TTC #1 Thread 15. Don't. Trust. The. Boobs. ( . )( . )

[StarkyTheDirewolf]

Hugh enjoys ISW and his love affair with Doreen. He watches out for skittle tits and weepyitis. Mrs Arseholey Fucknut (Af) shows up when you least want her but brings wine and soft cheese as a consolation prize.

We don't have rules as such but expect to be talked down from the ledge with kind and well meaning but firm words if you get too hysterical. But most importantly don't convince yourself you're pregnant in the tww That is paramount! It messes with your head and makes you crazy crazier

We don't get a lot of baby dust in these here parts. We want a fanny full of determined Doreen, not unicorn farts and gnome tears with extra sparkle. We've been going a while now so the novelty has somewhat worn off and we're slightly battle scarred and bruised in the cervix area.

Post your stats and add your dates. A more lovely, supportive group of ladies you couldn't wish to meet. We've got a few grads sticking around I won't leave and no question is too daft. We have opk experts, cervical mucus management teams and symptom spotters extraudinaire!

Wow sucha that is very grown-up - enjoy the music

Sorry to everyone who hasn't got promotions/new jobs. Seems like everyone is up for something lately. I've asked to do full time work doing 4 long days and a coupe hours from home on a Friday. Waiting to hear if bosses agree but would be ace staying home on a Friday.

Went to the GP today for bloods results. Both rounds are inconclusive which indicates I'm probably not ovulating...which would make sense after 16 cycles of nothing. DH has to have a SA and then we can be referred to the fertility clinic and probably put on Clomid unless DH has issues too. So that will probably take 2-3 months at a minimum to get him tested. I would be annoyed but it's my DSis wedding next May, so not getting upduffed now is ok. I'm going to enjoy a break from Ttc the next couple of months and try to focus on losing weight. Will keep checking in from time to time, hoping to see lots of bfps!

Sorry to hear blood tests were "inconclusive" Bluebird, that's a very annoying word! Hopefully you'll be able to get some answers soon and move forwards.

Loving all the gardening Kwick, you'll have to post a picture one day when it's all spruced up.

Very grown up evening Jem, I need to start looking at things like that methinks!

I'm new, 43, ttc #11
Cycle #13
Lmp was May 21, typically 26 days. However last Friday (cd28) I only just bled one day. Still getting bfn's.
I don't know whether to treat this current week as week one of cycle, or week one of pregnancy, hoping last Fri was implantation bleeding.
Thoughts?
My youngest is 4-1/2 and I'm divorced and remarried to a man without any children of his own.
I'd love a cycle buddy, advice, or even just a friend at this point.

Sucha Could I be in the graduates?

Hi AndrewsGirl

we are mostly all ttc#1 in this group. (with a few graduates hanging around).
Our standard is advise is to wait a few days and try again with a frer. best wishes.

Hello AF, you bitch.
Weird.... I was just thinking that if I had got pregnant shortly after the wedding like I 100% expected I would, I'd probably be giving birth in the next few weeks. What a weird year. That also makes me think that the original thread 1 grads must be nearing popping now. I hope they are all doing well.

X

Thanks everyone, yes he is a total tool!! He is well known for being totally incompetent as a manager... Drives me insane when I know I could do a better job!! Might try and find and another job internally so I can keep my maternity benefits...although if I end up getting upduffed sooner than later that would be a bit awkward!
I get all feminist and annoyed about how all this works for women, we're the ones who have to think about all this stuff and end up feeling trapped in jobs

Hope you enjoyed the music jem sounds like a lovely calming and uplifting evening!

Sorry to hear about "inconclusive" bloods bluebird - definitely an annoying word! But at least you have some next steps to start looking at?

My bus has just broken down on the way to work so things are continuing to go well here...!

well i don't know if shroedinger-pregnancy-brain is a thing, but i accidently left for work an hour early !!!!

at least i am able to let my self in, and get some odd work-jobs out of the way !!!!

Hi everyone, I'm back after AF misery with a much better PMA, I didn't deal well with this month's dissapointment.

