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When's the best time to get pregnant? Use our interactive ovulation calculator to work out when you're most fertile and most likely to conceive.

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babydances · 08/07/2016 09:55

Hi everyone here is the August bus carrying on from the one I was on previous month with u ladies.
Fx this is a lucky bus!
Had my implant out yesterday and gp said I should be good to go within a week.

Not too sure how to track so hoping af arrives to kick things off :-)

Ttc no 2
Test due date ??
Cycle 3 or 4 (lost track now!)

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Leah98 · 20/07/2016 21:49

Hi Ginandcake good luck to you too. Hopefully the ovulation tests show something? I've just started trying these too. I was very lucky with my ds & dd. Both times conceived very quickly. This time is a different story. I'm thinking cause I was on nexplanon implant??? Or just bit older don't know. Just keep trying.

Pyjamas81 · 20/07/2016 22:33

Thanks gin and midrog - you're right, it's not over 'til the AF lady sings! Feeling a bit more positive knowing that it doesn't necessarily mean I didn't ovulate Smile

This POAS business drives me batshit, but in a weird way makes me feel like I'm doing something other than wait wait wait!

ginandcake · 20/07/2016 22:46

I was really lucky with the first two as well, second cycle with DD1 and first cycle with DD2. On second cycle now and hoping I'll have the same luck but for some reason don't feel as positive.

It could well be the implant making it take longer for you, it can take months for it to totally get out of your system.

Pyjamas81 · 20/07/2016 22:58

I also had Nexplanon implant Leah - I had it taken out in March before my wedding (had started to run out) and then went on pill until May to get through honeymoon AF free and because we went somewhere where there's Zika Shock Cycles have been a bit weird re ovulation and cycle length since coming off - first proper cycle 34 days and second one was 22. Hope things even out for you quickly!

I was moaning about it to DH earlier, he said "so you're unpredictable, I could've told you that ages ago" lol

Eva30 · 21/07/2016 07:11

Morning. I know women shouldn't take antihistamines when TTC but is it ok for men to take them? DH takes one every day.

Writerwannabe83 · 21/07/2016 07:15

I had this OPK result this morning so I'm thinking I might try it on with DH tonight, be honest with him that I'm fertile and say lets have one last shot at it and if it doesn't happen then I promise never to mention babies again Grin

Or maybe I could just ply him with alcohol.....

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Eva30 · 21/07/2016 07:54

Go writer go! Great +OPK

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babydances · 21/07/2016 08:55

writer jump on him!!!!!

This hot weather has been a right passion killer! I'm pretty sure I'm in my fertile week (14 days since implant out and had EWCM) a couple of days ago) and only dtd the day before.Dp is letting the weather affect him ShockWink

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Pyjamas81 · 21/07/2016 09:44

Fingers crossed writer! Time to get the nice undies out ha ha.

Writerwannabe83 · 21/07/2016 11:08

Well it's a no-go.

I was upstairs in and text him to say I was fertile and his reply was: "Well make sure you stay up there then."

When I miscarried this year and did feel ready to try again I was still tracking my cycles and every time I got a positive OPK my resolve weakened for a few seconds and I would have this feeling of how wonderful it would be to have a baby and it could be a reality if me and DH had sex. I guess I was hoping that if DH knew I was fertile it might weaken his resolve a little and maybe for a few seconds he would have thought about another baby, but obviously not Sad

Eva30 · 21/07/2016 13:22

Sorry writer Flowers Doesn't sound too promising Confused have you sat down and talked about reasons you do & reasons he doesn't? Sounds like you need to talk and make a firm decision whether you do or don't, it's not fair on you being in limbo

Writerwannabe83 · 21/07/2016 13:36

The reasons he doesn't are because not having another makes life easier. Having another would mean going back to sleepless nights, restrictions on life, the cost of having another etc etc - all that practical stuff. He sees that life is comfortable at the minute, he's happy to just have one child and so that's his decision made.

We've just been shopping, we bought beer and wine for a cosy night in tonight and so I'm hoping that with a bit of alcohol in his system it might be easier to get him on board... Grin

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babydances · 21/07/2016 15:30

Does he agree it should be a joint decision rather than him putting his foot down?

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Writerwannabe83 · 21/07/2016 15:48

That's s very good question babydances - I shall ask him later Smile

I've done another OPK and the line is even darker. I know that if we do DTD today the chance of conceiving is near minimal as it's the last day of my FW but at least it's a step in the right direction as it means he's not 100% totally ruled out DC2 despite what he's saying.

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babydances · 21/07/2016 15:54

You guys are a family. You are married. Therefore big family decisions should be made as a unit. Not one person ruling the roost and deciding for everyone else.
When he married u he agreed to be a team not live according to what one person wants.
Xx

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Eva30 · 21/07/2016 16:06

babydances you are spot on there

Theknittinggorilla · 21/07/2016 16:33

Writer your situation sounds very similar to mine in some ways. My dh would be very happy if I said I didn't want any more children. He thinks practically we should stick to two. However there is no compromise on this decision, and we had to have a very frank discussion about which decision would most damage to our relationship. My desire to have a baby is stronger than his desire not to, even though that would be his choice. My upset at not being able to have another baby is stronger than his upset would be if we did have one. If I thought that it was the other way round we would not be trying.

Maybe you need to have a similar conversation with your dh? Would the practical benefits of only having one out weigh the upset it would cause you and the potential strain on your relationship?

Writerwannabe83 · 21/07/2016 18:04

The thing is, even if we do DTD and I do conceive (Ovia fertility score is 9.5) then I'd be so worried about telling him and that's definitely not a good sign.

I just don't know what to do really - it's all one big mess Sad

Pyjamas81 · 21/07/2016 18:15

Writer - what do you think he would he say if fertility tracking stopped, you carry on as normal (him knowing the consequences of unprotected dtd) and accepting that whatever happens, happens? I do realise however how hard it would be to give up the tracking, so not sure how realistic that would be!

Writerwannabe83 · 21/07/2016 18:20

He has no idea I use any kind of fertility tracker and he doesn't know I use OPKs either...

Writerwannabe83 · 21/07/2016 18:22

But I think I'm going to say to him that we should just see what happens and if I fall pregnant then fine and if I don't then that's fine too.

Pyjamas81 · 21/07/2016 18:45

That sounds like a good idea - fingers crossed for you writer

Writerwannabe83 · 21/07/2016 18:53

He's now gone to lie down as he's "not feeling very well"....

Hmm

I can't wait to start seeing HPT pictures on here so we can start squinting!!!!

Leah98 · 21/07/2016 20:06

Writer I totally sympathise with your situation!! My DH was none too keen trying again for dc3. He had all the excuses of the day. Then I took him out for lunch alone & basically had a female meltdown conversation about my dreams being shattered etc etc!! He turned the corner. Now he's totally excited about pregnancy & it isn't even happening!!!!
I'm doing these clear blue ovu tests and haven't seen a smiley face yet cd9...waiting... Lol

Writerwannabe83 · 21/07/2016 20:58

I don't get my positive OPKs until days 17/18, it's a long wait!!

I'm actually about 60% sure that DH is going to succumb tonight...