TTC through Donor IUI or Donor IVF or just undecided - all welcome! #makeithappen

[kwick]

This thread is for anyone trying to conceive... or thinking about doing so through donor IUI or donor IVF. Nothing TMI - feel free to join, we are a lovely group here to support and help keep the cray-cray away!
Here is the link to the previous thread: www.mumsnet.com/Talk/conception/2587046-TTC-through-Donor-IUI-or-Donor-IVF-or-just-undecided-all-welcome

Pickle, you'll get there. I've been doing the same - saving enough for mat leave and i've covered the cost of cots, prams etc and a few IUI's too. As i said, you'll get there, and May will come by really quickly... Look how quickly this year has gone! It's almost Christmas!

Kwick oooh, TWOT - how are you finding it? When's your OTD? I have everything crossed that this cycle is your cycle. How have you been? I can't believe Taydex is near her due date! Thank you... I'm definitely getting better by the day - just got to take it a day at a time!

Late, exciting times ahead! I'm glad this IUI was smoother than the last few - if i'm remembering rightly, you had troubles with the actual procedure and found it uncomfortable? Or am i wrong? Sorry if i am! The 16th will come round really quickly.. I'll have everything crossed it's a BFP :)

Karen - it'd be so nice if we ended up as cycle buddies! When are you planning to go ahead with treatment? Sorry if you've said and i've missed it - theres just so much to read and so much to take in that i've got confused - it doesn't take much, lol!

Stork - are you still going ahead with treatment at Care in N'pton? How're you going with acupunture? I've tried acupunture but i didn't enjoy it - some find it really therapeutic though! December... Soooo exciting!!

Hope you're all having a lovely Wednesday. X

Hi caution. I have no idea now when I'll be able to go ahead. Consult with new dr is on the 29th. Guess it depends on if he wants new tests or not.

karen sounds like you have a plan!!! Which I think is half the battle

late I think it is grossly unfair your OTD is 2 days before mine!!! Fx for your TWW!

How come your otd is 2 days later? I don't understand that

Pickle - I was wondering about that as well especially as Kwick's IVF means that things should be a day or two ahead at transfer (I would have thought). I think its two things:

Different clinics have different policies. Some have a 15 day OTD and some have 21.

Also, I assume it depends on the length of your average cycle as my clinic always make my OTD the day after AF is likely to be due which for my cycle is day 15 but for someone with a 32 day cycle it would be day 18 or something like that.

Thinking of both Late and Kwick in your TWW. It's not easy! Distraction is the only way forward

Yeh that's what I was thinking too shoes hmmm confusing!

Night everyone x

caution hey! Yes, Im doing Care N'ton. Currently trying to decide if I should buy one round or two of IVF and get a big saving on the second round.... hmmm.

Yes I love my acupuncturist. In fact I RAVE about her. Its like therapy and relaxation all rolled into one. I have a friend who lives in northants who was doing acupuncture and didn't enjoy it or like the doctor. then saw that I loved mine and that I was so centred from the treatments and found herself a new doc and is totes in love with the sessions now. She is now 8wks pregnant via ivf and really rates the acupuncture. So I urge you to , try a new doc and find one who you gel with (if that was part of the prob?). its such a personal experience you have to feel at ease, safe and fully in line with the therapy and practitioner. Mine has twins as a result of IVF and understands the process and is uber sympathetic which I just find so helpful. She is my cheerleader and is on my side.

Are you in northants? I can get you a referral to mine or my friends doctor if you wish? message if you like. xxx

If you are going solo, what have you told people, and how have they reacted? I've only talked about it with a few people, and they have almost universally been excited and supportive (though if I hear "brave" once more I may throw things).

My mother is thrilled to bits. She offered to come with me to the clinic (no, just...no). She's talking about coming to stay to assist if it all works out. She's generally delighted that I've taken matters forward. My Dad (parents divorced) is...nice about it. Maybe apprehensive. He made a comment that some members of his family might be surprised and I said he didn't need to tell them or his friends anything - they didn't need to know I don't have a partner! I am sure that the people I am in contact with would understand and I don't really care about the rest (didn't say this bit to him). He hasn't asked any questions, but that could be because I've updated him briefly and practically "I am looking into.../I've been to a clinic/I've started the process". He certainly hasn't said anything negative, apart from a couple of small concerns.

Sorry, this got a bit long, but I'd be very interested to hear who you have told, and how they reacted.

I have no idea why my clinic says 16 days.... Last time I started testing 4 days out...

Initially I told LOADS of people - nearly everyone has been very supportive.

late my mum has come with me for the 2 egg collections plus the MC. You have to have someone with you due to the anaesthetic. She has tried to come for other parts but I have said no to that... Bad enough that strangers (aka medical staff) have to see my fanjo poked and prodded.

I wish I had a better memory! Cannot recall how I felt in last 2ww and if this differs... Yes I have fallen into symptom spotting!!!

late I told people when I was pregnant last time. Most people where very supportive of me going alone. Those who weren't I don't talk to anymore. I'm at the point in my life where I have learned that I don't have to keep certain people around if I don't want to. How are you feeling these days?

