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Conception

When's the best time to get pregnant? Use our interactive ovulation calculator to work out when you're most fertile and most likely to conceive.

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Positive opk after miscarriage- 2

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jinglebellmel · 30/08/2016 19:49

Can't believe we've filled that thread, hope you all find this one!

Ali - so uncomfortable isn't it?! But I like that I can feel it happening, gives me a bit of warning at least. Yeah, I'm expecting I'll ov Thursday/Friday now which would work out much better than Saturday so fingers crossed.

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thatsnotmybear · 22/10/2016 19:32

Oh no Mel, I sincerely hope not

This 3rd mc has made my head spin. Part of me thinks it's time to take a break while I have some investigations done, but part of me is in denial about this whole sorry situation & wants to keep trying in the hope that one sticks. I genuinely don't know what to do.

I'm keeping everything crossed for you. This shittiness really shouldn't happen to us both.

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jinglebellmel · 22/10/2016 19:59

Thanks bear. I'm feeling the same, torn between needing to try again right away and thinking I can't do this again at all. Best case scenario it's the thyroid causing it, but what if it's not and it just keeps happening. I think I know deep down this one is over. Dh is so disappointed and I feel like I've failed again.

Hope you're okay bear, neither of us should be having to deal with this again.

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Alibaba2 · 22/10/2016 20:19

I hope you're wrong Mel. Keeping everything crossed.

thatsnotmybear · 23/10/2016 08:42

How are you doing this morning Mel? I'm travelling today so will be offline but will check back in this eve x

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jinglebellmel · 23/10/2016 08:44

Thanks Ali, I'd love to be wrong, but I don't see this can be a healthy pregnancy now. It's hard to accept but I'm trying not to hang onto hope. I just hope it happens quickly if it's going to happen. Hope you're okay and fertile week went well for you.

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jinglebellmel · 23/10/2016 08:47

Thanks for asking bear. I'm not sure how I feel, still just in disbelief really I think. I just hope things happen quickly and naturally. How are you doing? It's supposedly so uncommon to have 3 in a row, it's pretty hard to accept you're one of the unlucky few isn't it?

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thatsnotmybear · 23/10/2016 21:17

How are you doing Mel?

Bee1234 · 23/10/2016 21:38

Posted yday but for some reason it hasn't shown up.. my heart really goes out to you Mel, it just isn't fair :( still keeping my fingers crossed for you.

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jinglebellmel · 24/10/2016 08:26

Thanks bee.

Bear Im a bit numb still, did another test yesterday which was slightly darker than Saturdays but still lighter than wednesdsys- it can't be progressing properly I don't think. Dh thinks maybe the test is just as dark as it can get,but I don't think so. How are you feeling?

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McBaby · 24/10/2016 09:38

Mel the darkness of the urine test really is not an accurate measure of hgc in your blood. Every metabolises it differently which is why some people don't even get a positive urine test.

My urine test at hgc of 67was the same as at 678! I was convinced I had lost it as I also had bright red bleededing.

One of my best friends was in the same situation last week and had some brown spotting and her clear blue had not risen from 2-3 weeks in two tests 9 days apart (she recently had a mc and a chemical 2 months ago). She went to epu in a panic they scanned her and she saw a heartbeat at just over 5 weeks!! Ridiculously early I know.

To alleviate your anxiety I would speak to gp or epu and get some bloods drawn to test your hgc.

thatsnotmybear · 24/10/2016 09:39

Do you want to post a pic Mel? I think if it were a CP the tests would've become consistently fainter until neg, then AF would arrive. Otherwise, faint tests don't necessarily mean MC.

I think as you are (understandably) anxious, you could ask your GP for blood tests a few days apart, which would show whether the pg is progressing. I know you haven't had a great response from your GP but it's a very simple straightforward process - s/he just needs to provide you with forms for repeat Beta hCG tests.

I'm trying to pull myself up by the bootstraps today as I'm worried that I'm starting to feel a bit depressed. I've got a GP appointment this afternoon to ask for a referral to the Recurrent Miscarriage Clinic, which feels like I'm doing something at least. But I feel really reluctant to tell my family & friends that it's happened again (which I think is the depression creeping in).

McBaby · 24/10/2016 09:41

Sorry for all the anicdotal evidence all I'm trying to say is be positive and do what to need to do to find out either way what is going on!

thatsnotmybear · 24/10/2016 10:03

Sorry crossed posts with Mcbaby, but we're saying the same thing!

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jinglebellmel · 24/10/2016 10:04

Thank you both, I have considered asking for blood tests but I'm really not coping with the stress and am just burying my head in the sand right now by trying g not to think about it. Maybe I should though. I'd love to be wrong about this, but feeling pretty crampy today and I'm scared to let myself hope anymore. Will put a pic of tests up this evening. Really appreciate all of your support.

