TTC through Donor IUI or Donor IVF or just undecided - all welcome! #makeithappen

[kwick]

This thread is for anyone trying to conceive... or thinking about doing so through donor IUI or donor IVF. Nothing TMI - feel free to join, we are a lovely group here to support and help keep the cray-cray away!
Here is the link to the previous thread: www.mumsnet.com/Talk/conception/2587046-TTC-through-Donor-IUI-or-Donor-IVF-or-just-undecided-all-welcome

karen really sorry that all the "paperwork" is delaying things.... how frustrating!!! You are in Canada right? Do you have the option of going somewhere else for treatment or is it cost prohibitive?
I used to have a dog, Floss, and he died suddenly when I was a teenager and he was only 6. He had eaten rat poison and the vet (and we) did not realise in time. I am still sad to this day... I still sometimes dream of him. He was so loved and I take comfort in the fact that he knew it and he was the centre of the family.
Don't underestimate the grieving process and please allow yourself to go through it. Hugs and much love

Oh karen it's such a hard time, my car died at 20 when I was about 12,he honestly was my best mate and blimey could water a garden with the tears still and that was 19years ago! They aren't 'just' animals,they are part of your family so beat yourself up about being down. What with baby stuff and this it's no wonder your feeling down about things. We are here for you all the way tho so if you need to rant or say how things really are then blurt them out xx
Bloomin forgot to ring the clinic again!!! Oh well sure I'll remember some day! So unbelievably tired, me and dark mornings don't mix

Thank you everyone. Having a really hard time at work too so that sucks. Buried under a lot of student debt so I feel a bit trapped. Regretting buying my house 2 years ago but everything was much better then so it's just hind sight I guess. Things have to start looking better soon. Orherwise I might just chuck it all and move to Australia to live in the bush.

But really, thank you so much. I got moe's ashes back today and that feels weird. I still talk to him. Trying to distract myself with sewing. Have two baby quilts on the go.

karen I do hope you turn a corner soon. Any chance you could change jobs?

shoes you ok?

Hi Everyone!

Welcome bob!

There's been lots going on, getting booked in for my IVF. My meds invoice turned up, bye bye £1300!!!! Blimey, that's expensive. Today is a clinic appt for injection tutorial, protocol run through, and all the blood work... I'm calling it the day of needles and, all things sharp.... not fun.

Meds turn up on Friday, I start them next Friday, I think.

I've started making videos for my soon to be child about the process and why and when, and what... it's actually helping get my head on straight, so that's good.

My acupuncturist is upping her game and we are now in prep and prime mode, and I have reflexology and reiki starting Saturday.

I have lots of thoughts rushing through my head, I don't feel ready, but I'm super excited, I'm scared and I'm anxious, but I'm super excited, I'm totally peeing myself in fear and I'm super excited.... I feel like it's suddenly here, but I meant to exercise more, and save more and plan more, be more...

Too many thoughts.

I'm off to look at YouTube videos of laughing babies and try to manifest....

Being hello to all wherever you are in your process.

And karen I have no words to help you apart from to say I'm so sorry for your loss as the thought of losing my actually brings me to tears. Xoxox

Wow stork that is a lot but will be worth it in the end!! Getting exciting :)

I know when I went to my appointment I was so excited and then the next day I had the whole eek am I doing the right thing,can I afford this, should I bring someone into the world without a dad etc etc etc but I know it's the right thing but eek!

I BOOKED MY AMH TEST WAHOOOO & the lady was so lovely...again! I said I'd had a 1-2-1 thing 10days ago and could I book it so just said my first name and then though dur why would she know who I was and she was like "oh hi xxxxx have u had ur last surgery yet? I was just looking at your forms and was wondering how u were,Well done for coming off the pill" (as she knew I was freaking out about that) they make u feel really special which I love!!
So anyway test booked for 2nd Dec as had to wait until I'd been off pill for around 2months! I have added to my countdown app

stork exciting times!!! I love the video idea!!! Maybe I will copy you
I understand your mixed emotions but you are ready and soon you will be a mummy!
BTW I think my meds bill was double yours when I did stimulated IVF - so take heart in that.

pickle!!!!! I am so excited for you! And it sounds like you picked a lovely clinic mine won't even give me the email address of my consultant

Hello everyone

Sorry that I've been AWOL. I was away on holiday and then have been a bit buried since I got back.

Karen - I hope you are starting to feel a bit brighter. The pain of losing a pet never goes away but over time you will be able to focus more on the happy memories than the loss. We had a cat from when I was 6 until I was 22. I loved her to bits. I still remember sitting on the top deck of a London bus when my mum phoned me to tell me they'd had to have her put down. I sobbed and sobbed buckets of tears and didn't give a toss about the spectacle I was making of myself! It's just a horrible feeling

On the Hycosy - remember the positive side that you are more likely to conceive in the three cycles following the procedure because the solution/dye/foam gives the tubes a good clear out and makes sure they're in tip-top condition, so maybe try to think of that rather than how irritating it is to have to repeat it.

Pickle - your clinic sounds fabulous . I'm so pleased that things are going well.

Stork - over time you'll become immune to handing over your credit card for extortionate sums. I have never in my life spent so much money so freely on anything! Really exciting that you are getting started

Caution - Good work on the clinic research! I hope you're doing well at the moment and staying in good health.

Kwick - sorry that your Hycosy hurt like hell . How are things? What/when is your next step? Also thanks for your message which I appreciated, and sorry I didn't reply - I've been hibernating from the whole ttc/pregnancy thing a bit.

