TTC#1 35+ and 6months ttc plus. Do you belong to this exquisite group? Rant, advice, virtual glasses of wine and no-judgement happy place here :-)

[Evergreen17]

New thread here as I love the other thread I follow but 35th birthday in two weeks and cycle #6 of TTC atm

Finding it hard to relate to some of the other threads with people joining in and getting upduffed on month1. Happy for them, but making me feel a bit

Also not 25 anymore (big inner child but that doesnt count ) and I can't afford the "it will happen to you", "just relax" ways as I don't have bloody time!!!

Anyone out there wants to join me for some TMI, rant, support and positive chats that say we can still do this!!!!!!

[Kwick709]

evergreen the milk thing is as follows: drink loads of organic whole milk from AF to ovulation, drink normal amounts during 2ww so as not to impact implantation.
I did stimulated IVF last time - so loads of drugs to stimulate follicle growth and before that loads of drugs to suppress follicle growth. I also had to take lots of progesterone after egg transfer including daily intramuscular injections - apparently I will not need as much with natural ivf as body more ready.

[Kwick709]

hep you go girl!!!

[jaxcarp78]

Hello ladies. I am 37, I have a little boy that is 4, struggled to conceive him, but did happen naturally. I have now been TTC since the august after he was born, so pretty much 4 years. I have been on clomid, but that did not work. We are now looking into other help, which we will have to pay for. I have just had some blood tests, then will have my first meeting with the specialist in a couple weeks. Feeling nervous, but hopeful.

[jaxcarp78]

Just reading and catching up on the thread comments. I used the pregnancy band things when I was pregnant. A god send when I had a wedding do to go to and jeans would not just do up. Attached the band and no one had a clue. Useful for the 12 week wait, before first scan and telling people.

Also, I am new to keeping a proper watch on my cycle and all. I have downloaded a couple apps. I don't fancy spending out on opk's and I am too forgetful for temping. I am hoping the all will be enough to help.

[Bathlover]

Morning all and hello to new people here :)

OH's SA went well in that it was delevered to the hospital. Have to wait 2-3 weeks for results.

I'm CD25 today and expect period will arrive today

Bought a year subscription to fertility friend yesterday. Was reduced to £18 for the year.

Only got highs (flashing smilies) this month so don't even now if I ovulated

Depending on results of SA - if they're the same as before I think our first step might be to See the DR Ramsey in London. Seen him recommended for male issues a lot on other threads. Anyone here any experience?

[Evergreen17]

Kwick thanks for milk tip and I think the natural IVF sounds good, everything crossed for you!
Welcome jaxcarp How frustrating about TTC #2 for quite long. Any answers on why in particular is taking long? Lots of people seem to get the "nothing wrong but nothing happening either" best luck for the meeting with the specialist.
I will make a note of those pregnancy bands, should I need them (please!!) in the future.
Bathlover 2 to 3 weeks is a long wait. I have no experience to share I am afraid, we havent done any tests yet.
I so hope AF doesnt show up for you.
I am in holidays. and keeping busy on the dtd front. I really like my fertility monitor as I found tempting too stressing and cheap opks fooled me for 2 cycles. We are dtding a lot! Even twice a day during peak days when normally is a record if we do it daily during FW. Maybe the holidays???
Please please let it be this month!!!!!!

[jaxcarp78]

Hello ever,

Both me and hubby are all OK as far as the previous tests showed. Probably have more tests I guess. Just need to wait and see what the specialist says. I am hoping that we can try iui as I believe this is the cheaper option, although I googled it and the success rate wasn't great so makes me nervous. Might struggle to afford full on ivf if we need it. Will have to wait and see what our actual options are.

I keep seeing DTD mentioned. What does that mean?

Good luck to you all xx

[Bathlover]

DTD = doing the deed = having sex :)

Period arrived here. Again.

Not a surprise but still that teeny bubble of hope gone again for another month.

So just a wait for the Spern results now.

[HepKestrel]

Sorry bath

[HepKestrel]

Day 4 of flashing smiley face. First time using this clear blue

[findingmyfeet12]

Can I join you?

I'm waiting for my first af since I miscarried at 11 weeks almost a fortnight ago.

Age: 36
TTC: no. 1
Cycle: over 9 years.

I've had clomid and had two stimulated IUIs. My last IUI was cancelled as I ovulated before the procedure but that's the one when we ended up conceiving naturally.

