September bfp bus

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Here is hoping for big fat positives all round

Lalaland - all women are different, I'd take your darkest reading as your ovulation day and keep the photo so you can compare for next cycle (if you need to!) fingers crossed for you

Eva - sorry to hear that, good luck for next cycle. I've just finished AF, feel so good when that but is out the way again.

Hi bus pals!

It's getting busy here and it's nice to read about so many different experiences!

I'm still waiting for colposcopy and coil removal - it's been like a horrible preview in to the TWW I think. Many ups and downs and Google induced anxieties. My appointment is now on Monday, fx for an all clear so we can get going with TTC. The nice thing about the delay has been the amount of baby-talking OH and I have been doing. I can see he's excited and as keen to get going as I am!

Hi waves to my cycle buddies (cd 25 today)

Massive fx for everyone - hoping we have fertile af month!

Fx'd bairns will you get your results on the same day? It will be such a relief to finally get started 😊

It's now 9 days since my last pill and still no breakout bleed 😢 - looked up SMEP though and reckon it will be a go as soon as cycle has returned!

Hi, can I join you?

TTC #2
Cycle 2
CD 14

I usually ovulate around CD18-20 so just keeping an eye out for signs at the moment. I had a decent line on an OPK yesterday (but negative) so think things are heading in the right direction. I've never used OPKs consistently enough to see a positive but will do one this evening and then try and do twice a day until I see a positive.

Sewingupa5torm - would you have usually have had your withdrawal bleed by now if you were starting your next pack of the pill?

I had my last pill last Tuesday and started my bleed as normal on Monday, as I would have done if I would have started taking my next pack yesterday.

So yesterday was CD3, having been on the pill I'm not sure about when I will ovulate but guessing around the bank holiday weekend. Had a funny conversation with DH last night about how this whole process works, he looked pretty perplexed! His answer was he could step up to DTD whenever required. We shall see when I start going TTC crazy!

mrsloz I've been on cerazette for the last year and a half with no ~regular bleeding for maybe 9 months. I'm not sure what to expect really but I did expect something haha. Glad your DH is totally on board - my OH would dtd every day if I let him 😂

Hi everyone, mind if I jump aboard?

Age 30
TTC #1
Cycle 3
CD1

AF arrived after 3 days of spotting which was a fun, new development for me... Often get a bit of spotting but not for this long, does anyone else?

Anyway, fx it's a lucky bus for everyone!

I had spotting for almost a week before AF showed up last cycle MrsC - v frustrating hanging around in limbo. I think it's probably just my cycles settling back down - it was only my second since DS.

Hi folks,

Jumping back on the bus this month if I may?

With what little sanity I've retained, I'm throwing myself into the charting lark this month. I'm looking at temps, CM, and all the other cervical details (I'm about half sure it really is my cervix I've found, too, so I figure that's all worth throwing in there!), as well as OPKs. I'm currently on CD 8 and lately my cycle length has been about 30-31 days, ovulating on about day 15 or 16. We're going to try and SMEP it, so, never having actually seen a positive anything from POASing before, I thought I'd start the OPKs mega early just so I could see the difference and how they change. So, yesterday, day 7, negative, as expected. But today, at least a week before I would expect to be ovulating, there's a fairly dark line. Not as dark as the control, but not too far off. Is this normal for the levels to rise quite a bit this early? Obviously I can't be sure, but I'm fairly sure I ovulate a lot later, as I can usually feel it.

I guess I'll just keep feeding the POAS habit and see what happens, but I wondered how many days you ladies have noticed the "almost but not quite" OPK results for before? I'm slightly wondering whether this is all just going to confuse me even more!

FX for everyone on the September bus!

Queen - you've got me thinking that I should be OPKing earlier now! I normally do it on and off in my fertile week but starting from CD10 this month as per SMEP which I'm also doing for the first time.

sk1pper, I know, it's a bit bizarre, isn't it?! I definitely thought I was just indulging my neuroses, and wanting to get some "practice readings" in before the PingOAS days that actually counted - I certainly wasn't expecting an almost positive yet, so that's thrown me a bit... But I guess when it comes to OPKs an "almost positive" should be read as a negative, so maybe it will stay around this level for a while? I've not got any previous cycles to compare OPKs to, so don't know if this might be normal for me yet... Will keep you posted! (If I don't give the whole charting idea up in a big strop before then!)

I've also got OPK's on order. I hadn't thought of doing it from earlier in the cycle, I think that sounds like a good idea. They should arrive tomorrow - I am CD4 so maybe after the weekend.

I have tried my luck with BBT the past week or so and well my temp is completely random! I have a good quality thermometer and have been testing as soon as I wake but it ranges from 35.9-37.4 - seems to depend on whether DS has crept into my bed in the night and I've ended up stuck between him and DP or not - so I'm not sure that'll help me track anything!!

I'll let you girls know if I see any unusual spikes on the OPKs early cycle. Also going to test well after the first positive test to see if there is a double peak or anything like that.

I haven't done temp checking ever. I just don't think it's for me, I'm obsessing enough over everything as it is. :D

Hi guys,

I'm in my FW with ovulation expected in 2-3 days.

I'm trying to think of a way to lure DH into the bedroom and somehow have unprotected sex with him

I think his stance of "no more children" is just a phase, the sane phase he always has of flitting between not wanting a baby and then to do wanting a baby. Last month he was happy to have unprotected sex with me so he can't be too serious when he says he doesn't want a second baby...

Writer - hey :) is he still saying that? I'm sorry but if he had unprotected sex last month then he is still undecided. I can't remember if I asked this already, but what's his reasoning for not wanting another. Have you sat down and talked about each other's feelings/thoughts or is it an awkward situation?

