TTC through Donor IUI or Donor IVF or just undecided - all welcome! #makeithappen

[kwick]

This thread is for anyone trying to conceive... or thinking about doing so through donor IUI or donor IVF. Nothing TMI - feel free to join, we are a lovely group here to support and help keep the cray-cray away!
Here is the link to the previous thread: www.mumsnet.com/Talk/conception/2587046-TTC-through-Donor-IUI-or-Donor-IVF-or-just-undecided-all-welcome

Shoes I have everything crossed for you.

Thanks for the well wishes everyone

Kwick I'll attach a pic!

Oh hoping that's so lovely and a useful focuser of the mind that this can work!

I'm still getting nearly but not quite positive OPKs. Not sure what's going on.

I finally arrived at the hotel I had booked at 1am having got off the bus and then got lost for half an hour. The chap on reception was so grumpy it was nearly the final straw(!) so I'll be heading over to my usual friendly hotel later this morning.

Sorry. I seem to be running a bit of a monologue these past 24 hours!

shoes very impressed with your quicj reaction skills ask at the hotel - they may have an adaptor. Best of luck for surge and IUI!!!!

Wow hoping that is a baby!!!! Lovely!

Good luck with your surge shoes! Fingers crossed it works out ok while you are there and all the stress and upheaval will be worth it!
Congrats hoping,what a lovely scan photo,hope continues to go well :)

Got a smiley OPK this morning (phew!) so I'm booked in for IUI at the clinic tomorrow lunchtime.

I feel quite relaxed now that I'm here and the LH surge arrived. I've checked in at my nice hotel (nice in that the staff aren't grumpy!), and have just had lunch at the restaurant I found when I first came here in January. It is the 4th time I've eaten there and they welcomed me like an old friend which was lovely!

And I've booked a bargainous £30 flight back for tomorrow evening. Funny how all the flights out of the UK are sold out but getting back to the UK is easy. Maybe everyone's trying to escape Brexit-land!

shoes how wonderful! What great timing and so glad the last minute rush around was worth it. Thinking happy baby thoughts for you.

I'm feeling better now about being surrounded by pregnant ladies. My Femara headaches have started again but it's worth it. On vacation for the next two days so have booked a reflexology session for tomorrow. Can't wait!

Jeez shoes I was worried there for a minute! Good luck!

LOL shoes with bargainous!!! Wishing you the best of luck! You are superdouper fertile so I am sure you will get a bfp

Had a run in with twat at work... Hope it does not affect my rest tonight - have a very early start as I am doing a day trip to Paris and need to be on top form for my meetings! I probably overstepped the mark in explaining how much of a twat he was but he caused me alot of angst and extra work

Only 2 more days and then 2 weeks off!!!!!

Good luck shoes I have everything crossed for you!

Kwick I hope that you didn't lose sleep over the twattish collleague and that your meetings go ok today.

I've woken up feeling really negative , which isn't like me. My head is all a-jumble and I can't really put my finger on why. At first I thought it was a 'should I really be doing this?' wobble but that would be weird when I was so happy to be pregnant and devastated to miscarry and have felt determined since then to get pregnant again asap.

So I think it must just be that I've lost my innocence about the process. Before, when I was going into my IUIs I was just thinking 'I hope this works and that I get a BFP' now I know from first-hand experience that this is only the first hurdle.

I also think that there's an element of it being a very definite line under the last pregnancy and miscarriage and where I thought I had dealt with the emotional side of losing that pregnancy maybe I haven't fully. I suspect that you can't really get over a miscarriage until you've gone on to have a healthy baby.

shoes you need some channel some PMA - what about the power of "I am":
I am fertile and ready to receive magic potion
I am ready to nuture and love a beautiful baby
I am in perfect time
I am full of positive energy

I completely understand how you are feeling... I am shit scarred about what I am doing, more so than before as I know the reality and pain of a MC. So what I try to do is think how much joy a little kwick would bring to me and the world and my yearning and I find my resolve and PMA again.

Best of luck for today - you will be in my thoughts and I will send positvity your way. Don't forget the pineapple!!!!

shoes there must be something nt he air today as Im having a bit of a wobble too.

Am doubting what Im doing and how Im doing it, and why Im waiting, and my choice of clinic, and my choice of treatment. Im freaking over my inability to determine when Im ovulating (how can it be like clockwork, and then nothing?)

Anyhoo. Wobbling. Don't like it.

Best of luck!

Thanks Kwick

Well any PMA completely disappeared and I lost it and have had a good sob which I haven't done since the week of the MC.

