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Thread 19 TTC#1 Just. Keep. Swimming.

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AliceScarlett · 27/09/2016 10:42

Hugh enjoys ISW and his love affair with Doreen. He watches out for skittle tits and weepyitis. Mrs Arseholey Fucknut (Af) shows up when you least want her but brings wine and soft cheese as a consolation prize.

We don't have rules as such but expect to be talked down from the ledge with kind and well meaning but firm words if you get too hysterical. But most importantly don't convince yourself you're pregnant in the tww That is paramount! It messes with your head and makes you crazy crazier

We don't get a lot of baby dust in these here parts. We want a fanny full of determined Doreen, not unicorn farts and gnome tears with extra sparkle. We've been going a while now so the novelty has somewhat worn off and we're slightly battle scarred and bruised in the cervix area.

Post your stats and add your dates. A more lovely, supportive group of ladies you couldn't wish to meet. We like it when the grads stick around. No question is too daft. We have opk experts, cervical mucus management teams and symptom spotters extraudinaire!

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HepKestrel · 02/10/2016 08:45

Flowers mouse

I have had no comments about me, but SIL has made comments about OH not wanting/liking kids?

How was I to correct her? So in my family people are assuming we don't want children....

sk1pper · 02/10/2016 09:12

starmist - I love talking to everyone here too, it's supportive and relieving. Feels like we're all in it together.

geeup - sorry to hear that xx

I've been texting my mother this morning about various things and mentioned I was up all night with period cramps. She's just informed me she was diagnosed with Endometriosis. I've just looked it up and my mind has been blown. This could be the reason I'm struggling, I'm glad I found it before my GP appointment.

kwick · 02/10/2016 10:03

Welcome notyetthere!!
Sorry about MC Flowers

skipper I thought raspberry lead can bring on AF? Confused

Welcome starmist!!

alice you should defo change GPs!!

Welcome haz!!
So sorry about your MC Flowers

Musicgrrl · 02/10/2016 10:15

I'm so annoyed. Wrote a really long message and then MN deleted it before I posted!

Musicgrrl · 02/10/2016 10:20

In summary:

mouse I work on the basis that I'll plan things as if no BFP because then I'll have nice things to look fwd to and if I get a BFP and it messes with those plans then I don't think id be too put out! Also it might invoke Sod's law. However I appreciate that where there's a lot of money involved it's a tougher decision.

skipper ooh that's interesting. What's the significance of endometriosis?

gee so sorry AF is here Flowers but hoorah for a new plan involving Clomid! Sorry if I've forgotten but what has doc said for you to do?

Hep I guess at least if there aren't expectations from your family then they shouldn't ask too many annoying questions. Although I hate it when people assume things about me that are totally wrong so can see how you could be annoyed!

MouseLove · 02/10/2016 10:37

Yeah hep we had a family party in June and one of my aunties asked with a sorry face "do you and DH not like kids then" (she is childless herself.) and then proceeded to tell me how wonderful life is without children. I wanted to punch her in the throat. I won't lie. Her sister then made a comment about my weight and 'probably not best you putting your body under that stress'. So I walked away. She made some comments towards my BIL (she thought she was having a laugh and joke) about his career choice (primary teacher) and about him not being very child friendly so he called her an arsehole (amongst other things) and she got the message you don't mess with us. This is someone we see maybe once a year at a push. I also have friends who keep asking when the babies are happening or hurry up and have babies. We've been married 8 yrs in June. It's wearing thin.

kwick · 02/10/2016 10:38

Lovely rainbow haz Grin

Hep I LOVE IKEA!!! Especially the meatballs Grin I actually found a smaller equivalent in Victoria station yesterday called "Hema" think it is Dutch - a cross between IKEA and Tiger... managed to spend £26 on who knows what!!! The joys of retail therapy!

Fanks snarky

LondonJem · 02/10/2016 10:44

Sorry geeup Flowers will this be your first shot at clomid?

That would explain the painful periods skipper. From what I understand endo can make conceiving harder but not impossible?

I don't seem to be able to get out of bed today BlushBrew

harrietm87 · 02/10/2016 11:05

Hello everyone, hi hep - I do remember you!

We haven't talked about TTC to anyone, though now we're married I think people will expect it. MIL is so excited about grandchildren. My mum is weird though - she's told my auntie she's desperate for them but has given me the impression she doesn't want me to have them - keeps saying I have plenty of time etc (I'm almost 30 so not young! Though she had me at 33) - maybe she doesn't want to put pressure on me? She lives overseas as well so I think it would be hard for her to be so far away from me.

Anyway, hope you all have a lovely Sunday

kwick · 02/10/2016 11:05

Mouse some MILs have no tact!! Rather glad I do not have one! I told loads if people when I started TTC - probably a few too many. But as I am single no one was pressurising me or asking awkward questions.
I know money should be a consideration and the following may sound very irresponsible but I am the only bread winner and I have already used up all my savings on treatment. I just kind of figure in the "Field of Dreams" - conceive it and it will come Grin

skipper you will get to use your names!!!

Sorry geeup Flowers

I have never been offered Clomid - what is it supposed to do?

Mouse if you book a holiday Murphy's Law will be enacted and you will get your BFP!

skipper get yourself to GP!!!

sk1pper · 02/10/2016 12:14

My mum got pregnant eventually (obviously) but it took her 18 months and I haven't really asked her if she had any treatment. Still trying to keep it a secret but the amount of questions I've asked her today she's probably already worked it out by now. So there's hope, will speak to my GP about it yes! I've just gone on a gluten free diet to the horror of my OH as its meant to help.

