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[MotherOfBeagles]

Hi ladies!

Sorry I didn't want to lose you all as at the in law weekend so thought I'd start a new one!

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Jam - no I don't use anything I only know roughly from the fertility meds as they give you a window and from scans to check when I'd ovulated, think I'd get too o sessive with anything else and nice to keep a little mystery! Keep us posted on your fertility appointments am happy to help with any questions if I can and don't worry about it all it can be daunting to begin with but they are fab xx

Beagles - have the GP given you any inhalers?
I think you are right we should probably add some days on the end just in case - DTD every other day was a successful game plan last time!

Tee - glad you are happy and excited! thanks for the food list, thankfully I'm quite good with some of them and we always detox in Jan from alcohol and bad food so fingers crossed it'll help us! I use seven seas trying for a baby ones, you can get them at a reasonable price for a bulk buy on Amazon xx

I think someone should write a blog and turn it into a book - I certainly didn't realise how common it is for people to struggle with fertility and miscarriages until I experienced it and I would've felt so much better reading someone else's experience. We are very open about it but I hate that there is such a taboo, women should not go through this alone!

London no not tested... still spotting this morning. Got up thinking AF would be in full flow as that is what would normally happen but not yet.

Hi radders 😊 glad to hear everything is going well! I can't believe you are 33 weeks 😳 not long to go now. You must be so excited!

Thanks Kiki that's sweet of you to offer. I'm really hoping our first appointment comes soon.

Feeling low again today. It's the second half of my cycle - the hormone shift sends me lower and lower until I get my period again. Just feeling like it's never going to happen ☹️

tee that's lovely and exciting, is it your twins first? I'm wrapped up in a fluffy dressing gown and hiding in my armchair. Also I take those seven seas supplements too =] can you take epo or are you already taking it?

jam you should it can be really carthartic.

Hope you managed to get some rest radders!

Nope kiki no inhalers I've had a bit of a fight to even get anyone to acknowledge how serious it was at its worst. Ended up getting a formal complaint in about a locum GP who said I was ill because I was fat and shouldn't be ttc because that would be selfish and irresponsible. Fat people shouldn't have babies apparently. So I'm pretty fed up with them, the only nice one is the nurse practitioner. (Fwiw in Mmm not crazy overweight just a stone or two but have regular blood pressure and diabetes tests and both are literally spot on). I also totally agree going through this alone would be hell, would go insane without you ladies. There are loads of ttc blogs out there though.

durez that's crap I really hope something decides to do something soon.

jam sorry you're feeling low today. Keep yourself busy and try not to dwell too much.

Temp gone up today so wondering if I have ovulated. Even managed to dtd last night, Sod's law he's feeling better and I'm feeling worse but guess who gets on with it! Grr lol

I'm taking one of my competition horses for her pre season check up at the vets this morning so no doubt will get caught out 😂🙄🙄

Hie ladies
Hope you all had a lovely Christmas. Well af started yesterday, 3 days late. I'm so lost for words. Had a bit of excitement over xmas when af didn't show and was planning to poas when I got back home but no luck once again. what a bummer!

I am gutted, exhausted, frustrated, sad. I don't know if I do have the strength to continue ttc.lt gets more and more depressing each month the witch shows.

Rooting for your bfps and wishing you better luck my friends. Nice to hear from the grads

Caved and bought a CBD test on route to the vets... Not Pregnant so now just keeping fingers crossed AF appears either today or tomorrow and nothing bizarre is going on. Been spotting now very lightly for 5 days which is not normal for me at all.

Sorry mimi love, I know how much it gets you down. Are there other things you can turn your focus to in 2017 that will help make you happier and more fulfilled? keep trying but stay sane / distracted and living your life to the full? For me taking up pottery was one way to do this.

Hi lovely ladies,

I too still read almost every day. Willing you all on.

I'm stunned about your hubby Footy. You are in my thoughts.

I'm now 34+3 weeks although a recent growth scan showed that baby is measuring wayyyyy ahead. Projected birth weight is over 10lbs. I'm hoping that I go myself now mid - end January before he gets too big! I'm still suffering sickness on and off, awful sciatica and PGP. Baby is very healthy though so that's all that matters.

Hi to all the newbies too.

Had a smear today (it's been three years?!?!) and mentioned I was worried about thyroid as was previously medicated and that I'd booked an appt to discuss in Jan, and the Sister has given me a blood test order thingy so getting that done tomorrow so I can discuss results with gp during appointment! It was brilliant. Probably the best smear I've ever had!

Seems like a lot of positivity on this board (even though a lot of unanswered questions.... hurray! And yes, I've been on the brandy!

Beagles how's that temp? I hope your DH is still enjoying some DTD with you. That GP locum sounds absolutely awful, I'm glad you complained. How can someone in their profession be so judgemental 😔😠

Mimi hope you're okay hon also thinking of you footy any news?

Tee hope the new TTC foods are going well? I've treated myself to some herbal teas with ginger lemon etc to have a nice caffeine alternative

Very efficient appointment kate! Where are you with TTC now - are you starting again in the new year?

