Thread 20 TTC #1 - We. Want. Babies.

[AlexiaB]

Hugh enjoys ISW and his love affair with Doreen. He watches out for skittle tits and weepyitis. Mrs Arseholey Fucknut (AF) shows up when you least want her but brings wine and soft cheese as a consolation prize.

We don't have rules as such but expect to be talked down from the ledge with kind and well meaning but firm words if you get too hysterical. But most importantly don't convince yourself you're pregnant in the tww. That is paramount! It messes with your head and makes you crazy crazier.

We don't get a lot of baby dust in these here parts. We want a fanny full of determined Doreen, not unicorn farts and gnome tears with extra sparkle. We've been going a while now so the novelty has somewhat worn off and we're slightly battle scarred and bruised in the cervix area.

Post your stats and add your dates. A more lovely, supportive group of ladies you couldn't wish to meet. We like it when the grads stick around too. No question is too daft. We have opk experts, temp experts, cervical mucus management teams and symptom spotters extraudinaire!

kwick sounds like you picked lovely spermies! That's annoying about the UK donors. I can see why men wouldn't want to donate!

skipper ooh yes forgot you were doing a trial - can't wait to hear how it goes!

Mrs try not to get hung up on one day's temperature. I know it's hard! But you're not that close to AF yet (unless you have a shorter luteal phase). At 10dpo it could still be an implantation dip! (I can't really talk as I'm worrying about mine today too!)

Jem sorry that you're feeling down today. I try and think of it statistically. Just because you don't conceive in the early months doesn't mean you can't - loads of people just take longer, especially for their first. It's just annoying that we aren't the early people!!

Tenner that sounds so horrible of your friends! Hope it was just a misunderstanding. Can sympathise with the house buying stress. Facial and massage sound like the perfect solution!

Flutter umm I would be getting excited if I were you. Every chart I have ever stalked that had a day or two of brown spotting has ended up with being pregnant! I would test in a few days to give the hcg levels time to get into your system of they're there!

MrsG you're soooooo not out. Still way above the cover line. Your temp might go up and down above that line and still be upduffed no problem. It's when it goes BELOW the line you worry.

Thanks everyone. I hope it goes back up a bit tomorrow. If not then I'll know by Saturday when I test and can have a good commiseration drink at the party if its a BFN!

Mrs you can defs be pregnant and it still give you a BFN at 12dpo. Even if you use a very sensitive test. It just depends when you have implanted. If you implant late then the hormones won't have built up enough to show on the test yet.

But I don't worry about not drinking in the tww. I have a glass or two of wine every now and then. Other people have more or less so it's quite a personal thing.

Thanks Music that's true I guess, I have no idea when AF will turn up to be honest. I'm dreading it since its my first "proper" period, I normally get bad cramps for a day or two but I'm worried they're going to be horrific!

MrsG is this the first cycle off the pill? For you to have a chart like that I'd say that's really good. I wouldn't rule yourself out at all. Your never out until AF arrives. Look at me!! CD49 today!! Lol

It is Mouse, I'm really surprised my cycle has settled so quickly. I finished the pack and had my usual 7 day break (combined pill) then ovulated on CD17 so everything looks to be working...

I think its harder with the mini pill as you don't normally have withdrawal/breakthrough bleeds so it just takes a little time for you body to remember what it should be doing. Really hope it happens for you soon

Kwick - ah okay that makes sense, but I personally think the child has a right to know. Do you know if the donation bank provides support for the potential meet-up? It could be so messy emotionally.

Jem - you have described a process I go through maybe bi-monthly. It's really hard sometimes, it's worse when I see others having more success than me. But you are safe here in this lovely group, we all get how you feel xx

Music - it's literally just peeing into a pot every morning, and from cd7 using the ovulation kit. OH has got used to the container in a fridge with a biohazard warning on it now. Hee hee.

I am so so busy this week, have hardly had a chance to think about babies and TTC. Doing my first session of Yoga tonight too.

MrsG - it took about a year for my periods to get as painful as they used after coming off the pill. You may be the same? My periods themselves were normal from cycle 1, very lucky. Sounds like you may be exactly the same.

Was just telling my pregnant friend that I am going out for steak tonight. She started talking about the harm that steak and booze can do to an unborn baby (she doesn't know that I'm ttc). Now I feel bad because I'm in my tww. It's a dilemma. I seriously doubt that I'm pregnant and I don't want to have to put my life on hold in every tww but she also said that she read up on the affect of alcohol on early pregnancy and that it's pretty much an all or nothing thing, i.e. in the first few weeks it will either terminate your pregnancy or have little effect. I don't want to terminate my potential (but likely non existent) pregnancy! The she was saying about how she was on holiday and drinking loads when they conceived as they weren't really trying

Music what exactly has she read that supports that? Unborn babies don't start taking nutrients from the mother until the placenta develops (around 5 weeks) so I highly doubt that drinking a bit of wine and eating a steak would have much effect.

How many people find out they're pregnant shortly after going on a full on bender?! Their babies are fine.

