TTC through Donor IUI or Donor IVF or just undecided - all welcome! #makeithappen

[kwick]

This thread is for anyone trying to conceive... or thinking about doing so through donor IUI or donor IVF. Nothing TMI - feel free to join, we are a lovely group here to support and help keep the cray-cray away!
Here is the link to the previous thread: www.mumsnet.com/Talk/conception/2587046-TTC-through-Donor-IUI-or-Donor-IVF-or-just-undecided-all-welcome

Hi stork! Long time no see! Bad news about Xytex... I will bare that in mind if I need to buy more magic potion. I did not know there was an effective test for Zika.

So am shattered but still have team dinner - we are going to walk the Promenade des anglais and then have dinner. Have promised myself I will leave early if feel like it and get a taxi back!!!

Yeh i will be limiting any spending to less than £10 for anything I buy!!! My auntie is as bad as me,she has starting knitting for the non existent baby!!
Hi stork nice to hear from you. Very interesting about the zika virus, we did about zika in our infection control meeting

blog.xytex.com/category/sperm-bank/

I've been doing some reading about zika and sperm banks, I've found this from xytex. I may be wrong, but from what I've read as long as your donor didn't travel an an affected area and then donate within 28 days you should be risk free. Since all sperm must be in quarantine for at least 6 months prior to usel I'm pretty comfortable using the sample I have in storage now. If this go doesn't work I might have to rethink things, or at least contact the company directly. It's pretty scary how fast it is spreading. Already now an issue in Florida. I'm hoping that we have a cold winter to kill all the mosquitos. Like we don't all have enough to worry about already!

Still no af. Actually hoping it holds off for two days, it will make the timing of everything much better.

Hey ladies!

I was amazed as well that a) there was a test and b) the quarantine wouldn't sort it. But no, I was told yesterday that they feel it's too risky, so where as they used to accept xytex, now they won't.

So annoying ladies!

So kwick are you on TWW?! Eeek!

Is the assumption then that European sperm bank/cryos Denmark etc. are safe because they're not in South America?

I wonder if donors are being quizzed on their travel history now!

European sperm bank has super tight controls in place apparently and so they will only use that bank and Brighton sperm bank . I mean this is what the clinic say, they may just be being overly careful!

From what we were told at our meeting zika virus can still be present in sperm 6months after infection so it's really quite worrying.
It may well be something that is questioned about now as it's become more prevalent :(

I have to admit I hadn't even thought about sperm donors and Zika until Stork mentioned it.

If this pregnancy doesn't continue I will definitely be finding out what measures Cryos have in place. As for this pregnancy, I know that the swimmers were donated at least 8 months ago so I'm going to assume that I'm ok.

Literally this zika thing what a wank stain!!! Sorry have reverted to teenage self of the 90s!!!
I have the last magic potion from my donor anyway so would have to find a new one when I run out but it is very annoying that Xytex might not now be an option.

Somehow managed to leave back in Blighty my panty liners... Not great as I am leaking crinone and cyclogest

Need some help. Just called to schedule my day 3. They are moving so all cycled right now are cancelled. I have made an appointment to start going to another centre. But now I'm going to lose 2 months. I'm devastated. I just feel like giving up. Like this isn't what I'm meant to be doing.

Oh *karen" that's awful. Surely they should have had some interim measures in place so that they don't let women down? That is incredibly frustrating.

Remember though, this is their bad planning, not your bad decision. They have let you down, and this is not your fault - don't take it as a sign that it isn't meant to be.

Karen - I am livid on your behalf. Surely they could have told you this a couple of months ago?

Have you called any other clinics? As you have already had the preliminary tests, if you can send these results on to a new clinic you might find that they can fit a consultation in very quickly. You don't need a Day 3 scan, so that shouldn't be a reason to panic as long as you are tracking your ovulation. All you need is a clinic to do the actual insemination.

I am so sorry that you have been treated like this. I'm sure it feels dreadful now, but try to take heart that in a few months time it will fade into insignificance as you will have found a new clinic and progressed on your journey.

Aw karen I'm so sorry to hear this sweetie! How frustrating and upsetting they would have known about this months ago so totally unfair to do this to you.
Just keep swimming, you will get there. Nothing worth having is easy,keep your chin up. We are here for you to help get u through

Hi ladies - sorry for being AWOL, i haven't been well, and i went on holiday last week... Was just what i needed! Hopefully i'll start to recover now - it's all been downhill since the asthma attack i had mid-July, just been focusing on myself and thinking lots of positive baby thoughts to try and get me through bed days... It's been hard, but i've done it!

How are you all doing? I've completely lost thread (pun intended) of where i am, who's doing what, and who's at what stage!! Pretty please may you all tell me a little about whats been happening in your life re baby plans?? I know it's a bit monotonous, i'm really sorry.

Lots of love to you all xx

Caution - Great to see you back! So glad you're ok. Did you hear the news today that Vitamin D has been shown to reduce the severity of asthma attacks?

