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August Bus

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babydances · 08/07/2016 09:55

Hi everyone here is the August bus carrying on from the one I was on previous month with u ladies.
Fx this is a lucky bus!
Had my implant out yesterday and gp said I should be good to go within a week.

Not too sure how to track so hoping af arrives to kick things off :-)

Ttc no 2
Test due date ??
Cycle 3 or 4 (lost track now!)

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Masweetpea1 · 15/07/2016 08:28

Ate?! Agree.....

LittleSparkes · 15/07/2016 08:41

Hey.
was on the July bus but sadly AF started today- 5 days later so a little crushed

I'm
CD 1
Cycle 8
TTC no 1

Fingers crossed this is out month ladies

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babydances · 15/07/2016 09:22

writer I was where u were a month or so ago and I know how devastating it is. Are you going to be able to move forward together? Has he completely ruled out a second later on?
Not sure it will console you but by having a big gap with my first and now trying for second now it has meant I've been able to enjoy having dc all on her own. Every mile stone I was able to indulge in as all the focus has been on her. And she has had us all to herself. Now she is older she is happier playing on her own and with friends. She's nearly 6 1/2. She will also remember our second as a baby which will be fantastic memories for her to cherish. Trying to find a silver lining for you Hun. Perhaps he can compromise and make a promise that if u agree not now then he needs to agree a when Flowers

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coldofhands · 15/07/2016 09:26

Oh writer I'm so sorry - my DH said that we wouldn't try again until DS started to sleep - it's only finally now he's 2yrs1month that he's finally managing through the night. I thought if he was just one of those children who find sleep difficult we would only have one. And of course I have to respect his wishes as I know he'd respect mine. It's so hard isn't it? Kind thoughts are with you.

I'm on CD1 but no AF yet. Got a BFN on a test yesterday after a horrid week of what I thought were definite symptoms.

I tried OPK last month and could not get my head around them so am taking someone's advice and just going to DTD every 3 days from the day after AF finishes.

LittleSparkes · 15/07/2016 10:56

I feel really down, was convinced I conceived in July.

Starting to feel like it's never going to happen

Writerwannabe83 · 15/07/2016 10:58

It was a now or never really. There's no way in a few years my husband will want to have another one, he said he already feels too old now.

Plus I'm almost 33 and to be honest I wouldn't want to start trying again from 35 onwards.

I do feel sad and disappointed but I have to respect his decision. I know if I really, really nagged at him then he would give in but that's not what I want.

I'm keeping it back from him for upset I feel because I don't want him to feel guilty.

Upthetree100 · 15/07/2016 13:50

writer every relationship is different and what works for one may not work for another.
But fwiw can I suggest you communicate your feelings and explain to him how devastated you are (in a detached and unbiased way if that's possible).
Make it clear that you don't want to nag him and make him change his mind but rather you want him to be aware that you're struggling to come to terms with his decision and you need a lot more support from him than you would otherwise.
Because if it's a case of now or never and you can't viably leave it and try again in the future, burying the issue will cause resentment from you and might negatively impact your relationship later on.
I understand it's easy for me to say this as a fairly newly wed where the disagreements we have had have just not had this level of implication, but could sitting down and making a pros and cons list be an option? It might help him to think more clearly about what he wants. And it might give you a way to gently nudge him to empathise with your point of view/change his.
Just my thoughts...I hope you are ok X

Writerwannabe83 · 15/07/2016 17:40

Our problem is that I understand his 'cons' and accept them as reasons and some of them I agree with but my 'pros' don't carry much weight with him.

I want another one because I don't feel like our family is complete and I want DS to have a sibling but DH doesn't feel like that at all. He really doesn't see any positives to having another child so I can't see a way out of this mess.

Upthetree100 · 16/07/2016 01:38

It's a tough situation to be in, I feel for you and hope something works out soon!
Tbh it seems selfish to me but I suppose he could have perfectly sound reasoning for it in his mind.
Hope you are doing ok writer X

Monkeyinshoes · 16/07/2016 08:07

I keep having wobbles over TTC, it's not that I don't want a baby, it's more that I don't want a pregnancy. It's uncomfortable at best, could be downright painful if my pelvis ligaments play up again (highly likely, after DS2 they do even when I'm not pregnant) and labour scares me. I keep thinking it seems like madness to put myself through that again.

But despite my worries, I'm feeling disappointed that NOTHING is happening. It's CD16, over the last couple days I've had lines on OPK's but not pos ones, hardly any CM at all and temps aren't showing anythings happened. It's like my body has decided it's not going to bother and I swing between being relieved and disappointed by that.

danigrace · 16/07/2016 19:36

Writer so sorry you're going through this Flowers

Dances hows's your arm?

Sparkles It's so disheartening when that happens... Fingers crossed for all of us for this month

Tree [waves] nice to see you over here!

Monkey how long have you been trying for?

Welcome all who've just hopped on Smile hope everyone has a good weekend!

Writerwannabe83 · 17/07/2016 18:36

I'm in my FW now and have lots of EWCM this evening. I don't know whether this makes me sad or whether it makes we want to try and change DHs mind again...

