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Hope you are ok tee.

Just read this Tee I'm so so sorry. I really am.

You ladies are the best, you really are, I have a tear in my eye reading all your thoughtful messages.
Didn't really get the answers I'd hoped for this morning, but probably the course of action suggested is most sensible (I'm just an impatient sod):
I have been booked for a rescan next Tuesday, as they have to rule out the possibility that my dates were wrong and that I'm in an earlier stage of pregnancy than I have stated (the size of little bean is too small to detect a heartbeat either way, so whilst the obvious explanation is that bean stopped progressing over 2 weeks ago, they have to be sure that I'm not in fact just 5 weeks pregnant now). It's a tick in the box process, as with all of us, we all know our dates, almost to the hour! So in my mind it's just a delay for a week. I guess things could happen naturally before then, but I doubt it. Years ago my sister went to her 12 week scan to discover baby went away at 6 weeks. My body is doing everything to try and stay pregnant I think. The 2 leaflets I've been given are about waiting for nature to take its course or having an operation. I thought there would be the option to take medication, maybe she forgot to give me that leaflet. Apparently I get to chose how we manage it; I want to go for the option that gets me back ovulating the quickest, hope that doesn't make me sound dismissive of what's happened, these have been the worst couple of days, so I just need to feel like things are progressing again. I feel permanently sick, everyone is telling me I'm as white as a sheet. I'm so glad this isn't all happening the week before Christmas, I will be going for early scans in any subsequent (touch wood) pregnancies!!
Anyone testing soon?? We desperately need a couple of bfps!! xx

Hie tee thinking of you dear .you are a strong woman. Here's is hoping that all will be well soon .we will eventually all get there. More hugs

Thinking of you today tee. It's crap that you have to wait another week but it is better that they are double checking everything. I'm not sure about the medication option, can you call the GP or EPU tomorrow and ask? Just so you know that's one question answered? And no it doesn't sound awful that you just want to get going again, it's good it gives you something to work towards and focus on, sometimes dwelling on things makes it much harder to deal with them. Sometimes you do just need to focus on the next step! Nothing wrong with it.

I'm waiting for ovulation at the minute. My temps are generally ok but get a random spike every few days and my cervix and cm are all over the place. But still I'm cautiously optimistic this month. Maybe because I'm finally starting to feel better, finish my antibiotics on Thursday this week and managed to half my doses of sinutabs and ibuprofen. And definitely feel up to and wanting to dtd. So I'm taking it all as good signs!

How frustrating you have to wait tee. I know my brain would latch onto them saying there's a chance too, even when you feel there isn't really. Completely understand your desire to get back onto trying again too, I think that's completely natural.

I hope you don't have to wait long lovely. Have you got things to keep you distracted over the week ahead?

Tee, all sounds a bit long winded. You think they could do something sooner. Not fair really is it. It will kind of give u that hope but like u say it's very unlikely as we all know more about our own bodies then they do sometimes. You know when u conceived. So cruel what has happened, my heart goes out to you.
Think you will need to turn your head hold it up high and carry on trying, all u can do. It probably will help u get over it. Fight it tee, u can do it. I'm sure you will get your BFP soon.

Jam, all good with your scan and bloods so at least you know it's just nature being stubborn. Will only b a matter of time as u may feel more confident that nothing is wrong. Dec/Jan are the most common times to conceive ( lots of Christmas drunken frolicking)? I guess! I conceived my ds around then.

Beagles, hope ovulation happens soon for u. Get down on it my dear!
My chart was erratic last few times but this month is def odd as I've had 9 high temps in a row, not coming down yet. But ovulating at 4dpo we all know isn't going to be good so I'm not holding my breath. Not bothering testing unless AF does not arrive by next weekend!

Waves mimi, Kate, Jodders & anyone else who's here X

Earth, how did u get on with your meds/ discussion with doctor?

Received my NIFTY test results today and all is clear/low risk! So relieved!! And I'm having a Babi girl!!!!

Thinking of you all and rooting for you all to get your BFP!!! Sooner or later this will happen!!

Aww congrats russ you started thinking about names? Also must be good to know that you got a low risk rating!

Are you still doing opks footy? Or just not bothering? Hoping the Dec/Jan thing is lucky for us! I'm keeping a close eye on my temps atm! Also my dh is kanckered lol I've been ill for so long we've only dtd 4 times in three months pretty much and I've jumped him 3 times since last Wednesday. lol poor man.

Thanks motherofbeagles. It will be a Russian name, and already told dad and my brother and my gran. (Don't gave mum anymore). They like it. And I'm married to an Irish man, so will have his surname. Only fair, me thinks.

