2 week wait - again!

[catlover1987]

It's that time of the month again. The dreaded two week wait. 3rd month of trying and 1st month using ovulation kits.

Last month I convinced myself I was pregnant and obviously wasn't so trying not to do that this month.

Finding the whole process very draining to be honest. DH and I don't have very high sex drives. We're normally once a week people and are both fine with that. So having to do the deed when neither of us really want to is not as fun as I'd hoped! But we managed 3 times in ovulation week this month so fingers crossed.

Anyone else want a 2ww buddy?

[charley2016]

Yeh not had any since the month before the wedding! Although I'm not enjoying my already wrinkly head now that I'm not used to it

I'd like to say I'm just trying to get in tune.... but no!! I'm just bloody crazy! 6 days!! 6!!! Wouldn't even have implanted I don't think

[36plusandtrying]

City I live in oz ! I hear you about the forehead charley ... mine is wearing off and can't get it done again really scared I left it too later and I'm actually not ovulating at all.(and trying to hide all of this from my hubby - and don't want him to think I'm mad)

[citybumpkin]

We are not mad! DP knows of my testing and calls me a geek (then asks all sorts of questions and googles my responses - he probably knows more than me)

[36plusandtrying]

Grr - the line was darker last night ... think I'm missing the window have a very short period 2days max and that finished sat !! Bugger think I'm cocking this right up - only had sex Tuesday !! Or sex that would be useful at least (sorry tmi)

[charley2016]

Hmm are you CD8 then? Probably a little early to be ovulating unless you have very short cycles?

My DH is the same! Tried to hide it from him so as not to stress him out but last week he was asking ever day if I was ovulation and if he could see the sticks. Now i get asked every day if I feel pregnant! I think it makes it worse as I'll just feel bad for him as well as myself if nothing happens!

[36plusandtrying]

Sorry what is cd8 !! I have no idea of lingo

[charley2016]

Sorry! It's calendar day. You count the first day of your period as day 1.

For example I tend to have 27 day cycles and they say average time people ovulate is 14 days before the last day, therefore I tend to ovulate on CD13.

[citybumpkin]

36 lucky you re the short period! Isn't all sex useful? . My cycle is anything between 30-32 days so I think I ovulate around CD15. You will get the hang of it. More useful sex would be a start!

Yes Charley I'm just awaiting a spreadsheet from DP. He was overly enthusiastic about my mooncup at one point.

[Kskifred]

temps keep going up too, god knows what's going on

[Tinkerbell2319]

Hi all

I'm in the 2WW again after what looks like an extremely late ov this cycle, the time I was supposed to be ov my opks got darker but never positive, AF didn't arrive, yet had BFNs on IC and FRER but then out of the blue decided to do an OPK on Wednesday which was definitely positive. Started temping the last week or so and I know it means nothing unless you have a month to compare it to or whatever but temp spiked this morning so I think that means ov was yesterday? Have been DTD lots since the +ive OPK so we'll see hopefully we caught it!

1dpo (I think correct me if I'm wrong?) CD34

[citybumpkin]

Hey tinkerbell, FX for you in the wait. Cycles can be all over the place so its difficult to know when you ovulate. I think mine are usually on time apart from the one in March this year which was a really short cycle and very heavy AF which I think may have been a chemical.

[walsh86]

Hi, hope you dont mind me joining-
Have no idea what im doing- have been cramping for about 2 months, backache- have booked in an ultrasound to check everything is ok with my insides (lost both my parents to cancer recently so being over cautious)
DTD i believe 4 days before and 2 days before ovulation (but not sure I 100% ovulated as in pain anyway- and now waiting, thought I would be chilled about it but its all i think about.
Its only 4dpo but i am feeling ill, in pain, teary- but dont know if this just because I want it so much, this is DC1 would really like some good news this year.

