TTC through Donor IUI or Donor IVF or just undecided - all welcome! #makeithappen

[kwick]

This thread is for anyone trying to conceive... or thinking about doing so through donor IUI or donor IVF. Nothing TMI - feel free to join, we are a lovely group here to support and help keep the cray-cray away!
Here is the link to the previous thread: www.mumsnet.com/Talk/conception/2587046-TTC-through-Donor-IUI-or-Donor-IVF-or-just-undecided-all-welcome

I hate cayenne pepper so what I do/did is dump a load on some scrambled egg and then gulp down and the. Eat rest of plain scrambled eggs to mask the taste...

My FC consultant "prescribed" baby aspirin during 2ww - some studies say it can aid implantation.... Bloody hate these mixed messages!
But I do not take it before IVF/IUI just during 2ww.

shoes how you doing?

Hi, when I saw the thread title I wanted to come and say hello, I hope you don't mind.

One way and another I had quite a lot of fertility treatment. I now have a donor egg conceived 2½ year old and I want to encourage anyone who is considering this route as well as generally sending to everyone going through treatment.

I have the dilemma of a frozen embryo, rationally it's impossible (not very advisable medically let alone other factors) but emotionally I haven't been able to let go.

Thanks for dropping by noeme & for your courage and for sharing

shoes and kwick Ooh, just to add in, I know of two clinics, one in Denmark, one in Cyprus who prescribe baby aspirin before and during IVF. I too hate mixed messages!!!

neome thank you for your message. I can't even begin to understand the emotions involved. I hope you come to find the decision that works best for you. Xoxo

Tell me about it re the mixed messages! Some consultants advise against aspirin in the tww because you need sticky blood for implantation so it would seem unhelpful to thin the blood with aspirin at that point.

But then when on earth is the optimum time to start it?

Hi there ladies!

Sorry I've been AWOL yet again. I've just sat and read through everything so I'm up to speed again... But, I was missing because I got admitted to hospital last Monday with an asthma attack, only got out yesterday. Worst week ever! Have never been that poorly with my asthma.

Shoes, good luck with your third attempt at IUI. We all have our down days, and question why we're doing what we're doing. I hope you find some comfort within yourself and like Kwick said, keep up that positive mantra. Hopefully you start to feel okay soon.

How are all you ladies doing? Where is everyone with their treatment at the moment? Kwick, how long is it until you do your second IVF? Pickle, how's your baby fund coming along?

I have my appointment with the donor coordinator on Wednesday at 11am. So nervous! This means things really are beginning and starting, which is so so exciting but also making me feel a little uneasy too; purely because it's the unknown and I like to know what's going to happen. Hopefully, though, all being well and good (and that my bipolar disorder doesn't throw a spanner in the works) I should be able to begin October/November time. Eek!

Also, I know this is a silly question, and that none of you lovely ladies will be able to comment on it and that I should probably ask my clinic, buttttt, with my paperwork I got from Care, they stated they wouldn't/couldn't do IVF on ladies with a BMI of over 35 because of something to do with it being "dangerous during egg removal". It didn't state IUI's, however, because you're not having egg removal, but does any of your clinics have an upper weight limit?

I think iui's because less invasive there aren't nearly as many risks throughout the procedure therefore weight isn't as big an issue.
My little fund is growing- it's up to £1340 now....would have been more but got my next surgery on the 22nd and had to pay off my £235 credit card splurge from the other week but it's coming along very excited- I can now afford like 1 magic potion and the tests

Welcome neome waves

Sorry to hear you were so poorly with ur asthma caution hope u are much better now

caution I have seen an upper weight limit on all three clinics I was considering, I believe it was 35. And I understand it's due to the sedation during egg removal. The NHS get jittery on elective operations when you are over 35bmi as well I've heard.

Stork - it wouldn't apply to IUI though, would it? Because I'm not going to be sedated for egg removal. I'll have to ask anyway, it's on Wednesday so I don't have too long to wait. :)

Pickle - that's amazing, well done! I bet you're happy now your fund is growing... Kind of makes it feel more real, doesn't it? I was the same when I was saving. Where are you going ahead with your treatment?

I know, so pleased but then when I spend money on other stuff I'm like doh! That's baby money and feel bad...but I'll get there :) I'm trying to be sensible too so that I know I have some money for baby bits and for after its born when I can't work so I've got a long way to go. I planning on going with care in Tunbridge wells, hope to meet them in a few months for an informal look around!!! Exciting!!