My update: I'm 4.5 weeks pregnant following IUI#4 last month, but a blood test came back positive for Antiphospholipid Syndrome (probably the cause of my MC in May) which means my pregnancy is less likely to be successful and is considered 'high risk' so I'm not really celebrating the BFP I'm seeing a consultant on Thursday and hoping that they will prescribe heparin (blood thinner) to treat the APS which will give my pregnancy a chance to progress.

caution yayyyyy so pleased you are safe and sound,we have missed you! Sorry you've been poorly,hopefully you are on the mend now!
How are your baby plans coming along? I've got £2000 saved up so that's where I am up to :)
Lovely to have you back xx

Thank you so much for your lovely welcome backs Shoes & Pickle - it's nice to know i've been missed, ha!

Shoes, i must've missed that - but that's really interesting, i'll have to have a look into that, thank you for the heads up!
I'll give you a cautious congratulations my lovely - at least you know what you're dealing with now, and that there is a reason behind your previous miscarriages, as hard as it is... I've googled it, and it says that with treatment, there's an 80% chance of having a successful pregnancy - that's a good odd, right? I'm not sure whether i'm saying the right or wrong things here, so forgive me if i'm saying the wrong things... I just really hope you're ok. Let us know how it goes on Thursday - i'll have EVERYTHING crossed for you!!

Pickle - that's an amazing amount!! How much are you hoping to save up? Well, i have the money side of things pretty much sorted now, which is very exciting, it's just finding the right time! Because i've been poorly, i've decided to hold off. I was going to start after my holiday but i still don't feel 100%, so i'm going to give it a couple more months and then book my first consultation. It's so nice to know i don't have to worry about the money side anymore, and that i could do it now if i wanted to! xx

I want to save as much as possible,but hopefully about £800 a month ideally. I want to have enough that I can do multiple attempts in a row if needed and also have some money when on mat leave and or for nursery costs etc. Still planning for first iui may 2017 time so getting closer....slowly x

Welcome back caution. I hope are feeling better now. Maybe we will end up being cycle buddies! It's nice to have you back here.

Thank you shoes, late and pickle. It's been an emotional day. Ended up seeing a Tdog that have been attacked by a pit bull and it was terrible. Also did surgery to remove a corn cob from a 5 month old puppy.
Been a roller coaster of a day. I'm so mad at my re but I'm actually feeling relieved to be moving on. I'm not happy about waiting.....again. But maybe now I'll actually progress and move in a positive direction. Last nigh I was actually dreading going into the clinic and could feel my stress elevating. So maybe it's better this way,

I am meeting with a new doctor on the 29th. I have read reviews about him and everyone one of the, has been positive.

I just want to say thank you again. late for telling me it's not my fault and that everything is still possible. -shoes for giving me some perspective, maybe in 2 months I'll be realizing it was meant to happen like this. And pickle thank you for telling me to keep swimming, I love dory. :)

Kwick hope you are feeling ok. One day closer!

Me to, dory gets me through a lot of situations in life :)
Glad your feeling a little bit better about it,hopefully it'll just be so you get a new amazing dr that you were meant to find.

Happy Wednesday peeps, I'm got a staff meeting today then one more day to get through then get my stitches out- how has that been nearly 3 weeks already?!?!??

In slightly later this morning because of a meeting and I have discovered a program on TLC called "baby changes everything" which is different families having babies-one with quads, heard something about someone wanting to do alone-might freak the living day lights out if me but looks worth a watch

karen I wrote you a long message yesterday which I then lost
First what a fcuker! It happened to me also - ie my clinic moved and was closed for a couple of weeks. Fortunately for me I was on holiday at the time so was not actively trying.
Some great advice from the others but if you are set on your clinic then maybe take as an opportunity to further improve your egg quality/save.
My clinic's new abode is swish and modern.

caution great to hear you are alive and wellish!

I had my embryo transfer last Friday and am now on TWOT!!!!

kwick. I was at the point yesterday of just cancelling everything. But I'm going to go to my reflexology today, and get started on my acupuncture sessions. You are right, it gives me time to work on egg quality and save up some money too. I wish I didn't feel the pressure of my age. I had a good talk with someone yesterday that had her baby at 40. She told me that when she was having her baby everyone in the mat ward was older than her, all the way up to 45, which was great to hear. She rattled through a list of many women who have had miscarriages and gone on to have babies. Im just tired of waiting. Patience has never been a quality of mine! I'm done with my current clinic. A new building will not fix that place. I'm tire of calling and never having anyone answer the phone. The place I'm going to at the end of the month is in the hospital, they do procedures every day (old clinic stopped working on Sunday's, which worried me a lot). There were very sympathetic to me and told me many women have transferred to them from the doctor I have been seeing.

I'm also on my two week wait - IUI last Friday and it was so much smoother than the previous two. I have my last piece of pineapple tonight and I've been sprinkling things with cayenne pepper. It is rather nice with peas! I test on the 16th...

karen honey, that's sucks. But as the others said, don't let it make the decision for you! Enjoy reflexology and acupuncture and get dentered again. And thanks for the story about your friend on the maternity ward with the 45yr olds! That helped me!

caution hola chica! I've been rather quiet: saving, working, acupuncturing... I'm due to have my first IVF beginning of December. And have a consult with my clinic next Friday, to plan treatment.