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[MotherOfBeagles]

Hi ladies!

Sorry I didn't want to lose you all as at the in law weekend so thought I'd start a new one!

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footy it's not weak at all. But you need to make sure you take time to decide what you want. Don't find yourself regretting something months down the line.

Sorry af got you durez at least you can start again with a fresh cycle now?

Oh mimi sorry you are struggling. Are you feeling any better or still crappy? I don't blame you though ttc is tough and draining and horrible at times.

kate glad your smear went well, when are you back at the docs?

jam I'm glad you've got a plan try and focus on that and be positive. Step away from google and believe the doctors! I know how you're feeling though with your friend being pregnant it's such an awful feeling, especially when you just want to be happy for them.

Thanks kiki some doctors are better than others but unfortunately I don't get to see the same one each time.

So I'm cd14 and my temps sort of look like I've ovulated the last two days. Will see in the next few days I suppose. Not really been tracking much so will see. Only dtd once though so not many hopes really, although I did use my diva cup straight afterwards so who knows. Not getting my hopes up. Illness is definitely getting worse but trying to look after myself and keep moving so as not to sit and stew. Will see how I get on as to whether or not to try and go back to doctors.

Ok! Question. I'm literally sat here at stupid am unable to sleep and google is totally failing me. Do I still record sex in my fertility friend if dh doesn't ejaculate? He doesn't always and I'm starting to worry that's our problem.

Footy please do stay, it wouldn't feel right without you here!

If he doesn't ejaculate beagles I don't think I would I'm afraid. Really you need that release of them and their orgasm to shoot them up through the cervix. Is there anything you can do to help him? When DH isn't in the mood much occasionally he has got himself almost there and then we DTD...

I wouldn't either as although they say there is sperm released before hand it may not always be the case.
How often are you DTD? Could you maybe cut down so he does ejaculate every time? Or maybe talk to him and see if there's anything that really does it for him and try that?

Thanks jam and jodders it's not so much he doesn't enjoy it or something needs changing. He's a lot like a woman really in that if something gets in the way he just can't. Ie worried about work or money or being unwell like he has been etc etc. He's always been like this apparently, very different for me as my exes were very much a 30seconds including "foreplay" lol. He also doesn't masturbate unless its been a week or two without sex so can't finish off after as such. We haven't been dtd much anyway so it's not that and I'm not holding out hopes for this month. But shall see! My supposed test date is the morning of his 30th and there will be a lot of alcohol that day so at least I can drink if not! How is everyone else today?

Shame we can't just go and buy some sperm cake and eat it to give us these babies!
Beagles I'm sure there's a solution for you. Sympathise with u though as all this is difficult enough for women without dealing with the mans side. When I was in the health shop I saw some herbs for men to help libido etc.. (horny goat weed) women's ones are maca root. Might be worth a look? I took the maca and my sex drive went through the roof! I think fertility experts can also suggest supplements or iui ?

Saw him this morning he came to see the boys, and he hugged me. Felt slightly awkward. I just did general chit chat and didn't lay into him with questions I need answering but also felt the urge to punch him in the head! A start I guess.
Think I'm on a long bumpy journey here..
started to wonder if I'll b back into the position of ttc in near future or not. But desperately want another baby
Thanks ladies for your support x

footy that's the thing it's not a libido issue or anything like that he just takes a while to get there, always has and his stresses and emotions impact him just like they do a woman. Very unusual for me but my nurse practitioner says it's not unusual! I really feel for you, you did really well to stay calm and composed. Did he say anything?

Yes it's quite common I know. Hoping you haven't ovulated yet so u get some deeds in xx

He didn't really say much beagles. He's being fine with the kids just bit awkward with me. I'm finding it very difficult to hide the tears and my heart is in pain. He just sooooo stubborn and absolutely useless at communicating. Think it's just a statement of his own selfishness.

Is counselling something you might try? I can't imagine it'd be an easy sell but you need to think about how to make it work if that's what you want.

Hello happy New Year's Eve girls 🥂

How's everyone doing?

I think counselling is a great idea from beagles footy if you think he would consider it?

Hi all,
Sorry I've been a bit absent, will catch up properly soon!
Definitely think marriage counselling is a good idea. Wonder what he'll think to that? I can totally understand you wanting to save your marriage, I would feel the same as you. An impartial third person could really help you both see things from the other person's perspective. Marriage is not easy, hope this is just a bump in the road; it does sound like a little crisis on his part. He'll come to his senses and feel like a prize idiot for making such a fuss.

CD7 over here. Had a decent period, only just stopping spotting now (I'm pleased about this as my periods took ages to be normal again after first MC - they were very heavy/clotty but short, so didn't feel like my lining shed properly each month). I didn't have any noticeably bad clots at all in fact. Been eating so much iron and good stuff to replenish the lining. Hoping to make a nice home for a little bean this month. Ideally I won't ovulate too early as I want that lining to have time to become nice and thick! Today's opk is very faint. DH has been amazing. Really got stuck in at Christmas and feels like we've really got close. Started DTD already and will keep going steadily throughout the month. I'll try not to pressure him on the daily thing, and just go with it, as long as we cover FW somewhere along the line.
Will definitely get to enjoy a few drinks tonight, lucky to be early in my cycle! What are the rest of you doing?
Anyone testing or due AF soon? Do we have time for a 2016 bfp?!
Happy New Year to all xx

Glad you've had such a positive start to this cycle tee also your dh sounds lovely! When do you normally ovulate? Have you tried epo? I've been taking it this cycle and can really see a difference!