Oh Tee, really saddened to hear about this terrible time you're going through. Don't forget we're all here to help and we will be when BFP comes again. I think it's brave of you to keep focusing on TTC, and hopefully you will be advised on best procedure that will help you get back to your cycles. I really am so sad for you and hope you're looking sfter yourself. 💗

Absolutely what footy said. We will all be here and you will get your sticky BFP tee. These difficult days will pass. Stay strong lovely

Echoing Parney sorry

Not sure if you saw this article this morning tee and nim

Successful pregnancy more likely sooner after miscarriage, say researchers
www.bbc.co.uk/news/uk-scotland-north-east-orkney-shetland-38144027

Thanks so much, I am feeling more positive already. Starting to feel like I can eat and looking to the future now. Need to get strong again. Funnily enough I started to spot last night, really makes me feel like the mind and body are so connected. My head is telling my uterus it's time to let go! Lots of cramping still, and I'm just willing it all on. Would prefer this to all happen naturally before my scan on Tuesday so no further action is required. Plus you can count your first day of red blood as CD1. I've already ordered opks and pregnancy tests (haven't taken once since week 5, so wonder when it will turn negative, who knew I'd be wishing for a bfn!)
Russ that's wonderful you are having a little girl!! A best friend for life

You are bound to have your wobbles but I have no doubt you will steadily get stronger, especially when you see you are ovulating again. This one wasn't meant to be, but fx it'll be just a short delay on your journey to be a mama again. Your body is just needing another go.

Really hope its a lucky cycle 12 for me. I was thinking sadly this morning about how I'll feel if my period comes next week. I am going to need all my strength to rally and enjoy my birthday and Christmas this year if that is the case.

Ahhh why can't this be easier for us all!

Yes u must try and eat tee to get your ovaries working. Glad you are ok and feeling a bit more positive. Don't beat yourself up though as you are going to be hit with a fall in hormones which will make things seem worse. Keep strong my dear, your body knows what to do now so just a matter of time. Don't forget to keep warm and put your bed socks on!

Jam I'm really hoping AF doesn't arrive for you next week.

So looking at my chart I'd be 10dpo if I'm going by the temp shift. No symptoms & no cm (think I'm just a dried up prune). Temp still high but not as high as it was. It was 36.55 today. Should start falling now as AF would b due in 4/5 days!? Not bothering testing or anything as I feel it's pointless now as I'm uncertain what is what now. If AF doesn't arrive then will see.

Beagles, given up on opks as they were all positive from clomid this cycle. Can't rely on anything it seems. what is your temp and what cd /dpo are u?

Hey Parney, hope u are well. Not long now hon. Take care in this freezing weather.

te glad to feel you are feeling a bit better and managing to eat, need to keep your strength up. i definitely do believe in the mind and body link when i had mine the doc told me on the thursday and after nothing for the days previously come friday morning it was in full swing naturally. I cant imagine its nice either way but i hope it goes smoothly for you and look after yourself - dont push yourself too much too soon.

feeling a bit calmer this afternoon, i've had a little lump on my cervix for the last few weeks and some odd symptoms last night (swelling, dull ache, cramps twinges). So been to see the nurse today and it was the lovely one i saw when i had my mc and shes confirmed its just a nabothian cyst? not sure if ive spelt that right. Had a nice chat and calmed my concerns. But now im a bit confused because obviously there is the jelly from the speculum but i have really stretchy clear and sticky cm which normally i would class as ewcm - but do i just discount it because had jelly today? sorry if tmi i have noone else to ask! I'm on CD 14 and my temps now being weird so not sure what its doing. waiting for a dip or rise, so shall see!

so are you around cd15 footy? really bizarre month for you. its not fair is it! but im sending hopeful thoughts.

try not to worry too much jam positive thoughts! and definitely hoping for lucky number 12 for you. and you think by now there would be more research and understanding to make it easier for us!

Tee is really really sorry to hear this. I chose surgical management but I really wanted it to happen naturally before hand. It didn't and the operation went fine. It did take me a full two weeks to recover after though. If you want to ask me anything about the whole palava go ahead.

I'm cd14 beagles. Thinking I ovulated early at cd4/5 crazy! Unless I'm going to ovulate soon ? Who knows.
I'd say the EWCM might be combination of both jelly and cm. Just treat it as the real deal then u cover yourself.
I've given up trying to coordinate timing now just dtd every opportunity or every other day to cover all basis.

And guess what ladies.. I've gone for the relaxed approach this cycle and ordered 6 bottles of red, 6 bottles of prosecco and a large bottle of baileys for Christmas. Hoping i won't get to crack any open

Are you using OPK s beagles? I'd probably DTD if you're inclined

Footy loving your booze order! Really really hope you aren't able to drink it too...

I'm 4 DPO today, so nothing to report. Had a stressful day and having a horrible journey home so just desperate to get my feet up. Am off work until Tuesday now too so time for some r and r

Oooh fingers crossed it all gets drunk by someone else footy. I hope this cycle starts to make more sense soon. Must be a nightmare trying to figure it out when the opks and temps are all over the place.

Enjoy the r&r jam sorry about the crappy journey but get your feet up and enjoy yourself. Need to keep distracted for next couple of weeks or so! Are you managing to keep head straight this month or do you have pos addiction too?

I am doing OPKs but I've never had a traditional positive so I struggle to read them. I see pictures of the positives on here and online and nowhere near. The darkest I've ever had is still a lot lighter than the test line. But my temps usually show some sort of dip and rise so relying on them. My cervix is really high too so taking that as a sign! I think I'm going to try and jump dtd every other day or as close to that as possible! Lol poor blood is out of practice with me being unwell. This is my temps so far this month so it is s bit odd but oh well see how I get on.

Feet are up beagles! I hate testing so will be waiting for AF. Seen enough BFN s this year!

Hope you get clearer OPK s this cycle