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[MotherOfBeagles]

Hi ladies!

Sorry I didn't want to lose you all as at the in law weekend so thought I'd start a new one!

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Good luck Kate!! x

Welcome Lindsey

Good luck kate! Exciting that you're trying again now

Glad the journal is going well footy and helping

Enjoy fw tee

Cheering you all on xx

Tee, we talked about it yesterday and he said he still wants us to be together. He hasn't changed his mind about baby but doesn't want to try or plan. If it happens it happens. I left it at that, didn't want to push for any other answers right now.
He was quite affectionate last night which led to dtd. I know it's not the answer, and we have lots of sorting out to do and counselling to work through our issues but it's hard when you share the same bed and desperately need that connection. I got a text this morning saying he loves me. Still a long way to go though..as I know if we have another disagreement it would happen all over again. haven't even thought where I am in cycle? I desp want another child whether he sticks around or not. Is that wrong? I know it will add to complications but I can't just switch off after we have thought about it all year. Maybe it will bring us closer? There's lots of things I'm uncertain about.
Hope you ovulate soon then tee if you have good timed dtd. X

hi everyone I'm sorry I fell off the thread. I have had a bit of a wobble over Christmas. Getting so down and wondering whether to stop TTC altogether and imagine myself an alternative life plan. It has now been over a year since we made the decision to try for another baby. I have to remember it too FOUR months to get my coil removed and of course I did conceive so I was pregnant for 10 weeks of the last year also.

I still want another baby. I'm not ready to stop. I'm afraid of another miscarriage, I'm terrified of a stillbirth. I am doing dry January. Despite ttc I have still been drinking (and loads over Christmas), I stopped when PG of course so I know I can but didn't get the benefit because I was exhausted due to pregnancy!

Footy I am so sorry to hear about the troubles you had with your DH. My DH and I had a wobble several years ago and it was hideous. Things did get better though and now I feel we are very close. We have our ups and downs of course.

Physics, I hope school is ok, How long now until you can leave. Recognizing depression is one step to getting through it. When the black cloud is all around its all you can see, its only when it shifts you can see how dark everything was.

Tee hope you have a positive OPK soon.

I'm glad Jem you have your appointment. I hope things move forward for you.
Hello all the newbies.

I think I'm 3dpo. I have a good a chance as any this month I suppose. Waves to everyone, who is next to test? A BFP might cheer me up a bit!

Thanks for all the welcomes :)
Its nice that we are all in a similar boat!
Started charting but i suppose wont be too accurate until ive had a few visits from AF!
Still waiting AF this month, BFN few days ago but major and very unusual beetroot craving today! Trying not to convince myself beetroot craving means anything!
Hows everybody getting along? Any BFP's?
x

Footy, I think it really sounds like you're making progress. I totally get all your feelings, esp. about ttc! You can't just switch that off. Every marriage has its ups and downs, and whilst I don't think you should put up with being treated like a maid, I really admire your dedication to making things work. Your boys and 'H' are very lucky. Maybe this approach will work in your favour; fate can decide if it's right for you/your marriage/your family right now, maybe it will take the pressure off.
Hello Nim, really sorry you've been through a rough time. I am also really frightened about miscarriage and still birth. I feel sad that even if/when I do fall, I will be a nervous wreck throughout (I'd like to say until baby is in my arms, but we all know the worry certainly doesn't stop then!) I had a rough birth with DS and a week in hospital with him at 6 weeks. The 2 mcs, even though early, have really shaken me up. I took the whole thing for granted first time round, now I see it all as completely fragile and fleeting, which I know for the most part it really isn't!!
We definitely need a bfp on here! It's been ages! x

Beetroot Lindsay?! That's a new one! How many dpo when you tested? Only 10 wasn't it? That's pretty early so who knows!! I agree it takes a good few cycles to recognise your personal bbt pattern, but generally temps should stayed raised in Luteal Phase is you conceived. Also lots of CM is a good sign for me...

Tee4me i knowww very strange! Bought a whole jar from tesco and ate the lot including drinking the juice out the jar!! So wrong but couldnt help it.

Yep test was roughly 10dpo bit of a guestimation really as first cycle off the pill!
Havnt been doing temps, usually have loads of CM but been dry for over a week (tmi) so this isnt a great sign but ah well only first cycle!

Roll on new month an more accurate charting!

Lindsay your pee will turn bright pink if too much so don't be alarmed

Hi Nim glad you are still with us. Sorry things been tough for you, can imagine the mc has knocked you. Setting other goals can't harm you and a good distraction from all of this might be healthy.

Tee thanks for your encouragement. He seems a little more grateful tonight but time will tell. I do feel that the distraction of ttc takes away problems that we have. I often bite my lip leading up to ovulation! I'm sure everybody does this.. so think on my part especially I hold onto hurt feelings and things bothering me until after. That can't be healthy! So think my main priority is to discuss things asap and forget the timing in cycle. Will see what happens but we're along way off being back on track. I've forgiven him but just can't forget.

Started watching season 1 game of thrones beagles! Just need some wool for my needles and I should be on track for some good relaxation at least.

Looks like the CBFM is not playing ball again... or I am not ovulating.

