TTC through Donor IUI or Donor IVF or just undecided - all welcome! #makeithappen

[kwick]

This thread is for anyone trying to conceive... or thinking about doing so through donor IUI or donor IVF. Nothing TMI - feel free to join, we are a lovely group here to support and help keep the cray-cray away!
Here is the link to the previous thread: www.mumsnet.com/Talk/conception/2587046-TTC-through-Donor-IUI-or-Donor-IVF-or-just-undecided-all-welcome

Awe Pickle I could have written that myself over the last 10 yrs or so. The one thing that breaks my heart on a daily basis was people asking either 'Do you have children' or 'How old are your kids'
I apologise if my post came across negative to you, it certainly wasnt meant that way.
This is your journey, you ride it how you want!
Im researching all baby equipment myself atm but cannot bring myself to buy anything , think ill end up with the bare minimum.
On a side note Mamas and Papas have a parents to be event coming up this month, have a look in your local area for dates, they usually give away freebies and have good demos on.
I love how upbeat and positive you are :)

I know, it's so hard! There is a security guard at work who always comments on my finding dory bag and says "went out with your little girls bag again" I just laugh and say yeh....mainly cos he doesn't need to know my business but also cos little too ashamed to say no that's totally mine haha!
Nah I wanted honest and I got honest
To be honest I'll prob end up with the second hand stuff from my mates/sisters cos I wont have the money to afford top notch gorgeous designed ones,have to think as well likely to only try for one (unless I have twins so do I want to spend so much one something that will be used for such a short time in their life.
Ooh I'll have a look at mama and papas thing or will keep an eye out for one next year :)
Thanks Hun xx

Ha - Do we all live in fear of having twins? I thought that was just me!

Pickle I completely understand and I know that you will have researched like mad. I think that's something most of us here have in common that in order to make the decision to do what we're doing we have become expert researchers!

I haven't bought anything at all baby related, and I probably won't until I get to the point of having a successful 20-week scan but then I am as skint as anything after all my IUI attempts and I won't believe that I can overcome my blood clotting issues until I get to at least 20 weeks and even then it will still feel precarious. It is disconcerting being a 'high-risk pregnancy' which I now am.

I was at a party last night and spent half an hour holding an absolutely gorgeous 12-week old baby. It's the first time I've been able to bring myself to hold a baby since my miscarriage. I'd been wondering whether I'd lost all maternal instincts!

pickle did I forget to mention how much I admire you. I wish I had been as forward thinking as you and a) found out about this malarkey a bit more and b) actually being responsible and saving.

Thanks kwick x

Awww pickle it's torture, isn't it? Finding the perfect baby stuff and then having to talk yourself out of it every time. Your shopping days will come! You are doing such a great job at saving. I wish I had done that. Now it's trying to pay as the cycles come and it would have been much less stressful to have a baby account already. Just keep window shopping and dreaming. X

how's everyone feeling this weekend? Big week for so many! I hope the blahs have gone away. Hope everyone is getting plenty of sleep. I'm going to see if I can watch master chef online. I watched it all the time when I lived in Australia and I loved it! Cleaned the house yesterday but with three dogs you would never know it and today I might sit outside and read in the sun for awhile.

shoes I defo live in fear of twins!!!

I am on my way home to pack for my 4 day trip next week, stab myself, rest up and get an early night (have to be up at 4am!!!). Just left my nephew who is starting secondary school on Tuesday... Where did the years go?

I channel my baby product buying into beauty products

Happy Sunday everyone!

Kwick - How do you deal with the logistics of the injections when you're away? Do you have to take a sharps bucket with you!?

Yes def fear of twins

I guess I should shoes but I just store them - each needle has a cap, except for Clexane which is self-covering - and put them in my sharps box when I am back. I have 3 flights... Lets hope luggage is not lost at any point

Thanks Karen it's bloody hard ain't it?!
Hope u manage to find masterchef online- do u live in uk?its on watch....should be able to download if not hopefully. I love it :)

So I bit the bullet and ordered Solgar 1000mcg folate yesterday with Amazon Prime and it arrived just now! I am liking the speed a lot!

Feeling a bit crap - womble is cramping - I know it is all the progesterone.

TBH I am shit scared... I was SO lucky that the IVF worked last time. I know the MC was devastating... I just want to be pregnant... Not sure how many more tries I have in me. It has been over a year now of trying but I know I must carry on otherwise??? Sorry I know I sound completely schizo... Just wish 2ww was over already!

Wow that's quick, least u can start taking them when you are away
The 2ww must be torturous, just try and work in short bits, by the time u r back from ur 4days working thing you will be 1 week wait over.... Any other things you've got planned within the 2ww that you can focus on? Catching up with ur nephew? Keep the pma going and we are here (like u guys were for me) when u go a little insane and need to be pulled back to reality x

kwick you transferred a fantastic embryo and you've done everything you can to make a great home for it. I think you have a very good chance of everything working. I know it's terrifying. I know you probably just want to know what's going on it there right this second. You are 2 days post transfer right? And it was a 5 day embryo? So the next week, hopefully with the help of work, will fly by. I might have my numbers off by a bit. But I really have my fingers crossed for you!!

pickle I'm across the pond in Canada. The only one amongst all you lovelies! Wish I lived over there, your clinics sound way better. Or I could be jetting off like shoes. Just seems like there are more options. Ah well.

I've started the guided meditations and quite like them. Af might show up early based on my cramps today. Acupuncture and reflexology lined up for this week.