Music - your friends logic is bizarre, all or nothing? So people either loose their baby or they don't. That means there is no evidence to support the argument. MrsG is bang on the money, I certainly wouldn't worry about it harming a disconnected bean. Don't get wasted or anything but a few drinks will be fine.

You ladies keep so busy! I think I'm up to date and then I check in and have another 50 odd messages to catch up with!

Sorry as am the app so struggling to mention all but am thinking of you on TWW- fingers crossed some BFPs are on the way! And so sorry about your crappy times Jem and Tenner

I'm on CD7 after my late and horrific AF, and getting ready to get back into the every 2-3 days game on my way to FW. Like others, it's once I hit the TWW i go crazy as until then I feel i have some control- thinking I should book loads of stuff for week after next to help keep my shit together!

I am not sure sk1pper but I had to have "implications counselling" before being able to continue. I do not know much about my donor - I figured I would buy the additional info once I got my BFP ready for when the questions come.

Took day off work to get over lurgy - feeling progressively worse though

I guess the steak thing is due to the risk of toxoplasmosis. Just have it well done

I have decided that we need a BFP round about now - who will oblige?

not me.

fuck it. just booked gp appointment in 2.5 weeks time, when i will be over 9 weeks post EPRC. It will also be 6 months from my last AF.
(EPRC was seven weeks ago tomorrow).

i'll also book my smear soon as well.

no sign of fucking anything.

hope you feel better soon kwick

Hi everyone, we're getting to the end of the week!

It's been a busy, full on time at work for me so I've not been able to keep up to speed on here but also not given much brain time to TTC so that's been good.

CD25 here and DP went off to work with two vials of my blood to drop at the lab. He also did his business in a pot and handed that in at lunch (with semen in it, obviously, not shit ).

I continue to have an odd cycle. After not getting any positive OPKs I have EWCM today. I never get EWCM - not even in past months when I have had a positive OPK! I guess I'm having one of those weird cycles we all have from time to time. Just hoping I don't end up waiting weeks and weeks for AF to turn up...

Sorry you're feeling poorly, Kwik. Get plenty of rest, drink tea and look after yourself. Your work schedule is so insane that you must be permanently running on adrenaline. It's not sustainable for the long term so please put yourself first and stay off work until you're fit and well.

Music, in the nicest way, your friend is talking bollocks. Please don't stress and just live your life sensibly. The consultant I saw last week at the hospital had no issue at all with moderate drinking while TTC.

Tenner sorry to hear your friends have been such dicks. It must be very hurtful but your OH sounds lovely. I hope you are feeling less upset about it soon - some people are not worth being miserable over .

Welcome Flutter and York! We fairly often get new people on the thread who go and get their BFP soon after they join so fingers crossed for you both! Should you be here longer please feel free to share all manner of moaning, tears, laughter and weirdness.

Hope your TWW isn't too difficult Jem. I know this is the hardest time for you . Do you have some acupuncture sessions to help? It looks like it's going to be nice weather at the weekend so hope you and DH can get outside and have lots of fresh air and enjoy the autumnal crispness.

Anyone off to a good bonfire night this weekend? We were hoping to go to Lewes but the train strikes have scuppered that. Bit disappointed as I love fireworks/bonfires and all things cold and festive. We shall be going to Kent instead and watching a display in a school field . Oh well, there will be mulled wine!

Hep.
Really sorry. It's shit.

Tenner wtf why would her dp not invite you? I'd be so upset too. That's lovely of your dp to book you a facial and massage. Good man.

Bottle of wine and chill sounds heaven mrsg I have the odd glass in the TWW. Thank god as that would have been half the year without booze worth cutting down though I think

Enjoy your yoga skipper I really need to get back into that

Hi binky good idea to book distractions in the TWW!

Hugs hep

Excellent work inspector and good news on EWCM. I usually get it a day or two before +OPK. I don't have acupuncture but i do have my pottery evening classes which I love. I'm also hoping to tag along on DH work trip to Cape Town next week so that'll be a nice distraction. Good luck for your test results.

Welcome York & Flutter.

Jem that's exactly how I feel too. How did this become our lives xx

Hope you feel better soon Kwick. Try & get some rest if you can.

Keeping my FX for you Mrs.

Tenner how mean of your friends, hope ur ok.

Hep I'm so sorry there's no AF yet so rubbish.

Well we've been having a good FW. DH has been great, he's been making the moves on me to initiate sex. We've hit every other day since Friday. Due to DTD tonight & I've got some EWCM. DH has just said he feels very stressed & he has to be up really early so doesn't want to do it tonight. I've been very nice about it but it's hard not to feel disappointed. He's promised we'll DTD tomorrow & Sunday. I hope we can still catch that egg.

Wooooow yoga was amazing, so relaxing. No class for two weeks now though cos of venue trouble boooo.

Kwick hope you feel better soo .
And look how many thigs i have to take before hycosy

Nicky oh my god is this the test with the dye?

Great effort starmist I don't think it'll make much difference if you miss tonight but do it tomorrow.

Omg Nicky especially the rectal one!

Nicky - sorry you've probably already said, but how did you get yourself put in for a hycosy? I mean is it part of a long series of fertility testing. Although your list is slightly horrifying, I really, really want this done.