Bear, it's so difficult not to feel depressed at a time like this. I hope that your gp is helpful and the appointment gives you some direction and positivity. Worth asking if they will run full bloods while you're waiting for the referal too as it maybe something simple like clotting which could be picked up and treated v quickly x

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McBaby · 24/10/2016 10:04

Sorry bear that it's so tough. If you feel depression creeping in then make sure you speak to gp and friends and family!!

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jinglebellmel · 24/10/2016 15:39

How did your appointment go bear? Hope it was positive.

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thatsnotmybear · 24/10/2016 19:41

Thanks Mel. GP was very sympathetic & has referred me to the RMC & arranged for a scan. She also asked how I was doing & said it was totally understandable to be feeling low & to keep an eye on things - if I feel worse over the next weeks I need to go back.

Thebean123 · 24/10/2016 20:32

Hi ladies......have been radio silent for a while but have been dipping in and out checking up on how you're all doing.

Bear I'm so very sorry you're going through this again. It really is cruel, and I hope that through a referral by your GP you may get some answers or progress. It probably is just a case of "bad luck" but must be so impossible to actually accept that fact.

Mel....I sincerely hope that there is some positive news for you too.....it ain't over til it's over so try and keep the faith.

Me and DP have had a very off month this month. Dtd just once and have had some issues between us. Think it's the pressure of ttc and me not really 100% being over my mc probably. Things the last 2 weeks have been much better however, and we feel closer again. However.......af was due last Wednesday, no sign.....did a test Thursday and it was a very faint positive. Did another that night and it was a very slightly darker positive. Left it until today to test again and it's now almost as dark as the control line........positive.

However I'm secretly a little bit terrified that it will all come crashing down around me again like last time. Me and DP have not been "excited" or "congratulatory" in any way shape or form. We're both preferring to take the quiet and cautious approach for the next few weeks I think.....

It's such a shame when I think about it, that we are all so terrified during early pregnancy. Almost waiting for the worst to inevitably happen.....all the joy sucked out of it. But that's life after MC I guess.....

Hope the rest of you ladies are doing well. Ali where are you now in cycle?

Fab scan news as well for you other expecting ladies!!

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jinglebellmel · 24/10/2016 21:03

Congrats bean, great news. So how far along are you?

Bear, that sounds as positive as it could be really,and good that the GP was interested in how you are. That seems to sadly be lacking after a miscarriage in my experience. Did they give you any idea how long the referal would take? How are you feeling?

Today's line was possibly a fraction darker than yesterday, I'd say still lighter than Wednesday and Friday but darker than the control. Still very crampy, not sure what to think really. I feel a tiny bit of hope, but it feels very dangerous to allow that.

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Thebean123 · 24/10/2016 22:07

Well if dating from last period just over 4 weeks so early early days which is why it's all so nerve wracking. Can't believe it's even happened.....no exaggeration we dtd ONCE this month. That's it! Just goes to show that once is all it takes :)

I'm trying not to get carried away with the comparing tests thing. I did one today and satisfied myself that it was a lot darker than the 1st test on Thursday but am going to step away now and just sit tight for a few weeks. But to be honest whatever gets you through with the least amount of stress is the right thing to do. How far along would you be now mel....?

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jinglebellmel · 25/10/2016 08:24

Bean, I wouldn't recommend it, it's causing me no end of stress right now! I have 1 test left which i'll do tonight and then i'll try to stop. As they are jyst staying the same now they aren't telling me anything either way and are feeding my anxiety. I'm not convinced it's normal for them to be staying the same but I don't think carrying o testing is going to help. I'm 5.5 weeks so still v early days too.

Bear hope you're okay

Ali, how are things with you?

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jinglebellmel · 25/10/2016 08:32

These are the tests (don't feel you have to look or comment though, I know everyone has their own things going on now and I'm maybe just being stupid anywsy). Wed was darker but has faded a bit, do no real progression for 6 days now between wed and Monday

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thatsnotmybear · 25/10/2016 08:34

Congratulations Bean! Fingers crossed for you.

I think I'm going to check out for a bit. DH has (quite reasonably) said he wants us to take a break from ttc, at least for this month.

Mel I have my fingers crossed for you too, I really hope this one works out.

thatsnotmybear · 25/10/2016 08:38

Sorry Mel crossed posts. I see a clear progression of lines getting stronger, the overall picture is looking really positive x

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jinglebellmel · 25/10/2016 08:50

Totally understandable bear, I hope you and your dh are okay and that the month off will help. I'll be thinking of you and really hoping that more positive times are on the way for you soon xx

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