Ah ok, long way a way....can you do self insemination over there by ordering the magic potion to your house? Sorry I've forgotten where you are in the scheme of things, when ru due to have next iui? (Sorry my brain is useless at the mo, eaten gluten this week and feel like someone has shoved me in a coma with belly ache)
Ooh acupuncture, sounds interesting. Hope all goes well x

Aloha ladies!

Really does my head in not getting messages to tell me you ladies have updated. Grr!

So, seems we have some progress... Congratulations! shoes, lovely - what's your due dates?

kwick, late - are you both on the dreaded 2WW now? Let us know if we can distract you at all. Fingers crossed x

Pickle - totally normal feelings I'd say. I think the ladies are right, it is a bit soon. But I totally understand where you're coming from. I felt the same. Somehow I had the willpower to not buy anything (OK, apart from 1 vest and 1 babygrow!) before 12 weeks. And then I went crazy, lol! Try and hang I'm there and concentrate on spending the pennies on getting pregnant first?

Someone asked my due date. 26 October. 7.5 weeks to go. Argh! Lol. We had NCT classes this weekend and it all feels a lot more real now. Eep!

TD x

Hi pickle. I think af will arrive tomorrow, so cd3 scan on Wednesday, iui the end of next week if all goes well. Focusing on relaxing and being positive.

Nope, can't get magic potion and do home insemination. Canada, in all its wisdom, decided some years back to make it illegal for any man to receive money for sperm. All the Canadian sperm banks then closed, go figure. So now Canada has these strict import laws. We can still buy sperm, but it's from banks that now have cross boarder agents in Canada. It's all really ridiculous and makes me very angry that our lovely government has made it so hard for women like me. Rant over. Lol. Basically means I'm having an American baby (fingers crossed), which is a bit of a joke to me family and friends.

Kwick - I think it's impossible not to be scared after everything you've been through but IVF worked for you last time so there is absolutely no reason why it shouldn't this time. Remember that the stats are good for IVF.
I find the best way to deal with any anxiety for me is to keep busy and distracted and to spend time with people who make me happy. Your work trip is pretty good timing really as a different focus for a few days.

Karen - Great that you're gearing up for your next cycle

Thank you Taydex My due date is early May. It all feels precarious because of the discovery of my blood clotting issues. I'm hoping to get the meds I need when I see the consultant on Thursday.

Thanks pickle

karen it was a day 3 embryo and my official test date is sunday 18 September. there is this cool website that shows what should be happening each day.
I hope this week flies by - not sure it will though as the meetings for tomorrow, weds and thurs are ones that I lose interest in very quickly as they are all about increasing sales... Not much value I can add there. Today should be ok though as it is a team meeting. I am bit worried how the rest of the team will receive as I was not there with them in Paris last week.

OMG taydex where did the time go? Do you have a birth plan!

Interesting what you say karen when I wanted to reorder magic potion from my French/Italian/Puerto Rican donor through Xytex they finally found some in Canada

So after all that talk about pineapple I actually forgot yesterday's dose!!! had yesterday's this morning at 4.30am, rest is in suitcase... Hope I sleep on the plane.

Bit nervous about going to Nice - so so awful what happened there the day after I was last there in July.

Oh meant to say: thanks shoes!!!

Where would I be without you lovely ladies?

Sorry Taydex - I missed the bit about your due date. Gosh - not long left! I hope you're feeling OK. My friend who is due a couple of weeks before you is struggling a bit with tiredness.

Kwick - I hope your journey was ok. Don't fret over the pineapple - I'm sure one missed portion won't make a difference.

Hola again,

I know, time is really flying! Nervous and excited now. Only 5 more weeks at work (and as I'm counting this Monday morning as being done, it's only 4 more Monday mornings, yay!).

Yes, to be fair I think I've been pretty lucky with my pregnancy. I know it wasn't easy to get pregnant but once it finally happened, it seems to have gone quite smoothly (I do hope I'm not tempting fate there). To be honest I've just been pretty busy and got on with it. Some niggles along the way, like rib pain for a few weeks on one side, and this last week I've not slept as well as I'd have liked, but on the whole, I've managed to stay pretty normal. I suspect the remainder of the pregnancy is the more challenging bit though, as I get even bigger and things get harder to do/I get more tired/things hurt more etc.

I have my fingers crossed for you all and will try to check in when I can (like when I can't or baby won't sleep at 3 am LOL).

TD x

Safe trip kwick
taydex I don't know where the time has gone-you are one week behind my sister and 2 weeks behind my best friend. So many babies, they are both having boys and haven't had any trouble so fingers crossed stays like it

Hello all!

Seriously, you've all been busy! Congrats to those progressing on their journeys! And blimey Taydex, where did the time go?!

I've been a bit head down. I've been in NYC, and planning my IVF. My consult with Care is in a couple of weeks and my IVF will be happening in December. It's a count down, save hard situation.

Also trying to find a new babydaddy donor. My PhD scientist has removed himself so I need a new one. Using xytex is out as they don't test for zika, so says Care Fertility, so I'm stuck with the European Bank and no one is taking my fancy...!

But yes, head down, working, saving, acupuncture, continuing to lose weight, eating spinach (bleugh), still not drinking enough milk, and just positively focussing on December.

Hey Pickle, the struggle to not buy baby stuff is real (as is the fear of twins!) so how about this, I spent time in baby emporiums while I was away(oh my god the size and choice in America is amazing) looking and immersing myself in baby stuff. Trying out loads of things and deciding what I liked with no pressure to buy. So now I know that I prefer the Lillebaby carrier to the Ergobaby carrier! This has helped me not buy things. Go visit these places, window shop, try, but don't buy!

Much love to all and welcome to the new ones!