[charley2016]

Hi to all the new people! Good luck

Well I said I wouldn't symptom spot but really I had no symptoms too spot anyway... until last night! I was sat on the sofa and was suddenly exhausted and sound asleep in 2 mins. Woke up absolutely drenched in sweat, hair soaked the lot! Went through to bed and then woke up freezing. Woke in the morning feeling fine. We DTD and I actually screamed when DH touched my chest. Felt totally fine apart from that until I got in the shower and came over all dizzy and had to sit down on the edge of the bath. Have felt fine since and I'm probably just over analysing but you know

[citybumpkin]

Haha Charley! And did you test? I succumbed this morning and a BFN. All week I've been having lower back pain and am convincing myself that its a symptom.

[Kskifred]

So i'm back to thinking/feeling pregnant, but big fat bfn still, af due tomorrow so guessing that is it but i feel different

[SellMySoulForSomeSleep]

I'm on my 4th month now. I've got an app and using the sticks. I know it's not long but I'm fed up. Due on in a week. I'm not hopeful even though we had sex a few times in the window. Good luck everyone!

[citybumpkin]

I think we will ourselves to feel differently and then when AF arrives its a massive disappointment. Here I've now got indigestion (never have it), lower back pain and an aversion to wine (unheard of). Its only 5 dpo ffs.

[charley2016]

I did an IC this morning but with second urine and I'm only 8DPO. Period not due until Friday so was probably no point in testing to be honest haha! I think you ladies are right though, the speculation just makes AF arrival worse. Just back from a family tea, 3 people asked if we were trying yet and my mum says oh will you hurry up and get trying

[citybumpkin]

Oh Charley just tell them to f the f off. At least you get "you're trying" all I've received is "well you obviously were never meant to have children".

[charley2016]

Oh my god that's horrific! Please tell me people don't actually say that? I was very close with the f's

[Kskifred]

So i just did a clear blue test (obsessed) the non digit one with the cross...is it normal for as its being absorbed to show a very strong positive cross?! As it settled the strong line disappeared and just the horizontal one left. If they all do this surely that is a cruel trick!

I have gone cross eyed staring and think i might be able to make out the squintiest of squinty lines - not convinced though think i will have to wait until tomo and buy a FRER.

It was the strongest positive ever for about 2/3 seconds though before calming down, felt elated the deflated all in one breath! That design flaw is just mean!!

[citybumpkin]

Unfortunately they do. Luckily you are far younger than me so there is obviously "hope for you yet". Others, media included, do not realise that some women do not intentionally leave TTC until late in their lives. Circumstances are such i.e. infertility or not finding the right partner, that we don't TTC until late 30s/early 40s. Hell, in an ideal world I would have loved to have children with my ex ex partner but he was a philanderer. The next one was a dubious potential father and a philanderer (as I discovered when he left). I have a good career but am not devoted to it and I am not dancing the night away every single day. Some people (yes, media you as well) seem embroiled in the traditional i.e. meet someone in your early 20s, have some fun, get married mid-late 20s, have children early 30s, live happily ever after. Sorry but society, and more importantly people, has changed.

Sorry, had to get that off my non-breastfeeding-busom-as-I-am-too-old.

[charley2016]

Oh city I'm so sorry! I'm in childcare management and run 6 different settings and I can honestly say that the majority of our parents are 30s-40s. I don't see any issue! I think you can be more experienced, more relaxed etc.

My family were all very young, generally 16-18 (my mum had me at 14) and while she did an absolutely amazing job, it's was very hard in teenage years and I feel a bit sad that she didn't get to go some of the things she had wanted.

So while I'm obviously still young (25 next month) my whole family constantly think there's something wrong as they are all super fertile (which makes me panic more now). Especially given then I'm the one in childcare! But I have worked full time and studied constant for 9 years and I finish my degree in May so it's only now and being married that I feel ready.

[citybumpkin]

Thanks Charley. Most of the time I'm positive about my age - we can do anything if we put our minds to it - but then with other life events and reading so much negativity around other mums, you gradually get worn down.

Blimey! Your family start early. I thought my mum was an early starter at 21. I try to seek solace in the fact that both my grandmas had children in their late 30s and early 40s. I am therefore just (hopefully) carrying on that tradition.

25 is early but you know your own mind/body so why not!

[36plusandtrying]

2 week waiting starts for me again - praying for a Christmas miracle ! Due on the 25th !