Anyway, how is everyone else getting on?? I've kind of sapped all the happiness and positivity out of this thread and it needs to come back Grin

ginandcake · 17/07/2016 18:58

Sorry to hear how things are with DH writer.

We have spent the weekend in a holiday house with friends. It meant sharing a room with the kids, and we had two single beds. This weekend was also the start of my FW which made DTD very interesting!

I am totally with you monkey, I have those wobbles all the time. Most of the time I definitely want number 3 but then think we are so happy as we are and don't want to rock the boat. Deep down know we are doing the right thing though.

Writerwannabe83 · 17/07/2016 19:08

This weekend was also the start of my FW which made DTD very interesting!

I think you need to elaborate Grin

ginandcake · 17/07/2016 19:19

Creeping from one single bed in to the other without waking the kids up made us feel like naughty teenagers!

Writerwannabe83 · 17/07/2016 19:27

I guess kids really do sleep through anything then Grin Grin

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Monkeyinshoes · 17/07/2016 21:01

Oh I hope you're ok writer

Sorry to hear about your MMC blossom fingers crossed you have another BFP soon.

This is cycle 1 of TTC#3 danigrace

Yes ginandcake after much googling, I've come to the conclusion wobbles over number 3 are quite normal! I know what you mean, deep down it feels right. I've wanted a third for over a year now, this is just nerves now that we are actually trying to make it happen.

Today is CD17 and I think I've ovulated. Temp was a bit higher this morning, OPK's now have no second line at all and I had what I think must be ovulation pains last night. I very much doubt there will be a BFP, only managed once during the FW and that was 4 days before ovulation.

ginandcake · 17/07/2016 23:24

I think wobbles are definitely natural, there's a big difference between thinking about having another one and then actually getting down to trying and realising that as soon as soon you see that BFP there's no going back.

I think I ovulated over the weekend. Today is CD15 and for the previous few days OPKs have been getting darker but not actually positive. Also had lots of EWCM. As we were away could not do an OPK yesterday and did one today when we got back and it was negative. Guess I'm now in the dreaded 2WW!

Welcome Blossom, what's SMEP? Should I know?

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Upthetree100 · 18/07/2016 09:12

sparkes what are your stats? I'm sorry to hear that and baby dust to you for next month!

danika hello!! (Waves back)nice to see you too how are you getting on?

writer hope you're okay!

gin glad you had an eventful weekend Wink

blossom sorry to hear about your loss, good luck for a very sticky bfp for next time! Thanks for the smep link will add it to my google list!

monkey fx for a bfp!

Still ridiculously clueless about my cycles after 2 years of ttc. After 18 months of mostly long extended late cycles, AF has decided she will start appearing early now (last 2 cycles) accompanied by a load of ov pains and symptoms (of what, I don't know). First month of opk's and cd 15 today. I had a less faint line on Friday (at 11pm never tested at 11pm before), didn't think it was strong enough to be a +ve and now I think I've missed ov. Hope dtd on Thursday caught the poss egg on Friday fx! Left ovary pain since the end of my period which is still there today with thick creamy cm. Sorry tmi. What is going on down there

MrsGsnow18 · 18/07/2016 11:03

Hi everyone
Had a lot of reading to catch up with bus there!
Sorry littlesparkes to see you've ended up on August bus Fx for you!

Also sorry to hear writer that you've been having a hard time. TBH I'm not sure if my DH is ready for children at the moment which I'm finding hard to deal with. He seems to think I'm trying to 'trap him' in some kind of way. Confused I think I'm going to have a much more laid back approach so as not to seem as crazy to him.

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babydances · 18/07/2016 11:21

Hi everyone, just catching up on all previous posts.

My arm has now closed up thank you danigrace. Very relieved! Me and dp have dtd quite a few times but I don't know when my Fw is as I don't think I can go by when my last period was as its all out of whack. Hoping af arrives soon so I can work it out and start tracking. Hmmmmm.

Some baby news yesterday from dp BF which I think will really help ease any apprehensions as they do everything together lmao!
Dd had loads of children to play with as it was a family camping weekend and we both said its been really good for her.

Can't wait to get upduffed now just need to wait for af Hmm Grin

writer is it all completely off the table now?
Xxx

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CloudPirate · 18/07/2016 12:45

Hi there! Mind if I join you?

I'm 31
TTC #1
Cycle 3
CD 3

DH works away a fair bit so it can be a bit limited as to how much he's here during fertile window but still Sad when AF arrived, I am finding it very hard not to obsess/ get my hopes up! We've wanted to start trying for a few years now but kept putting it off to try and get in a better situation financially, so now we've decided to just go for it I think we've already used up all our patience Smile

Here's hoping this is the month, good luck everyone!

Midrog · 18/07/2016 13:57

Hi ladies :) just thought I'd join in if that's OK.
Age 28
TTC #1
Cycle 3
CD 16

This month ive been using the clear blue ovulation tests to see if that helps! Theyve actually shown me that ovia was slightly off with my dates so fingers crossed for this month! Someone I work with told me she is 6 weeks pregnant the other day which upset me way more than it should of!
Cloudpirate I'm exactly the same with obsessing and then getting upset when it doesn't happen. The clear blue tests have helped though I think because I feel like I know what's happening more.

Good luck everyone x