm not spotting today. Cm all clear. Lots of it.

Thanks Footy, it's my first one and everything seems like a rocket science to me! I go by what docs/sonographers say. 13+5 today, it is then. Slept through the night for the first time! Nausea eased off and almost gone. Just got back from Oslo, Christmas markets etc and was feeling ok through the flights. Planning a trip next month to my clinic where I got my IUI done. The team is brilliant over there! Just want to say thank you in person. Plus to see my dad and brother which is always a bonus. Both are very excited for me. It would be dad's first grandchild.
Hope you all get your BFP soon. Thinking of you all!

Very jealous of your trip to Oslo russ was it lovely? Glad your nausea has eased of and you've slept through the night must feel so much better this morning.

Nope definitely ovulated earlier in the month the opks were blazing for the first time ever. I'll attach my temps below see what you guys think. this month is green the others are the last two months so you can see what I mean by perfect AF signs. I have twinges and heavy feelings but more like random stabby pains than cramps.

footy I hope that's a good sign. It's not impossible to get brown spotting around ovulation I have read about that so maybe that's what it was? How's your temps looking overall?

Ah yes beagles.. Looks like u did ovulate earlier. To me looks like an ip dip then. Hope temps stays up for u. My temps usually start dropping from 7/8dpo. On a usual cycle that is!!
Wow your charts are v similar! Give or take a few..Mine are so different each month.

I'll post the end of mine later it's so damn long I can't fit it into pic. out shopping at mo.

Had a really dull ache in my lower tummy right in the middle. Ive had 2 c-sections and the pain was right across there. Hour later stabbing pains same place.. Now nothing apart from boobs keep tingling..

Trying to not symptom spot after spending hour on Google.

lol no! step away from google footy it is evils when ttc.

I have a similar ache to you! but mines more like its inside my right hip bone. Like if i poked in an angle from my crotch to my hip bone. Weird.

I caved, i did a test today. Don't know why it was stupid. So i dont know what to do tomorrow morning - its my test date so do i see what my temp does and try and squeeze a test in before work (mad rush mornings). Or wait and see if temps still high and do one on saturday?

I'd wait beagles because if it is negative, at least you're a little closer to your next ov! But obviously, it's your decision. I now expect bfn, so is it more devastating to see af or bfn?

Hi all, still being quite lurky. I'm ill with a cold (again). 3rd one in 5 weeks. Yay. CD 11. So at least a week til ov yet... ill so not really holding my breath or anything.

Here's hoping footy!!