Glad all is well jodders and hope all the other pregnant ladies and mums doing well.

Ah and I'm day 22, 6 DPO , not much to report. Keep dreaming about pregnancy 🙄😠 last night my lesbian friend Harriet told me she was pregnant with her gay friend after having sex once. I broke down and howled that I'd be trying for over a year with nothing 😩

These dreams can do one. I think about TTC enough when I'm awake! 🙄

My best mate is an obstetrician and spoke to another one of her fertility specialists colleagues for me about our sperm result. They also said low morphology is not something to worry about when all other parameters are normal. That is at least three doctors who've said it now. I need to start taking this on board and stop googling.

The specialist also said "Make sure they are having lots of sex. At least 3-4 times a week, throughout the cycle"

So that's my approach for the next cycle 👍🏼

Jem, just a thought, I understand its difficult especially when you get use to a certain position but any chance you can try different positions? I use to do all one way many years ago and only after a drunken night (which seemed to be the case twice) I fell pregnant. Wondered if this was why for me as I had that tilted cervix.

I've got a tilted uterus so this has occurred to me hon. I will definitely try this but last time we did from behind DH couldn't finish. He really does prefer me on top, a lot. Will see if we can mix it up a bit! How are you??

Men do seem to want their way in bedroom!
Other option that occurred to me once was a home insemination kit! Funny how we resort to trying anything and everything. Never tried it, but I do know someone who did and it worked.
It's a tricky subject to raise I guess with him, so u may have to tread careful. Maybe get his tipsy? Could that work. Tell him you fantasise a different way sometimes? Worth considering options though.

I'm not great tbh Jam, I still can't make sense of it. He has now fallen out with his mother up north and staying at his sisters house. His mother went mental. She phoned me in tears and insisted I come up and stay with them as she wanted the boys to have her presents. After a lot of persuasion I have come up to Lancashire. Moment of madness and over 5 hr drive I'm here. Big effort to try save this marriage but still unsure how to. Only can think it's a midlife crisis.!?

Oh love ☹️ I really do feel for you. I'm glad his mum sees things from your POV and hope the boys are enjoying time with their gran. Do you want to make it work with him?

Jam I do because I really love him and I wanted another baby but part of me is broken inside that he can be so flippant to walk away from us as his family. Is it bad that I feel this way? I got my hopes up for a baby.?

Anything that you feel is perfectly normal. HE has made you feel this shit. Your feelings should not make you feel even worse. They are perfectly normal. It's not crazy that you wanted a baby with the man you love, even if it turns out he is a massive shit.

You wanted another baby and were in a stable and loving relationship. Do not feel betrayed by your own emotions.

Morning ladies hope everyone is well,

Jam - forgive me if I'm telling you what you already know but my fertility dr gives us a window to DTD because of the clomid which for a 28 day cycle is days 10-17 and she said every other day during that window as you need to build up a reserve of sperm ready to meet the egg (where it can live for up to 5 days i guess you get a reservoir lol). My dh prefers me on top too and it worked for us!

Footy - hope you are OK and just do what you feel is right, he needs to make the same effort too and you need to make sure you are happy not just trying to make him happy xx

Mimi - keep your chin up I know how hard it can be and how disappointing it is but see if you can distract youraelf, easier said than done but it will happen xx

Beagles - I'm surprised the Dr hasn't been better with you it's not good if it keeps coming back. Hope you are feeling better xx

Hello pregnant ladies it's been lovely reading about your growing babies how exciting! Glad to hear all is well xx

AF finally arrived this afternoon, very light but here! So I can start the new cycle.

Of course it isn't bad and you shouldn't feel bad footy . Why do you think he has really done this, do you think it could be some kind of breakdown?

Kiki what your specialist said is pretty much what we do so that makes me feel better

Sorry durez but at least you can crack onto the next cycle, as you say

Jam I think he just wants his own selfish way. It's laughable the things he's complained about and just feels not in control of the house. Basically he wants his way or the highway.
Kate- yes he's made me feel crap. Feel a bit pushed into the corner. But don't know what I'm supposed to do. I can't even think about us on our own it's too painful so will try to salvage what's left of our relationship for now to get some answers at least. I can't just walk away I'm too weak Kate! Sad to say but I just can't do it. Great for the Christmas diet all this stress.. half a stone gone!

Durez - Sorry AF got you

Grads- so pleased you are ok and blooming well. Not long now, thanks for your kind words.

I just can't help check this board as feels like you are my family and really miss you. So I'm hear to stay.. only difference is I have no sperm available. Would like to support you all regardless. X

Foot deciding to stay is not a sign of weakness. It's by far the more difficult thing to do in a lot of cases! As long as it is a decision you don't get pushed into but the thing that you want to do, you are so much stronger than you know!

Foot deciding to stay is not a sign of weakness. It's by far the more difficult thing to do in a lot of cases! As long as it is a decision you don't get pushed into but the thing that you want to do, you are so much stronger than you know!