We were gutted to miscarry but I'm desperate to try again as soon as possible. I really feel that time is running out and sometimes I wake up in the night in a panic about it all.

We have an appointment with the specialist at the end of June and are hoping to be given the go ahead for IVF.

[HepKestrel]

Welcome finding my feet!

Sorry about your recent loss.

[jaxcarp78]

Sorry for your loss findingmyfeet12.

Thank you bath lover, makes sense lol.

Another question, not TTC related. How do I get your names bold. I guess it is like tagging on Facebook, but I can't get it to work. Cheers.

[Kwick709]

Welcome finding. I am so sorry for your miscarriage.
I lost my baby at 8 weeks - I can only imagine how much harder 11 weeks must be. I too want to get on with IVF (again) - but am still spotting after miscarriage.

Any idea how soon AF likely to arrive?

[Blueskies80]

Welcome finding, so sorry for yr loss. I had a loss at 11 weeks (and at 7) last year and it was hard. Look after yourself. xx

Bath, sorry AF arrived and hope the test results are ok, we found that vitamins can make a big difference to the guys (zinc helps) so things can improve with time xx

I'm now sitting tight in the tww (although it's a nearly three week wait as I have a long Luteul phase) pretty sure i ovulated Friday, not holding out much hope though! X

[findingmyfeet12]

Kwick I only stopped spotting yesterday. I have no idea when to expect af either.

I keep imagining IVF to be the answer to everything. I realise that it's not exactly a guarantee of success and I think I need to start being realistic.

I bought multivitamins today in an attempt to get my body healthy. The miscarriage really knocked me about physically.

[Kwick709]

I think I have hopefully stopped bleeding too... I seem to be ok physically just this damned headache I cannot shake... Although I did have a lot of womble/stomach pains last week.

You are right there are no guarantees so all you can do is try and hope.

[HepKestrel]

I recently hear some really good news from a friend, I hope you won't mind me sharing. She is 40 this year, and after many years trying and problems she is finally pregnant on the 4th IVF.

IVF certainly isn't an easy option, but i am starting to hear more successful outcomes than unsuccessful. fx and best wishes to anyone who chooses this route.

[Kwick709]

Thanks for this cheering news hep

[DizzyNorthernBird]

Hello, is there room for another? I'm on another thread too but our numbers are dwindling as most have had their bfps and had their babies by now. There's a few of us hanging on in there but I'm worried about being the only one left

TTC#1 (but soon to be a step mummy to DP's kids)
Cycle #16
36 yrs old

Got diagnosed with pcos in January. My cycles range from 31 to about 50 days long. I'm confident I am ovulating as I temp and my bloods (June '15) had a healthy progesterone result. DP had his SA results a couple of weeks ago and all is fine, so I've no idea why it's taking us so long. Seeing my GP next Monday to discuss next steps. Currently trying to muster up the courage to radically overhaul my diet to help the pcos but it's so hard! Also I plan to demand metformin from my GP and refuse to take no for an answer - my other thread has recently had its third metformin bfp in as many months - GP has so far refused to consider it for me as I'm not overweight (because I run) and my last blood sugar tests (in 2012) were in normal range.

Looking forward to getting to know you all

[HepKestrel]

welcome dizzy !

what is metformin?

[DizzyNorthernBird]

Hi hep!

Metformin is primarily a drug used for diabetes. However, many pcos sufferers have a resistance to insulin. I don't know all the ins and outs of it but the insulin resistance causes hormone imbalances which make it difficult to get pregnant. Metformin rectifies this and from what I can gather, those who start using it become pregnant pretty quickly after they start taking it. I need to swot up really so I can convince my GP to prescribe it to me!

[Kwick709]

Welcome dizzy!!!

I took metformin for a while some years ago due to weight gain from PCOS (and giving up smoking and eating too many doughnuts). I did lose a bit of weight and then I started to get nausea side effects and stopped taking. I did try to start again but just could not get a handle on the side effect. Good luck with your GP - I got my initial prescription from a specialist I saw privately.
Maybe I should try again? I think my tolerance levels are much higher now - I mean I have stabbed myself repeatedly in the bum for God's sake!

[DizzyNorthernBird]

Hi kwick, it might be worth giving it a try? Did they suggest giving it a try before you started your fertility treatment? Sorry for your loss by the way.

[Kwick709]

Thanks dizzy. Maybe I will ask my consultant what she thinks. :) what is it supposed to do?