SQUARE ONE'ers to GRADUATES - Supporting eachother on TTC journey

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Rollover thread from 'CD1 back to SQUARE ONE...'
Continuing to support eachother as we move into May! Good solid thread with 25% BFPs** in April!! Hoping for more this cycle

May Testing Dates!
Nimisha - 3rd
Footprints - 6th
Jod - 7th
Summerblush - 10th
Physicskate - 13th
Mimi - 16th
Jem - 20th
Tee - 21st
Radders - 22nd
Toast - 25th

Graduates
Parney
Newhair
January

Morning girls CD2

Horrible period pains and still feeling pretty shit, but had a lovely evening bowling with friends and you lovely lot always cheered me up loads too. It's so good to know you're not alone and others understand what you're going through.

That said I did wake up at 4ish this morning and have a big cry again. Somehow the middle of the night makes things seem a lot worse. I read your positive list again tee to help myself down! Also downloaded a breathing app - can recommend for relaxation - plus my mindfulness app. Both are free and have simple exercises to help you relax. Am going to try and do them daily this cycle.

jodders I sound a similar size to you - ten at best, usually more like a 12 and if I'm not careful could edge to 14. Your cleanse sounds quite drastic so maybe not the best idea for pregnancy or ttc? I think a more moderate approach might be better, cutting out carbs, sugar, sat fats. I really need to do this too so might join you.

radders so sorry AF got you and admiring your strength. I hope you feel a bit brighter and enjoy the wedding. What do you mean about the ring? Thanks for the vit c tip by the way. When we first started trying I bought his and hers conception tablets from boots - not cheap! DH did not take a single one think it's now dawning on him that it's not actually that easy / baby on demand so I think will now be more open to this.

This cycle for me will also be about trying to relax and be less stressed. Work is the biggest factor for me too. I'm frequently awake at night worrying about it. Like you guys I also am staying at my current job to have a baby. I get a good maternity package where I am - built up from working there 4 years so I want to make the most of this. Going to try and let things wash over me more, take breaks get fresh air and also keep doing my mindfulness app daily to practise. It's just called Mindful if anyone is interested.

Wishing you all a lovely Saturday. tee keeping everything crossed for you!

2 days till my holiday! I'm really excited. Bad luck Radders and Jem. Fingers crossed tee. Hi summer. Mimi have you had your night out yet? Getting sprayed and shellaced and packing today. Great to take my mind off the dreaded 2ww.

Jem great minds! I downloaded an app called 'Calm' last month for mindfulness. It wasn't a good one though so gave up, will try the one you recommend and will stick with it. Girls in terms of work, we just have to be selfish about it. I'm usually one to be very conscientious, go in when sick, take on too much stress etc. I think when TTC and pg you have to give yourself a break, put things in perspective and remember your body and wellbeing have to come first. As you say Jem, let things wash over you and remember how insignificant all these stresses are in comparison to the bigger picture and your precious child to be! x

Physics I was going to study Physics in uni, after 2 years I saw it wasn't really for me and dropped out. Never regretted it.

Jodders For the past few months I kept thinking what's the point in losing weight now if I'm going to put it back on if I get pregnant? And then it just clicked that I couldn't keep waiting, I've been trying to get pregnant for months I could have been a size 12 by now if I had just started earlier. I hope I get pregnant soon but if I don't at least I'll be healthier.

Good luck on testing today, Tee!

I work in the packaging industry - we manufacture cartons for supermarkets - they go to the food people to pack. I manage a team there of 22 who look after the customers. Words cannot explain how stressful this industry is. It's all want want want and when you throw that carton in the bin you have no idea what's gone into it. If the colour is slightly wrong it's rejected yet the day to day person really wouldn't notice!
I tell myself everyday it's just a job but from the moment you walk in to the moment you leave it is literally none stop. You can't do half measures.
Going to try my best this month to stay calm!

I will try that app as I feel like I'm struggling to breathe today etc definitely need calming down.

