Positive opk after miscarriage- 2

[jinglebellmel]

Can't believe we've filled that thread, hope you all find this one!

Ali - so uncomfortable isn't it?! But I like that I can feel it happening, gives me a bit of warning at least. Yeah, I'm expecting I'll ov Thursday/Friday now which would work out much better than Saturday so fingers crossed.

Does anyone know the ideal amount of b vitamins while ttc? I'm wondering if I should supplement the pregnacare multivitamin...

Scan was all good baby measuring as expected and saw a lovely heartbeat. Feeling very relieved to make it passed last time when the baby died at 4/5 weeks!! And took my body till 10 to realise.

She also prescribed my cyclizine to help with my Morning sickness as its awful.

Lovely news Mcbaby 😊 Hopefully that's put your mind at rest and you can relax and enjoy a little!

Can't help with that one Ali sorry.. I only take B12!

That's good news Mcbaby, glad all was well.

Ali my GP was of the opinion that the conception multivitamins are fine, but what Bee was saying makes sense. I'm wary of over-supplementing though, I think a balanced diet & a couple of supplements on top sounds reasonable!

Mel I still don't know how I feel about this month. I seem to be alternating between good days and not-so-good days at the moment. How are you doing?

Great news Mcbaby :)

I'm expecting to ov on Sat evening. We dtd last night. Would you dtd tonight or will tomorrow and Sat suffice?

Yes I know what you mean bear. Was massively disappointed, but with it being so early I've found it a lot easier to get my head around than last time. I am finding it hard not to worry that there is something behind the mc now though and have been googling which is clearly never a good idea! So a bit up and down, need to try and stay rational! Thinking I may just try the relaxed approach this month, just dtd when we feel like it and then a couple of time once I get the positive opk as I'm getting too uptight and crazy about the whole thing.

Exactly how I feel Mel. Although it was very early, psychologically it's undone a lot of the good work of the last months & I'm back to feeling a bit panicky & desperate again. I can't help but feel that the chances of me having another cp or mc are higher than my chances of having a healthy pg, & it's a horrible way to feel. I think I need to go back to having acu to calm me down a bit

Ali, my DH & I tend to run out of steam if we DTD more than 3 times in a row, so I'd skip tonight & go for day before ov & day of ov.

Acu would probably do you the world of good right now Bear. I find it really relaxes me and I'm a lot more chilled these days. I don't get angry like I used to.

You know there's a theory that when you give up trying, you fall pg? I wonder if that's to do with giving your uterus a rest for a month - leaving it fallow - to make the soil fertile for the future. Tempting to give it a try...

Sorry missed your post Ali. Fri and sat should be okay I think, statistically I think the day before ov is your best chance.

Bear yes, it was much less of a loss in itself but coming after the first mc it's just compounded things and am quite panicky and obsessive again. I was prepared for this mc, but think I'll be expecting the next which makes me sad. acu sounds like it might be a good idea for you x

Fabulous news mcbaby I'm so pleased and happy for you :)

I agree with Mel and bear Ali....dtd day before ov and day of ov are probably the best chances. If you can go 3 days in a row then hats off to u ;) have fun and enjoy......!!!

So terrifying to think that you're more prone to CP or MC isn't it bear and Mel? That's how I feel a lot of the time too.....I don't suppose were ever going to be able to fully relax or stop worrying about it, but I think that's expected and only natural. I'm now two days late for predicted AF after my "relaxed month". I very much don't think I'm pregnant as I've had zero symptoms of either pregnancy OR af. I think it's more the fact that I've had a lot of upheaval this month so AF is taking her time. Not going to test as I feel it would be a waste of money and a little bit heartbreaking to see a BFN even though I was never expecting to see a BFP this month anyway!

Bean, I know the last thing you want is people trying to get your hopes up but I had zero symptoms this time round, and with my son only a bit of cramping that I connected after bfp (had no idea I was pregnant with him!). So I really don't think symptoms or lack of mean too much. I hope the relaxed approach has worked for you :) will you test in a few days if no Af?

I must say that secretly I'm hoping for a surprise positive news....aren't we all?! But I just don't think it is this month. I will leave it for a week I think. If it's not here by Wednesday then that's a solid week late, give or take a dodgy cycle so will test then. I haven't actually mentioned to DP or anyone that I'm late now....guarantee now I've mentioned it to you ladies I will be getting a beating by AF come nightfall ha!

Bean, is AF normally late?

We dtd this morning as then we can get another one in tomorrow morning as I'll probably ov tomorrow evening. I had a bath straight afterwards and then panicked that it killed the sperm. There's always a panic about something!

Bean I'm tentatively a bit excited for you, are you often a day or so late for AF? I never am so would've peed on a lot of sticks by now!

Mel I couldn't agree more

Um no....not late normally. Usually pretty bang on give or take a day or two and I'm only two days late so far so not drawing too much from it yet. Stress and upheaval does tend to affect me though so that's why I'm not rushing straight to Boots to rip apart the PoAS shelves!!!

What is strange for me is that I've shown ZERO PMS symptoms. No mood swings, no cramps, usually get a dragging feeling at the tops of my thighs and haven't had that either. All a bit weird :/

Oh bean, it does sound promising to me! No way I'd be able to hold out until Wednesday, but well done to you if you can!

Well I polished off and entire bottle of Merlot three nights ago......so that's how much I think AF is just taking its time ha ha x

Haha, well if it's going to work out then I think it will despite the merlot. -Let's hope you get a nice surprise, but at least if you don't you got to enjoy some nice wine!

I drank 3 pints of Guinness when I was pg in March without a clue. Man, it tasted good. Wrong I know!

I def had a few glasses in the 2ww this time around!!

Morning ladies :) how is everyone?

Well I'm now 3 days late for AF and still no signs. Was on my way out for a meal with DP and sister and her DP last night and felt some stomach cramping and thought "oh brilliant here it comes...." But nothing. My thinking now is I should just do a test to see the negative result and then relax.....but that's exactly what my thinking was the last time I conceived and it lead on to the most stressful and upsetting three weeks of my life :( monitoring hgc levels and being uncertain and then eventually miscarrying. I know I shouldn't be afraid and try and separate what happened last time from any future pregnancy but it's so hard. I don't know wether I can handle or go through that all again.

After what bear and Mel have just been through too I just don't want to potentially see a positive and then AF come along and piss on my chips! Sorry to be a moaning Minnie today but I'm quite stressed and unsure x

Morning Bean. It's completely understandable to be feeling apprehensive. If you'd prefer to wait a few more days, then do. There's no rule saying you have to test as soon as AF is late!

You're right bear there are no rules to how any of this plays out.....just had a chat with DP and he thinks I should wait a little while and see how things play out. He doesn't want to see me upset and go through all of that again if it isn't necessary. So that's two of us.....I'm reigning in the crazy and stepping away from tests and all things baby for a week x