First time TTC - thread five!

[LisaSimpsonsbff]

Yet again we've managed to exchange nearly 1000 posts swapping our tales of peeing on sticks, dancing for babies, trying to stop Auntie Flo's all too frequent visits, and sometimes, just sometimes, of Big Fat Positives! So let's begin thread five with some updated stats. Me first...

Age 29
Cycle #4
Cycle day 1

Link to thread four: www.mumsnet.com/Talk/conception/2756020-first-time-ttc-thread-four?pg=1

Morning all - changed my name from User to Hippychic79 - for info.

thank you to all of you who replied to my 'when to test early Vs late' question.... like everyone else on here I find the 2WW horendous, the am I, aren't I scenario and the battle between being optimistic (symptom spotting, googling and reading what others have to say) Vs preparing yourself all over again to pee on opk's and getting your partner into the sack at the right time (without putting on the pressure which we all know takes a little bit of fun out of it a little).
I am CD 24 today.... AF due on Tuesday and at 37 I have to say - I'm proper fed up of her visits and desperately want to be a mum... I haven't got any tampax in the house as yet, as I don't want to welcome AF.... probably should get some though i guess, not like the buggers go out of date.
anyway enough rambling from me for now.
love and positive vibes to you all
xxxxx

Lisa the only reason not to have oral before TTC is because saliva can hinder the sperm from swimming once they get up there, so if for any reason the saliva gets mixed with the sperm then you might have a problem there. It acts in the same way as non-sperm friendly lube.

Hi all, I've been avoiding posting but I know Kirsty is probably going out of her mind waiting for me haha

So I'm pretty sure I'm out. Tested with ic on Tuesday with fmu and thought I saw a shadow of a line, used a FRER in the same wee and couldn't have been more negative. So spent all day waiting for AF, all the symptoms cramping, bad mood. Fucking foul mood. Feeling very deflated and sad. Put a safety pad on last night and still no af today, again all the symptoms but she's not showed her face.

Anyway I feel like shit and I'm totally fed up, I don't believe that I still have a chance, just more that Mother Nature is a dick.

So that's that.

Sorry you have to break mouse maybe it's going to do you some good, relaxing. I'm tempted to break myself this stress is nearly killing me.

Sorry for your loss coi

Welcome anyone new. Sorry for the long negative post.

Awww sending you big virtual hugs Blissfulignorance.

I know its easier said than done, but try not to get too down.... the Universe and mother nature has your back - you just got to keep the faith.

I've read a book recently (not about conception, needed a break from reading about that) but about success ..... and it talks about that before all major success comes a little failure and the test is overcoming that with belief and faith. I won't go on anymore, as I don't want you to tell me to piss off.... :) lol

AF is an absolute bitch at the best of times but when you're TTC she's like your worse enemy.

To cheer yourself up you could try and make a list of all the good things in your life... I'm sure there are many.

Sorry to hear you have to break mouse

and so sorry for your loss coi xxxx

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Really sorry blissful. I was in your exact situation a week or two ago and it sucks.

Thanks for the advice mrsg. God, all the tedious details of TTC! It makes me sort of smile but also quite depressed when I remember when now DH suggested withdrawal as a contraceptive method in relatively early days of our relationship when we'd run out of condoms. How I raged! Didn't he know that I would obviously get pregnant from the precum! Fast forward six years...

Ah balls bliss, I'm so sorry you feel like crap - and rightly so, Mother Nature loves to try us. Come on the AF witch so you can get going again. Maybe you and DH can go out for dinner somewhere fancy tonight to take your mind off it.

Sorry for your loss and hello coi.

lisa that made me smile, ditto for me (especially with my all-girls-school education).

Really sorry Bliss and you are right mother nature is a dick. Look after yourself

Sorry Mouse that you have to take a break. Hope everything get sorted though.

Same Lisa - Even first month TTC oh we didn't use anything of course I'm pregnant - If only!

Basset Im still symptom spotting here also. Boobs are sore, dizzy also. I keep getting sharp pains in my stomach also right and left side. So tired all the time.
Yesterday I felt like yep this is the month, today not so much. Feel like its going to be the longest week.

Thanks ladies. Unfortunately no such luck Kirsty I'm starting another 3 nights tonight, I already know we are short staffed which just makes me want to hide.

I feel like I need a big deep breath but can't take one. I hate this rut and don't wish it on anyone.

Lisa I'm sure we have a digestive enzyme in our saliva which is probably bad news for swimmers.

Ah bliss - you're not alone, that's exactly where I was last month before taking a tracking break. Like I just couldn't find the motivation to do it all again - you're right, Mother Nature is a bitch and TTC can be SO tedious. I veer from feeling excited about it all to frustrated and terminally bored on a daily basis. Really hope you get an answer one way or the other soon

I can relate to the avoidance of prepping for next AF hippy - I use a mooncup and had to force myself to sterilise it before my trip.

Sorry to hear you have to postpone TTC mouse, but hopefully it'll be a good break from it all.

11dpo here and the only symptom I noticed yesterday and a bit this morning was sharp stabbing pains in my right side (similar to ov pain). Probably just trapped wind lol. My temp is still sky high (pic below) but I'm trying and failing to put this down to being in a different time zone. But, jet lag has meant I've temped at the same time uk time for the last couple of days. Arrrrgghh.

Just seen a bit of brown/pink spotting- tiny tiny amount think i'm around 8dpo- could this be implantation??