I'm going part time after maternity leave but I don't think back to the company I'm at. My job can't be done part time and I don't think I want to work in a stressful industry like that when it's only part time.

Jem I mean an engagement ring! Hehe wish he would hurry up and pop the question. That would also give me something else to think about it. Sorry to hear you're feeling upset. It is tough but we are in it together.

Sorry radders that should have been obvious! I assumed you were already married. Your oh sounds absolutely lovely from what you've said on here. What's holding him up?

DH and I were together for 8 years before we got engaged. It got to the point where I felt resentful towards him and questioning the relationship. I don't think he realised how much it affected me at the time. He's a lovely man, so kind and intelligent and loving, but he's not good with change or making decisions. He is a born worrier and this holds him back.

I hope yours doesn't keep you waiting much longer. That would be a nice distraction from ttc!

To be fair we've only been together 18 months! But when you know you know.
So I can't really say he's dragging his feet. It will be this year though I'm 100% certain of that.
I'm so impatient though. I hate waiting

How's this looking?

May
Tee - 21st
Spreadontoast - 25th
Nimisha - 29th
Jod - 29th
Purpleowl

June
Footprints
Summerblush
Psychickate - 16th
Jem - 18th
Radders
Mimi

Graduates
Parney
Newhair
January

Morning all! Almost afternoon but DH said last night that I seemed tired and he would like me to have a lie in...who am I to argue!

CD 21 7/8DPO eeeeekkkk

Radders i used to work for a really really big fussy supermarket in HO and I was involved in the packaging / design from that side and dealt with printers all the time. It is an awful steadily industry and some people I worked with liked to pick holes in things over nothing was awful! I'm quite a relaxed person and my favourite line was "ok so it's not exactly the same Pantone reference but no one has died!" You would have thought it was life or death to some of them! I'm glad I got out!

Come on Tee!! Have everything crossed for you...we are due a BFP!!

To those who replied about my diet / wanting to lose weight I think I'm going to put things in perspective- I am healthy. Ok I might need to cut down on Nutella and carbs and I will do that but generally I have a good diet (background also in food & nutrition) so I am going to just cut back and stop worrying! I want to enjoy my holiday.

Jem mine is 26th, though according to the study I'm in I have to take a test every day from 6dpo, so have been having bfns for a few days now, always analising the stick for that faint second line that never shows.

Radders I run the risk of being too forward here, but.. why don't you propose?

I find that rainymood.com helps me to relax. I love to keep it on just because. I know we do have a lot of rain here (I'm not originally from the uk), but the sound is so faint because of all the double glazing that I miss it.

Radders/Jodders I re-trained as a Graphic Designer when on Mat Leave, always thought working with packaging could be pretty cool... will scrub that off the list then! Want to work somewhere relaxed and informal.
I think a healthy mind is as important as a healthy body, so if dieting too strictly will put you in a bad place emotionally, it just won't be worth it. Everything in moderation and lots of fruit & veg is probably the most sensible approach.

Tee I always struggle with the moderation part

I used an app called MyFitnessPal to help me lose my baby weight. It's easier when there's a focus and target.
For ladies struggling with work stresses and generally pressures of TTC, there's an app I've heard about called 'Headspace'. Just downloaded it now and will try that too x

BFN guys

oh boo tee, you're not out yet though xx

Ah thanks Jem, it was a Clear Blue 4 days early test, and not even a hint of a 2nd line, so at 14dpo and lots of AF cramps, feels pretty conclusive. So now the wait for AF begins, want to crack on with the next cycle

I'm so annoyed for all of us! Can't believe that with all the BDing no BFP's! Mother Nature is so....unfair!

It's so frustrating. But I genuinely think with the lack of good news recently, we are totally overdue and it will all happen at once! It's all about June, I reckon we'll cash in some BFPs!
Jodders, Nimi & Purple, the odds are stacked in your favour!

Purple owl - we have a lot in common! I too am not from the UK, though I became British about a week ago! I'm originally from the US...