WingingIt83 · 02/10/2016 12:32

I'm at the point that i want to tell people like my mum, Mil etc. I feel that I want them to know that we're not being selfish or waiting until it's too late but that it's a work in progress. My mum and I don't really have that sort of relationship where we talk about intimate matters but i do know ttc took them a while and that she had to have a small op for a offset uterus and got preg immediately afterwards. Hoping that sort of thing isn't hereditary.

sk1pper · 02/10/2016 13:23

Interesting reading everyone stories about mothers and MILs, it's just one of those things we have to endure as women. I am a firm believer in everything happening for a reason, so if it's taking a bit longer than most so be it - try not to get disheartened by the comments of others ladies xx

HepKestrel · 02/10/2016 13:34

harriet your mum sounds like my mum. she is trying to be thoughtful and not putting the pressure on.

we got to ikea as it opened, so quite quiet. Actually a cheap trip ! though we have identified the day bed and wardrobe we want...... also..... we had to walk through the kiddie section with the cute little blackboards ....

I would like to talk to my mum to get her pg related medical history.... but not sure how to go about it.

Starmist · 02/10/2016 16:28

Well we just had an unexpected visit from the MIL. The first thing she did when she saw me... Rubbed my tummy & said I've been eating too many cakes Angry leave my food baby alone!

HepKestrel · 02/10/2016 16:45

starmist ....grrr for you Angry !!!! how rude !

Musicgrrl · 02/10/2016 17:06

starmist what??? She sounds awful!

Starmist · 02/10/2016 17:11

She is... She's so rude but it's always done in such a way that she could say it was a joke. Does my head in. She will be unbearable when we have a baby.

LondonJem · 02/10/2016 17:29

Outrageous! I'm fuming on your behalf Angry that is not a joke that's just mean.

MouseLove · 02/10/2016 17:38

Urgh starmist how you didn't say something is top restraint.

Well today has been crap. Went to the gym, put on 4lbs in a week, got home, felt like crap all day, DH moaned about his birthday holiday being too expensive, had a nap, woke up with a headache, cramps, feeling fluey, everything aches, was convinced AF showed up (nope) and then my grocery shopping was 3 hours late (with shit subs)!!! FML. I don't know if I have the energy to cook or move or anything.

I really hope everyone had a better Sunday than me!!! Sad

Si1ver · 02/10/2016 17:43

starmist that's awful. I have no idea how you cope with this. My MiL is awesome, but I'm still pleased she lives several hundred miles away.

We haven't told anyone that we're ttc. We've actively mentioned that we're waiting for my husband to be a year seizure free before starting so that's taken the presume off.

We have a whole list of names for boys and girls. We're definite on second names for both but the first names are up in the air. Still no AF here, supposedly due in 2 days and I'm 12 dpo. Can't bring myself to test though. I'm trying to be zen about it, I have no PMS at all and I nearly vommed when I got in a too warm car earlier .

Musicgrrl · 02/10/2016 18:39

mouse sorry that you've had such a rubbish day. Hope you start to feel better soon. Have you tested at all recently? You have recently come off BC haven't you? Might be good to rule it out if anything!

silver you are my new role model - not testing and being zen! Also - no PMS and feeling nauseous sounds positive! Will you wait and test at dpo14 if AF hasn't appeared?

MouseLove · 02/10/2016 18:41

No, not tested anything music. I think it's probably a little too early for that. 17 days off my pill. I haven't had a withdrawal bleed or anything yet. I've taken some paracetamol in the hopes it might make me feel a little more human. I'm sure I'll be ok once I've eaten maybe. Thank you!! X

MabelTheCow · 02/10/2016 19:06

Just catching up as have been trying to distract myself during the hideous 2WW. Really not sure how anyone has the patience to not POAS.

Hep I love a good IKEA trip, hope you got to find some of their yummy meatballs in the restaurant. That has to be the best reason for going, surely.

Skipper I agree, get to the GP and get mentioning. I know a couple of people with endometriosis who've had procedures before they can conceive.

Mouse Sounds like a tricky situation with both your mum and MIL. As others have said, those who don't know the struggle, don't know not to mention. Might be worth getting OH to have a tactful word or dropping her a message to say "we know you mean well, but ..."

Both our mums were told we were planning to start trying this year. My mum (who had me unplanned) thinks it's the easiest thing in the world and clearly since she did so quickly so will I. (Her lack of understanding in this area, worries me.) MIL spent 10 years to conceive OH. She hasn't mentioned it, looked sideways at me or anything. It's been much appreciated.

I told one friend we were trying. She was great and very reassuring. It took her 6 mo to conceive #1 and #2, a year to conceive but then had a mmc and finally 4 mo to conceive her current little bean. We talked a lot about it being almost a pregnancy lottery. If you only had a one in five chance to pick the winning raffle ticket, nobody would expect you to get one so quickly.

We've got several girl's names we like but my favourite boy's name has been vetoed Shock but still I keep up the campaign Wink

sk1pper · 02/10/2016 19:47

starmist - your MIL sounds like a right bitch, I hate that people can hide insults behind jokey tones and think it's ok

mouse - sorry you've had a rubbish day xx

hep - ahh I thought you might end up walking through the kiddy section. I haven't been to ikea for a couple of years now but I did think about that part when you mentioned it yesterday

mabel - thanks, yeah GP is the Thurday after next. I'm going to speak to my mum before then, I think I'm just going to tell her I've been trying...it's the only way to get the info I need from her. It will be interesting to know if she needed at op to have me.

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