I have caved and booked a scan at the lovely clinic in St Albans for tomorrow. I have reached the end of my tether with coping with not knowing. I actually feel depressed which is not like me at all. Since getting back from my holiday on Tuesday I have felt so grey and hopeless . Hopefully it's pregnancy hormones doing this to me, but I've just got to the point where I need to know either way whether this pregnancy is healthy. I'm nine weeks now so hopefully it should be a straightforward ultrasound rather than internal scan.

Shoes I hope your scan goes well. Fingers crossed for a healthy heart beat. X

shoes hello
Good luck with ur scan tomorrow let us know how it goes. Hormones will be flinging your emotions all over the place plus with the extra stress of ttc it's not surprised and with previous mc. Hopefully once you've had the scan it'll brighten your mood a bit.

shoes!!! So glad you are back I don't want you to be down... hope the scan goes well tomorrow - will have everything crossed for you.
Make sure you get plenty of daylight.

Why is it that when you have the possibility to sleep in you can't?!

So I asked for the Hycosy report and I noticed the following which has made me very and
It says "Please make note of the limitation of the test quality of the ultrasounds due to the big BMI"... I take it that BMI stands for body mass index aka I am one fatty-bum-bum. Really as NO ONE has ever said that the scan quality has been shite due to my weight, really as I find it so hard to lose weight.
Also just noticed that for both ovaries it says "mobile".... I only have 1 ovary....also the time on the report is wrong... I hate querying everything! But I am going to write an email to my consultant, care of the generic email as they will bot give me my consultant's email address!!!

Best of luck shoes

Ditto kwick body clocks for getting up should have an on/off button especially designed for days off!!!
Pretty shite note keeping....big bmi,seriously! You might say high or low even < or > 25 bmi but big bmi. Pretty offensive letter, as words like big are more subjective/opinionated rather than descriptive words. Our letters wouldn't

be signed off, they have to be factual without being opinions....,sorry going
Into NHS OCD overdrive!
Def query the 2ovaries things yikes!!!!!

I don't know that my places gives out consultant email addresses or a generic one-I don't know whether the nurses take the queries and get answers....who knows.

My builder is due in an hour to board my loft! I don't plan to get out of my pjs this weekend (except for washing obviously....well maybe!) so they are just going to have to put up with me in my pjs (they are only like jogging bottoms

Ha Pickle, me too. The plumber will be arriving shortly and no way will I be out of my PJs.

Kwick - that's bloody rubbish. They could either see the dye going through your tubes or they couldn't. The BMI disclaimer is crass and if that is the case it should be explained before any procedure. My hunch is that you've been sent someone else's report. They need to sort this out straight away.

Hello can I join your thread? I stayed up way past my bedtime last night reading all the threads the group have done so far. I'm on my way to London women's clinic seminar. Feeling excited. I'm soon to be 34, single and been thinking about this now since I was 31 and now plucked up the courage ( and have the savings ready)

Hey hoping welcome
Ooh I went to the lwc seminar this time last year, it was soooo so good and very informative!made me so excited! Well on the saving already,that's where I went wrong!
Have you chosen which clinic you are going to go with? If lwc they offer a discounted deal on the day to have the tests and the consultant but you have to sign up for it today but can book the stuff at later date.
Very excited for you :) I've got just under8/52 until my AMH test then about 4-6weeks after that see the consultant then start in may all being well (my timetable not theirs,but they are happily going along with my timetable )

Thanks Pickle it was really good and I started getting excited that the process feels like it's starting for me. My bmi is 33 and I know lwc let you do iui if bmi is 35 or under so for that and other reasons I choose lwc. About 6 months ago I did ring up another London clinic( I can't remember which one) and they said bmi had to be below 30 and also couldn't tell me price for storing extra sperm for future siblings and told me I would have to have consultation . I did say that seems wrong way round as I could end up paying for consultation and then be told they don't do it or price to high but the lady wouldn't budge so I decided against that clinic for those two reasons.

I had already provisionally booked a space on Friday for consultation with lwc but wanted to go seminar first to get a feel of the clinic. I'm so glad I did as they had the discount you mentioned and k got my AHM test taken today and my appointment confirmed for Friday- gulp!

What does under 8/52 until AHM mean - sorry I'm a newbie and still figuring out acronyms x

Welcome hoping. I hope you enjoy the seminar. This is an interesting journey, to say the least.

kwick what a kick in the head. So unprofessional for them to make mistakes like that and a comment about your bmi. Maybe they did send the wrong report. Hopefully that's it. I'm mad for you.

shoes thinking about you.

Sorry 8/52 is 8 weeks. We use that abbreviation for weeks all the time at work and I slipped into work mode
Yay glad you got the discount :) have they said when u can get ur results for the AMH?

Wow so exciting that all in a week :) are you hoping for iui or ivf?

Happy weekend everyone x

LOL must be the weekend for "jobs" - I had a task rabbit come round to put on new toilet seat and fix bin.

The Dr who wrote the report is Spanish - if that makes a difference I do not know. I had the email address of my previous consultant so not sure why I cannot have it for the new one!

Welcome hoping!!!

BTW no offence on the Spanish thing - I am half spanish myself!!

Right off to the allotment!

Scan showed one (thank goodness!) foetus measuring 9 weeks (which is right!) and a heartbeat (phew again!).

I feel drained after all the worry but obviously so much more positive now.

So happy shoes! Wonderful news.

That is the best news shoes!!!! Ao happy for you!

shoes that is such wonderful news!!!!!! Very very happy for you!!! Xx