Physics is great - but funding and chasing all that was a bit of a drag, so from academia I became a teacher. Which is now sucking my soul dry. I get so much shtick for another creatures issues and it seems it is my responsibility to be a miracle worker.

I think as much as anything, it is about ethos, not just the job itself - seems like we are all on a mission to find 'that thing' to give us money and fill our time!

Physics I'm from Brazil, we're from the same continent! I was there a few months ago, it was the only cycle we didn't ttc, I was so scared of the zika thing. I have some pregnant friends there though, they practically bathe in repellent every day.

When I dropped out for physics I started all over again and became a nurse, the only thing remotely close to midwifery in Brazil, but then I moved here and was back to square 1, since it isn't valid here. I'm a nanny now, and I love it, but don't want to keep doing it after having children, and I have absolutely no idea what I'm going to do.

www.thebump.com/a/11-ways-to-de-stress-while-you-re-trying-to-conceive

CD 50 I can't believe it's been so long.

Afternoon ladies.

Sorry radders, Jem & tee that your having a hard time** today. I'd take your AF's off of you if I could and take them for myself as desperately want an AF now to try again.
Hope you get uplifted this weekend and try to enjoy yourselves.

Tee- has AF showed?

Jem & others relaxation techniques sound good. I'm reading - started with an egg. Is a good book about diets/ supplements and how to prepare your body for conception. Highly recommends Chinese medicine.

I'm going to arrange acupuncture next week too. Self abdominal /fertility massage is also recommended in that book. ** I worry plenty and think that my anxiety has part to play in my sleeping ovaries.

Nim- enjoy your hols. Lucky you ! Where are u going?

Jod- think a cleanse might be too drastic too. It will strip good nutrients out of you. Low carb & low sugar diet is enough with some exercise. You got to enjoy life. Dieting too much can make you too tired and body can go into starvation mode which will shut down your ovary function.

Regarding jobs, I'm glad I've finished now as I use to burn around 2000 calories a day, was exhausted in evening and my body was aching. So now although I'm busy around the house I can spend sometime relaxing. Looking forward to Sunday night without dreading work on Monday. My body is knackered! We will suffer a bit financially but health is more important and when my neck and back is better I'll be able to do something.

Purple- wow Brazil! Always wanted to go there. Are your family here with you?

Jodders- Yes moderation is a big problem for me as where I use to burn so many calories and now I can't, I am finding it hard to cut down calories as I hadn't had to for a long time because I would always burn off what I'd eat. Yes indeed enjoy your holiday!

When I was pregnant before with both boys, I had terrible morning sickness that I actually lost a stone! So our June BFP's will bring some weight loss maybe.

Tee- agree Spring baby will be awesome. My second was an April baby and was lovely walking pram around park in sunshine.

Jem- at this rate I'll be testing next June!

Physics- your job sounds stressful. My boys are lucky to have got into a good school in the area and unfortunately there are lots of pain in the neck parents that accuse the teachers of not getting their children where they want them to be. Its such a competitive area. It's awful! Poor teachers. What year do u teach?

Radders- hope you get a ring on your finger soon! Tell him mumsnet ladies want this to happen

I've just bought some cider! Couldn't resist. Passionfruit flavour. Getting fed up waiting around for AF now. Temp is still up today so no chance it coming today. Perhaps I just missed period so could b halfway in next cycle. I'm losing it.. Ordered some more opks so I don't miss any surges. 50 days!! I still can't believe it. Worried I'm in menopause.

Waves to everyone else.

Sorry for bold texts! Lol not sure what has happened there.

I'm a Science and Physics teacher, years 7-13. Currently preparing my Upper 6 for study leave. Parents not happy because I have said their kiddies are not going to get the A*s the parents have requested! It is pants. I want out - but tell me a teacher that isn't secretly thinking that! Anyways, I could get really political about it, but shall try to avoid for all of our sanities!

CD 8, first dtd of the cycle last night. Hoping I ov next weekend!