My test date is 7th Jan which is handy because it's dhs 30th and there will be lots of alcohol. But I really doubt it as we only dtd the day after my big temp drop for ovulation. So not holding any hopes this cycle. But had a serious chat with dh last night, well serious with giggling lol, that he needs to get himself moving and used to at least every other day! He grumbled a bit but laughed in the end so hoping that's a good sign!

He's been really lovely, got me an amazing Christmas present, which I really didn't expect, and said I deserved it because of everything that happened this year (x2 MCs) and project managing our house extensions. Was so sweet and got things off too a great start. Then he was brilliant in the kitchen, I could have pounced on him all day if we didn't have guests!
I haven't tried epo, is that to encourage ewcm?? I think I probably should invest in that and preseed very soon!! Always good to try new things. I usually ovulate CD13, but had a couple of early ones too before my last bfp (around 11/12), like I say would rather not go that early again as I want my uterus in optimum nick!

Day after temp drop would most likely be OD wouldn't it? So if you're going to pick any day, that'll be the one! So many people get pg after one attempt, so don't rule yourself out yet, he may have released a tonne of decent swimmers that day, you only need 1! Glad he had a good attitude, keep it light and fun!

Ahhh tee he sounds lovely and like you had an awesome Christmas! Yeah it helps with the lining and ewcm and god you can tell the difference only take it from cd1-ovulation as after ovulation I can cause issues with implantation but I felt the difference after 3 days on it! I also used preseed which I have to admit was a bit odd but whatever it takes! I also used the diva cup after sex so like you said it only takes once and I did everything physically possible so you never know I suppose. But still quite calmly ignoring it and assuming I haven't after I got my hopes up so much last month.

I know it's a little early but happy new year ladies - I hope there are bfps all round in 2017! xx

Thanks kiki tee jam for the good wishes.

You ladies, old and new have been a great part of my life this year. Sharing the most intimate and emotional moments. You have supported me with no hesitation and I honestly want to thank you from the bottom of my heart for being awesome.

Here's to a new year with more blessings and experiences.Af you are not welcome. More bfps all round.

HAPPY NEW YEAR ALL🎈🎉🎈🎊🎈🌟

Never would I have predicted the highs and lows of this year (ttc and otherwise)! I feel like we know each other, which is a bit mad, but thank you all for being my support group!!

Happy new year all!

Think Im about 9dpo, but not even thinking about testing in the near future - no symptoms and dtd was light on the ground during fw!

Also thanking you for the kind support you have given me you all are my dearest friends. Can hardly speak to close friends about everything but you girls know everything even my cm in my knickers lol
Love you to bits. Def would love to meet up one day to laugh about all this.

Wishing you all BFPs in the new year and good health xx

Counselling I have suggested.. he has agreed. He came over to see us today (tried to find out out if I was going out I think.. lol suspicious. ? Was invited to a party organised by his sister but declined. I just want to spend the new year in with just me and my boys at his mums. Baileys and scrabble.. how life has changed! Will see what happens in the new year, but think I'm going to have to wipe the tears and just get on with it.. swallow this hurt let him get his way FOR NOW! And see what happens. Got to save the marriage for now.

Onwards and upwards..lets face this new year with strength positivity and some blooming BFPs!!

It's really good he's agreed to counselling footy just make sure that when you go you are honest about you want and need too!

I know what you mean about knowing you guys so well! Tell you more than anyone and it's bizarre to think we've never even met!

Wishing lots of fun, hope, luck and good times to all you in 2017

Hi girls hope you had a good start to the new year. My evening took a sad turn when my grandma sadly passed away just after midnight. I left hers yesterday after some lovely time spent with her and I had a feeling it would be the last time I would see her. I will always cherish that time we had , and having had her in my life. She was a one off, my Gran.

I hope you are all doing okay. Good to hear from you tee. That's great news about your cycle, I really don't think it'll be long before we see your next BFP. Your body is clearly ready and DH doing his job perfectly! Fx for you.

I love preseed beagles what did you think? I'm a bit unsure about softcups I'm a bit worried they might kill sperm?! Sperm seem like sensitive things! But then softcups on amazon have all these reviews saying they helped me get pregnant so they can't hurt I guess ?

Mimi happy new year to you too, I very much share your sentiment about sharing this journey with you lovely ladies 💐💐

Footy that's great he has agreed to marriage counselling, a really positive step for you and could lead you to a healthier happier relationship all round. As tee said marriage is not always easy and does take work to make it work.

Footy that's great he has agreed to marriage counselling, a really positive step for you and could lead you to a healthier happier relationship all round. As tee said marriage is not always easy and does take work to make it work. Wishing you a happier 2017 hon 🎊

Sorry to hear about your gran jam at least you got a chance to see her one last time. Look after yourself the next few weeks!

The preseed was a bit odd I have to admit the application especially but if it works so be it! The softcups are made of medical grade silicone so I can't imagine they'd be bad for it really. Well hopefully not! It was partially to try and help things along and also because I really hate the mess.

Yes they really do help with the mess! I'm just being paranoid. Anything that affects that sperm!

It's only the same as the "collection condoms" they use in some fertility clinics I suppose. I think if it wasn't medical grade silicone I'd be a bit more cautious but as it is it's worth a go! Plus they are so easy to use now I've used them for af a few times.