Pickle sometimes things crop up and you can't help but dip into it. I had to do that for my holiday that I'm going on in four weeks - but it'll be worth it.
That makes total sense. It's not just about planning TO get pregnant, it's about planning for when you ARE pregnant too!!
Can I ask how old you are Pickle? Sorry for the rude question! I'm pretty sure you've said before but I lose track of ages because there's quite a few of us on here, ha!
Ah you're doing it at a Care clinic too... I'm doing it at the one in Northampton. So excited for Wednesday (my donor coordinator appointment), but also a little apprehensive!

I'm 32...and a half. I really want to not leave it too late and if iui doesn't work then if I'm under 35 I can do egg share and get my Ivf free.
Yeh I love my clinic at care,have spoken too and had email conversations with them and they all seem so nice and friendly and anyone that responds to my over night emails first thing in the morning to make u feel like your the only one at that clinic and ur getting special attention (when really everyone is getting the same) is ok in my books :)
Can't wait to hear how u get on on Wednesday :)

caution sorry to hear you have been poorly.

I will start taking Norethisterone on Friday for 11 days, then have AF and then they start scanning me with a view to egg collection, fertilisation and then transfer!!! Probably will all fall in busiest travel period for me at work... But c'est la vie!!!!! aka having a freak out which I am trying to talk myself down from

caution I have a mahoosive BMI qnd this has never even come up. It may be something to do with anaesthetic? But I would not worry about this if I were you. So exciting you have your appointment tomorrow - best of luck!
If you are doing IUI then there is no anaesthetic - you just have to be able to cope with a speculum up your fanjo (much like a smear test).

Well done pickle!!!

shoes how is the TWOT?

Pickle ah you're a nice age! Some people think I'm too young at 25, but I know this is the only way I'll be able to have a child so why not do it now?
Glad to hear that your clinic is nice. Having a nice clinic is everything, I personally think - if you're not comfortable everything will begin to feel awkward!
Thank you - I'll let you know

Thanks Kwick. Totally out of the blue, but I'm getting better every day now so hopefully I'm on the mend.
Ooh so exciting!! It'll all happen so quickly... Before you know it you'll be in your TWOT! Ah it's bound to fall in the busiest travelling time - why would the universe make it easy for you? .
I'm pretty sure it's something to do with anaesthetic because it said about egg collection, and if I remember rightly, you have egg collection under sedation don't you? BMI shouldn't come into it for fertility treatment - my personal opinion, anyway! I'll find out more tomorrow. X

Hi everyone! Gosh you've all been busy!
So I have my medication appointment tomorrow and getting nervous/excited.
I'm reluctant to get too excited just incase it all fails, but also want to keep my anxiety in check (am teaching baby yoga in the morning before my appointment so hopefully the breathing and positive affirmations will keep me in check )
So here goes my first ivf.. one step closer, one day at a time xx

Lovely - good luck for tomorrow! Everything will be fine, I'm sure.
I have my first ever appointment tomorrow at 11am... I'm excited too!

Looks like tomorrow is a big day! I have my cd12 scan too. Hope it goes well for everyone!

Oh my goodness, it certainly is Appointment Wednesday! Good luck Karen Caution and Lovely . Let us know how it all goes.

Kwick that's great that your plan is in place and that you're able to start the process again.

I'm doing pretty well. I haven't focused much on the TWOT, more on resuming normal service in terms of my general mental state! I was so negative last week and at the weekend, then had a pretty dreadful day at work on Monday. But I handed myself a grip on Monday night and had a better day yesterday.

I'm feeling positive about the baby plan again and I really want this IUI to have worked (I was so negative last week, I did wonder if I'd changed my mind, but I think it was fear about another MC). Even though I haven't been thinking an awful lots about the TWOT, yesterday I symptom spotted a couple of things like when I went out at lunchtime Great Portland Street smelled bloody weird. But it's surely too early for that, so this way madness lies!

Shoes I definitely have my fingers crossed for you!

lovely are you a yoga teacher????!!!! Wow - you have the best job ever if you are
Definitely good idea to take the one step at a time approach with IVF! Best of luck with meds. What are you on?

caution, karen and lovely best of luck with appointments :)

shoes my clinic is by Great Portland Street! Dont't beat yourself up about negative thoughts - what you have been through is fricking hard so a completely normal reaction to be s**t scared.

Have arrived in Corfu - hotel nice although staff a bit off: I had to put up a fuss to get a second room key and the air con is €45 extra for the week. Anyway I just need to chillax a little...

Got good news, ovaries and follicles are behaving. 24mm lead follicle. I'm to trigger tonight at 10pm then iui Friday at 8:30am. Whew. Finally here again, and I'm excited and worried. Just trying to eat good food, get rest and think good thoughts.