I don't know Walsh but I was about to say a similar thing. Determined not to symptom spot this month but have had tiny bit of pink spotting today on CD25 of 31 day cycle (probably 7 or 8 DPO, I don't temp).
Or Mother Nature is playing games.

Thanks ladies.
Having a break isn't really what I had envisioned for Christmas and new year but I really have no choice. Absolutely gutted if I'm honest. I have loads of EWCM today and yesterday and I can't act on it. But I'm CD18 today so I'm really hoping for a 30-40 day cycle so I can hopefully jump back on the TTC bandwagon next cycle.

Bliss, you're not out yet. PMA.

bliss I hope work isn't too tough. If this hasn't been a lesson in "everyone is fighting a battle you don't know. Be kind - always" then I don't know what is.

Ahh pjs exciting, I hope it's your month. The mood swings are just great, eh?

walsh and baguette that sounds quite hopeful to me, it's about the right timeline, isn't it?

mouse I'm sorry you're down about the break, can totally understand it and must be so frustrating to get EWCM. At least your body seems to be doing the right things and will be waiting for you when the MRI is done

just came back from an ultrasound (been cramping constantly.for the last 3 months) and been told I have pcos- now im even more deperate to be pregnant...

Have you been given a plan for the PCOS Walsh?

Mouse sorry you have to wait. Can you cram in the wine and rare steaks over Christmas?

Bliss good luck with work.

PJs hope you have a lovely Christmas in hopefully sunnier climes

Kirsty the timing seems about right for implantation bleed but I don't want to get my hopes up. Maybe AF is making an early Christmas visit. If it is AF I will look on the bright side and seriously overindulge in food you're supposed to avoid when pregnant.

I think by January whether I am pregnant or not I will look like I am given the food I plan to eat!

No JeNe the gp gets a report then apparantly will call me for hormone tests.. im now terrified.. im 30 and now scared I have left it to late to start trying.. they also say cut down sugar- i have 2 sugars in my tea and a sweet tooth.. rubbish :(

Walsh, have a look at a book called "big girls do it running by Jasinda wilder" disregard the title it's about a zero sugar all natural diet too.

JeNe I don't drink, but I might just bloody start lol. X

Ah Walsh - sorry to hear that, it must be a shock. I know it's hard (and I obviously would have a bit of a freak out myself) but try not to panic - lots of women conceive with PCOS. Hopefully you'll feel better once they give you a plan. I recently read 'It starts with the egg' and there was a plan in there for ladies with PCOS which you may find useful. Big hugs to you.

I'm feeling a bit AF crampy and cranky today (AF due on Monday) so I'm starting to lose hope

thanks everyone.
i will have a look at both of the books.
dont lose hope pjs pma all the way xx

mouse Sorry you're feeling rubbish about having to take a month off. Hopefully once mri is done you can get back on track :)

pj's really hope the crankyness isn't AF, all symptoms should be really similar still at this point with 5 days til you're due on?

Walsh hope you can get some useful advice, I know people personally who've got pregnant with little trouble with PCOS, it doesn't necessarily mean it'll be loads harder :)

bliss sorry you're feeling so crappy.

I accidentally peed on an opk this morning instead of a hpt absolute idiot. I was shaking I was so shocked to see a second line and then realised, ha!! I ov'd yesterday though I think, based on reasonably dark opk and the sore boobs finally, on day 32 of a normally 28 day cycle... Did manage to DTD day before ov (unbeknown to me! As no tracking til accident this morning) for first time in nearly 2 weeks soo once again teeny tiny chance. Catheter is out as of this morning so we're back on track hopefully.

Hey everyone just checking in, congratulations kirsty!!
AF arrived for me on Weds so cd3 now on cycle 9. It's been liberating not temping. I'm trying hard to relax (I know, what a contradiction!!) - I've downloaded a meditation app called Headspace and try to do a bit every night. Trying not to get stressed about the small things, keep talking to myself "It's not important Eva" haha - what a loon.
Hope you are all well.
pjs really hope it's not AF. Hope you have a lovely xmas with your family with some sun hopefully!
bliss keep your chin up, keep going, we will get there in the end
walsh my cousin has PCOS and got pg on cycle 1!
mouse sorry about the break - suppose it's an opportunity to properly relax over Xmas but I know that must be frustrating

Best wishes to you all xx

Eva! Hello lovely, thanks for the congrats. I really feel like you're doing the right thing with your meditation (even if you feel like a crazy lady). Sorry about the AF but sounds like you are in quite a positive place. I'm glad the no-temping is working out. F(and toes)X for you both.

Really sorry that you're feeling down about needing the break, mouse. At least the scan date is quite soon? It's still rubbish, though.

I hope you're feeling a bit better today, bliss.

Lots of people getting towards the end of the 2ww and symptoms galore! Good luck all!

Confusion here, because I just got a flashing smiley on cd12 when I don't normally ovulate until cd19/20. Hoping for an earlier ov, but preparing myself for an annoying week of flashing smilies...

Hello there Eva! I'm a big big fan of Headspace and meditation The no temping is very liberating, I agree! Sorry to hear about AF but glad to hear you're looking after yourself.

12dpo here and I do have symptoms, but they could easily be AF. Irrationally had a go at my mum for turning some lights off in the lounge last night and stomped to my room like a bloody teenager last night - classic AF loon behaviour. But, a lucky lady on another thread with same dpo as me had bad moods and cramping and has just got her BFP, so my fingers are still crossed!