It's not awkward as such, he's just saying he can't go through it all again. We had been going through a rough patch (sleep wise) with our son (aged 2) and on the back of that he announced he didn't want another baby. I was really upset.

Tonight we did DTD but he pulled out before ejaculating. Afterwards I actually started crying because I said the whole thing had made me feel so sad about the "not having another baby" decision.

DH then said, "Well if you feel this upset then maybe we should I have another. I said that crying after sex is not the best reason to have another baby but then he very kindly said that perhaps we should have another because he doesn't think I will ever come to terms with just having one. I told him that I would come to terms with it but he just said, "I don't believe you". He was really sweet about it and I think it made him realise just how upset I am about it all.

Whilst we were having sex I said to him, "Are you going to pull out?" and he said, "Do I need to?" And I replied with a little laugh and a shrug as if to say, "Well if not there could be a baby?!"

Part of me wishes I hadn't said it because then he wouldn't face pulled out, but on the other hand I'm not going to trick him into a pregnancy by having sex with him whilst I'm fertile but not telling him that I am.

It's all just such a mess.

I suppose now the question is whether he will initiate sex again in the next few days and also whether he will pull out.

Over the last week in particular I have really struggled with my emotions relating to all this, I have felt so down about the prospect of not having another baby and tonight it all just came to the forefront.

I understand writer, you don't want to spring a surprise pregnancy on him when he's having these doubts so you were right to be honest with him. It's good that he will do it for you but that isn't the same as both of you wanting it.

Maybe now isn't the right time, I feel like your DH needs to get through the rough patch with your 2 year old and realise it's just a phase and a part of bringing up a child. There will be some bad times but plenty of good too and that's where the focus needs to be.

Or you could point out that if your son has a sibling to play with later on, it will give you some time to yourselves in the future?

Thanks napping that's reassuring. It's just so frustrating, makes me feel a bit all over the place.
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Writer* hope you don't mind me jumping in with my tuppence worth - if DH was really set against having a second then he wouldn't agree to it for any reason, whether it would make you happy or not? Sounds like something said by an overtired dad to a two-year-old! Almost like how new mums sometimes say they never want to go through labour again, and yet they do, if you see what I mean? Sorry, quite a drawn out way of explaining what I'm trying to say

Sorry everything is so complicated writer. It sounds like there may be scope for DH to come around to the idea but it might be better to give him a bit of time rather than trying to rush to catch ovulation this week, or even in the next few cycles. I'd want to know he was really on board with the idea first.

Thanks everyone got your thoughts,

When I miscarried earlier this year DH was gutted (he cried) and he wanted to start TTC again straight away but I needed a few months off to gather myself first. The fact he was so upset and wanting to TTC again tells me that deep down he does want a second baby.

Things have got better with DS's sleep over the last few weeks and I'm hoping that as the sleep deprivation begins to ease DH may come round to the idea of a second DC again.

He changes his mind all the time and I find it really hard to deal with.

Writer I can really sympathise, I've read a good few comments you've left about your situation with DH and frankly it really does sound like it sucks donkeys.

I had a similar situation with mine, not that he changed his mind constantly but just that he was really ambivalent and shruggy about having a second child at all. I was always honest about not wanting our son to be an only child, and I was ready nearly two years ago, came off the pill then but ended up going back on it because he really just couldn't be bothered about ttc and it was crushing.

I held out for ages telling him that I didn't just want his compliance, I wanted his enthusiasm, or it wasn't worth bothering with at all. I didn't want anyone to ever think I'd tricked or trapped him, and I worried that (worst case scenario) if anything ever went wrong with he and I that he would resent the baby I wanted and he didn't. "But I really want this" didn't seem like a good enough argument.

Recently I've decided that after all this time waiting for him to catch up to me, actually just his compliance will do. We had a [slightly melodramatic] sit-down talk about how I don't have all the time in the world (I'm only 32, but that day will come!) and that basically he was holding my reproductive capabilities hostage to his ambivalence about it all. After that he came around to it a little bit but still wouldn't so much as say the word "baby" even if we were talking about it. Now we're almost two weeks into cycle #1 and he seems bang alongside it all.

I just really hope your DH comes around soon. I'm thinking of you.

Thanks Ruby, I'm glad to hear you have got your husband on side. I don't know if men ever have the urge to have a second like we do and I imagine a lot of men just go ahead with it because they it's what their DP/DW want.

I'm 33 this year so I am aware of my age and DS is coming up 2yr 6m so I'm also aware of a lengthening age gap and it just makes me feel uneasy.

I think when DS has gone to bed tonight I will have a good chat with DH about what he actually wants because I need some kind of closure on the confusion.

Writer it's funny you say that about men not thinking about having more than the one - DH and I have talked about it as currently ttc#1 and he said something to the effect of we've got plenty of time before my ovaries shrivel up... I pointed out that was true for DC1 but what about the others and his face was just pure shock, like he hadn't even thought about it! I couldn't believe it when he looked so surprised, although he's an only child so maybe it never occurred to him?!

Hi everyone, just checking in.
writer I think you should just initiate sex and see what happens.
It sounds to me like your DH actually does want another, he certainly sounds like he's coming round to the idea!

I am stepping up my game this month,after my little break last month.
Started taking Angus Castus ( even though very mixed thoughts online) and am stocked up again with OPKs and IC HPTs just waiting for FW
Preseed again and SMEP.

Anyone any other recommendations? I might need some kind of energy booster for DH... Haha

Just been for a wee and I had loads of sticky EWCM - I'm definitely going to seduce DH tonight. Hopefully I will be one of those 'unlucky ones' who get pregnant by pre-cum