Last month CD7 to CD16 all high

This month:
Cd6 - low
CD7 - high
Cd8 - high

Hm. Today I think is 14 dpo (based on bbt and opk). No sign of af yet and not really feeling crampy or anything... well, maybe the odd twinge, but nothing like I normally get. Dare I hope? I hate to hope.

Should I test in the morning?? Af would be due/ overdue then. I have a German 5 miu/L sensitivity test in...

Yes!! TEST TEST TEST!

ahhhhh good luck physicskate fingers toes and eyes crossed for a BFP for you :)

Nm. Woken by horrendous cramps and af... not my month, but wasn't expecting it to be. Just wish I hadn't been hopeful for a few hours.

oh booo physicskate on the positive side its a fresh new month of charting and DTD :)

oh booo physicskate on the positive side its a fresh new month of charting and DTD :)

It's awful when you get your hopes up and AF turns up. Sorry kate wishing you a successful cycle this time

Welcome back nim sorry you've been having such a tough time. It really is an emotional rollercoaster especially when it's something you want so much. I'm glad you are back and trying and wish you better luck this cycle

Footy I really think some marriage counselling could help the two of you communicate. Do you think if you just booked an appointment and told him he would go?

Have you had your positive OPK yet tee?

Hi everyone,

Footy - glad to hear things are starting to work out hope it is on the up from now on. Love game of thrones - plenty more seasons to keep you occupied xx

Welcome Lindsay - the beetroot sounds interesting your body must have needed something from it!

Kate - sorry to hear AF got you.

Earth - my first AF after miscarriage was really weird for me but the 2nd was much more normal and felt like my body was getting back into the swing of things.

Tee - where abouts are you now?

I am cycle day 18 and think I may be ovulating as been feeling quite sick and headachy, had a few twinges in my right hand side too so fingers crossed - dh will be getting jumped later today just in case!!

Oh no sorry kate. You must be disappointed especially after getting hopes up. It's so hard not to when things are not on schedule. At least u can have a drink tonight.

Thanks Jem/Kiki. Yes i approached the counselling suggestion last night and he was still positive about it. So yes think I'll just have to book something. We need to also work on our love languages! What ticks my boxes as well as his, because I certainly don't feel we are hitting these targets.

Hey Mimi thinking of u.. hope you are ok x

Hope u all have a lazy afternoon. I've just got back from my ds footy match, in the wet drizzle...so enjoying the cozy log burner and my toastie socks.
Not sure where I am in cycle but after scrolling back I think I am around ovulation still maybe cd18/19? As I had cramps last couple of days and EWCM yesterday. But with all the stress who knows??. Will have to temp for a few days to work it out. Curiosity more than tracking.. bit pointless this cycle I think.

Totally forgotten to test this morning... just been so busy this last week not even had the energy to DTD. This has been a pretty poor month

Here I am!
Sorry Kate, urgh it's so crap when it turns up like that!
CD14 here, would have usually ovulated by now, got a positive opk last night and a peak one this morning (when it appears instantly before control line!). Couldn't persuade DH to DTD last night or this morning (but we had already managed Monday, Wednesday & Thursday CD9/11/12), made a trip to Ann Summers today (cringe) and DH is on board for a sesh tonight! I think I may have already ovulated today as I just took my temp and its's super high and my mood has shifted! I know it usually increases a bit in the afternoon, but this was a big jump (36.4 to 36.64). Think egg hangs around for a bit tho right, so tonight's DTD is worthwhile if I have? Just worrying Thursday swimmers won't have survived! x

Tee I think you are in with a good chance - sperm can live up to 5 days inside and the egg can hang around for 24-48 hours so you've nothing to lose!!
Have a fun night and good luck!! xx

Morning all!
Kiki was DH compliant last night? Hopefully you caught the egg! Can't remember if you temp and therefore will have confirmation it happened? Good luck!
Footy it's great H is still positive about counselling! It will be interesting to see what this month holds for you and whether dropping the tracking will inadvertently help.
Jam hope you will be waving off the witch soon!
DuRez you sound like a busy bee, sometimes I think that's the best way to be, stop you from dwelling on cycle days etc.

CD15 here, temp still low (yesterday afternoon temp misled me I guess), but convinced I will ovulate today after having a positive opk Friday night and super peak yesterday morning and lots of twinges this morning. Probably a good thing as we nailed DTD last night (thank you Ann!) and perhaps will manage again later (depending on how well DH's golf goes today!!). Been re-reading about best DTD timings, and although fertile the 5/6 days leading up to ovulation, lots of sites talking about the 2 critical days being day of LH peak and day of ovulation.

Mimi how are you getting on? x

I have given up using the CBFM this month as missed two days testing with it, so will start again next month.

So far the ones I took are...

Cd6 - low
CD7 - high
Cd8 - high
Cd9 - x
Cd10 - x but DTD

Just thought there is no point testing as will read false positive as could have peaked already. Not been very organised at all 😢

Thanks tee glad to report dh was compliant - think he wants this more than me! No I don't temp just go on what I know from the scans I've had and advice from the fertility meds.
Here's hoping!! Sounds like we might be testing at a similar time...