Sorry everyone who was going for promotions and new jobs etc. but massive congrats for going for them and not putting your lives on hold because you may be pregnant by such and such time- I have decided to follow your excellent example and have started trolling through job ads. Also my OH and I are looking at getting a puppy, we've wanted one for ages, and I think now might be the right time ☺️

Sorry about the inconclusive tests bluebird but it's good that there's a plan in place, enjoy the break

Put me down for 9th July please sucha I've decided to ditch the OPKs and rely on CM spotting alone for the time being. Until OH can get a SA it seems reductive to keep spending all my pennies on wee sticks.

Marmite I know what you mean about missing out on promotions and bad managers and knowing you could do it better, it's so annoying!!

Kat I had that feeling last cycle, that this was now the first time I could have been having a baby instead of still trying for one. It's really odd.

Snarky a puppy would be awesome!! I can imagine the fun and cuteness now!!

Welcome Andrews!

Hello everyone, long time no speak!
I am guilty of doing the disappearing act during my long and drawn out 3 week follicular phase where I try and put all things TTC to the back of my mind. I have missed about 15 pages though so am about to catch up.....

Welcome to the new people! pigsbum, HankPeach, Snarky, Geeup, Modest, Pesky, Peace, AndrewsGirl.

Congrats SkyLucy! What a lovely day/way to get your BFP. I hope you are having a smooth and exciting first few weeks :)

Sorry to those of you having some performance/libido issues. I can totally relate as every long term relationship I've been in before current DP has had problems in that area. I don't know if things are better now because we've only been together 18 months, or if we are genuinely much better suited to each other, but I'm not going to dwell on it too much. In terms of advice the only thing I can really suggest is taking time to connect as friends and spend time having fun together rather than just trying to get on it for 10 mins before you go to sleep. That's as much as I'll say though since everyone's situation is different and very personal so advice from internet strangers is pretty limited in its usefulness!

Orchard, I hope you get some answers soon about your missed periods. That must be incredibly frustrating when you've been regular for so long. At least your tests have come out in normal ranges - that's very encouraging - so fingers crossed it's just a brief blip.

Ever - congrats! Have just got to your BFP post, what wonderful news! And such a lovely line of positive changes and happy events for you too!

Kwik I'm very pleased AF turned up for you at last and you can start a fresh journey. I'm rooting for you! Thank you for your TWW tips too. I bloody well forgot the milk thing this month . I will not be so lax next time. I have also just gone and replaced my flip flops with socks

Nicky and Kat if you're still reading, I'm sorry to hear of your disappointments and I wish you lots of luck in getting your BFP soon. The chilling out, not obsessing and getting on with life sounds very sensible - life is just too short for added stress and heartache and our lives/careers will change so much when we have kids that we should make the most of them now while we can.

Hi Starky! Glad all is well and hope you had a lovely holiday in Wales. Love the wind/burping/sleeping anecdotes

Alice I'm very sorry to hear about the job. Best of luck finding something better - the three months will fly by I'm sure

FX I know it's a platitude but 6 months really isn't a worry - that's what I am telling myself! I feel your pain with long cycles though... It feels like there is such a long road ahead every time you get to CD1 that you kind of just go 'Meh. I can't be arsed'. Enjoy your book and see you here in a few weeks :)

Sorry about AF Kav and I hope the doc appointment is useful - can you update with how it goes? I'm looking at the same in a month or so and am interested in seeing what might be said... Have a lovely time on holiday and enjoy all the things you wouldn't be allowed if you were pregnant

Sorry about your bood results, BlueBird. On the plus, you can now take action and enjoy the wedding. Wishing you all the best.

Well, I think I've just caught up! Sad not to see more BFPs after a few weeks out though. Jem, I was especially hoping to see good news from you. Really sorry last cycle didn't work out . I hope you had a good time in San Fran and have some nice things coming up over the summer to focus on. You sound very level headed and calm about it all -and are doing a brilliant job managing this thread

So no news from this side to report. Got positive OPKs on Sunday and yesterday morning, and maybe on Saturday too although that test looked a bit duff as both lines were quite pale. Managed to DTD Fri/Sat/Sun/Mon and will throw one in for good luck later on too. I haven't had a hint of EWCM though, and no OV pains like I had a couple of months back, so I continue to worry there's no ovulation taking place.
Oh well, the TWW commences so I shall be doing everything I can to distract myself and pretend I don't care what the result is.

Good luck everyone! x

Good luck to you too, Penguin!

