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TTC No. 3

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greedyforbabies · 18/01/2007 12:01

hello! have been ttc no.3 since last april now. ds took about 3 or 4 cycles to concieve and dd 1 cycle, so i am finding this hard to get my head round!

the main reason for starting this thread, if anyone is interested, is that sometimes i feel really bad chatting on the other threads about age gap concerns, how i will cope with another one etc....when lots of other 'posters' are ttc no.1.

it makes me feel a bit guilty going on about no.3 when some other MNers have such tragic stories.

anyway, i know there are a few of you out there also ttc no.3. Do you all have big houses and cars?

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Mitchell81 · 18/01/2007 21:08

Just reading about you all ttc no. 3, is making me think I definetly want no.3. But will need to wait until at least September before trying. As DS is only 7 months, DD is 6 and I want DS to be at least 2 before new baby arrives.
Also have to try plan due date to be in Summer holidays as will have to have another C/S and won't be able to drive DD to school etc. So many things to think about and if I don't fall pregnant the correct month, all my plans are messed up.
Sorry for waffling. Hope you all fall pregnant soon.

JoAndTheBoys · 18/01/2007 21:55

We're ttc no 3 too...

Me - 28
Dh - 31
Ds1 - 4.10, conceived on first month of trying after coming off mini-pill
Ds2 - 3.5, a 'happy accident', conceived after getting rather carried away on a fertile day and proving resistant to the MAP!

I've always wanted 3 children, had in my head that my 'ideal' would be two boys and then a girl... now I've got my 2 boys I couldn't give a monkeys what sex no. 3 will be just as long as I have a no. 3!

Dh would be happy with our 2 and no more, but after years of priming from me (), he's finally come round to the idea that it's now the right time to try for another baby.

Actually, recently I've been imagining what it would be like to have 4..., not sure if part of that stems from my longing to fall pregnant with this one...

My parents are aware we want another baby, but don't know we're trying now - it would never be the right time if I listened to them, the latest is "oh, you'll want to enjoy some time to yourself for a bit in September when ds2 goes to school..." etc. Er, no, I don't want to get used to having time to myself or it'll be harder to adapt when I do have another! Their list of reasons varies but I've learned to take no notice, when we make the announcement they'll have to keep quiet!

Dh's parents have heard us make reference to another but always make no comment or look shocked Can't wait to see their reaction -

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greedyforbabies · 18/01/2007 22:30

you sound like me joandtheboys. i cant wait to see peoples reactions either. but i dont want to tell my mum we are trying cos i know she will try and talk me out of it.....enjoy the 2 you have, it will be too much work etc

michell - my ds was only 8 months when i fell for no. 2 and it was completely planned. wonderful age gap! go for it NOW!!!!

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greedyforbabies · 18/01/2007 22:30

am i the oldest ttc no.3er here by the way!? im 33!

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JoAndTheBoys · 18/01/2007 22:50

Can second Greedy - my ds1 was 8 months when I fell with ds2, and it really is a great age gap for them. And when things start getting easier, it all seems to happen at once!

Ds2 is also in the year below ds1 at school (ds1 rec and ds2 nursery class at the school currently), which is lovely.

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greedyforbabies · 18/01/2007 23:00

so jo.....do you worry about no.3 being left out cos your 1st 2 are so close, cos i do! i think the longer it is taking us to concieve the more i am wanting 4 instead of 3, so that no.3 has a playmate too!

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ItsMeMellowma · 19/01/2007 07:20

I am 33 too greedy!!

The other thing is, I do feel quite old to be ttc again but then I see threads with ladies who are 40 and ttc and don't see anything wrong with that so I just need to, chill out

Mitchell81 · 19/01/2007 07:55

I'm 25, fell pregnant at 18- no plans to have kids at the time. But married DH 6 months later, so it all worked out in the end. DD is in a wheelchair and has special needs, so need DS to be walking and able to do things for himself a bit. So need to wait until he is 2 at least. I know it will be hard, but I want at least 3 children. I am a SAHM anyway so don't need to worry about childcare etc. Already have a small 7 seater car and will hopefully by then have a 4 bedroom house and bigger car.

Mitchell81 · 19/01/2007 07:56

By the way 33 is not too old!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

minxi · 19/01/2007 09:30

I am 35 in 10 days time!

Have DS1 who is 6 in Feb and DS2 who is 3.6 and TTC No 3 for 2.3 years (was on depo so that has had alot to do with it, so would say body back to normal for the last 6 months or so). DH travels away abroad most weeks Mon- Friday, live in a 4 bed house and we have 2 cars (sorry), DH bought me a new car in Oct which is a 7 seater landrover, (said I needed a bigger car for when we DO have 3 and also have to ferry millions of children , mainly friends around from school etc...)

Very comfortable life but upset about the time it is taking to conceive no3...

Interesting topic!!

honeyapple · 19/01/2007 09:42

Minxi- i hope you live in the countryside with that landrover!
We have 2 cars too, but DP has a got a lovely little mini which is very economical- but doesnt exactly fit a lot of people!
I think you just make do with what you've got, I remember vividly being squashed in the middle in the back of the car on long car journeys as a child. I was youngest of 3 girls. I also always had to give up my bed when any old relatives came to stay. My Grandad lived with us for a while and he took my room. I cant remember where i had to sleep though!

minxi · 19/01/2007 09:48

Live in Surrey - which my brother in sydney calls it a posh tractor! Nice... but yes I remember when I was young having to sleep somewhere else when grandparents came to stay funnily enough I don't remember either - probably in with my two brothers! Also rolled around in the back of a hillman minx (no relation to my name!)...

