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August Bus

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babydances · 08/07/2016 09:55

Hi everyone here is the August bus carrying on from the one I was on previous month with u ladies.
Fx this is a lucky bus!
Had my implant out yesterday and gp said I should be good to go within a week.

Not too sure how to track so hoping af arrives to kick things off :-)

Ttc no 2
Test due date ??
Cycle 3 or 4 (lost track now!)

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BakerJ · 12/07/2016 21:27

Evening ladies,

Welcome to everyone who's joined in the last few days!

AF unapologetically turned up 5 days late in the end for me so it's officially cycle 3.
Going to follow gin's example and console myself with cheese and wine on holiday next week though.

writer hope the chat with DH went well this evening and its just the surgery that's been putting him off.

phoebe so sorry for your loss. Fingers crossed you get some answers very soon

Hope August is a lucky month for us all X

Writerwannabe83 · 12/07/2016 21:46

We haven't yet had the conversation Baker....

An old episode of OBEM is on the TV so I keep trying to strike up conversations about babies but he's not getting drawn in.

I'm using the programme as a way of reminiscing about the arrival of DS to remind him of how wonderful it felt to have a baby in the hope he'd get nostalgic but that's not working either Grin

ginandcake · 12/07/2016 21:49

Sorry to hear that baker, 5 days late, what a bitch! In my experience the cheese and wine definitely helps!

Hope you get things sorted with your DH writer, TTC can be so stressful and you need to know where you both are with it. Although like you say, if you are having unprotected sex surely he realises what the outcome is going to be!

Sorry for your loss phoebe Flowers

And good luck to everyone.

I have become so obsessed with CM, in a way I never have before! Confused

ginandcake · 12/07/2016 21:54

Cross post writer

What's your DH like? With mine that stuff did not work, it had to be 'do you want another child: yes or no?' and we went from there. He does not get subtle hints!

Writerwannabe83 · 12/07/2016 22:17

Thr problem I have is that I have no real clear idea how he feels. I get mixed messages all the time. One minute he's talking about selling all of DS's old clothes and then the next minutes he's on about putting them in the loft "just in case we do have another."

Last week he was actually talking about getting a vasectomy and it was hard to tell whether he was saying it as a joke or not. When we talk about our future finances in relation to moving house or nice holidays he'd like he always, always talks about it in the context of us only having one child.

When I miscarried in March he was so upset and wanted to TTC again straight away so I know he wanted another one. But about two months ago we were asked by s friend if we intended on giving DS a sibling, I said it was definitely something I would consider whereas DS said he didn't really want another one. It really upset me hearing him say that not long after I had miscarried Sad

A couple on OBEM just had a baby girl and I started a hypothetical conversation with DH about what our potential daughter might be like and he was laughing along with me as l chatted away about how I would like a rugby player. We've also had light hearted chats about what girls names we like over the last few months too.

It's really, really odd. If I asked him outright if he wanted another baby he would say not really and spout out a nice long list of practical reasons as to why we shouldn't have one, but on the other hand if I did fall pregnant I know he'd be delighted and excited.

I don't think even he knows how he feels about it so I've got no chance of trying to work it out.

haveacupoftea · 12/07/2016 23:42

writer i'd say more of us get mixed messages than we let on... at the end of the day you have to make the call on what's best for your family. I think you know in your heart another baby is the right thing.

haveacupoftea · 12/07/2016 23:43

And the miscarriage probably affected him badly and he is scared to get both your hopes up for another x

phoebe2016 · 13/07/2016 05:47

Thanks Baker and Gin. Sorry AF got you Baker, best of luck for next time x

Writerwannabe83 · 13/07/2016 08:16

When I had the miscarriage and he wanted to TTC again he told me they if I miscarried again then we'd take it as a sign we are only meant to have one child and so then we'd stop TTC'ing.

I then felt so much pressure on my shoulders as I know how common miscarriage can be and it felt like if I 'failed' again to carry the baby then it would be my fault we'd only have one child.

danikagrace · 13/07/2016 09:30

Phoebe welcome. So sorry to hear of your loss Flowers my fingers are crossed for you - and everyone else on the bus!! Let us know how you get on.

Baker wishing you an awesome holiday and some nice relaxation!

Gin I hear you with the CM haha - I had to pop in somewhere for the loo whilst dh and I were out on a long drive for work and I had ewcm for the first time in 8 months and came back to the car with an ear to ear grin giving him a detailed report LOL

Writer so sorry to hear that Flowers I totally agree with Tea, I hope you get your desired outcome!

MrsGsnow18 · 13/07/2016 09:41

Hi
Stepping onto August bus today
My stats are
Age 28
TTC #1
Cycle 8 now
Currently CD 1 ( last cycle was 35 days)

Writerwannabe83 · 13/07/2016 10:10

Hi MrsSnow - I recognise your name from the July bus - I'm sorry to see you've ended up here Flowers

I've just been baby bombed as my colleague has just put up photos on Facebook of her newborn who arrived on Monday and he's just scrumptious. I can't help but feel a little envious.

