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Thread 19 TTC#1 Just. Keep. Swimming.

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AliceScarlett · 27/09/2016 10:42

Hugh enjoys ISW and his love affair with Doreen. He watches out for skittle tits and weepyitis. Mrs Arseholey Fucknut (Af) shows up when you least want her but brings wine and soft cheese as a consolation prize.

We don't have rules as such but expect to be talked down from the ledge with kind and well meaning but firm words if you get too hysterical. But most importantly don't convince yourself you're pregnant in the tww That is paramount! It messes with your head and makes you crazy crazier

We don't get a lot of baby dust in these here parts. We want a fanny full of determined Doreen, not unicorn farts and gnome tears with extra sparkle. We've been going a while now so the novelty has somewhat worn off and we're slightly battle scarred and bruised in the cervix area.

Post your stats and add your dates. A more lovely, supportive group of ladies you couldn't wish to meet. We like it when the grads stick around. No question is too daft. We have opk experts, cervical mucus management teams and symptom spotters extraudinaire!

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LondonJem · 28/09/2016 19:39

Forgot to add - it's helped me to force myself into some relaxing distractions. I ordered some new books to read, I've taken up yoga, been outdoor swimming lots, had weekly acupuncture and I'm doing evening classes in ceramics. I'm really loving all of these and they have helped me to feel more happy and relaxed generally. It was all the crying on the bus that did it - I thought Something has to change!! If there are a few things you can do regularly for yourself it really helps.

HepKestrel · 28/09/2016 19:41

hello starmist !

jem yes, i was almost getting a poas phobia at one point!

MouseLove · 28/09/2016 19:58

Sk1pper you can get a month trial for Netflix. Do that, it's great and only cheap if you really want to keep it. We have it, DH loves his documentaries.

London, good idea about keeping busy and active. I have the option of having some wellness treatments via a work health plan, think I might book myself some massages in the run up to Christmas. I also have a happy planner which I use to organise my life... I like to decorate the pages. Gives me another creative outlet. I think I should try and dedicate my evenings to a different hobby each night and stick to it.

AlexiaB · 28/09/2016 20:16

Welcome Starmist! I recognise you from the relaxed ttc thread? It's nice to see you here but obviously not nice that you're still TTC, too. I had to leave that thread because it was seriously depressing. When I joined the thread it was SO active and I loved it. Then it died as almost everyone got their BFPs within a month or so and only a few of us were left behind. It was too quiet and lonely. My 'buddy' Sophie is like 20 weeks now which is nice but terribly sad when you think about it.

Anyway I digress, I'm so sorry you're still going through this. Hopefully you/your DH will get the help he needs. We've had similar struggles but touch wood it's been much better recently dtd wise. It's more of a tiredness thing for us as we both work very long hours. Hope you feel okay soon CakeChocolate my moods are always up and down xx

bluebird3 · 28/09/2016 20:19

Hi all! Sorry I'm late to the new thread. That seems to be the only thing I'm late for these days

Age 30
Ttc #1
Cycle 20-21? (Old haggard and barren over here)

Investigations show #1 I don't ovulate (despite monthly periods every 28-29 days) and #2 dh has moderately low sperm count.

It's interesting to see the different routes people get sent down with the Nhs. I've had 2 rounds of day 3 and day 21 blood tests, then a rubella blood test and urine test (to rule out chlamydia) and dh has had a 2nd SA test to confirm the first low results. We will get results back in 3 weeks then finally a referral to fertility clinic.

Thanks for the info you got geeup

starmist and jem I've definitely been there and thought around 9-10 months was really hard. It's a bit easier now that I know there's a problem that can be worked on, but still have dark days. I still torture myself daily by getting on Facebook when I literally come away from it feeling horrible every single day. I've also stopped taking hpts most months as its just too depressing when I know it won't be positive.

HepKestrel · 28/09/2016 20:21

mouse i think i also need something to look forward to to distract me.

i think i've been talking about starting the c25k for ages !!! I was waiting till i stopped bleeding, but now i have work trip to europe next week (my first one since my cancelled 2 trips)...... i'll have to start when i get back !!!

I also have a new kitchen, which is at the stressful stage as opposed to the looking-forward to stage !!

other than that, i think i want to plan a long weekend for us to go west-coast scotland in the spring.

MouseLove · 28/09/2016 20:32

Hep I find holidays help with any kind of distraction. And to be honest, that's what we've been doing for the last 6 years. The last 3 in particular have been very hard for us. We had to stop TTC chat because I had to leave my job. I'm in a professional career and the bread winner so it really put a stop to everything. So we've been passing the time between holidays. I love little city breaks!! Looking to hopefully go away in November for DHs big 3-0 but just getting the logistics together is proving tricky. Next year will be the first for a while we haven't got any big holiday plans. Fingers crossed we will be occupied with something else!!

