TTC through Donor IUI or Donor IVF or just undecided - all welcome! #makeithappen

[kwick]

This thread is for anyone trying to conceive... or thinking about doing so through donor IUI or donor IVF. Nothing TMI - feel free to join, we are a lovely group here to support and help keep the cray-cray away!
Here is the link to the previous thread: www.mumsnet.com/Talk/conception/2587046-TTC-through-Donor-IUI-or-Donor-IVF-or-just-undecided-all-welcome

shoes that is amazeballs news!!! I think the FC will be blown away by how organised you are

shoes so glad you got the meds you need. Why might you postpone the 7 week scan?

So I cooked my signature dish "paella" for 15 yesterday went well, although I seem to have lost my mojo and it was not as good as years gone by. The gas regulator is bust so I am blaming that and will defo try and buy a new one when next in Spain.

Only a week to go of TWOT!!!

Eek only a week left! Hopefully it'll whizz by!!!
Was that top bit about FC for me kwick? If so yes I think they'll be like blimey your a bit early love!!! Haha! Seriously waiting for the call to book it seems sooooo long,but I know they won't contact on a Sunday so I can slot it to the back of my mind.... The TWW must feel extra uber ...loooooonnnnnggggg!!

I'm sure everyone still loved your paella :)

Kwick - the scan thing is a funny one for me. When I was pregnant in the Spring I had a scan at 7+5 which showed a healthy foetus and heartbeat. When I was scanned at 11 weeks they told me that the foetus had died at 7.5 weeks, so rightly or wrongly there is a strong connection in my mind between the scan and the foetus dying. During that scan the trainee sonographer had problems with the computer and she left the probe in the same place for 2–3 minutes while she fiddled with the computer. The probe is supposed to be kept more or less constantly moving so it doesn't overheat any part of your uterus or the foetus. It stressed me out at the time but stupidly I didn't say anything. I should have told her to take the probe out.

Also, I am going to have to be scanned a lot in the later stages of any pregnancy due to my two blood issues (APS and Anti-S). These scans will be absolutely necessary. I am concerned about excessive scanning due to links (in mice of course) found with ASD so I would rather not have a scan at 7 weeks which will make no difference whatsoever to the outcome of the pregnancy and reserve scanning for when what they see will actually inform my treatment.

I don't want to put anyone off scanning so if this has worried anyone, just look at the NHS info on scanning which says its perfectly safe, and then you can write me off as a bit of a worry wart which I am!

Oh yes sorry pickle amd shoes the top bit of last message was meant for pickle

shoes that is very interesting re scanning. Completely understand now and I will be super vigilant if I make it that far again.

Ah shoes bless you, must be such a scary time. Do they have to do an internal scan for these? Way up the pros and cons and if not essential to have and you don't want it then don't have it. x

shoes I'm so glad they have your meds sorted. I understand about the scans. I have huge anxiety even for my monitoring now because I associate the scans with terrible news. Just do whatever makes you feel the most comfortable.

pickle congrats on getting things started!

Look what we grew!!!!!

Ooh yummy, I love yellow courgettes :)

So it turns out that my Fragrance Direct splurge was not a complete waste - 2 of the products which I thought contained silicone do not. Yipee!!!!

lol pleased for you kwick :)
I went to the dermatologist on Friday and she recommended a cream to use but I don't want to use it as it has parobans in it need to try and Google alternatives

Lurking and reading with interest - really helping to hear others progress. Just wanted to ask how people have found the service from their clinics, my first cycle has kicked off in the last week and although the clinic staff seem fab in person and friendly on the phone, every single email I've had from them has been wrong - wrong dates for meds, wrong treatment, addressed to someone else, wrong invoice, half an invoice. Even the apology email after I queried things had incorrect info in - think putting October when should be Sept type mistakes. All smallish things individually but combined it's really shaken my confidence :-(

Welcome astridforty I'm waiting for my first visit to the clinic so can't really comment but what I would say is that those errors are likely to be someone in admin rather than the nurses/doctors that will be doing any of the treatment. But you have to go with what you feel comfortable with, maybe worth speaking to the manager there to reassure yourself.

What treatment are you starting?iui or ivf?

Ivf, I've gone for a 3 cycle refund plan so I'm not absolutely bankrupt if things don't work out. Trying really hard to be positive though.

BBC world service now. Article about sperm banks.

Welcome astrid. I hope you can get things sorted out. Good luck with this cycle!

Welcome astrid. My clinic has had a few moments too (a couple of them mentioned up thread), mainly to do with sending emails that aren't accurate for me. The main one is that I get very strict instructions to ensure I have a full bladder before the IUI, but because of my awkwardly positioned uterus I need an empty one... The form letter I receive after the IUI says something about the fertility boosting drugs, but I'm on unmedicated cycles. I put it down to poor admin, although I do find it frustrating regarding the bladder bit!

pickle this skincare ingredient malarkey is SO hard!! I am also trying to switch to eco friendly cleaning products.

Welcome astrid! My clinic, CRGH, does not really do email - they always want to see you or speak to you. I did write an epic email to my previous consultant and think I just got a couple of words back!!!
I always make sure to double check info, although nearly always correct/clear except for cycle when they had me down for natural ivf instead of natural iui. They also double charged for magic potion storage - which I got straightened out.
I have thus far forgiven these misdemeanours because a) most people are lovely and b) they have high success rates.
What is a 3 cycle refund plan?

shoes how are you finding the meds?

shoes how are you finding the meds?

shoes how are you finding the meds?

Ooops!! Did not mean to post 3 times!!!

one way to get her to answer just keep repeating your questions lol!!!
didn't hear back from the clinic today,they said 1-3days to hear back so shouldn't have expected anything but I can't lie, I'm a little disappointed-wishing I had just rang them to book rather than email but then I couldn't ring them today as I didn't want to seem like a stalker than can't wait a couple of days for a call back #iamaloser!

pickle you are so funny! You should just call them!
BTW if I could tell my younger self something other than to not wait 41 years before TTC I would say that I should make a cycle diary - detailed notes on physical and mental state every day and correlate this to opk's and maybe even temperatures - all this info would so useful now. pickle may I live vicariously through you?!

I do not like list of forbidden food available from NHS... Am going to check out Spanish advice.

Advice same as in UK!

What are the forbidden foods?
You may that is fine, if you could do it all for me that would be even better.
I'm still on the pill as is mini pill so they said not to come off it until I see the consultant, went to gp on Friday to get more and she gave me a years worth and I was thinking eek!! Hopefully I won't be on them by then wahooo!

I know I'm awful kwick, I hate thinking I am bothering or being annoying to others paranoid some might say I know they would have responded if they had a chance and they would have been dealing with others so just need to be patient a skill I am distinctly lacking!!!