I'm really not sure if I should be up for that July 16 ticket or not now. Body is confusing the ever-living heck out of me. What I thought was AF showing was the world's lightest ever period - either that or it was an implantation bleed. I think it's within the appropriate time window for that - if I ov'd when I think I did, then I started spotting 11 days afterwards, which is in line with an implantation bleed. I wiped pink a day or two - then a tiny amount of blood yesterday morning - then a tiny bit of brown later on. Today nothing. Usually I spot the day before my period and get sucky horrible cramps, with a pretty heavy flow on the first day, so this is REALLY weird. It's either early menopause, an implantation bleed, or AF is fucking with my head.

Thing is, I've not had any cramps yet. Period was officially due today and I'd normally get them a day or two before it arrived.

trying very hard not to get excited Oh it's no good. I am excited, and fuck AF if she's just playing hard to get!

Fingers crossed!

Oh, Kav, that sounds exciting!!

So....... test?.....

Hee. I did last night, Penguin, so no Starky Star for me, unfortunately - it was only an internet cheapie but looked like a BFN. I do think it's probably too early though even if I was ... going to give it a couple more days at least before I try again just in case AF actually does make an appearance!

Oooohhh Kav that sounds promising!

Good to see you again Inspector! I think most of us try and spend less time here during tww, until the crazy gets too much and you have to let it all out again!!

fx for you kav !

Haha Hep! I hope you had a productive morning with a bit of peace and quiet and got to look all virtuous being there so early!!

Thanks Snarky, and Lovely. Found your words v helpful actually Snarky. Go for it on job front and puppy front!! How exciting!

Sounds promising Kav, fingers crossed and hold tight!!

I am trying to decide when to test... I was going to wait until AF actually due, but my cycles are still working themselves out. If it was 36 days again, AF would be due 2nd July. But I think(hope?) it may be a bit shorter this time. I am off on holiday on Saturday - which is CD30. And, based on when I think OV occurred, 11dpo. So, do I test on Saturday morning before we go, or do I throw a few wee sticks in the suitcase and give it a bit longer and do it when I'm away? Will I feel a bit freaked out doing it just before getting on plane?

I think 11 DPO might be a little early, marmite - I'd be tempted to take some sticks with me and test while I was away. If you get a BFN on Saturday that could still be pretty meaningless anyway.

Of course, my self control is pretty pants anyway so I'm the last person who should be telling you to hold back! Good luck though. :)

Welcome andrewsgirl! You got it - I cannot be your cycle buddy just yet as I am waiting for my AF before I can start IVF again but I can certainly be your friend

I may have just had a bit of a maybelline splurge

Oops did not update my phone before posting...

hep how on earth did you do that? Clearly the vortex of sleep lost its grip on you!

Sorry about tests bluebird

Welcome back inspector! Fx for twot (2 weeks of torture).

marmite if you wait until you get back, I think that would be worth a gazillion starky stars... Just saying

Bluebird sounds like you are getting closer, hope they can sort you with the clomid whilst your oh waits for his tests.

Ever yes of course!

Kat so sorry, was really hoping to see a bfp after your diversion DTD this month. Hope you're alright, any puppy news?

Marmite the music was really calming and uplifting! And I saw dame Maggie smith love her. I would probably take some tests with me if I were you. Fx for a little stowaway on your hols!

Hello snarky yes I'll add that date. Sorry it was AF

Hello inspector! Glad you are still around. I don't feel very level headed but I'm trying! Good work on the DTD front, hope you've caught a little something.

Kav that sounds promising! Fx

Such oh yeah that was this month! Input so much effort into that! And a few extra hours on my journey. Oh well. What's a few hours/months/years in the journey of life.

(Wtf was that optimistic bullshit someone punch me quickly)

Not to worry.

Not sure if this has already been discussed/please ignore me if you don't think it's appropriate... But... Watching the debate... What do we reckon-in/out?

Ooh yeah, straw poll.. I'm firmly in

I'm very much in. Sadly half my family appears to be Leavers. I've been trying to talk them out of it - I just feel like shutting our doors to the rest of the EU and pretending they don't exist is hardly going to help us. We may not have masses of influence now but we'll have even less if we leave (and the Tories will have free rein to do whatever the hell they want without any curbs on their behaviour from EU rulings). Shuddering at the thought.