Starmist · 28/09/2016 20:32

Yes Alexia I was on that thread. I was really worried about you when you dropped off it. I was glad when I found you on here but was very sad to hear of your news Flowers

LoveYouTilTheEnd · 28/09/2016 20:38

Thanks for the info fishy & london I think he has to go there, I like the idea of the pics on his phone Wink

Welcome starmist

I've also given up with POAS other than OPKs, very disheartening!

hep that sounds like a lovely idea, getting away for a bit

AlexiaB · 28/09/2016 21:11

Thank you StarmistFlowers I do feel bad for completely dropping off mumsnet but I couldn't bring myself to type those words at the time. Everyone here is lovely and supportive so you should feel right at home in no timeSmile

bluebird pleased to read you're getting the help you need. Fx for your DH's results. Keep us updated x

POAS is such a massive waste of money isn't it? I'd much rather spend my money on happier things. I only have cheapies and refuse to buy a proper test until I see a decent line on one of those.

Musicgrrl · 28/09/2016 21:39

You all make good points about POAS! This is actually the first cycle I've been able to do it because in the others AF has come along so bloody early that it has always surprised me and not given me a chance to test! I guess I'll take that as my victory for this cycle. I can definitely understand how depressing it must be seeing a BFP after a few cycles. And a total waste of money! Sigh.

sk1pper thanks for sharing about your testing. You've made me feel much better about the fact that I did it too. I think we're all allowed a moment of weakness!

I like all of your comments about creative and productive distractions. I went for a (very slow) jog this evening and I have plans to attempt to make a pair or curtains this weekend so that should keep me busy! God, it makes my life sound so exciting doesn't it!!

sk1pper · 28/09/2016 21:55

I just ordered world of final fantasy, but have to wait till October till it's released. Something to look forward to :)

AliceScarlett · 29/09/2016 06:38

Will catch up later.
Been awake since 4am with what felt like AF pain, I'm on cd8... So? What? Finally got up and I'm spotting. On cd8. Sad Thank goodness I have a gp appt to discuss dildocam results and in 2 hours. But! I feel this is going to delay fertility tests, how can we talk about the results and today's bleeding and the fact I'm still not pregnant in 8min? I'll update. Going to go eat chocolate for breakfast and take some painkillers Sad

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AliceScarlett · 29/09/2016 06:39

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AliceScarlett · 29/09/2016 06:45

In a moment of madness I considered poas (the one precious frer left), but my last AF was the heaviest I've had since coming off the patch in December.
This is the best timed gp appt. I'd be freaking out if I wasn't seeing her today.

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geeup · 29/09/2016 07:21

Sorry you're spotting Alice. I often start spotting at 9dpo and it's infuriating. I hope the doctor has some good suggestions for you.
For everyone who is around month 9-12 trying, and feeling very upset, I would add to what someone else said (sorry - on phone and can't scroll) that it's kind of the most difficult time. I found hitting a year very hard but after that I have been sad but a bit resigned - you give up POAS and focus more on tests etc. I don't mean that to sound hopeless. I just mean your feelings are natural as you're coming to terms with things not being the way you imagined. If it makes you feel better, pissy stick away!

AliceScarlett · 29/09/2016 07:38

Thanks, I know what you mean, cycle ten was awful but cycle eleven has been chilled out, hope is a killer.

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sk1pper · 29/09/2016 07:59

alice - sorry your feeling this way, I'd take up as much as the docs time as possible, don't rush it. let us know how it goes

Musicgrrl · 29/09/2016 08:44

So sorry Alice, sounds rubbish. Good that you had an appointment in the diary today anyway. I hope the doctor will be helpful. I would also try and take up as much time as possible!

LondonJem · 29/09/2016 08:53

Hope your GP is helpful alice Flowers

Binkybunny13 · 29/09/2016 09:02

Good luck Alice- let us know how it goes. As someone involved in the NHS I know that sometimes you have to shout for what you want- don't be afraid to stand firm if necessary

LSFX

HepKestrel · 29/09/2016 09:11

Flowers Alice I hope you get some useful information today.

Tinkerbell2319 · 29/09/2016 09:24

Good luck today Alice X

LondonJem · 29/09/2016 09:25

kwick have you found us yet? Hope all is well.

HepKestrel · 29/09/2016 09:53

think i'm starting spotting again .... HmmConfused