Now I've got that out of my system I have a couple of hours to recoup and rebuild my PMA. Think I'm going to try to find a park near the clinic I first found when I went for my consultation in December, and see if I can find a shady spot to chill out and listen to some music.

Thanks Stork

I hope your wobbles resolve too.

What's going on with your OPKs?

Shoes I think what you are feeling is very normal. That innocence is lost now. But I hope you can find some calm today. Yes, there are no guarantees. However, you are way more likely to carry a baby to term than not. Hugs. One day at a time.

Basically can't find my LH surge. Clear Blue was working on days 14-16 and all was going well. and now nothing on clear blue, but the cheap test strips are picking up a small surge on day 8-10 but only for a day. yet Im still regular as clockwork. no idea whats going on....

Dont cry, find a park and get some peace. xoxo

Thanks for your support everyone.

I managed to arrive at the clinic in a pretty good state of mind after a spending an hour lying under a pretty tree in the botanical gardens and listening to some soothing music.

IUI 3 done! Nobody dare utter the words that begin t w w. I'm in denial about having to go through it given that I've discovered this morning that I'm emotionally weaker than I thought!

I decided to head straight to the airport even though my flight isn't for another 3.5 hours. Saves any stress about getting there in time. I'm sitting in the bar at the Hilton (has good aircon!) next to the terminal. It's nice and peaceful in comparison to the terminal which is heaving. I won't tell you that I'm comfort eating a lunch that includes a huge bowl of french fries .

I know that hotel shoes!!! Well done on reappearance of some PMA. Hope flight back went well. TAKE IT EASY!!!

I am now in taxi going homeward bound - was going to get train (much faster) but there are some problems on the line and I wanna get home nothing to do with lovely M&S food shop I just did and want to gobble up

stork the LH surge thing is a right pain... Maybe your ovulation dates have changed? Maybe get a scan to see what is going on?

Just one more day of work, including meeting with twat - scroll down - and a gazillion other things I want to get done b4 I skive off early for a sleepover with my nephew (last one in a month as he is off to Peru!!!).

shoes I'm very happy for you. First step done. Next step-relax. Sending lots of positive vibes your way.

kwick sorry you have twat to deal with. I know what that is like. Enjoy your food!!

I had a good uneventful journey home. My lovely friend picked me up from the airport. It was so nice to see a friendly face!

I have to admit that I'm still feeling bleak today. Rather than try to squash the feelings I'm going to trust that it'll run its course. I think it's self preservation - expect things not to go well and anything better will be a nice surprise. I've got nice plans for the weekend so hopefully that'll cheer me up a bit.

Stork if I were you I'd get some hormone blood tests to check your levels. Your GP might be willing to run these. Then you'll know better where you are. If they're out of balance (I think it's that if one of the other ones is high then it can inhibit LH). The other thing to say is that there are people who don't get on well with OPKs. A friend of mine stopped using OPKs after not being able to track the surge and is now pregnant with her second child.

Also, as Kwick says, get a scan at around CD10 just to check that you are growing good follicles. This might put your mind at rest.

What time of day are you testing? It is really important to test multiple times a day around the right time (use the internet cheapies until the line starts to get fairly dark - otherwise you'll bankrupt yourself if you use lots of ClearBlues!). For example, before the miscarriage I always got my surge at 8pm, which is very late in the day. If I had only ever been testing at 10am I probably wouldn't have picked up the surge.

Hello!

shoes and kwick thanks guys, I only had my follicle scan and Amh a couple of months ago and all is fine. My ovulation dates must have shifted. Shall start checking earlier!

Bon weekend all.

Glad all is done shoes and you were feeling more positive by the time u had it done. Keeping everything crossed x

shoes pineapple, cayenne pepper and rest!

How do you eat the cayenne pepper Kwick ? Just sprinkle it on stuff?

Red wine (in very moderate amounts) also seems to be recommended for the quality of the lining to aid implantation. I've decided I'll give this a go. Just half a glass a night, making sure I'm drinking plenty of water as well to offset any dehydrating effects of the alcohol. The act of drinking nice red wine will also aid relaxation

Oh, and while I remember. Are you taking baby Aspirin Kwick ?

My clinic said they were glad I hadn't started taking aspirin yet because they don't like doing the IUI if you've been taking it because of the risks associated with procedures when aspirin has thinned your blood. A quick Google suggests that some fertility clinics won't do egg retrieval for IVF if you've been taking aspirin. I'm sure you're on top of all this, but thought I'd mention it just in case.