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June Bus anyone?!

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Barefootcontessa84 · 02/05/2016 22:59

Hi all

I thought I'd start the June bus as I'm getting impatient!

I'm 31 (for a bit longer anyway), TTC#1. DH and I agreed to start TTC in May, but won't be ovulating till about the 24th. ETD 8th June! Feeling terrified and excited at the same time.

Join me if you will! Smile

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Laura05 · 01/06/2016 21:28

Ah right, thanks xx

Writerwannabe83 · 01/06/2016 21:40

Definite BFN tonight Sad

Also, when I wiped after having my wee there was loads of the orangey/brown staining on the tissue again, far, far more than I had the other day.

I'm guessing I had a dodgy test earlier and now my period is on its way Sad

Laura05 · 01/06/2016 21:52

Aww no writer Sad

Not out until the witch appears so don't give up hope just yet xx

MrsGsnow18 · 01/06/2016 22:44

Sorry to hear that writer! I was hoping for some BFP on this bus!
I think I'll have to hop on July bus now, I don't seem to have ovulated and now that this my 6th month, I think I might take myself off to doctors with all my data!

babydances · 01/06/2016 22:54

Sorry to hear that writer xxx

BertieBotts · 01/06/2016 23:05

I agree with sleepy.

Sorry Writer :( YY not out yet - and if you are at least you can save the tests and you'll have them on hand for next time.

Eva30 · 02/06/2016 05:34

Wow I hadn't been on for a few days and so many posts to catch up on, very busy bus!!
I'm on cd16. Think I ovulated yesterday (or Tues). I rarely have signs of ovulation except very bad headaches 2-3 days before ov. Had positive (darker than control line) ov test on Tues and one yesterday which was lighter but still almost as dark as control line. ETD 14th June
It worries me that I don't have much EWCM because that's what the swimmers use to get up to the egg right?
writer sorry about AF

Writerwannabe83 · 02/06/2016 08:22

Another BFN this morning with FMU.

I've now definitely accepted yesterday's was just a dodgy test and I need to pick myself back up Smile

Butterpuff · 02/06/2016 08:36

Sorry Writer, we were so rooting for you.

babydances · 02/06/2016 08:39

How many days are you?

Writerwannabe83 · 02/06/2016 08:48

11 dpo today

We had a really bad night with DS last night (2y 2m) and my DH doesn't cope well with bedtime shenanigans and he got quite angry at the situation last night and ranted, "Why on earth would you want to go through all this again?! Why?! I just don't bloody get it!"

I do worry that if it doesn't happen this month then DH will change his stance in terms of his current "if it happens, it happens" state of mind. He was even talking about vasectomies the day before yesterday and passing comments about why only having one child is preferable.

babydances · 02/06/2016 09:11

writer you still have a couple of more days to test. Also I don't know if it makes you feel any better but my dp is only trying for a 2nd because I want one. He has never wanted a second. He is terrified of me getting pregnant. But is doing it for me and for DC.
Just wanted to show you are not alone in having a reluctant dp xx

JessJR23 · 02/06/2016 09:31

Sorry writer. If it makes you feel any better, I just had a BFN too. Thought I could make out the smallest hint of colour where the second line should be but looked in the light and no, nothing. Just my madness. We will have to join each other on the July bus :)

Writerwannabe83 · 02/06/2016 09:38

Thanks guys. When I miscarried in March by DH was really upset, he even cried, so I know that he must have wanted that DC. I know deep down though he's only doing it for me, he would be perfectly happy with just DS.

Yesterday he found one of the receipts of the HPT I had bought and he did seem a little bit excited if I'm honest. I really downplayed it though and told him I didn't think I was pregnant and the test had been on sale so I'd bought it in order to confirm I wasn't pregnant as opposed to confirming I was. He seemed to buy it. He asked me if I had taken a test and I lied and said I hadn't Grin

There's been no more orange/brown residue on the toilet paper this morning so that's really odd, God knows what that was about yesterday. I never usually get sporting before my period though, I usually just wake up to a bright red flood! Sorry for the TMI. I'm feeling a bit crampy though.

The good news is that I have ran out of IC tests so I can't even POAS if I wanted to!