Three other colleagues are also pregnant and although I'm so happy for them (two of them in particular) I can't help but feel a bit jealous Blush

MishyBakes · 13/07/2016 19:10

I think it's okay to feel that way writer, I feel the same way sometimes. I try my best to ignore facebook now, especially as people tend to post "the best bits", and not whether it took them forever to conceive/difficult pregnancy etc. It can give the impression that it's all so easy.

Hi Mrs Snow, I think we were both on the July bus together. Let's hope August goes well for us both

Masweetpea1 · 13/07/2016 19:40

Hi all
New to this thread, can i join you all? I was on the due feb17 thread but had a miscarriage 2 weeks ago at 7 weeks. So ttc again.

Age 41
Ttc #2 (dd age 1)
Cycle 1 post mmc
Day ?? (not had af since mmc).

Xx

danikagrace · 14/07/2016 00:18

Hi Snow & heyy Sweetpea (waves) glad you made it over.
Writer I hear you, I sometimes have to check myself to not stare at random pg ppl in the street Blush

Masweetpea1 · 14/07/2016 07:52

Im the same with seeing pregnant people everywhere! When i was miscarrying the mw said it was good to walk.. . So as it was pouring with rain we decided to go to the Trafford Centre and walk round there... on a Sunday (hideous!) I swear there was a pregnancy convention on that day, the amount of pregnant women around !!! Probably not one of our better ideas in hindsight :-)

Alb1 · 14/07/2016 11:06

Hello, after lurking all through the July thread I thought I'd join you this month Smile

Age 27
TTC number 3, although number 2 was sadly stillborn recently.
Cycle 2
CD 3

I'm going to try and resist opk's as they just drove me mad last month and I never got a positive! I'm attempting to take the relaxed approach, but il probably fail as soon as AF is over

MrsGsnow18 · 14/07/2016 11:47

Hi writer thanks Smile totally with you on being baby bombed! Make me irrationally emotional!
Hi mishybakes and danikagrace here's to hoping this is last bus for all of us! Star

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babydances · 14/07/2016 11:52

Welcome to all those who have just boarded the bus!

My implants been out a week today and still nothing exciting happening my end. We've done the deed a few times.

The hole in my arm has not healed and when I took the bandage off on the day I wa a meant to its literally a hole in my arm Shock
I was sick and felt faint. Went to the GP and she said it's probably from seeing how graphic it was. It's not knitted together Sad
I've not looked since it was rebandages and steristripped up on Monday.
Anyone else had this?

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Writerwannabe83 · 14/07/2016 22:04

DH doesn't want another baby.
I had to fight back the tears as he told me.

I guess I'm leaving the bus then.

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babydances · 14/07/2016 23:35

What happened writer? You must be very upset xxxxxxxxxxxx
Perhaps not talking about it and seeing what happens would be better?
Flowers

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Writerwannabe83 · 14/07/2016 23:56

He's been rebuffing my advances over the last few days with some pretty lame excuses so i started to think then that he didn't want to TTC.

We've been having a rough time of it with our toddler (2yr 3m) over the last month which hasn't helped. It's been really tough.

I've not been home for 24 hours (work) and when I came back tonight DH said DS had been really difficult and that he didn't want another baby as he just can't go through this again.

I thought he was joking at first and just mouthing off as he does at times but then try conversation got serious and the outcome was that he genuinely doesn't want another.

I was really upset and although I stopped myself from showing it he knew. He said I would resent him if we didn't have another and on the flip side I said he'd resent be if I made him have another.

I said his feeling of not wanting another baby is just as valid as me do wanting another and so it's just something I will have to come to terms with.

That's where we left it really.

Upthetree100 · 15/07/2016 00:24

Hi hope you don't mind if I jump on the Aug bus
Age 28
Ttc #1
Cycle (lost count)
CD11
We've been ttc for a couple of years naturally with no luck, but this it's my first cycle using opk's. Not long before I get a referral but I really want to conceive naturally. I gave up testing after becoming obsessed and getting nothing but BFN's. Fx for my first bfp this month!!!

Upthetree100 · 15/07/2016 00:45

Just read through the thread (last post was a placemark) sorry if it sounded insensitive writer big hugs to you Flowers I'm really sorry that the conversation with dh didn't go the way you hoped.
Maybe your dh would feel different about having another one once your ds is a little older and out of the 'terrible two' stage?

Masweetpea1 · 15/07/2016 08:28

Sorry to hear that writer, i ate with up the tree , maybe one your little one is out of the terrible twos he might feel different? Hugs x