No symptom spotting kwick!! X

Just had my first acupuncture appointment. Quite enjoyed it. Feel a bit odd and weak right now, like I just want to go and have a nice nap.

I've told my auntie (who isn't actually my auntie but have called her that since I was born) and she initially thought I was joking but has been a fab fab support and totally behind me.
My sister knows and is very happy and supportive and thinks I'll be good at it (fingers crossed)
Told my oldest 2 besties, both were cautious but one accepts it a lot more than the other
Told a few people at work and most have been amazing and so excited and know me enough to know 1)I know how hard it'll be but I can/will do it 2) I am being sensible about saving and doing it the safe way and 3)I will have researched the hell out of it 4) they know I don't do the whole bloke relationship thing.
One of my friends and her hubby are so excited and when the hubby said I would make an amazing mummy it makes me so happy
One very good friend is totally against it.
I will totally need everyone's support BUT ultimately altho I care what they think equally I care why I think and I know how this means the world to me. I feel this is so the better option that randomly hooking up someone and arguing about child support etc that you don't really like etc....I know I don't need convince you guys.
One of my elderly patients was taking about this with me (not that I'd told him his plans) but said well nowadays you don't need a man you can be a lovely mummy and go down other routes which I thought was totally amazing for an older generations view.
I know my mum will not approve at all but hey ho!

Wow that was long sorry ....8months and 2 weeks ish till first iui hopefully

What a shitty day. One of my 3 bosses was aggressive/defensive/horrid down the phone to me earlier - has really shook me up
Also just looked through my Fragrances Direct splurge and every fcuking single product except one contains fertility busting silicone cyclohexasiloxane... No more online buying for me
Have shocking headache, am starving, am knackered, moan, moan, moan.
On a brighter note I had a blood test today that gave me good progesterone levels so means I do not have to shove even more gunk up my fanjo

karen glad you liked the acupuncture

pickle sounds like you will have a great support network.

I did minimal thinking/research before embarking on this journey as per my usual modus operandi - I just knew it was the right thing to do and that I would regret it forever if I did not at least try. I have always wanted to be a mum - originally thinking of 5...

kwick Oh no sorry that boss was being a biatch! Just what you need when on the dreaded 2ww
Ooh fab news about your progesterone levels,that was always a bit low last time wasn't it? Hopefully that's a good thing!

I was off today, had 3 medical appointments then went for lunch with a friend and her 3yr old then came home and sorted half of one of my wardrobes out, 2bags to go to charity shop and one for rubbish. Have contacted my builder to get a quote to board my loft and then can get stuff out of my room and the spare room into the loft and make more room for things I need to have in those rooms :) hopefully wont be too expensive.#productive me...hopefully it lasts

How is everyone doing?

I know pickle I am trying to not get too excited about progesterone result!!!

Wow you have had such a productive day!!! You go girl!!!
Have you thought about selling on ebay rather than giving to charity? I try and do that and then I just then donate earnings to charity/buy loads of scratchcards.

I am cooking my signature dish, paella, for 15 tomorrow... No rest for the wicked!

The things I've put for charity shop I don't think would sell on eBay. I've sorted some of my shoes that I'm going to try on gumtree/eBay and if don't sell then give to charity shop
I need to be doing the same tomorrow and Sunday,just hope i feel as productive

Ooh yummy paella...altho I only like meat paella as don't like seafood

Look what I found in something I picked up at my clinic. I may go....

If any if you lovely ladies live in Bedfordshire you may want to provide your opinion in the consultation.

I am going to do this - yes kwick is still smarting that there is no gunding for single women!!!

I am going to do this - yes kwick is still smarting that there is no gunding for single women!!!

Ooh the fertility show looks good (&prob a nice lot of freebies!!! I might see how much the tickets are!....runs away to look

So entrance tickets are £12 for one day or £20 for both days and to book specific seminars it's £3 per seminar. If turn up on the day it's more expensive for seminars and entrance fee. Looks interesting tho :) thanks kwick

Just filled out the application form for CAREfertility to book the complementary 20min 1-2-1 and view the clinic etc. Got to wait 1-3 working days to hear back from them. Prob won't get an appointment straight away due to work but yay for nearly at step one better than buying expensive baby things for non existent baby!! so frigging excited!!!!!

Pickle - That's really exciting that you're taking the first step of the process

Where is the Care clinic that you're going to see?

Sorry folks - I'm really behind on the thread. Had a massive gig last night that with rehearsals etc. kept me busy for two solid days. I'll catch up on everyone's news soon. I hope the TWOT isn't being too torturous for Kwick and Late.

I was seen by a consultant in the antenatal clinic on Thursday. I've got my heparin so that's a relief! They want to scan me on the 21st at 7 weeks. I'm not so sure as I'd rather wait for a dating scan post 10 weeks. I'll see how I feel nearer the time.

Ooh yay shoes glad you got the heparin, that's brill news.

It's care at Tunbridge wells, I've spoken with them a couple of times and they have always been so lovely and ring you back asap, which is always a good thing.