Thread 17 TTC#1 Follow the fallopian road ~~~○

[StarkyTheDirewolf]

Hugh enjoys ISW and his love affair with Doreen. He watches out for skittle tits and weepyitis. Mrs Arseholey Fucknut (Af) shows up when you least want her but brings wine and soft cheese as a consolation prize.

We don't have rules as such but expect to be talked down from the ledge with kind and well meaning but firm words if you get too hysterical. But most importantly don't convince yourself you're pregnant in the tww That is paramount! It messes with your head and makes you crazy crazier

We don't get a lot of baby dust in these here parts. We want a fanny full of determined Doreen, not unicorn farts and gnome tears with extra sparkle. We've been going a while now so the novelty has somewhat worn off and we're slightly battle scarred and bruised in the cervix area.

Post your stats and add your dates. A more lovely, supportive group of ladies you couldn't wish to meet. We've got a few grads sticking around I won't leave and no question is too daft. We have opk experts, cervical mucus management teams and symptom spotters extraudinaire!

Ooh that is interesting! I have one of the 'style over substance' fitbit altas that doesn't do heart rate, would have been interested to look at mine!

Certainly sounding interesting Alice... Fx!

Glad those follicles have listened now Kwick!

How's everyone else?

Good luck kwick
Hep I didn't know that. Also congrats on the heartbeat.
Hope we are all good.

All very exciting Hep - I used to have a Charge HR but for some reason I reacted weirdly to it and got a mark on my wrist so I had to return it, or I'd be checking my resting heart rate too. :) That's early to see your bean's heartbeat though, lucky you! And Alice, your chart looks promising there. :D

Jem, your acupuncture fella does things a bit differently from the lady I go to - I've never had needles down my back and I've been at all different times of my cycle. I've had them variously in my ankles, knees, wrists, inside my elbows, on my tummy in different spots and even a couple of times on my forehead. She also checks my tongue each time I visit and checks my pulse multiple times during each session. I've been going for about 3 months now so I don't know how much effect it's actually having, but it helps me feel like I'm doing something and it's pretty relaxing so I've been keeping it up.

DH has also been to the hospital lately to - ahem - donate - and has been told to cut out the hot baths/showers and eat more tuna and salmon. Still waiting on the results but will be interested to see what they say. I think I was mostly amused by his frustration in the days before - he was told he was not allowed to ejaculate for (I think) 3 days before the appointment. One of those things that I think illustrates the difference between men and women to a point - that kind of break wouldn't have bothered me one iota but DH was climbing the walls!! hee.

Hi everyone. Haven't checked in as we were taking a little break waiting for test results.

Got some bad news...DH has moderate oligozoospermia (low sperm count). That combined with my lack of ovulation = IVF. At least that is what im expecting once we get our fertility clinic referral. I've just had a message saying I need another blood test befor being referred. That's booked in for 2 weeks from tomorrow.

I'm so sad. I can't believe this is actually happening. I feel defective.

kav i think thats why i am having another scan late next week, so it is a more conclusive check on the heart beat....

bluebird Sorry to hear that How frustrating for you. You might not have to reply on ivf? Have you been tried on clomid and DH on testosterone?
Does the fertility clinic offer emotional support? Like counselling or something?

Hello all, back from a week away traveling around Europe! Just done a quick catch up, so sorry for any posts I missed! I just got a Fitbit 1 week ago, I will now start obsessively checking the heart rate function for a while!

Kwick sending lots of growing vibes your way!

Hep yay on the scan and an actual factual date!

Bluebird sorry to hear the bad news, it must be such a huge blow. Feel free to let it all out here if it helps.

Kav my DH has his donation in 3 weeks roughly but we were all geared up for it 3 weeks ago. The 3 day thing amused me too!

Hugs and to you Bluebird - you're not defective, just unlucky. At least this way you get to relax and let the experts help - you both will have the building blocks, the doctors will just be helping put them together. I know it has to feel a bit shit though - lean on us if it helps.

really sorry Bluebird

Oh bluebird you are NOT defective, you just need a bit of help. And you are getting it now - that's the main thing. Hugs can't be easy news to get.

Great news on your follicles kwick if they keep this up they get

Fingers so tightly crossed alice I really hope to see you join the grads list!

Kav that's interesting re the acupuncture approach. I think with me he is focusing on anxiety and stress initially as I'm such an anxious nelly. Perhaps he will vary up the needle placement? It definitely had a marked affect whatever he did this time! I felt almost high when it was finished. I've been in a really good mood all day today too. Long may this continue!