Had a career though and gave it up to support DH as he travels its very hard to have 2 young ones plus him away and when I was working also had to travel and hated every minute of it - used to cry myself to sleep...so decided to support the family instead plus when I did work it seemed to divide the family as no time for each other when your both working!

honeyapple · 19/01/2007 09:53

I love being at home. Perhaps thats a little reason why i want no.3. Otherwise people might think i should get a job when DD goes to school........yikes!........
Ideally I want to work from home. I am currently doing a ceramics course which is cool, also have been writing on and off since had DD (more off than on at the moment though)- hoping to pick it up when DD goes to school in september. I found it easy to write when she was a baby- didnt always want me to play polly pocket then!

minxi · 19/01/2007 10:06

I know feel the same about going back to work but not the same job.
There is a job vacant at my son's school doing 3 mornings a week - 9 hours in total, which would be lovely as my ds2 starts there in september and he is at montessori in the mornings at the mo, so undecided whether to go for it... but would be quite nice I know somebody who is going for it...so feel don't want to tread on their toes and also experience except I am on the pta and I stepped into the the chair role last year to organise the christmas fayre in Nov which raised just under 5k so not too bad have shown my organisational skills to the max! Applications have to be in by Monday so scouting address book to see if anyone knows about teaching assistants!

ItsMeMellowma · 19/01/2007 10:36

minxi you could be me!!

I have just applied for job as teaching asssitant as ds1 school. DS2 starts nursery their in September. The job was for 15 hours per week and application were to be in today. I am a little bit nervous now, for some reason!!

minxi · 19/01/2007 10:48

No applications in for monday! and only 9 hours and there isn't a nursery at the school! Good luck mellowma

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greedyforbabies · 19/01/2007 14:09

my dh is DESPERATE to buy a new car so we can accomodate our new addition to the family! he seems to keep forgetting that dc3 hasn't even been concieved yet!

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greedyforbabies · 19/01/2007 14:10

anyone scared that they might fall pg with TWINS this time? I think i would love it! good excuse to give up work and stay at home!

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honeyapple · 19/01/2007 14:13

I think it is pretty rare to have twins?
I wonder what the % is each year- how many born from natural conception (not IVF).

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greedyforbabies · 19/01/2007 14:24

1 in 80 chance apparently! 4 of my friends have had twins! one set identical! so i guess its kind of on my mind!

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greedyforbabies · 19/01/2007 14:25

2 of them were with clomid and 2 natural!

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JoAndTheBoys · 19/01/2007 15:55

One of the mums at ds's school fell with twins on her 3rd pregnancy - her other 2 are close in age as well, and both were under 3 at the time! I've always thought how fantastic it must be to have twins (although I know it's very hard work!), it's so special for them as they're growing up. I must say though I've never envisaged having them 3rd time round! But I would still be over the moon...

Greedy, it has crossed my mind about no 3 perhaps being left out with the ds's being so close... it just wasn't an option when they were little, and it was such hard work at the time (I had pnd when ds2 was small), that I don't think I'd have coped very well.

I always said I wanted to wait until the other 2 were at school so I could really enjoy my 'last' baby. I don't drive, so we were stuck in a lot of the time when they were small, as public transport is such a nightmare with a double buggy. I could get out a lot more with one baby, which will be good for avoiding pnd this time.
I guess if it's a girl this time, there won't be such a risk of being left-out, as she would have different interests anyway. And I'm hoping the ds's being older will make them more likely to 'mother' a baby.
If it's a boy it'll have more in common with them... I dunno really, I'm mulling it over but tbh it was never a real concern for me over the other factors... it's more a few people I've met or what people have said on here over the last couple of years that has made me think of it. It'll prob be more on my mind when I finally get pg!

I'm a TA in a primary school btw, good luck Minxi and Mellow, it's fab! I do 20 hrs a week, 4 mornings and 1 full day (term time obv. which is ideal for the boys).

honeyapple · 19/01/2007 16:08

My DS's best friend at school is an identical twin (aged 8)and he has identical twin sisters (aged 5)! Their mum is amazing!
I wonder what the chances of that are...

goingfor3 · 19/01/2007 17:57

Hello,

It's good to see this thread as there are a few of us!

We have a three bed house but the girls share, well the 2 year old generally sleeps with us! My older daughter is 5. DD1 was a happy suprise and DD2 was concived straight away. I'm 28.

fruitful · 19/01/2007 18:17

Hello, can I sign in too?

Dd (4.5) took 9 months and ds (2 next month) was straight away. Oh and I'm 34.

We're just about to start trying, this cycle. Although, we abandoned the condoms a fortnight ago (after I thought ovulation had been and gone) and I'm now having a very wierd period. So who knows? I'm telling myself its just me, over-analysing...

I think we will be able to get 3 carseats across the back seat of our car, although I may spend my life fumbling under seats trying to find buckles. And we do have a big house but we are trying to sell it and move somewhere smaller (we want to release some money and start a business).

I'd quite like twins as I really want 4 kids, but I've had 2 caesareans and this will have to be another cs. But thought of having to look after twin babies fills me with fear, so perhaps not!

I'm hoping that the whole "am I aren't I" drama of ttc will take my mind off the fact that the house isn't selling .

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