FriendlyGhost · 02/06/2016 09:59

Sorry about the bfns. I still think it's early days. Could the spotting be implantation writer? Brown/orange is more indicative of that than af. No symptoms here either. I don't feel like it's worked for me this month so I'm just getting hopeful for the rest of you.
My DH is also reluctant. He wasn't particularly bothered about children in the first place but knew I was. Then he had depression after dd was born and I know he's dreading that happening again. He sees the benefits of her not being an only child though so has agreed to it though.

Writerwannabe83 · 02/06/2016 10:06

Me and DH just had another discussion about it, saying he couldn't go through it again, the sleepless nights etc etc and I just blew up and told him to go and get the bloody snip then if he's so adamant he doesn't want another baby.

He then said he couldn't do that as he couldn't say for definite he doesn't want another?! WTF? I said, "Well that's exactly what you have just said isn't it?"

He then started on about how he knows that I want another one and how I'd resent him if it didn't happen so I asked him if he'd be happy to have a baby and bring up a child that he didn't even want?

He then said, "Well it wouldn't be like that because of course I'd want it."

Does anybody else have a clue what he's on about because it's all as clear as mud to me. Talk about contradicting himself...

Eva30 · 02/06/2016 10:20

Laughing away here writer!
By the sounds of it he doesn't 'think' he wants children but if one came along he'd been over the moon, when you mentioned his reactions to mc and pg test it seems to confirm this!

FriendlyGhost · 02/06/2016 10:20

I sort of get what he's saying as he sounds similar to my DH. In the case of my DH he's dreading the newborn stage of sleepless nights and me being pinned by a baby and really doesn't want to go through that again. But he knows I want it and he also knows that once the baby stage is over things get better. I don't think my DH bonded with my dd until she started interacting but they adore each other now. Could yours be similar? He hates the tiny baby bit and is dreading going through that but knows he would love a child whatever. I expect he's probably also still sad about the miscarriage but has bottled it up and is now scared of another and how that will affect you.

Writerwannabe83 · 02/06/2016 10:24

I have some health problems too which made pregnancy risky for me, I had to be signed off sick at 10 weeks gestation and never went back. There were also risks to my health for a few months following the birth (well, ELCS) too but I was absolutely fine in general and both me and DS stayed healthy.

DH does give that as another reason for why we should stick with one but I know he's using it as an excuse really, a 'get out clause' because I know that if we'd had a DD he'd have wanted to try again for a DS Hmm

Butterpuff · 02/06/2016 10:50

That a tough writer and baby. My Dp is keen on the second child, but is not really looking forward to the new born stage. We can all be excited for each other. At the moment I'm thinking I'll be on the July Bus. Not really feeling pg and af is die Sunday so I would expect something.

Butterpuff · 02/06/2016 10:56

Sorry Writer I just got your latest post. I can understand that pregnancy would scare the he'll out of him no matter how much he would love another if there is risk to you so maybe that is it. I know my dh worries about sleepless nights and dangers to me and baby. Like Friendly's dh I think it was later that he really bonded with dc. The new born bit is really hard for a lot of people.

Writerwannabe83 · 02/06/2016 11:17

According to Ovia I'm due my period on Sunday too but my cycles range from 30-35 days so who knows.....

MizzisDee · 02/06/2016 12:31

Sorry to hear of all the BFNS and DH confusion. I guess I've been lucky with that as DH is probably keener than me, it was his suggestion that led to us deciding to try. Im the one who keeps getting slightly cold feet when I think of how my/our life is going to change. It's natural though surely, to question a big life change even though deep down I really do want it and keep reassuring him of that fact.

Writerwannabe83 · 02/06/2016 13:09

My DH was really keen to TTC DS, he wanted to try for a baby before I did, it took about another five months after he first suggested it before I felt ready.

I think now he knows what the reality of having a baby is like is why he's less keen to do it again.

BertieBotts · 02/06/2016 15:15

I can understand that fear. But the baby part is really quite short in the grand scheme of things. I think that it feels long because you're still in that very high needs/high maintenance part with your DS, but really two years is not that long when they live at home for about twenty. Maybe he feels like the end is in sight with DS and he's worried about going back to the beginning and effectively extending that phase with another child? I wonder if it would help to think about it being better to get it over with in one fell swoop by having them fairly close in age, rather than it extending for longer. Plus, babies with older siblings tend to be more independent more quickly because they want to be like their big brother/sister.