Hope people don't mind, but the graduate thread is here for the next bfps: www.mumsnet.com/Talk/antenatal_clubs/2716540-Thread-11-TTC-1-Grads-Babies-Arriving-Or-Look-At-What-I-Made-With-My-Genitals?msgid=63175555#63175555

Bluebird you are not defective it's just you need a little help that's all. Hope you feel a bit better this morning.
Husband decided 530 was a good time for a shower this morning. We are not talking as he woke me up! 😬😡🤔

How I managed to not poas this morning I don't know. Cynicism? I was up all night with cramps worrying. Woke up anxious as you like breathe.

Hope everyone's ok. Sorry I'm posting so much atm, this AF is the worst one yet.

Alice is AF here? Keeping everything crossed for you. The day it's due is the worst for me I get quite anxious too.

No AF, no spotting, just feel it is imminent, felt like that for a week now. Fed up.

We are a really close team at work and in the 5 years we have been working together there has been no babies... But this morning: baby bomb. I feel really silly and guilty for wanting to be the first one Of course she conceived 1st month without even trying.... I'm clearly horribly bitter

Alice, your feelings regarding the baby bomb are natural. Most of us have been there.
poas tomorrow ! fx for you.

Sorry Alice, it sounds like you're having a rubbish time at the moment, but with no sign of AF then you're not out this month yet? Crossing fingers for your test tomorrow and am very impressed at your lack of early POAS action!

Jem your acupuncture sounds really good. I had one session a while back but it didn't really do anything except for leaving me a bit relaxed. But then I had just spent 20 minutes lying on a bed in a a dark room...

Congrats on seeing the heartbeat Hep!. That must be wonderful to know that everything is okay, despite not having missed the first trimester after all. I hope you enjoy the next scan and get to work out what you're looking at!

Glad your follicles got their asses into gear Kwik. Let us know how today's scan went. Your jet setting job sounds very glamorous by the way! (Although I can imagine it's very tiring in reality).

Bluebird I'm sorry your tests didn't come with good news. You must feel pretty sad at the thought of an IVF journey ahead so I won't give you too many generic platitudes. Don't lose hope of a more straightforward solution though; like Alice said there may be alternative, less invasive options available to you .

Seems like everything is going smoothly for you Marmite? That is excellent news - do keep filling us in on your journey please :)

So I had my week away with work last week - bang in the fertile window - and although we will almost certainly missed this month's TTC slot I don't really mind as I had an amazing time in a very cool city. Far too much drinking and nowhere near enough sleep though. Definitely not conducive to baby making!

I had my GP appointment this morning as it's been six months of trying now, and I'm over 35, but he pretty much dismissed me out of hand and told me to come back in the new year if there was still no BFP. I guess I didn't really expect much else, but it would have been nice to get the ball rolling on basic tests just to rule out anything obvious.

I left feeling pretty embarrassed for being a time-waster and will probably make a point of not going back until it gets to 18 months now .

Well, it's the last long weekend of the summer so I hope everyone has a lovely time and the sun remembers to come out. Looking forward to seeing the next lot of good news from you all :)

Inspector if it makes you feel better, i must have conceived 10 months after coming off the pill (adjusting my numbers on the new information!), and i'm 37. I'm sure earlier in the thread (or the last one?) someone posted the stats but its like ~90% get pregnant within 12 months for under 40's.

6 months is a short time..... even though (and i do know!) it doesn't feel like it.

glad you had a good break though.

good luck for today kwick !

I did not know about heartbeat thing... Do I have to buy a fitbit now then?

bluebird you are NOT defective!!! You just need a helping hand - like many of us do. At least you have info now and can do something about it.

Sorry about the baby bomb alice

inspector glad to hear you are enjoying yourself

So now on my way back to Blighty. inspector it is so not glamourous! Scan is at 2.20pm - have to be on a call at 2... Trying to keep stress at bay.

Did I show you my £1 Primark nails.. Well another one bites the dust - probably a good thing as cannot have them on for egg collection.

Oh and thank you, thank you, thank you for support you have been sending my way - it means a lot.

Thanks Hep :) I'm not really too worried about it, but like to feel in control so I thought some initial tests might be a good way to channel that since I don't measure my temp and have ditched the OPKs.

You're right, though, six months is nothing. And I have plenty of other stuff to focus on before I get a BFP anyway. I'd really like to get my divorce finalised and buy a house for a start!!

The GP said it was 95% within 12 months, and then 95% of the rest by two years. I thought that sounded a little bit high but whatevs, the stats are fairly good!

On the heart-rate monitoring front I have been flirting with Garmin Forerunner in my Amazon basked for a while now so maybe this is the final push I need to press 'buy'

Inspector
ah yes the lack of control !!!! yes that was definitely the same for me !!!
(i am a little bit a control freak...... )

I am pleased to report another growth spurt - have now 2 lovely follicles, 1 at 13mm and another at 10!!! Copious drinking of milk continues!!!!!